So what I want to share you is not the tips and techniques to be happier,
But this is something I'm going to share.
What you should not do to be happier.
So here are five things which I'm going to share,
Not do,
So you will not regret living a unhappy life.
So this is from a famous book from Bronnie Ware and she used to be a nurse in Australia and what she was working with people who were about to die.
So it's the last stages of their life and last 12 weeks of their life.
So that's where she was working and she learned from these people what are their biggest regrets in life.
And she has even wrote a book about it,
The Five Regrets of the Dying.
And I'm going to tell you these five regrets and how you can avoid it.
So you will be happier now and in the future as well.
So the first one which she talks about is,
I wish I would had the courage to live a life true to myself,
Not the life others expected of me.
A lot of people in the society,
We are pressured because of the parents,
The environment which we live in,
The financial situations we are in and our peers,
Whatever they are saying.
So that's how we adopt,
Right?
And we don't have the courage to do something different.
For my example,
I have spent a lot of time in Australia and I changed my career.
That was a big decision and it took a lot of time,
But I do not regret it.
So having a life which is kind of conditioned by the society,
So you go to school,
You go to college,
You get a degree,
You do some job,
You buy a house,
You then get married,
Have kids and start worrying about the pension money.
So what this regret is more about is having courage to do something differently and do something which you like.
The second one,
I wish I hadn't worked very hard.
So most of the people when I work with,
And I was similar,
We chase the materialistic things and we are never happy.
So we keep working harder and harder and harder and harder in search of,
Oh,
If I'm earning $10,
If I earn 20,
I'll be more happier,
40,
I'll be more happier,
100,
I'm more happier.
So it's kind of reaching a mountain and looking at a bigger mountain.
So keep working harder and harder.
That's a second regret.
The third one is I wish I had the courage to express my feeling.
This is a big one.
Most of the time we are not able to express our feelings,
What we genuinely feel about someone.
And because of that,
We lose a lot of relationships.
Because of that,
We suffer a lot because there are relationship issues in that people keep taking the abuse and they don't share their genuine feelings.
So if you want to be happier right now and in the future,
Please learn to express your feelings.
The fourth one is I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
This is a big regret.
As we move on in life,
As we start family,
As we start getting involved with relations and work life,
We lose friendships.
We get busy with so many other responsibilities,
We lose friendship and friendship is one of the key relationships where most of the people,
They are who they are really.
So they are with friends.
They can be true to themselves.
At work you are wearing a mask,
In relationship at times you are wearing a mask,
But with friends you are being true to who you are and that is a very helpful thing.
So maintaining your friendship is a big deal for happiness.
The fifth one,
I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is something,
Let myself happier,
What that means is there are a lot of practices which can help us become happier.
And what we can do is we can practice those things,
Gratitude,
Kindness,
Mindfulness.
These are some things which come to my mind.
So these are the practices which you can do,
Which is going to make you happy right now.
And it's the choice which you are making to be happy right now and happy in the future.
So avoid this and this is going to make you happier as you grow older.
