EFT Tapping THE INNER CRITIC
You know the voice. The one that says you're not doing enough, not good enough, should be further by now. Today we tap for the inner critic — not to destroy it, but to soften it. To turn down the volume. To make room for a kinder voice. You are enough. Right now. As you are.
Transcript
Welcome,
Find a comfortable seat.
Today we're tapping on the inner critic.
You know this one.
We all have one.
It's the one that says you're not doing enough.
You're not good enough.
You're not far along enough.
You're not thin enough or smart enough or successful enough.
You're not healed enough or disciplined enough.
You should be further by now.
You should have figured this out by now.
You should be better.
It's,
Oh,
It's relentless.
It doesn't take any days off either.
It doesn't care that you're tired,
That you're trying,
That you're showing up again today even when it's hard.
It just keeps whispering,
Sometimes shouting honestly,
Not enough,
Not enough,
Not enough.
But today we're going to soften that voice.
We're not going to destroy it.
We can't really destroy it,
But we can turn the volume down.
We can stop believing everything it says.
We can make room for something else,
Something kinder.
So let's give this a shot.
I'll go over the tapping points briefly in case you need a refresher.
Karate chop is the fleshy side of your hand.
The eyebrow is the inner ridge of your eyebrow where that begins.
The side eye is the bone at the outer corner.
Under eye is the bone just below your pupil.
Under nose is between your nose and your upper lip.
Chin is at the crease below your lower lip and your chin point.
Collarbone just below the collarbone on either side.
Underarm is about four inches below the armpit and then top of head right on the crown.
So let's begin.
Tap on your karate chop point while saying this three times.
Even though there's a voice inside me that says I'm not enough,
Even though there's a voice inside me that says I'm not enough,
Not doing enough,
Not good enough,
Not far enough,
I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.
Not good enough,
Not far enough,
Not doing enough.
I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.
Even though this inner critic never lets up,
Even though this inner critic never lets up.
Always finding something wrong,
Always pointing out where I'm falling short.
Always finding something wrong,
Always pointing out where I'm short.
I accept myself anyway.
I accept myself anyway.
Even though part of me believes this voice,
Even though part of me believes this voice,
Believes I should be better by now,
Believes I'm failing,
Believes I should be better by now,
Believes I'm failing.
I'm open to being kinder to myself.
I'm open to softening.
I'm open to being kinder to myself and I'm open to softening.
All right,
Round one.
Tap through each point.
Eyebrow,
This voice in my head.
This voice in my head.
Side eye,
It never stops.
It never stops.
Under eye,
You're not doing enough.
You're not doing enough.
Under nose,
You're not good enough.
You're not good enough.
Chin,
You should be further along by now.
You should be further along by now.
Collarbone,
You should have figured this out.
You should have figured this out.
Underarm,
Everyone else has it together.
Everyone else has it together.
Crown of head,
What is wrong with you?
What is wrong with you?
Round two,
Eyebrow point.
This voice is harsh.
This voice is harsh.
Side eye,
It doesn't give me a break.
It doesn't give me a break.
Under eye,
I'm tired of hearing it.
I'm tired of hearing it.
Under nose,
But part of me believes it.
But part of me believes it.
Chin,
Part of me thinks it's true.
Part of me thinks it's true.
Collarbone,
Maybe I'm not enough.
Maybe I'm not enough.
Underarm,
Maybe I should be better.
Maybe I should be better.
Top of the head,
This voice has been with me a long time.
This voice has been with me for a long time.
Round three,
Eyebrow point.
I don't even know where this voice started.
I don't even know where this voice started.
Side eye,
Maybe it was trying to protect me.
Maybe it was trying to protect me.
Under the eye,
Push me to be better.
Push me to be better.
Under nose,
Keep me safe from failure.
Keep me safe from failure.
Chin,
But it doesn't feel like protection anymore.
But it doesn't feel like protection anymore.
Collarbone,
It feels like punishment.
It feels like punishment.
Underarm,
It feels exhausting.
It feels exhausting.
Top of head,
I'm tired of being at war with myself.
I'm tired of being at war with myself.
Round four,
Eyebrow point.
What if this voice isn't telling the truth?
What if this voice isn't telling the truth?
Side eye,
What if it's just loud?
What if it's just loud?
Under eye,
Loud isn't the same as right.
Loud is not the same as right.
Under nose,
What if I'm doing better than I think I am?
What if I'm doing better than I think?
Chin,
What if I'm further along than I even realized?
What if I'm further along than I realized?
Collarbone,
What if the work is working?
What if the work is working?
Underarm,
Even when I can't see it.
Even when I can't see it.
Top of head,
What if I could soften toward myself?
What if I could soften toward myself?
Round five,
Eyebrow point.
What if there's another voice?
What if there's another voice?
Side eye,
A quieter one.
A quieter one.
Under the eye,
One that says I'm doing okay.
One that says I'm doing okay.
Under nose,
One that says I'm trying.
One that says I'm trying.
Chin,
One that says that's enough.
One that says that's enough.
Collarbones,
What if I listened to that voice instead?
What if I listened to that voice instead?
Underarm,
What if I let that voice get louder?
What if I let that voice get louder?
Top of head,
What if I stopped believing the critic?
What if I stopped believing the critic?
Final round,
Eyebrow point.
I am enough.
I am enough.
Side eye,
Not perfect,
Enough.
Not perfect,
Enough.
Under the eye,
I'm doing the best I can.
I'm doing the best I can.
Under nose,
And that's allowed to be enough.
And that's allowed to be enough.
Chin,
I don't have to earn my own kindness.
I don't have to earn my own kindness.
Collarbone,
I don't have to be further along to deserve compassion.
I don't have to be further along to deserve compassion.
I can soften toward myself right now.
I can soften toward myself right now.
Top of head,
I am enough right now as I am.
I am enough right now as I am.
Now release your hands to your knees and take a deep breath in.
Let it out slowly.
Place your hands on your heart.
Feel your own warmth.
That voice,
The inner critic,
It might still be there.
It probably will be.
It's been with you for a long time,
I'm guessing.
But it doesn't have to run the show today.
You don't have to believe everything that it says.
Because there is another voice and it's a kinder one.
It's a quieter one,
But it's there.
And today,
Try to listen to that one instead.
Because the truth is,
You're not behind.
You're not broken and you're not failing.
You're in the middle of your own becoming.
And becoming takes time.
It takes patience.
It takes showing up again and again,
Even when the voice says it's pointless.
It's not pointless.
The work is hard.
And you,
Exactly as you are,
Right now,
Today,
Are enough.
That's the practice.
I'm Nikki.
This is Off The Map.
Be kind to yourself today.
You deserve it.
I'll see you tomorrow.
