Busting A Myth: Anything Worth Having Is Worth Fighting For

We hear the adage, "anything worth having is worth fighting for quite often. Another perspective could be anything worth having is worth effort. This track is designed to challenge our perspective and offer a healthier option for consideration. It is beneficial for anyone in a relationship or not. It promotes self-trust in our intuition, listening to our body's signals, empowerment, and not rationalizing unhealthy arguments. Warning: there is an explicit phrase which was chosen as such to demonstrate the weight of the message. Background music by Narek Mirzaei, Relaxation (8 Hz).

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Busting the myth, Anything worth having is worth fighting for. Dare I say, Biggest line of bullshit, Anything worth having is worth fighting for. If you have to fight for something, Then it was never yours to begin with. It is akin to attempting to put a square peg into a round hole. It does not fit. Radically accept it and move on. Anything worth having is worth effort, Investing time and energy into working on ourselves, Which is not selfish. It is self-care. When we care for ourselves, Then we can care for others. When our internal cup is full, Then we have what it takes to pour into our relationships, Professions, Hobbies, Etc. We have to fill that metaphorical cup ourselves. Fighting and arguing in relationships happens when we are expecting our relationships to fill us. We are projecting our needs, Insecurities, And self-concocted deficiencies onto the people in our lives and demanding those people attend to those projections or fix them somehow. Let me expound on self-concocted deficiencies. These originate in our ego, Which is tightly clinging to a story of not good enough. Combine that internal or subconscious belief with our perception of the outside world, Which is colored by that belief, Because our perception is filtered through our beliefs. And we compare our already not good enough selves with everything we consume, Thereby proving our not good enough stories to ourselves in a vicious cycle. Confirmation Bias 101 Radically accepting ourselves as humans on a walk to experience, Learn, And grow is a beautiful place to begin. Giving ourselves grace and appreciation that growth is not always comfortable and sometimes we have to fuck up to learn how not to fuck up next time. That's how it works. If we genuinely learn. If we don't, Then that lesson comes around again to give us another opportunity. The universe is good that way. Only when we are our best versions of ourselves are we able to match energy, Attract and connect with people who are best versions of themselves. Best version does not mean perfect. We all know there is no such thing as perfect, Yet we chase the illusion of it. Think about it. Not a soul who has ever walked the planet has been perfect or walked that walked perfectly. We strive for perfection and measure ourselves against an unattainable delusion of perfect. We are not going to be the first person to achieve it because it does not exist. Our best version means when we are feeling 100% then we show up as the best 100% of ourselves. And when we are feeling 20% we are our best 20%. Whether we are 100% or 20% we are whole people. We are all whole humans. The notion of our partner being our other half or better half or saying they complete me is not a realistic statement. We don't need another person to make us whole. Picture yourself as a complete circle and the other person as a complete circle. Then overlap those circles. That intersection of overlap is the connection. No one is a partial circle. Relationships are the cherry on top of our existence. They are the sprinkles that add to our lives rather than fill our perceived voids or heal our experienced wounds. Those are ours to tend to. Frankly, Fighting for a relationship is clinging to or attachment to something or someone that is not in our best interest. And we are, In reality, Fighting for the illusion of what we think the relationship is or will become. That's what makes it a fight. The fight is against reality and no one has ever won that fight. We are also fighting against ourselves because deep down we know that it is not in our own best interest. Yet, We keep forcing ourselves to go against ourselves and letting ourselves down in the process. The weird thing is, When people say that anything worth having is worth fighting for is usually either during or right after an argument. It is a justification for the argument. It is an attempt to normalize or even aggrandize the argument. To give it purpose or meaning. To give ourselves permission to extend our cycle of toxicity and reinforce our not-good-enough, Our victimhood. If we have to convince someone to be with us, That is compromising ourselves. It is us compromising ourselves because we are not listening to ourselves, Our intuition, And our gut instinct. And we are not trusting that we know what is best for us. Letting go of a relationship rather than fighting for it is an immense act of self-trust. Trusting that even though it may hurt initially, I am worth the pain of ending something to be open to what the universe has in store for me. Relationships do not come with a guaranteed timeline. And if we are at a place of fighting for it, Maybe we are ignoring the expiration date in an attempt to avoid getting hurt. All relationships happen for a reason. They also end for a reason. Because they are done. We have acquired the knowledge and wisdom meant for us to move forward on our path with valuable information we didn't have before the relationship. If we are stuck in the space of all things worth having are worth fighting for, It is an opportunity to introspect on our own need to cling to something or someone that was never really ours forever, And also introspect on our own sense of self and worth. Learning to recognize an ending as a beginning is a valuable and worthwhile lesson.