Why Am I Feeling Emptiness?

We so often feel a sense of emptiness and look around outside us to find contentment. But the answer lies within. It comes from knowing you are love. You are your own contentment. How do you get to know this? You just need to feel it in your body. Drop into your heart and start feeling your body for the love that is you.

Transcript

Hello everyone,

And welcome.

Today I want to talk about emptiness.

I do a lot of drawing,

And I draw trees,

And I.

.

.

The other day I drew a tree that was portraying emptiness,

And it portrayed how people reached outside of themselves to find fulfillment.

These trees tell little stories,

I think nature does,

And I like to draw them because they evolve themselves,

And I discovered that they started looking like people,

And they could tell a story.

So today I want to talk about emptiness.

Why are we feeling empty?

Why are we feeling so empty?

I think there's a really good reason for that.

Emptiness comes from us looking outside for the thing that fulfills us.

But what is it that fulfills us?

What will be fulfilling for us?

Well there's one answer to that,

And that is love.

Love fulfills us.

What does love feel like then?

Well,

Fulfilling,

You know that you have love when you feel full.

When you feel full,

It's like you don't need anything anymore when you have this feeling of love.

The love I'm talking about is a sense of beingness,

Being in love,

In the state of love,

Rather than the doing of love which a lot of people find quite painful.

The doing of love is what people think love is,

And of course in doing we reach outside of us for things we think will help us feel better,

Or we'll subconsciously feel love,

And of course sometimes we do,

And you know you go and buy that shiny thing,

Or have that great time and go on that holiday.

And we do feel good,

And we think,

Wow,

I want this to last forever,

But of course we know the shine wears off the shiny new thing,

And the holiday will be a distant memory before not too long.

Often I notice when we're on holiday we say,

Oh no,

I've got to go back to work on Monday,

So then there's this negative energy that surrounds the holiday which is coming to an end,

For example,

Or for when someone puts a scratch on our shiny new thing it's devastating,

Like that's the love that I have and now it's going away.

So you feel empty again.

The love that I am talking about is the love that's always there,

That is why you are filled up all the time,

So it's an interesting question,

How do I find myself,

Or how do I fall in love?

Well it's all about losing the fear,

And that's a really tricky idea for many people.

So what do we mean by losing the fears?

Fears are simply things that just don't feel good,

So for example,

Even the idea of going on the holiday and knowing that you have to go back to work on Monday is a type of fear.

It's saying,

Oh I don't feel good about that,

And why would I want to do that,

I want to stay on this holiday forever.

The funny thing is you probably really don't know what you want at all because you're still seeking that which you think will make you feel better as something external,

Because we know even if we've moved house or gone somewhere else,

Found a new partner or a new car,

A new holiday,

Or we've moved and we think,

Oh if we move and we change our environment,

Then I'll feel better,

We'll feel better,

And we'll get away from all this stuff that's hanging around,

All this negative stuff.

But the funny thing is,

Of course,

You take yourself with you wherever you go,

So you are still there and you with that empty feeling will keep coming with you wherever you are going,

Even in the new relationship.

It's all very exciting and new and fun at the beginning,

And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that,

That's the beauty of falling in the doing of love.

It's beautiful and so fun and that feeling you want to hold on to it forever,

But eventually you come with you,

You come with you,

And so then you start seeing why it's not quite what it seemed to be at the beginning and you thought it looked like this because you desperately wanted to find that love.

But what is love and how do we get it?

I actually found it very interesting when someone said to me once,

You have to go within.

And that was many years ago and I thought,

What does it mean to go within?

What does going within mean?

I found it very difficult to figure that out when I can see everything outside of myself.

I can't see within me,

I'm a very logical person,

But then one day I understood.

One day I understood what it meant.

It meant I felt within this body of mine.

We often forget about the body and you'll see this is just the way it's feeling,

You know,

When you're feeling empty the body feels it.

It's because we've got to go back into our bodies and find our bodies in a state of satisfaction.

And that's just a beingness.

And when we're still,

When we stop,

We just stop doing and we have nothing pulling on us this way or that,

Then there's no fears.

If I could probably break it down very simply in a way to say that fears are just the shoulds in life.

I should be doing this,

I'm expected to do that,

People want me over here,

They think I'm like this,

I should be like that.

They're expectations of me rather than I'm just okay exactly as I am,

Exactly where I am and everything will be fine.

Of course the other thing is we try and pull things into our space so that we'll feel safe.

Now I'll do more recordings on this but the idea of safety came as children.

