How Do I Deal With Toxic People

Here I speak about dealing with toxicity, especially after going through a deep spiritual awakening and inner transformation. I describe exactly what we can do, by sharing my personal experience on this subject.

Transcript

Today I want to share with you my secret to deal with toxic people or people who prefer to focus on the negativity.

We all can be toxic to each other.

We all can choose to focus on the negative things or the negative part of things.

We all can focus on anger,

Desperate,

Sadness and so on,

So yes,

We can all be toxic.

That's why I am here sharing my experience.

So years,

Years ago I realized how depressed or sad or guilty or even desperate sometimes I felt after being in contact with a few specific people and that became a little bit of a worry for me because it was my family.

Of course there are a lot of people in my life and of course we all have ups and downs so we are not always the same to each other.

We all can represent a little bit of toxicity to each other but in this specific aspect I really recognized that with my family this was really happening and it was an issue to me but at the time I didn't know better.

I realized that my strategy at the time wasn't actually a strategy,

It was just my way of being and other people's ways of being and all of that together was not really having a good result for me in particular.

But at the time I thought that probably I would never have a different result because I didn't know better than that.

So a few years ago,

Actually two years ago,

After having more changes in my diet,

I don't know if you know already,

Many years ago I developed this passion about vegan macrobiotic foods and then I started eating more fresh raw vegetables and fruits and so on so I have this connection to food and what my body needs and the way I feel in result of all that.

So I don't know how much this specific thing that I'm going to tell you really influenced or not,

I decided to do a water fest,

Just one day water fest.

I don't really recommend this in particular,

Especially because I did it while I was working,

I was having my second restaurant at the time and I was there alone and I decided to do this because I felt that this could help because my family was coming to visit me on the day after.

So I was wanting something new,

Something different,

A different result,

I didn't want to feel depressed afterwards but I didn't know what I was doing so I was just trying something new.

So I really decided to do that and on the next day I started eating again and they arrived during the morning or something so they arrived and I suddenly saw myself having this behaviour and this communication and this connection that I never felt before.

It was as if nothing escaped me.

I was answering,

I was speaking,

I was expressing myself through source energy,

Literally.

I was speaking in a way and answering in a way that I've never done before at that level.

Of course I had answered before in speaking my truth but not in the same way.

Every time that they were saying something or expressing themselves I immediately recognised that that was a negative perspective and that I didn't feel good if I focused on that.

So I immediately changed perspective and I chose to focus on the positive side of that particular thing.

For example I have a very energetic dog,

He's very enthusiastic and sometimes they say that he's spoiled so for example they were saying he's spoiled and immediately I was answering that he was really loved,

He was so loved and he was so happy,

A great influence in my life or something like that.

It could be just one word,

One sentence,

One perspective,

A short one but I was really at the point of feeling that I wasn't missing any word,

Any aspect,

Anything.

I was really really expressing myself in a way that was allowing me to maintain my frequency and even putting myself on a higher vibration in fact.

So I saw myself doing many many things during this meeting.

I put music,

I danced,

I answered,

I changed subjects,

I focused on the sky and the clouds and the birds and the landscape and I played with my dog to give him attention but without feeling myself ashamed or bothered or resisting myself I was really feeling free and accepting everything that was part of my life at that moment.

During that meeting I was really really being myself and not allowing myself to focus on the negativity.

Even though other people could be saying something I was really really conscious about my focus and I realized that years years ago I used to take everything very personally.

I was really sensitive to what other people used to tell me and do and so on and years after I realized that I didn't have to take things so personally and that could be bad for me of course but actually that wasn't working very well for me because every time someone was bringing some toxicity to my life even though I didn't take things so personally I was letting myself focus on something that I didn't want to focus on,

Something that I didn't want or something that I didn't like just because that person was bringing that into my life.

That wasn't working as well because I was allowing myself to focus on something that was making me sad or any bad feeling.

Because I did this thing and I really don't know why I did it,

Why it happened that day,

Since then I really understood what I have to do to maintain my high frequency and of course I'm not perfect,

Nobody is perfect.

After that many things happened,

I saw myself feeling at a lower frequency meeting with someone and it doesn't have to be my family,

It can be anybody but I realized how much I changed my perspective and how much this helped me and how much this really helps me because I became more conscious about all the process and so I can tell you that this brought so much more joy into my life in a way that I can apply to any situation and now I see myself practicing more and more and more and I can assure you that because I've been practicing this,

My relationship with my family and other people is much better because of this and I'm not saying that this is easy or that this is something that other people will understand but I can assure you that by maintaining my frequency,

My high frequency at a level that makes me joyful,

Happy and light,

I also elevate others.

If someone comes to me with a negative thought,

With negative words,

I know how to elevate that person,

I know how to bring the sun into the darkness and that's something that really changed my life and of course,

The more I practice,

The more I make this spontaneously and in a happier way and in a natural way that makes me feel this at a deeper level.

So also this helped me knowing that we are not victims of each other,

That we are not victims of other people's behaviors and we are not victims of our behaviors,

We are just in higher or lower frequencies,

That's all.

If I feel sad,

It's because I'm in a lower frequency.

If I feel happy,

It's because I am at a higher frequency of the same energy.

So if I am unconditional love,

It's because I recognize unconditional love and it's because I feel happy at being unconditional love and expressing unconditional love.

In the moment that I focus myself on negativity,

I separate myself from that perspective of unconditional love and then I feel bad about myself and about others and about everything in this world.

So the key for me is to focus on what I am,

Which is unconditional love and see everything as much as I can through the eyes of unconditional love and then I can be happy most of the time.

And yes,

We are not perfect and yes,

I'm not going to blame myself for not being perfect because we are all evolving.

I am always evolving,

But I am so,

So thankful for having experienced this because it changed the way I see life,

The way I see myself and the way I see others and it really brought me into this feeling of freedom that I am.

Reviews

This is so wonderful, as though you were expressing thoughts and emotions I have experienced before.
As for pets I grew up among pets, dogs and cats, and they become family. They showed the same devotion and loyalty and shared the same emotions as I had especially love and respect for them.
Blessings to you Sangeet 🙏🙏🙏

One of the best talks ever! So helpful thank you so much