Oriel and I have had this inspiration to start a lecture series on the subject of godly eras,
Of tantric eroticism,
Sacred eroticism,
Because it's by far not just a tantra that addresses this very fascinating subject.
In the lecture today we wish to share with you some very practical aspects that nevertheless are very high in principle in nature and you will find that this might be the case again and again when we speak about sacred eroticism.
It is something very hands on and very clearly applicable and feelable when it happens but it requires a deep principle understanding to let's say get there repeatedly.
All of us are much capable to experience spontaneous sacred eroticism but the idea of course in tantra is to make it a systematic practice and something that you can repeat.
For that we will give some pointers today that for some of you,
You might feel a little bit,
I don't think offended,
But maybe a little bit rubbed in some ways that are maybe a bit more frictionate than you are used to.
And therefore as a little disclaimer,
Traditional tantra is thousands of years old.
It is coming from a different cultural background and it hasn't been conveyed,
Hasn't been revealed in order to be politically correct or in order to give pleasure to anybody who wants pleasure but it is a system that allows you to reach enlightenment through erotic pleasures.
But in order to reach enlightenment,
Anything that makes you reach enlightenment has to it some very clear principles and mechanisms that if correctly applied will have that thing that you are doing lead you into a very high and elevated state and if not,
Will not do so.
So therefore this will not be so much lectures on how can I please a woman.
If you will become a sacred erotic lover,
You will please your woman.
This is just a given but it's a side effect.
It's not so that you learn to push some buttons or to go with your tongue around certain areas in the correct way.
It will come anyways this but we will much rather wish to give you the right inner attitude which is so much taught within the tantric scriptures especially of the Kashmirian Shaivism tradition.
There are so many amazing pointers that allow you to really transform from the inside out and to become simply a completely different lover and therefore become an amazingly godly lover rather than learning some tricks that make you perform better.
So this is a little bit what we are after.
Now some of you don't maybe know what sacred eras,
How is it defined,
What is it,
What's going on with it and what I like to do as a let's say little entrance into the subject is for you to just practically for a moment think of the worst sex that you ever had.
I'm not talking please about violence and criminal acts.
I'm talking about it was all consensual but it was just not very good.
So think of the worst consensual and non-criminal sexual act you were engaged in and think for a moment why was it so bad.
What were the things within it that made it just not very good and if you can think even just of one quality,
One aspect,
One characteristic to that sexual experience that made it not very good you can type it in the chat.
Disconnected,
That's right.
Pleasing attitude.
What else comes to mind?
Bad sex.
I didn't feel natural,
Disconnected because I have to pretend that it was pleasurable just so he doesn't get hurt or feel rejected.
Yeah therefore so again disconnect right being not on the same wavelength.
Absorption and physical desire and lack of consciousness.
Mechanical feeling used,
Egoistic,
Selfish,
Only concentrated on physical pleasure.
No eye contact,
No kisses which sort of translates into no connection or presence with each other maybe even no love.
Rushed,
Yeah there's no good rhythm in it.
Yeah I think we sort of get the point.
It's very good you can write down more things for yourself if you want to and you know just keep that for a moment as a description of terrible sex let's call it.
Now I want you to think of the best,
Most wonderful,
Most godly,
Most inspired,
Most uplifted,
Most amazing erotic experience you've ever ever had in your life and think again why.
Try to think of three points.
Why was it great?
Why was it amazing?
Why was it uplifting?
And again you can just shoot it out on the chat and also in the room if you want to.
Both love and chemistry,
Both of us were 100% present.
Love,
Fusion,
Connection,
Love and care,
Pure connection,
Revealing of higher aspects such as king and queen like becoming archetypal.
Very beautiful.
There was total acceptance of each other,
Heavenly,
Blissful,
Feeling the other one's soul and heart,
Feeling nourished.
So you can see in the way that you described these two experiences each of you intuitively in touch with what we would describe in tantra or let's say what we would make distinct in tantra as sexual experience,
Sex,
Erotic experience,
Eros.
The words that you gave on the sexual front is basically there's a lot of focus on the physical,
On the pleasure,
On attraction.
It can feel therefore disconnected feeling even a bit empty afterwards,
Feeling used,
Feeling a sense of maybe being rushed not having the right rhythm,
Feeling that okay maybe there's attraction but there isn't love.
There's some sort of disconnect,
There's some sort of lack of being synchronized with one another and so forth.
So the sexual dimension of the amorous game is that dimension that happens unconsciously,
That happens without love and that is mainly governed by instinct.
Obviously experienced sexuality goes towards instinct and is therefore still driving us together but not together with everything we are.
So you might have a fusion of the bodies even maybe an energetic fusion to a certain degree but you might not feel that heart and soul are really involved in the process.
