Sacred Eros 3

In Tantra, the specific difference between the Masculine and the Feminine is very important. Discovering them and assuming them is the key to a fulfilling couple relationship. What are the gifts and qualities of the Feminine? What does a woman offer when she expresses herself erotically? And what is the man’s role in this process? Discover the importance of each partner’s role in the couple's relationship.

Transcript

When it comes to the relationship between man and women,

When it is polar,

When it involves love making or attraction or so forth,

There are huge misunderstandings that lead to this feeling that couple relationship is the best and worst.

And why is it one day the best,

One day the worst?

We understand partially.

There are some things there,

There is very big blind spots.

We are taught so nicely other things,

But this seems,

We just don't get it.

Very,

Very few couples can stay and have wonderful attraction,

Wonderful love makings after 20 years or after 30 years,

Whereas they can have very good heart to heart talk.

There are many,

Many people get to.

But when it comes to attraction and when it comes to couple relationship,

We have huge misunderstandings that cause that people that really love each other,

Often somehow,

Somehow enter states in which they hurt each other very,

Very much.

So one of the purposes of this series of lectures would be to unveil what's actually going on.

And we will aim to bring light into what's actually happening when there is attraction,

When you flirt,

When you kiss,

When you make love and understanding that,

Understanding this process and this mechanism will hopefully give you the tools to really connect and to really understand what's happening and therefore have a choice.

Instead of entering very negative states with a person that you have a lot of attraction to,

You will be able to understand and foresee and enter very,

Very wonderful states.

Or like Blandine said,

You have very amazing states but then it's just once.

You have the most amazing love making and then you can't really repeat it or you can repeat it pretty rarely.

So once we understand how these things work,

We have at least the choice to do it right.

So the key element here is that,

Or the element that we will touch today is the feminine gift.

Women can give a tremendous gift.

When a woman is polarized,

When a woman is put in a state where she feels erotically open,

Even if it's just a kiss,

Even if it's just a flirt,

Even if it's just an eye gaze,

The woman starts building inside of her.

She's like pregnant with a tremendous spiritual gift.

This is what the tantric texts tell us and this is what we experience in our couple relationship and what anyone can experience or can understand following these principles that we present now.

So the woman has the capacity or it's basically the feminine nature when there is a very beautiful attraction and she feels open also erotically.

Well,

Basically it involves attraction and heart,

Attraction and love,

Which together bring erotic,

The erotic side.

So when a woman is open erotically,

We are speaking about a state in which there is attraction and love.

This state in which a woman is open to fuse,

She's open to really interact,

Starts in her a kind of spiritual pregnancy,

We can say,

In which she starts first accumulating in her and then bestowing upon the man and the couple relationship as a whole a tremendous gift.

This gift somehow intuitively or somehow in the side of our visual field,

We all know.

You have seen how a couple acts after they had an erotic interaction.

You see them,

I don't know what,

Passing in the dining hall or coming to I don't know what event and you see they just made such wonderful love.

They are both glowing.

When people first fall in love,

They often create the condition for the woman to give the feminine gift and when they are in such states where the woman gives her feminine gifts or the gift manifest,

Then both the lovers glow.

They glow tremendously.

All this Hollywood,

We are in love,

Poetry,

We are in love,

All these comparisons,

Your eyes are like doves and all that,

Your hair is like a fountain or I don't know what,

All this poetic inspiration,

Artistic inspiration which rises from that is real.

On the tantric eyes,

It's real.

The woman actually manifests certain tremendous spiritual gifts.

When a woman is open erotically,

She bestows both upon herself and upon her lover this miraculous spiritual gift that can be a tremendous happiness.

It can be a vitality.

Sometimes,

Oh,

We made love all night and we're still fresh.

It can give and empower the man's virility,

The man's masculinity and her own femininity.

It can be something that is extremely healing,

Something that is very empowering,

That's giving self-confidence and in the high levels that gives ecstatic spiritual states mostly for herself because many of the guys,

They are not open to receive these ecstatic spiritual states.

Women herself,

Women themselves,

They give the gift and in the process of giving the gift especially if they have a tantric lover and they can make love longer and there is love and there is like half an hour,

One hour,

Three hours of lovemaking,

They can have astral projections or entering into all sorts of divine worlds,

Seeing godly visions and so forth which can appear naturally when this combination of attraction and love is there with enough intensity for long enough.

Now,

The man's role is to assist in creating an environment in which the woman can give her gift.

The idea is every time you start to flirt with a woman,

You give one kiss,

The process starts and if you are not present and responsible for the process and you are in,

Out,

In,

Out,

Heart open,

Heart closed,

There attraction,

No attraction,

The woman will get wounded.

Now,

The man's role is to assist in creating an environment in which the woman can give her gift.

That environment is not just the man but the man somehow starts the process in the same way that one sperm starts the process of pregnancy and the woman gives the miracle of a child from where?

It's a total,

Even if we are used to it,

It's a total miracle that such a thing even exists.

It's a complete miracle if we look at it with the eyes of the heart.

So the man can initiate the process,

Can facilitate,

Can start the process by creating the right environment.

What's the right environment?

It's an environment in which the woman feels safe.

She feels loved and she feels polarized.

There is a game there.

The man is interesting,

Is interesting as a man and therefore she is polarized as a woman.

There is attraction.

So there is,

The man is interesting enough and masculine enough to be attractive,

That's one side.

Then the environment is safe,

It's loving,

It's open.

In such a game there where there is an interest and there is like a tease and there is an attraction,

So the energy is moving.

There is also a safety,

A love,

An intimacy in which the woman can really manifest and open also erotically and somehow allow her heart to be very present over there.

So in such an environment a woman can start to give her gift and then the process is launched.

Now most men or at least the large number of men after some years of struggle and maybe some workshops and maybe some talks with friends and movies and tutorials and copying and imitating some other people and speaking to other women and speaking to other friends,

They get how to initiate the process.

They can write a love song,

They can be very firm and clear and present and masculine,

They can be fearless at least for a moment there,

They can be kind and romantic,

They can give the woman the space,

They know how to start the process.

So once the process starts and the woman is just beginning to give her gift,

It's like the man snatches that half embryo that's not yet done,

He takes it and he closes down.

And just let's say the first time,

The second time or the first month of the relationship,

He loves her enough,

He's present enough so that she actually gives real birth to her gift and then after a while,

He's impatient and he takes it before and he doesn't wait to receive it.

He moves from an open,

Loving,

Somehow selfless attitude into a grabby attitude.

He says,

Come on,

Give me.

You gave me that gift last time.

I felt amazing.

Give me,

Give me,

Give me,

Give me.

Why don't you give me?

Now you are mine.

I already impressed you.

I already created a safe environment.

I was already very gentlemanic and very masculine with you.

Now you are mine.

Just give me the gift like you gave me last time.

And it's a complete ignorance.

This is the point.

This is the blind point.

This is a complete ignorance to the actual mechanism.

The actual mechanism is magical and if you could be magical in February,

Why don't you be magical in March and in April and in May?

And it is the man's role to be continuously magical.

Otherwise,

There would be no gift.

The woman cannot give the gift if the man does not create the environment.

And once the man creates the environment and the gift starts opening,

He needs to stay in that state,

To stay selfless,

To stay free from agenda,

To stay caring,

To stay loving and to stay very present,

Very attentive to her.