Restore Masculine Energy, Healing The Father Wound

Understanding the Father Wound: A Deep Exploration

The father wound shapes our relationship with trust, authority, and masculine energy—often in ways we don’t fully realize. In this audio, I guide you through a deep analysis of how this wound forms, how it manifests in our lives, and what it takes to begin healing. This is not about quick fixes or forced positivity but an honest, thoughtful exploration of the patterns we inherit and the path to reclaiming inner stability. If you’re ready to understand the impact of the father's wound and take the first step toward transformation, this is for you.

Transcript

Hello everybody and welcome in this session. We are going to explore a little bit the father wound. Most people in the planet have not been exposed to a good image of a father and this influenced the idea in general that we have about the divine masculine in the outer world and the divine masculine within us. Our father damaged the opinion and the relationship that we have with masculine energy in general. So, Imagine you had an emotionally unavailable father, A father who was present but was cold and distant or unable to express love, A father who was absent maybe physically, A father that was criticizing you and controlling you, A father that was giving you conditional love. You would be loved if you would do X, Y, And Z, Like a father that is verbally abusive, A father who is physical or emotional abusive, Fathers that simply were not aware that they were pouring on you and throwing on you the trauma that they received themselves from their family. This installed in you wrong beliefs about masculine energy in general and installed wrong and dysfunctional dynamics with your own masculine energy and we start to manifest a lot of dysfunctional behaviors, Right? And this is just normal because this is what love meant for you. When you were young, You were mauled by this love, By this relationship with the father. Whether you are a man or whether you are a woman, You made an association. This is my family, This is my father, This is what love between me and my father is. And if that was dysfunctional, You got imprint with that, You got mauled with that and you will attract that in life later on. So everything that has to do with masculine energy will have the same dysfunction that you had with your father. So, Father energy, Masculine energy, It's about actions, It's about directions, It's about support, It's about presence, Presence. So, You will have issues towards your own masculine energy within you. Maybe you will be absent with yourself. Maybe you will be absent and emotionally unavailable to yourself. Maybe you will over-criticize yourself. Maybe you will over-control yourself. Maybe you will think that your love must be earned, Must be proved. Maybe you will neglect yourself and reject who you really are. Maybe you will be abusive towards yourself and maybe you will fail to protect yourself. Maybe you will lack direction, You will lack support for yourself. You will be lacking in presence with yourself. Maybe you will give yourself conditional love. Maybe you will feel a pressure, A constant pressure to do everything by yourself, To be hyper-independent because you think that you will not be loved otherwise. Maybe you will be overly defending yourself and maybe even if you feel like overly independent, You will still manage to put yourself in relationships that abuse you. How do we heal then? The thing is that there is a healthy version of masculine energy within ourselves and therefore in the outer world. When we heal the masculine energy within ourselves, Then we attract and we manifest a healthy masculine in the outer world too. And this could be a better job, Better partner or simply alignment. We start to align and make peace with the masculine. So we make peace with the father, With actions, With directions, With support and with presence. In men often we have difficulty expressing emotions. We have men that have fear of failure, Pressure to prove their worth, Struggle with commitment and authority, Deep-seated anger, Rebellion and numbness, Seeking validation through success, Power, Especially external approval. In women, We have women that attract emotionally unavailable or critical partners, Women fear abandonment or rejection, They struggle with self-worth, Perfectionisms and overgiving, Difficulty trusting men or masculine energy in general, Feeling unprotected, Unseen or unheard. Women that think that their value is conditional, That they have to prove, That they have to overgive, That love is conditional, They have to overwork, Overprove, Overgive. In both sexes, We find self-sabotage in relationships and career, Feeling disconnected from the purpose or their inner power. They struggle with discipline, Confidence and self-beliefs and there is a fear of masculine energy within or in the outside. So we fear in reality, We fear actions, Directions, Support, We fear presence. So we have to regenerate a little bit and like we have to recreate and restore what masculine energy is. How do we heal it? First of all, We need to acknowledge the pain and the emotions. That little child, Our inner child was treated not fairly and maybe we were not even given the possibility to express our anger, Our sadness because we couldn't. In order to be loved and accepted, We would have to