What Are You Holding Onto?

Change is a constant in our lives, but so many of us want to hold onto what is familiar. This talk shows you how to conduct an audit of what might be keeping you stagnant and in a place of fear. Letting go allows you to move to places beyond what you might have previously imagined possible for you.

Transcript

Today I want to talk about letting go.

What does it mean to let go?

There's a beautiful saying which says,

You know,

Let go and let God or go with the flow.

Let go.

It's really important to learn how to let go if you want to get into the flow of life and living.

So today I wanted to talk about the idea of letting go.

How to do that.

Perhaps what it means when you don't do that,

And what it means when you do or can do that.

We are all energy.

Nature is very instructive to us on how to live like energetic beings.

Nature follows the natural flow of life,

The natural flow of things.

Nature doesn't hang on to anything.

It accepts what comes its way and allows what happens next to happen,

Knowing that everything is for the highest good of all when we go with the flow.

When you're in the flow,

Energy,

The energy that you are,

Likes to flow.

If it's feeling restricted,

It doesn't feel so good.

When energy is blocked,

It is like it's.

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There's a dam or a resistance in the flow,

In its natural flow.

So it will find a path of least resistance.

Now,

To be in the flow feels beneficial.

It feels satisfying to you,

Even sometimes when the flow is a bit swirly or doing unexpected things.

It is very,

Very powerful and a powerful skill to be able to let go when you don't know what's going to happen next.

Being in the flow means you need to learn how to be in the unknown and be okay with that at all times.

When we hang on to things,

Or imagine for example that you are flowing down a river,

You're in a raft,

And upcoming you can sort of see a drop-off,

And you're thinking,

Well,

I don't know what's on the other side of that drop-off.

Maybe I'll just hold on to the side of the river right here.

I can grab a tree branch or something's on the side that I can hold on to,

Maybe some rocks,

I'll wedge myself in there.

But of course when you do that,

And the river is just like energy flowing,

It is just flowing,

It's flowing naturally how it wants to flow.

If you hold on to the side of the bank,

Yeah,

You'll be safe for a moment.

You'll be safe holding yourself there.

It'll get to be a bit of a struggle though,

As the debris and the bank of energy builds up behind you.

Eventually what's going to happen is you are going to be released by the flow itself.

And of course when you get that release by the flow of energy,

It's going to be pretty rapid,

And it may not look like you thought it would.

It won't feel so safe and so good at that particular point in time.

You might then try and grab on a little bit further down.

But the same thing will happen to you over and over until you release your grip,

Your tight grip on things,

And you allow yourself to go with the flow of the energy.

When you do this,

There will be some bumps along the way,

Some things you need to experience.

But as you're doing it,

You'll feel a little bit of exhilaration.

Ooh,

Look,

I got through that one!

Ooh,

That was fun!

Ooh,

I accept that I'm in this flow.

It's swirling around.

Let me just swirl for a minute.

Where do I end up?

It's a very interesting way of looking at life,

Wondering what's going to happen next.

Ooh,

I wonder what's going to happen next,

With some childlike curiosity,

Rather than,

I need to plan all this out,

I need to hang on tightly.

Because when we hang on to things really tightly,

We form an attachment.

We form an energetic bond with that thing,

And we think we need that thing in our lives to feel okay,

To feel loved.

That's what it always comes down to,

Feeling we're looking for love.

And when you hold on to something,

You think it's going to keep you safe.

You want things to not change,

Things to be the same.

That is never ever going to happen.

If that is one thing,

We can live with the acceptance of change,

And that that is real,

Then we're halfway there.

We can actually learn from that place to step into that idea of,

Wow,

I wonder what's going to happen next.

It is a really fun way to play the game.

Everybody tends to live with the idea that I have to have this thing,

Or that thing,

Or some sort of an identity.

We hold on to all these things,

Our identities,

Because we think that is what will bring us success.

And of course,

The idea of success is really just,

I am looking for love.

I want to be successful.

Why?

I want people to admire me.

I want people to love me.

That's all it's about.

But of course,

When we reach out and we grab on to something or someone else for love,

We're taking their love from them.

We think they have something we need when we hold on to someone really tightly.

However,

We have all we need within ourselves.

And that,

Of course,

Can be very confusing for some people.

How do I.

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How do I get what I need for myself,

Within myself?

It does start with the idea of seeing what you have in your life that you think you can't live without.

Now,

This requires just a little life audit.

