Name What You Need

There's an exhaustion that sleep can't fix. The kind that comes from pouring yourself into places that don't pour back. That kind of tiredness is not a character flaw. It's an invitation to listen.

In this practice, Alex helps you check in with your energy (not just your mood) and bring one relationship to mind: not to judge it, but to feel it. Through breath, reflection, and journaling, you'll notice where you've been giving without being seen, and you'll be invited to name what you actually need. On the page, in your own words.

Have a journal and pen at hand before you press play.

Transcript

Hello everyone. Welcome to day two of our time together. I'm Alex L and I am grateful to be on this journey with you. Today we'll be exploring naming what we need and how to release the emotional exhaustion that comes from doing the opposite. Yesterday you noticed where you've been leaving yourself behind, Where maybe you've been overriding your own needs just to keep things steady. Today we build on that awareness because once you begin to stay with yourself you start to hear what you actually need. Let's begin. Take a slow breath in and exhale longer than the inhale. Again slow breath in and exhale just a little longer than that inhale. Notice your energy, Not your mood, Your energy. Are you stretched thin, Running on empty in ways that you've learned to ignore? There's a kind of exhaustion that doesn't come from giving too much or doing too much. It comes from stretching yourself way too thin in places where it isn't returned. Reciprocity is important in our lives. As you lean into your breath, Inhaling and exhaling, Pacing yourself, Bring one relationship to mind. Just one. Not to judge it, But to feel it. What are you consistently giving there? It could be time, Emotional labor, Understanding, Patience. Now gently ask yourself, What do I need here? Let the answer come without editing it. You don't have to make it sound responsible. You don't have to perform being the good one. I just want you to think about what feels true, Really true, In your life right now. Place a hand on your body. I invite you to put your right hand over your heart if that feels good. I hope you remember that you are allowed to have needs, Even when you are the giver. You are allowed to name those needs. Even if you never say them out loud, At least say them to yourself. Being needed can feel important, Yes, But being valued feels different and you deserve to be valued. Value feels steady. It feels mutual. It can even feel like an exhale. So today I don't want you to think about fixing anything. I just want you to notice where you give and where you receive. Take note if something feels out of balance. Release the shame and guilt that comes with naming these things. You are not needy for having needs. You are allowed to want and expect to be poured into like you pour into others. Where am I pouring without being poured into? What do I need that I have been afraid to name? What am I calling normal that actually feels misaligned and draining? Return to your breath, Hand to your heart if that feels good, And remember that you are allowed to name what you need, The relationships that you nurture, Should also nurture you. Tomorrow we'll take it a little bit deeper out of the mind and into the body because our body has been telling us the truth long before we had language for it. I look forward to diving into this practice with you again. Take good care. Talk soon.

Reviews

This is my second round. Yes , it’s that good.! Thank you, Alex! 🙏🏽

🙏 thankyou💚✨️

Great questions in nonconfrontational and non judgemental framework.

Thank you 🙏🏽❤️