Moving Through Resistance, Restlessness Or Emotion

This meditation helps guide and assist when you are restless, feel an inner resistance to someone or something (including meditation), or feeling stuck in an emotion.

You are guided to be fully aware of the resistance, restlessness or emotion you are feeling - without thinking about it. This is the key.
This reduces the tendency to struggle or fight with the resistance/emotion, or the urge to avoid meditation altogether.

A peace is present when discomfort or emotional pain is fully accepted and allowed. This peace is the absence of the tension created by fighting and opposing.

And without the fuel provided by inner conflict, the pain and tension dissipates, releases or reduces.

“Peace comes when we stop fighting what we are trying to avoid. If we just fully allow it, then there is a release. A release somewhere in our psyche and we can just relax and settle in.

The discomfort can still be present. It doesn’t have to go for us to feel peace.” - Extract from meditation

Transcript

Just find a seat, Make sure you're comfortable. I prefer that you're sitting upright rather than lying down. But if you can't find a chair at the moment, That's fine. So no crossed arms, No crossed legs. Let it keep everything open, Feet flat on the floor unless you're sitting cross-legged on the floor. And go ahead and close the eyes. And first of all, We're just going to take a few deep breaths that will allow the body to relax physiologically. So first of all, I'm gonna ask that you breathe out through the mouth, Nice, Long, Steady exhale. Really emptying the belly, Emptying the lungs. And then when you fully exhale through the mouth, Then you'll just breathe in through the nose. And this next breath, I'm going to go ahead and exaggerate the sound of the out-breaths, So breathing out through the mouth. And then you breathe in through the nose. And then just one more of those breaths, Breathing out through the mouth. Just allowing yourself to relax with these breaths. And now you can go ahead and just breathe normally in and out through the nose. And so now first thing, Just really bring your attention and become aware of this sense of restlessness in your body or resistance, However you want to describe it. So we're purposely not pushing anything aside. All the things that we would normally not want to feel or look at or see because we're busy or because it's unpleasant, We're just allowing ourself, We're taking a few moments to just allow ourselves just to be aware of whatever that resistance is. And we have this space to do so. So is it a pressure that you feel? Is it you feeling a pressure inside of you somewhere particular in your body? Could be a physical pressure or even pain or it could be like an emotional pressure. How would you describe it? Where is it in the body? So we're really wanting to look and see, Not gloss over or think that we already know, But really allow yourself to see. Creating the space. Do you feel it in your head or in your throat or your chest, Your belly? If it's an emotion, How would you describe the emotion? Frustration or impatience. So there's no rush. We're not trying to get to the answers to any of these quickly so that we can move on or get somewhere else. We're actually just really wanting to stay with this resistance or restlessness. And that might be a challenge because the habit is for most people is usually to distract or get away from it or not feel it as soon as possible. But we're actually just taking a bit more time, A bit more space to really fully see it, To fully feel it. So just being easy in your body as possible, Just nice and relaxed. If you feel any areas that are tense, You can just allow those to relax. But we're not trying to push away anything in order to relax. Just are fully allowing, Fully accepting whatever is present, Whatever we are aware of. And that can sometimes take a little bit of practice to actually just allow, Fully allow, Not pushing away, Not suppressing, Not distracting. And it can take practice because there's such a habit to not feel, To escape from what's uncomfortable or unpleasant. So just fully allowing, Fully being with. And at the same time, You can be aware of and feel your body, The sensation of your body, Perhaps how your feet feel on the floor or how your bottom feels on the chair. So we're aware not only of the discomfort, But the body, Perhaps any noises or sounds you hear. And however it is, However unpleasant it might be, It's okay. We can just be with it, Allow it. And this can sometimes be a big relief in itself to really start to see that it can actually just allow these sensations or these emotions or thoughts to be present, To be present with them. You might be more aware, Actually, Rather than a pressure or a feeling, You might be more aware of your mind. It might just be going crazy with thoughts, Different thoughts about different things. But we can just be aware of that, Not try to fight with it. Just being with whatever is present. And give yourself the time, Give the space. Again, We're not in a rush. We're not trying to get this done and over with quickly so that we can get on to the next thing. It's just being with what's here now. And this is the real crux of it. The crux, The way to actually sink through or go beyond this resistance, Whatever it is, Which it'll be emotion or thoughts, Combination of both. It's just to really know, To really get the sense that I can be with it. I don't have to keep running or escaping. Whatever it is, And that's a huge relief because we can spend so much energy avoiding, Pushing things down, Not coming into contact with certain things, Running away. So we can finally just be with it. It's actually a huge relief. We don't have to keep expending so much energy in avoidance. And this is when we can actually really start to relax inside. Not through trying to create a sense of peace by pushing these things away because that absolutely won't work. But peace comes when we stop fighting with what we're trying to avoid. We just fully allow it. Then there's a release, A release somewhere in our psyche. And we can just relax and settle in. And the discomfort can still be present. It doesn't actually have to go for us to feel peace because this peace is here. Regardless. So we can just allow whatever discomfort to be as it is. And that's when you've truly been able to let go is when it just doesn't really matter if it's present or not. And again, This might take some practice because there'll be a subtle fighting or pushing away, Resisting. And just being here with however it is. And you can start feeling that sense of ease. Even though you might still feel the pressure inside. There's a sense of ease because we're not fighting with it. You can feel that sense of ease throughout your body or perhaps you might feel it in certain parts of your body. Allowing yourself to really settle into this. You can play this back. You can do this at any time. Even if it's not necessarily resistance to meditation, But you're feeling some sort of emotion or pressure or lots of thoughts, You can listen to this and just allow. Really see what's happening. Don't try to censor it or look away. So a few more moments, Just really feeling this sense of ease throughout your body. A sense of relief. Wonderful, So when you feel ready, You can gently open your eyes. And you can wiggle your toes, Stretch.

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