swallow it. And what you don't face, What you don't feel will persist in the body. So it's important to allow ourself to feel safe enough within our nervous system and I beg you to go and check the course about feeling safe and the stress management. We need to create a safe enough space and environment and a safe enough body in order for us to feel all those emotions that we did repress. We have to validate our inner child. We have to tell our inner child, Yes, You were right to feel that, That anger, That pain, That suffering, That grief, That fear. And I am here now as a healed masculine, I bring to the table the space and the presence for you to process and express all those emotions. So first of all, We need to create the space for our emotions to be acknowledged, Seen, Welcome them and let them express without attachment though, Without attaching to them, Identify with them. We have to create the space enough to see that this was a feeling of the past. We need to connect with our inner child and ask it, What are your needs and how can I take care of them? How can I love you and reassure you? I need to reparent myself in that way. I need to be the healthy masculine presence that I did not have, But this does not mean that it doesn't exist. I can embody it and I can reparent myself. It's okay to grieve what we did not receive. So it's okay if we are trying to reparent ourselves and give ourselves all the love and the presence that we now deserve. It's okay if we have to express anger, Sadness, Longing. It's okay if you need to journal and vomit everything that you have been holding on to. I remember personally, I had an insane amount of anger. The anger was just so much that I had to spend at least three hours every week punching a boxing bag and I had so much anger that came out of me. And that punching bag was the face of my dad and I did kill him. And it took me several times, Several sessions to really allow all my anger to come out, To really allow all the feelings that I had repressed. I had to create a safe enough space for me to release all of that safely. And I almost got blinded by anger. I remember it took me a while to make myself feel safe enough to release this anger. But once I did, I couldn't see anything anymore. And I spent one hour punching a pillow, A boxing pillow. And after 40 minutes, I remember coming back to my senses and being like, Oh my God, What did just happen? Like, And I was full of bruises in my arms and in my legs. I had so much rage. But I realized that that one was divine rage. It was a fair rage. It was a rage of a child that swallowed unfair treatments for a very long time. And she had all the rights to be that way. But in order to reach that level of expression, I had to work. Because anger, It's often protected by a layer of grief and sadness. So I had to create a safe enough space for me every day. I had to release through crying the grief and the sadness. And then slowly, I was able to reach the anger and release that too. We have to release this stuff. Then we need to forgive, But it's not forgiveness for them. It's more about compassion and a little bit of pettiness. They were limited. Those people simply gave to us what they received themselves. So they have suffered. Even more, Maybe, Than what they made us suffer. So it's not really about forgiving for excusing their behavior. It's just looking at them with a clear vision. They were limited and they were hurt and they simply didn't know any better. And they were highly unaware people and they simply tried to hurt us. Throw at us dysfunctional behaviors that they themselves received. So it's not really forgiveness in a sense of excusing them. It's more about, From a logical perspective, You know, Just accepting what is. It's like, I don't know, A child get left in the jungle and he get raised by a donkey. When you grow up, You cannot be angry at the donkey for not teaching you speak. It's just that was their level, You see. And it's important then, After all of this work, To reclaim your power. You are not your father and you will not embody that masculinity. You are whole, You're powerful, You're capable. And you are capable of giving yourself the love and the support that he couldn't. And then we can start a journey of redefining masculinity. A healthy masculinity embrace devotion. I don't like to call it discipline. I think it's devotion. You are devoted to yourself. You can feel the leadership and the strength that you have. You learn to trust yourself. You learn that you have a direction. You can feel your soul calling. You trust the direction that the universe is giving you. You trust the dreams that the universe and father sky is giving you. You trust your direction. You trust that you have this support in your life. You trust because you can give yourself the presence, Interior and exterior presence. You trust that you don't have to overgive. The love that you deserve is unconditional from your performances, From your money, From your achievement. You don't need the approval. You have the approval of father sky. You take inspired actions. You don't have to earn love. You don't have to keep fighting. You don't have to keep protecting yourself, Chasing. We learn to make peace with the masculine energy. We learn what does it mean to be at peace with our inner masculine. So it's a bit of a journey. But for today, It's everything. Namaste.