We did things that we were told even though they might not have aligned with us exactly at that time.

We did that so we would feel safe within our tribe.

Now the tribe is our parents and teachers and other authorities and our sibling,

Older siblings.

Even when we do these things when we're younger because we cannot rationalize whether things are so-called right or wrong but we do these things to unconsciously keep ourselves safe and loved and accepted by the tribe because we're just looking for love.

Love is what I talk about,

I talk on love.

Love is the beingness rather than the doingness.

So if we are able to drop all our fears we come back to our authentic selves.

If we are doing exactly what aligns with us we are being authentic and that feels satisfying.

Then we are just being human beings not human doings.

I know this because I actually experience it.

I experience that state of being called love.

I don't.

.

.

I'm not rushed or pushed.

I don't have to do this or achieve that.

It's just now that I follow my heart's desire.

It's satisfying.

I don't need to be pulled by things outside of me there's this satisfaction.

Imagine when you're totally satisfied.

You know I had to think about that word to explain what it felt like.

I thought it's not being too dizzily high and blissful although you do get that and it's an absolute satisfaction when no one's pulling at you.

When no one's pulling at you this way or that you don't have that pressure on you.

It's a beingness.

It's beautiful.

That's when you're feeling fulfilled.

That's when it feels content.

Content is a good word.

You don't need any more.

It's by dropping the fears.

This is why we're looking for something to fill us up because we think we have to do it rather than be it.

That is the key to shifting our way of thinking to.

.

.

I just need to be love.

I just need to be it rather than do it.

No one else can do this for you.

That's the other funny thing.

There is no doing of love for you.

You be it because it's about self-love.

The love of the self.

Now a lot of people confuse that.

They think there is a conceitedness about it but it's not conceit because that's the doing of love.

Doing of love to the self.

Well that's beautiful too because you're in this body and you need to take care of it.

You need to honor your body and look after yourself.

It's your vehicle.

If you want it full of love energy to take you to the places that resonate with love then take care of yourself.

If you're not loving your body from that point of view it can't serve you and it will have a negative effect.

Other resonances within that will attract to you and I will talk further about that in another time.

But more than this I'm talking about the beingness of love,

Of self-love.

So that if you're saying I am love that is a love of self saying oh look at me I'm actually I know who I am I am love.

That's a self-love.

Seeing yourself as love.

I like to say that we're like the Sun that's shining light and all the little clouds that come in front of us and just they're just our little fears.

We're always shining there underneath.

We just move them along.

We recognize them.

Oh there's a cloud and we move it along.

It's just a fear.

That's okay.

There's nothing wrong with them.

We don't attach to them.

We let them float by.

They're not going to hurt you.

Our fears are actually,

They make us grow and evolve.

But it's the idea of bringing love into the self,

Into the space of being love rather than doing it.

If we shift our mind on that for a moment what we can do is we just if we sit with the idea if you feel love in the body if you can just drop out of your thinking mind for a moment when you might be there now and just drop into the heart just actually start shifting your awareness down to your heart.

I can just feel it it's glowing.

It's a glowiness.

That's what I call open-heartedness.

It's a connection and you can learn to be guided by the heart.

The heart really fulfills us.

It knows how to sit in the state of love into the beingness of it.

It's intelligent.

Your heart is so smart.

It's natural.

It's a beautiful place to be.

I found this is what the trees were conveying to me when I walked in nature.

I felt their beautiful energy and they just talked to me about what's natural.

Nature.

The laws of nature.

Nature just flows and it's just an is-ness.

Love is an is-ness.

Nature exists.

It's just a beingness.

It's not busy.

It's just evolving in its own time.

There's no rush.

That's soft.

Well,

Nature can be wild but that's part of its flow as well.

It just goes in the natural cycle and flow of things rather than reaching out and seeking,

Pushing,

Pushing,

Pushing,

Pulling,

Pulling,

Pulling.

All this resisting energy.

They're fears.

Like,

There won't be enough.

So all this is about is really just a state that emptiness within is just,

Just shift it to the idea of,

Oh,

I am love.

Oh,

I am love.

And if I just sit with that idea and just feel it in my body,

I might just start to fill up.

I fill up with that beautiful,

Beautiful fulfilling energy.

Feel it in every cell of your body.

Feel it like that light that you are the Sun and it's just glowing through every cell.

That being full,

Full of the light,

Is such a beautiful place to be.

Thank you so much for listening today and I'll speak to you again soon.

Reviews

Thank you for this talk and experiencing love as a state if being coming from within. ❤️

Helpful thoughts...thank you.