When You're Angry With The Divine For Not Coming Through.

Why won't the Divine come through when you really need the help? Anger and resentment can easily arise when it seems you are abandoned, left all alone, and the Divine doesn't come through for you. Use this Remembrance of the heart to be with your anger, and bring it to the Divine, without suppressing or making yourself wrong in any way.

Transcript

Al Dabbalahi minash shaitanir rajim bismillahir rahmanir rahim. In the name of the One Most Compassionate, Most Merciful, Most Kind. This is Mark Silver with Heart of Business and welcome to the remembrance. Today we're doing it on the topic of when you're angry, You're pissed off at the Divine. That you've been doing your best and you just feel left out, Not taken care of, Like you've done your part but the Divine's not showing up for you in some way. And you may even have the awareness that that is not whatever it isn't, That anger doesn't really work or it's not, You know, You have the thought that maybe you shouldn't be angry at the Divine. But even so you're still angry at the Divine. So I want to just encourage you to just notice how you're feeling, Notice any anger or frustration you have with your circumstances with the Divine. And what if you were just angry? That's just how it was. I want to encourage you to just be with the anger. Start out just by being with the anger. Notice that you're angry and notice that there is space for anger. There is space for frustration. There is space for all of it without needing to fix or change anything. You don't need to shut yourself down or push it away. Just anger. Anger is a human emotion. There is space for it. And as you're noticing your anger and noticing that there is space for it and noticing what it feels like, There was advice given within Sufism, Within Islam around anger. The Prophet Muhammad said to someone who said, What should I do when I'm angry? And the answer was don't be angry. Don't be anger. And the way I've always understood that is that you can have the anger but don't be the anger. And so in this moment without trying to shut down your anger or change it, Letting yourself have your anger, You are angry. Just seeing if you can find the place in your heart that can witness the anger, That can feel the spaciousness of the anger, That the anger is there without being consumed by it, Without letting the anger be the one in the driver's seat, Without abandoning your sovereignty to the anger. And this is a state of the heart because it can be a temptation to intellectually distance yourself from the anger in an attempt to find that place of witnessing. But the place of witnessing can feel the hot, The white hot anger, The frustration, The sometimes even the rage that's burning in your belly or your shoulders or your heart area, And at the same time knows that that is not the whole picture. That is not everything. That there's more of you than there is anger. That there's more of your heart than there is anger. And so there's no judgment on the anger, There's no shutting it down, There's just this awareness. Anger is here. And I am here. My heart is here. In Sufism it's said that one of the remedies, The remedy for anger is gentleness. And this is not about turning anger into gentleness. It's not about shutting down your anger and trying to be gentle yourself. It's around noticing that there is a spaciousness around the anger that is gentle. That you are with yourself angry in gentleness. You are with the anger with gentleness. Someone who is angry, There's a fragility there, There's a pain there. And that what the fire of anger really needs is the cool water of gentleness. Not to quench it, Just to hold it to help be the container around it. And starting to remember. Starting to remember the Divine. Asking is love available even here, Even with this anger. And whatever it is that you're angry about, Just noticing what is it that your heart is yearning for. What is it that's available to you? What's available to your heart and to your business? And the anger. Hmm. Hmm. Hmm. Hmm. Hmm. Hmm. Another way of approaching anger after finding this, Or with, Or parallel with the spaciousness and that gentleness is one way that the Sufis define patience. Patience is when you bring your grievances only to God. So being angry with God in some ways is what is being asked. So bringing your grievances, Perhaps having found the place of witnessing where there is space for the anger and yet it doesn't consume all of you. Where the anger is not in the driver's seat, That the anger is there without being judged to shut down, But you're not letting yourself run away with it either. And then bringing the grievance of the heart to the Divine, To Source, And asking, Well, What about this? What about this? And what about this? And if you bring grievances, It's helpful even in the anger to see if you can find an openness to hearing. What comes in response to the grievance? What about this? What about this? What about this? And this? And this? Allah, What about this? Oh Divine, What about this? God, What about this? Allah, Just noticing what you notice and asking. And there's room for the anger and room for the grievance and room for the story. Room for the feeling and also room for you and room for your heart. And is there also room for love? And is there room for the gentleness? And is there room for a response? A room for all of this? And from all of this wondering? Okay, Yes. You okay mmm And then just noticing how your heart feels, What's true for you, And taking this time, Just asking, Is there any authentic appreciation, Gratitude to express to the divine, Anything that you've experienced during this remembrance? And if you're wanting to stay in remembrance, Feel free to stay as long as you like. And if this is your time to return to your day, Taking a nice deep breath, Ummah, And bringing your attention back. Peace.

Reviews

Thank you. That really helped to air my grievances with the divine and to listen to what came back.