Welcome to Life Unedited,
The Power of Radical Acceptance,
28 Theories of Living in Reality,
Where we turn obstacles into opportunities,
One theory at a time.
I'm Tiffany and this is Theory 27,
Death.
Death is when we are done living.
It really is that simple.
Yet we argue with that reality.
We say it is not fair,
Spend loads of money trying to defy it,
And even keep people on life support for years,
Hoping for miracles or modern technology to thwart it.
I believe it is because we are afraid of death.
It is the ultimate loss of control,
The ultimate fear of the unknown.
If you are sensitive about this topic,
Then you may consider skipping this chapter.
What I have to say will not be popular.
It is a very raw look at a difficult and unavoidable topic.
And yet,
It could give us personal power to radically accept death at face value.
We die when we are done living.
No one will win an argument against that statement.
Death is tough.
We have no idea how it feels or what comes next.
This is probably the most difficult concept we face because there are no answers.
Many people rely on their faith to comfort them and give them hope of what to look forward to.
We begin dying the moment we are conceived and no one escapes it.
Many overwhelming emotions arise when we talk about why or how someone dies.
When the death is a young person,
A baby,
Or just completely unexpected,
Especially in the delicate case of suicide,
Then they died too soon.
They had too much life left to live.
Whether their death came from an accident,
An illness,
Or even being killed or murdered,
The demand for why puts extra strain on the people who love them and are left behind grieving without answers.
We need to know why.
We need an explanation.
We want it to make sense.
I am an end-of-life doula,
A life coach,
Energy coach,
Spiritual coach,
And a licensed clinical professional counselor.
I held my soulmate of more than 20 years as he took his last breath after living through glioblastoma.
I had to come to terms not only with his death,
But death as a final act of life.
I do not take that lightly.
And in death's indescribable heaviness,
I honor and embrace it.
When a child dies,
A person is killed in a vehicle crash,
Someone is murdered,
Or my partner dies in my arms,
Death happened because their life was over.
We all have a time frame on this walk of life,
And none of us knows how long that will be.
I believe that we are here on this earth to experience love and to learn our soul lessons.
I also believe that when we have checked off those lessons,
We die.
Death is not a punishment.
Death is not failure.
Death is a graduation,
A completion,
An achievement.
Regardless of the method of our death,
The result is the same.
We leave this life when we are done living it.
