Hi,
Thanks for tuning in to my Tranquil Spirits podcast.
My name is Jacqueline and today I want to talk about five ways to help deal with negative people.
Now we all have people in our lives and we all probably know a few that are negative and sometimes we can move away from them but sometimes we can't because they're fixed in our life or we feel we can't.
So I just want to offer some ways of help with that.
So as we journey through life we're presented with many different situations,
A lot of them involve in other people and most of the time these are to teach us something but it's our response which allows a direction of our growth.
When a negative situation presents itself it can sometimes be difficult not to act with a negative response which feels justified in that moment and then you get that feeling of oh gosh I shouldn't have said that.
But the more we come to accept that negativity attracts negativity the easier it is to quickly think before we act and then we can change an automatic response of negativity into a much more productive act of positivity.
But when we're tired and not feeling the best ourselves this can sometimes be hard to do,
I hear you say.
Now don't get me wrong I've said this to myself before now but these reasons are really excuses and need to be worked on.
If we respond in a negative way we must accept the consequences for our actions and this goes for words as well remember not just acts.
But we always have a choice so we can either stay being negative or we can take the steps to change and allow space to think of a more positive response.
So by walking away,
By resting or thinking about how we can behave differently helps and leads us to a positive calmer mindset and therefore our response will also be that way.
So here are my five tips for you.
So the first one is if a situation or a person is not making you feel good either change it,
Move away from it or find a way you can ignore it.
So what I mean by this is if you're in a group of friends let's say and someone is talking negatively about something that you're not agreeing with then rather than voicing where you know it's going to you know get into some sort of argument or a disagreement from other people you can move away from it.
So you can go to the restroom,
Go to the toilet,
Whatever it is,
Move yourself out of the situation.
The other way that you can do it is also change the subject.
So if they're talking about you're with someone and they're talking about something negative and you don't really want to get involved in that then just change the subject but have things ready up your sleeve so that you know you've got something straight away you can talk about and it doesn't seem as if that's actually what you're doing changing the subject or you can just ignore it,
Just ignore them,
Just ignore the situation especially if you're in a group it's easier not to join in with it and just to ignore what's going on there.
The second one is if you live with negativity take time to be alone and do things that make you feel good.
Be ready with activities you enjoy doing which bring happy feelings within you.
So if you have someone in your family let's say that is very negative just make sure you take that alone time to do things that you enjoy because the more that you ponder on the negativity of that person the more that negativity is going to build and if you're ready with the things that you like doing then it's easy to go from feeling that negative state to then going into that happy state by going and finding something else that you do.
The third one is don't get involved with conversations that you know will lead to negative chatter.
So with this one what I mean is don't start a conversation that you know is going to react,
The other person is going to react in a negative way.
So if there's somebody that's very negative shall we say about politics then you don't bring up the subject about politics.
If it's somebody that's very negative about or I don't know going to the doctor then you don't bring up subjects about that.
Whatever it is you kind of get a feel of people especially those people that you have to be around all the time you kind of know what subjects to avoid so make sure that you don't bring those subjects up.
The fourth one is have one or two people you can contact when you need help with being uplifted.
So with this one this is nice to know that you've got one or two friends who you can call up and you know they're going to uplift you,
You know you're going to feel good after a conversation with them.
So this one's quite a good one especially if say you've had a bad day at the office or you've had something going on wrong or someone keeps complaining about things that you're doing.
Have these two friends one or two maybe even three friends I don't know but people that you can call up and you know you will feel uplifted and wonderful from speaking to them.
Now the fifth way is about self-help just looking out after yourself make sure that you schedule time in your day to allow peace and calm to surround you such as using meditation,
Counting your blessings just looking around and just seeing the wonderful things that you have in your life because we all have wonderful things in our life.
Just being thankful that you're breathing that you can smile that the world looks so great and also make sure that you look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are special that you are loved because you are and you have got to love yourself first before anybody else can so remember that one.
But take that time first thing in the morning when you get up tell yourself how wonderful you are and before you go to bed at night say thanks for a great day you were amazing it was wonderful.
Remember you and only you are in control of your own happiness don't allow anyone to take away that power from you okay.
So during these past few months I've learnt not to overreact to negative people that is their choice and none of my business.
I have learnt that the only actions I can control are mine what someone else chooses to do is up to them.
I have learnt that nobody makes me feel anything I am in control of my own feelings and I have learnt that I am not in control of anyone else's happiness they have their own free will and I have learnt that as long as I am happy I will feel content with my life.
The future will always look amazing when you stay focused on what you want the things you have been through have gone and you can't change the past be strong and move forward with purpose and determination this is your life nobody else's this is your life and all decisions are yours.
I hope you found this helpful in some way it certainly has helped me with those things especially dealing with negative people that I can't just switch off or move away from or situations that I don't have that control over.
So this is certainly something to ponder on and I hope you take the time to do that.
Please feel free to message me I enjoy hearing your thoughts and I thank you for taking the time to do that.
You can contact me through my website which I would love to hear from you.
Anyway have a beautiful day because you deserve it and remember always follow that dream.
Thanks so much for listening and I will speak to you again on the next podcast.
