The Let Them Theory

Many of us tolerate a lot from people ... family, friends even strangers ... for many reasons. But what can we do when we realise we don't have to put up with disrespect? The simple answer is Let Them! When we use these two little words we don't have to say anything nasty or be confrontational ... we simply let them. Listen to find out how the let them theory could benefit your life.

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Transcript

I am sure many of you have heard of Mel Robbins,

The motivational speaker.

If you haven't then she's well worth checking out.

Her theory of let them is one I use often in my life and if you are not familiar with it let me explain.

Hello my name is Jacqueline and welcome to my Tranquil Spirits podcast.

In the past I used to tolerate a lot from people,

Friends,

Family,

Even strangers,

Because I didn't want to lose people or I didn't want to speak out for whatever reason or I thought I deserved what they said or did or I simply thought they knew better than me.

Because of these unrealistic beliefs I had I overlooked the fact that people were being repeatedly disrespectful towards me.

But over time I realized I didn't deserve or need to be mistreated and disrespected no matter who that person was.

My beliefs changed when I heard Mel Robbins talk about the let them theory.

She said instead of getting upset at other people's actions or trying to control their behavior just let them do what they're going to do and don't take it personally.

If your friends are not inviting you out for coffee this weekend let them.

If the person that you're really attracted to is not interested in a commitment let them.

If people feel the need to talk about you behind your back let them.

It was then that I realized that if these people really loved and cared about me they would never treat me like they were and I didn't have to put up with it.

I learnt that we cannot force people to behave in ways they don't want to but we don't have to be disrespected or upset by their words or actions.

By practicing the let them theory we can regain control of our time and energy.

When someone does something we don't like instead of getting annoyed or trying to control the situation we simply say to ourself let them.

This simple phrase has the power to defuse frustration and disappointment within us and we can happily get on with our day.

By using these two little words let them I came to realize that people who truly loved me cared about how they made me feel the others simply didn't care.

Thinking about their behavior and worrying about what they thought of me was serving no purpose other than giving me sleepless nights and my heart was filled with disappointment hurt and often confusion as to why these people treated me this way.

So I made a decision I was no longer going to put up with a lack of respect and unkindness and now I don't allow them to steal my peace I don't allow them to steal my happiness and I certainly don't allow them to dim my light.

Instead I let them ignore me.

I let them not like me.

I let them misunderstand me.

I let them not speak to me.

I let them doubt me.

I let them judge me.

I let them gossip about me.

If they want to choose something or someone over me I let them.

If they want to go weeks without talking to me I let them.

If they are okay with never seeing me I let them.

If they are okay with always putting themselves first I let them.

Whatever people want to say or think about me I let them.

I know that when I let them do whatever it is they want to do it creates more control and emotional peace for me and I have a better relationship with the people I love and care about in my life.

Why worry about things we cannot control and realizing that we cannot control other people is huge.

Take back control of your own life feelings and emotions and live your best life being true to you and to the unimportant people in your life just let them.

So are you ready to let them?

Thanks for listening.

I hope you have found something useful in this podcast.

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Have a beautiful day you deserve it and remember always follow that dream.

Thanks again for listening and I'll speak to you again soon on my next Tranquil Spirits podcast.

Bye for now.

Reviews

This advice is worth its weight in gold.

If you suffer from overthinking, self-blame, worrying what others think, and always striving to please others— the “Let Them” theory can be a game changer!

I just ordered the book about this subject after learning of it through your concise description.

Thank you for always sprinkling light and love on others, Jaqueline! 🙏🏻

I heard - Let Them by Mel Robbin’s before. I needed this reminder today.
Thank you 🙏

I have a song lyrics running through my head ...cause "fir every situation there's a suitable line from a song."...."let them say what they want , oh I dare them to try ."..... Now to implement the theory in real time 🙏🎶🎼🎵🕊️🎵🎼🎶🙏

I'm a huge believer in Let Them 😁
It takes the wind out of their sails, when they see that I'm not reacting. And I walk away uplifted, not demoralised x

Thank you so much for this powerful and relateable summary of Mel's Let Them Theory (I am currently reading the book). By sharing your own experience and application of it, you gave me a valuable advice for my own life!

Thank you so much I heard of the let them theory and i want to hear more
You have an amazing delivery
Your vouce is magnetic
Namaste

Well done!!! Excellent and simply inspiring synopsis that gives this take-home life changing mindset a brilliant brain boost and sensational re-set. Thank you!

I really needed this. It brought me piece of mind and peace. Thank you.

Good, short talk. I think I need to work on this some more, but this introduction helped push me in the right direction.

A great reminder that the only person we have control over is ourselves….Thankyou😊

Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. If someone is disrespecting you by being silent, then “let them.” I appreciate you so much. This meditation 🧘 is a game changer and transformative. Many blessings of gratitude to all

I love the let them idea. My best friend and I are getting matching tattoos of this

I’ve been curious about this concept and am excited to put it into practice. Thank you for summing it up so precisely! This was just what I needed today.

Thanks for that! I have followed Mel's brilliant idea. This makes it accessible to a new audience 💞🙏🏻

A very wonderful way to give words to bring peace to yourself and others. Thank you 🦋❤️🦋

A refreshing message, reminding me “let them” is a very valuable tool. Thank you. 💜

It's a tough thing to do, to let them.and just shift focus. To not take it on. I think you're right though. It takes from my peace when I feel I have to respond or defend or in anyway try to control. Thank you.

So happy I listened to this amazing talk! I am ready to "Let them." It will be challenging at first but I know I can do this. Thank you Jacqueline for this encouragement.

Very powerful. Thank you! I will be going back to this when I need a reminder to LET THEM!

I love this theory and how you expanded on Mel Robbins’ idea. So very good! Thanks and blessings! 🩵🩵