That's a really valuable little thing to be able to sit with and say,

Okay,

Let me go through each thing that's in my life.

Could I live without that?

This is really,

Really challenging for a lot of people,

Because as we know in recent times,

Things have been removed from us,

Particularly the things we thought we needed.

The idea of letting go energetically is so beneficial to us.

It helps reduce our fear of living.

If we can sit and genuinely say to ourselves,

Do I need this house?

Do I need this job?

Do I even need these people in my life?

And that could include your spouse,

Your partner,

Your romantic partner,

Your business partner.

Do I need them?

And then when I'm saying need,

I mean from a point of view that if they left you,

You would feel lost and empty,

Like you don't know who you are anymore.

When you can go through and just mentally and emotionally feel into each of those questions and see what you come up with.

If you come up with the idea that you cannot live without something or someone in your life,

That's such a good starting point.

It's a good question to ask yourself why.

Why do I need that or them to fulfill me?

Because this is just a matter of fulfillment.

When you're flowing in life really easily,

You are full and you don't really have any fears or worries.

Because when you have things in your life that you are that connected to,

That are that energetically connected to you,

In that you cannot let them go,

Guess what happens?

Your choices become limited.

You cannot live the fullest life that you came to live.

Because everything then is,

It turns on what these other things mean to you in your life.

This is really,

Really beautiful exercise.

If you just sit down,

Even write it down or contemplate it,

And consider,

Wow,

Okay,

Could I live without that?

Could I live without this?

This is what happened to me.

One day I got into a point in my life and I thought I just let it all go.

My whole identity,

My all the fancy cars,

The fancy house,

The fancy job title,

The marriage.

Energetically I let it all go.

And there was a beautiful freedom from that.

I didn't need the power of something else to power me anymore.

So that then I could be in my own flow and go where the flow took me.

The beautiful outcome for my story is that the flow took me to far better things than I thought were possible for me.

I thought at one point I needed all particular things to identify myself with so that people would think that I was a good person,

That I was worthy of knowing,

I was worthy of loving.

But guess what?

No,

I didn't need those things.

I ended up in a place where I was far,

Far more fearless.

When you hold on to things,

You hold on to them from a place of fear.

If I let this go,

I will lose some of my identity and I will lose some love.

But of course that isn't true.

The love that exists for you is always in the flow.

When you are in the flow,

You are in a state of being called love.

That state of being is momentary and it exists whether you like it or not.

It's just whether you're playing within the flow or you're trying to hold on to the things you think are going to make you happy.

It's all a matter of choice.

There are always your choices and there's nothing wrong or bad about hanging on.

But it's just bringing awareness to this idea.

Am I limiting my choices?

Could I expand possibilities?

Could I feel better by letting things go?

I do know from personal experience that being in the flow,

Not attaching to anything,

Not using anything as my lifeline,

Living the fearless life,

Is so satisfying.

No,

I don't know what's going to happen next.

No one does.

We all believe that if we have certain securities and we hold on to these things,

That we'll be safe.

But the funny thing is it's all just physics.

You are an energy being.

You are always safe.

You know right now the way things are in the world,

That things change in a moment.

This is teaching us how to live on the edge of the unknown and enjoy it.

Yes,

It's exhilarating.

It's a wild ride.

It is the roller coaster.

Embrace that.

Let go of the baggage.

Now when you do that,

Some people are totally afraid of who they will be when they let everything go.

But the beautiful thing is when you let everything go,

You are more authentic than you have ever been.

Some of those things may stay with you.

There is nothing wrong with the trappings of life.

There is nothing wrong with anything in life.

It's just a question of whether you have an attachment to it because you think it will make you safe and that it will give predictability to your life.

The one thing I know is that life is full of change.

It will keep changing,

Embrace change,

Celebrate it.

It is for the.

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You are here for the experience of it all.

Soak it in every moment.

You don't need someone else's power or things to make you an absolutely beautiful human.

You are that already and with your own identity you actually blossom.

You flourish so much brighter when you have the flow as part of your life.

You light up and you can shine in this world and really make a difference.

So yes,

Get into the flow.

Let go and let flow.

Let flow,

Let God,

Whatever it is that you like to call that.

Jump in,

Do the audit,

See where you can begin.

One step to letting go of something that is perhaps no longer serving you will make all the difference and as you sort of move into the flow and feel the safety of it and feel the fun of it,

You want more flow in your life.

Thank you so much for listening.

You

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