Letting Go Of Fixing

Sometimes our negative self talk gets in the way and we try to fix all the things about ourselves. If we can take a moment to change the negative self talk, we might realise that all things do not need fixing.

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Letting Go of Fixing When there is discontentment,

The natural habit is to correct it.

The mind goes into fix-it mode.

This often results in circular thinking,

Trying in vain to solve a problem.

Although reflection and goal setting are useful,

The obsession you experience is often not.

This meditation offers a technique to work with this fix-it thinking.

Sit up as straight as possible,

Inviting alertness into the mind and body.

Take a few deep breaths,

Energizing the body.

Begin to tune into your thoughts.

What problem are you working to solve?

Is there something specific you want to figure out or fix?

Notice the issue itself,

Not your thoughts about it.

Try to clearly see what the problem is,

Rather than focusing on the solution.

With the problem in your mind,

Notice any discomfort you feel around it.

There may be some fear of the unknown,

Insecurity,

Or a desire to plan something.

Whatever your experience is,

Look at the issue with tender awareness.

There's no need to judge yourself,

Beat yourself up,

Or jump right into fixing.

Just be with the discomfort.

As you rest in awareness of the problem to be solved,

Begin tuning into the mind and body.

Is there tension in your body?

Notice where it is.

Recognize when the mind jumps into the desire to fix the discomfort by saying to yourself,

Fixing.

With the intention of meeting your experience with patience,

Offer yourself a few phrases of mindful care.

I see this discomfort.

The mind wants to fix it.

May I be with this problem.

To close this meditation,

Take a moment to ask yourself what can be done.

You don't need to come up with a clear step-by-step plan.

Just offer the simplest solution possible.

Allow a basic solution to arise.

No need to dive more deeply into the story.