How To Deal With Betrayal

As we move to 5D, we need more tools to deal with our everyday 3D concerns. This means moving away from a 3D legal system. In this lecture, we talk about how to deal with what we perceive as a betrayal. As always, conflict can benefit you if you know how to perceive it.

Transcript

Virginia Warren here,

Lawyer and conflict alchemist with Lawyers for Love.

I've got a new series here called Beyond Legal Advice meaning that we're no longer working with the legal system and I am NOT providing you with legal advice but we're going to tackle everyday problems or confusions or issues from what we call a fifth dimensional perspective.

Now there are quite a few of you out there now that know what the fifth dimension means because we're moving from the third dimension of rules and separation of linear timelines to the fifth dimension where there is no space and time.

It means everything's happening now and you know it.

So how do we tackle problems from that point of view?

How do we bring that beautiful energy that we know to ground and deal with day-to-day life?

Well in these videos that we've got coming up we're going to talk about everyday problems and we're hoping that people will submit their questions.

We're more than happy to answer what people perceive as a legal problem from this fifth dimensional perspective.

So today I want to talk about betrayal and I think probably every legal problem is founded in some sort of betrayal.

You didn't do what I expected you to do.

We are all in relationship to something and up until now we're understanding that what we were thinking we were separated me and you.

But now as I've been saying before unless you've been under a rock for the last hundred years you'll appreciate that there is no separation.

We are all energy and we are all connected at a fundamental level.

So to recognize that means you need to deal with your conflicts or things that are bothering you from a completely different perspective from understanding that I am you,

You are me.

Now as I say many of you that understand the fifth dimension will understand that concept but are having a little difficulty in bringing it into practicality.

So let's talk about betrayal.

What is it?

Betrayal is a breach of trust,

Breach of contract even.

I promised you I would do something and I didn't do it.

I betrayed you,

I lied,

I cheated,

I did a whole range of things.

So how do we approach that?

How do we feel satisfied when somebody betrayed us?

How do we feel good about that?

Well we need to look at how we feel first.

So if we feel we've been betrayed we'll have a negative emotion,

A negative response to the situation.

Often that would take us through the legal system.

You get a lawyer to help you,

You get a lawyer to say here take the problem from me I can't handle it you handle it for me.

But what they're doing is trying to separate you from something that you cannot be separated from.

So to own it is step one.

How you feel?

Yeah I'm feeling lousy someone betrayed me,

They did something to me,

I feel rotten and now I would like them to fix it.

Well the bottom line is you're feeling the negative emotion not them.

You're feeling the negative emotion so it's up to you then to work out why that negative emotion came to be.

Now lawyers for love say this is because of our internal legal systems that we've created,

The little rules that we've been running since we've been children.

Don't cry,

Don't get angry,

Don't be silly,

Don't be jealous.

All the rules that our tribes imposed upon us so that we would behave a certain way and be loved and accepted by the groups around us.

Our parents,

Our friends,

Our teachers and we've carried those rules with us.

But of course that's not our authentic self.

Those rules don't belong to the authentic self because those rules effectively are someone else's rules.

So you're not living your own life if you're living someone else's rules.

So effectively you don't feel authentic,

You don't feel good and that's where the not good feeling comes from.

You're not in alignment with who you are.

So the idea is to go back and find the rule.

Now the beautiful thing is if you're feeling the negative emotion we're looking at why you're feeling it.

You feel like you've been betrayed.

So outside of you a situation has a rhythm that gives you the negative emotion.

Helps you find the rule.

Hooray!

Thank it!

I know that'll be very difficult for some of you but you know what I'm saying.

If you're coming from this place you understand it.

So the idea is go back and find that negative where the negative emotion was created.

Now what you need to do is look into the conflict.

Now betrayal.

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I just want to talk a little bit more about this breach of contract or expectation.

This is where we as humans trip ourselves up to have expectations.

We only get disappointed because nothing.

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We cannot see the futures.

We cannot see what it's going to be like.

You can have an intention and move forward in that direction but if you feel that you've got a pictured outcome happily ever afters or you've entered into a business contract with somebody hoping that you're going to make your fortune and everything's going to be just so.

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I'd like a crystal ball because a contract or any sort of arrangement looking into the future requires in law a meeting of minds.

Well there is no such thing.

There's no such thing as a meeting of minds because we've both got different perspectives.

We both see things from a different point of view entirely anyway.

So I don't know how we can possibly meet at some point in the future and say yeah this is what it's gonna look like I agree.

Yeah of course in this now moment and that's all it's about out of space and time.

The fifth dimension is out of space and time so right here right now is all you have.

And when you agree on a general proposition about now and that feels good to the two of you,

Move forward.

Have no expectation of what that feels like in the future or you will be disappointed and it won't be the other person's problem.

It'll be yours.

You've set up an expectation for yourself.

You have tried to control future events.

You've tried to control the other person.

Now if you're trying to keep the other person in that space with you in that relationship you're effectively taking their power from them as well.

So no no you owe me.

Stay here with me.

Don't you go and do that other thing.

But there's a couple of things that happen there aside from you taking their power means that you have less power than you thought you did because you think you need them.

You are also not allowing them to flow out and be whoever they need to be because if they need to be somewhere else and not within your direct flow of relationship the world's missing out on their gifts too because we all are individuals we all have a perspective that needs to be brought through into this world.

Mind you it can only be brought in from an authentic place but the idea is if you try and hang on to somebody and get them to stay in the space that you are in you're doing yourself a disservice.

You are limiting yourself.

You're limiting them because you don't know what's gonna flow in next for you because you think you have this control over the future.

You only have now.

And if now feels negative you need to go in and figure out why that is.

So a betrayal or somebody else can't betray you.

There's no way.

They cannot betray you.

People do things everywhere but it has nothing to do with you.

What they do.

It's your response to that and this is what I need to reinforce over and over and over again.

That this is about your response to the world.

That's all it is.

So feeling betrayed is just about you.

It's showing you the place where you've created a rule that someone else must do the right thing by you.

Some might call that selfish.

That's another topic entirely selfish.

From a positive point of view selfishness is beautiful.

Put your own oxygen mask on first look after yourself find your own beautiful perspective and move through life that way.

Now if you've got any questions or if you have a topic you'd like to discuss in this series more than happy to do that.

This is not legal advice again but it's certainly a different way of solving problems that is beyond the 3D.

5D solutions.

It is as we say it requires a higher level of consciousness to solve a problem that has a low level consciousness.

You can't go in solving it from the same point of view.

You need a completely higher perspective and this is what we're doing here.

So yeah send us in questions we're happy to answer them and give you a different perspective on your life and it just might shift the way your life moves from that point forward.

Now hit subscribe if you want to see what's coming up next.

Have a beautiful day.

Reviews

I’m just learning about this and have lots of questions….can you recommend other talks to help my journey please?

This was life changing. It truly opened my eyes to the unwritten rules and expectations I’ve been placing on others. Then becoming upset when they fail to meet something
1) They had no idea about
2) I had no business creating

How do I deal with a bitter ex that wants me not have any contact with his family but refuses to do the same with my family. He created a rule but exceeds his boundaries n mine...I oblige with his decision but he would disregard mine

So profound! I’m sending this to my daughter right now. (Simply for future reference.)