Ascension News 5D Relationships.
This seems an appropriate time of year to address romantic relationships and how to move beyond some of the rather painful patterns found within the 3D mutant matrix.
In this ascending earth we are healing many of the schisms found within the separation ideology of this world.
One of the main schisms is that of dependence and independence that affects so many in relationships.
Dependence is an ego state of the child and emerging adolescent.
We are all born into this world dependent on our caregivers for survival.
Dependence is a state of need and vulnerability.
As we grow we are meant to pass through this state to the next.
Of course even as adults we may experience time of dependence through illness for example or perhaps a parent who remains at home to look after children.
However there is a more problematic form of dependence that creates a victim state of mind.
Feeling a victim in life blocks any sense of personal power or personal responsibility or resourcefulness or meaningful action.
A dependent adult is someone who overly relies on others perhaps a family member for emotional and or financial support.
Dependent adults in relationships will most likely form an unhealthy co-dependent connection.
The next ego level occurs in late adolescence and early adulthood which is independence.
Culturally we are taught to value highly our independence to be strong to be guarded to protect our vulnerability to never get hurt and even when you are hurt to not show it to never rely on others.
Being fixated on independence has led many to experience quite lonely and disconnected realities and relationships.
If we are conditioned to be fiercely independent it may work well in a number of situations but certainly not in romantic relationships.
A fiercely independent person may even avoid relationships or if they enter one they may seem or feel distant or aloof or not emotionally connected with their partner.
In our rather volatile world starseeds with their innate sensitivity can feel wounded within families that do not understand them.
Starseeds may experience trauma which fragments the child or adolescent parts and keep them stuck or frozen later in life in either dependent or independent mode.
This of course needs to be healed before a major shift in relationships can occur.
Two independent individuals can have a romantic relationship that is functional but it certainly will lack a certain chemistry.
Two dependent people can relate in a romantic relationship which might be perhaps dramatic or completely dysfunctional or perhaps one of the partners is forced to take a more independent role.
Where the relationship becomes co-dependent then self-destructive patterns can be present such as a deep sense of obligation,
Obsession,
Emotional blackmail,
Abuse,
Self-sacrifice,
A kind of zero quality to the communication between the two,
Control issues.
There may be a struggle to maintain control or defend against the other.
Such relationships will tend to generate blame,
Drama,
Disagreement,
Anxiety,
Anger,
Resentment and guilt.
There will probably be negative psychic cords connecting such a pair.
There will probably be negative thought forms in the home where they dwell.
There may well be psychic contracts binding the two which can endure beyond this lifetime.
As this world ascends in frequency we are being called to find a new level of awareness and mastery within relationships.
We could call this level interdependence and this is a learning curve many starseats have come here to experience.
Often those on such a path would tend to experience the opposite first although this is less true for the new wave of starseats coming now into the planet.
To give you an idea of the shift from co-dependent to independent there are some things that need to occur at a personal level before such a relationship can be attracted and maintained.
To move into this level both individuals must attain a certain level of self-awareness,
A certain connection to their authentic self,
A certain willingness to embrace a higher frequency of love for self and other,
A willingness to move beyond old patterns that create heartbreak and a flexibility to adapt and grow.
Once the bonding occurs an interdependent couple will feel connected and close.
They will have a caring and a concern for each other.
Their lives to some extent become entwined yet there is a certain freedom which is gained within the commitment of being with the other person.
There is a certain equality that each will experience.
The love and support of the other enhances their sense of self and their confidence to follow their heart in the world.
There is a greater consciousness around sexual energy which is very important and how it can be channeled to enhance the connection or to invite a new high frequency soul in the world.
There is a tremendous honouring of differences and a great honesty of communication which generates an atmosphere of creative play,
Intimacy and trust.
An interdependent couple is essentially a win win scenario and this tends to produce an atmosphere of dynamic fluid transformation.
Within this relationship old patterns probably will arise yet they are dealt with in a way that allows for deep healing.
There is a sense of newness and movement rather than the same old and stuckness and of course conflict can arise but it is dealt with creatively rather than destructively.
Solutions are quickly found.
There is an awareness of what we could call the beginners mind rather than always wanting to appear right.
Such a couple is able to dissolve the old paradigm of separation,
Fear and scarcity in order that both can step into a greater flow of unity consciousness and abundance.
There is a holding and acceptance of vulnerability thus shame is diminished and trust enhanced.
A great spiritual teacher once said,
Relationships are the yoga of the west.
We are not here to retreat from the world we are here to engage in the world and that means engaging with all manners of relationships.
I do hope this little article has been helpful to you in some way.
Much love.
