Saying no to the wrong people,
Projects,
Opportunities,
Situations is just as important as saying yes to the right ones.
But sometimes it's hard to say no.
We feel afraid.
We feel like we might lose out on an important opportunity or strain a relationship,
Perhaps even upset someone.
But when we say no,
And when it's done with love,
With a clear intention,
Then we're helping everybody involved.
Not only are you helping yourself so that you can create space for the right opportunities to come into your life,
The right energy that's the right fit for you to come into your life,
But you're also helping the other person.
It's okay if they feel disappointed,
Because when you're not the right fit for each other,
If you work together,
It's not going to work.
The project is not going to come out well,
The collaboration,
Whatever it is,
It's not going to be successful.
And it's not going to be joyful for either of you in the long run.
The fact that you know to say no,
Just means that you're a little ahead of them,
But you're doing it for the highest good.
This meditation is going to help you say no with love and create those energetic boundaries so that when you finally have to talk to the person,
You're able to handle it with great compassion,
Firmness,
As well as kindness.
Find a quiet place,
Sit down comfortably,
Close your eyes and relax.
Take a deep breath in,
And as you breathe out slowly and completely,
Allow yourself to calm down and relax.
Breathe in calmness and confidence,
Breathe out any anxiety or fears you might have about saying no.
Let it all go.
One more time,
Breathe in deeply,
Hold,
And exhale completely.
Now,
Allow your breath to become normal.
Just observe it,
Watch the movement of your stomach,
Your chest,
Your shoulders.
Just pick one point and focus on it,
And allow the gentle movement to relax you more and bring you into the present moment.
Now,
Picture yourself in a beautiful,
Safe space.
It could be on the shores of a beach,
A quiet beach,
In the middle of a beautiful garden or the woods.
It could even be inside a beautiful,
Safe,
Closed room.
You decide,
And you picture yourself sitting comfortably in that place.
Feel the complete environment around you.
What are the smells,
The sounds,
What's the temperature like on your skin?
Is there a breeze?
Is there a warm fire?
Is there water?
Take your time to set up the place however you like for you to feel completely comfortable and safe there.
Know deep within your being that you are absolutely safe here and you are guided by the higher energies.
You are surrounded by your guardian angels,
Guides,
Gods,
Your higher selves.
You are deeply connected to all of them in this place of safety and grounding.
Know that whatever you say here,
Whatever you think,
You feel you do,
You do no wrong.
You are being guided and you are taking action and you are saying the words according to the guidance,
The highest guidance you could possibly receive.
Now picture the other person,
The one to whom you need to say no to.
They walk in and they sit comfortably in front of you.
They too are calm and comfortable in this space.
As you warmly and gently smile at them,
They smile back at you and you realize that right here in this space are the highest selves of both of you communicating with each other.
You are at your highest and they are at their highest self.
There's a warm glow of golden light all around the room,
All around the space,
Encompassing both of you with its safe,
Protective,
Loving,
Powerful energy.
Now that you're both centered,
Speak deeply from your heart and with great kindness and love,
Set your boundaries.
Let them know why you're saying no.
Tell them with firmness and clarity that this is not the right fit and perhaps you should not be working with each other on this project or whatever it is.
Whatever reason you want to say no,
Express it.
Express it with confidence and love.
Don't be afraid.
And as you speak,
They're being completely receptive to what you're saying.
Their highest self has listened to you and understands the merit in what you're saying.
Now picture a cord.
It's a cord of light that's coming out of your belly button and is connected to theirs.
And as you speak,
As you convey the message from your heart about how you should not be working together,
How,
It is a no from your side for this particular situation or opportunity.
Picture the cord of light coming apart,
Gently,
Safely,
But slowly disintegrating.
It's vaporizing into the ether and by the time you're done speaking and they're done listening,
The cord has completely disappeared and there is nothing binding you to each other.
Now feel the healing light,
The golden light all around you.
Feel it going completely throughout your entire being and healing you,
Releasing any vestigial,
Unwanted,
Unnecessary fears or energies completely,
Washing it all away from you and replacing it with power and love and confidence and deep trust and surrender to the universe's highest plan.
The same thing is happening to the other person too.
They also are getting healed inside and out and they don't have any anger or resentment.
All of it has dissolved completely.
They too are completely in acceptance.
And now,
With all your heart,
Wish them well in their endeavours,
Set the intention that they may get the person who's the right fit for them and know fully well that now you have created space to attract the people who are the right fit for you.
Bow down to each other and then the person gets up and walks away in peace and harmony while you feel deep relief and freedom for having said no with confidence,
Kindness and love.
And whenever you're ready,
Thank your guides,
Your angels,
Your highest self for guiding you,
Request them to be with you always,
Invite them to guide you always and surrender to the highest divine energy completely.
Come back,
Back,
Back,
Back to yourself,
Take a deep breath in and gently release.
Know that now you can have the meeting with this person and say no to them and you know in your heart with complete faith that the right words will flow out of you when the time comes.
Whenever you're ready,
Rub your palms together,
Place them over your eyes and as you move your palms away,
Slowly and gently open your eyes.
Thank you for meditating with me today.
Come back to this meditation anytime you want to say no but you don't know how and you're afraid but you know that that is the right move to refuse and allow this power that you've tapped into to take you through that real life conversation where you get to say no to the person with love and kindness.
