Sacred Eros 2

In this lecture, we’ll speak about how we bring sacred eroticism into the bedroom and leave sex out. We’ll discover the challenges and difficulties on the spiritual path of tantric eroticism and how to overcome them with some practical tips.

Transcript

On the other hand you have the erotic dimension of the Amorous Game.

The erotic dimension is signified by consciousness first of all.

It is that part of your,

Let's say,

Amorous creative expression that is in the light of your consciousness,

That you are present to,

That you are aware of.

It has a rising quality,

You said godly.

Love,

Of course,

Is part of that expression,

Let's say,

Of our amorous energies.

So the first thing that we say in Tantra is that you must be aware that there is a distinction between these two.

And we will use the words sex and eros,

Sexual manifestation,

Sexual experience,

Sexual energy,

Erotic experience,

Erotic energy in order to distinct between the two.

Now typically within a lovemaking game you will have both of these aspects come to play because as much as we are not,

You know,

100% immersed into pure spirit consciousness and our soul just by ourselves individually,

In the same way even as much as we might be aspiring to such a state when we come together the two lovers,

We will have a mix of things.

We will at times feel very uplifted,

Very much having all our intentions,

All our energies point towards an elevated connective loving experience which then through the intensity of the intimate act will even get empowered and much stronger.

And on the other hand you might at times have instinct creep in,

You might have pleasure seeking creep in,

You might have,

Let's say,

Just the raw physicality,

The oomph sort of come in and,

You know,

Play its game as well.

So the whole point of the,

Let's say,

Path of tantric eroticism is to gradually come to a purely erotic experience where both of the lovers come already completely fulfilled,

Completely nourished and whole both in themselves without the need to get some desires met.

Both of them already balanced,

Both of them already alchemizing within themselves,

Both of them open systems in contact with the rest of the world,

Both of them ready to merge,

To join one another in this beautiful game of intimacy rather than wanting something from the other.

So this is just in a nutshell to get a bit of a feeling of eros versus sex,

But what I would like you to do is much rather than having these maybe sometimes mental definitions,

They are helpful,

They play their role,

But try to refer to that inside of you which is uplifted in the lovemaking game.

You've all experienced it,

All of us have had hopefully beautiful,

Uplifting,

Erotic experiences,

Maybe not even with a lover,

Maybe just watching a mountain you felt your heart just penetrated with the joy and beauty of mother nature and feeling in that way very erotically fulfilled.

Maybe you know the state,

For me this is very much triggering this energy of eros inside of my own being without anybody else being around,

When I feel in contact with the elements,

When I'm walking barefoot and it's raining and I feel the rain on my skin or I swim in a lake and I see the trees around and I smell the air,

The freshness of the nature.

Maybe you know this particular state,

Maybe when you've been a child and you've been going out to nature with your family or maybe you've had some nice parties with your friends at the beach or something like that,

There's a very particular way of the being opening up and feeling enriched by eroticism when we come in contact with nature and with the elements around.

So try to refer to that as the,

Let's say,

Reference point for what eros is within your being,

What eros really means.

As we dive into learning how to be erotic,

One of the big difficulties always when we walk the path of Tantra,

We walk the path of Shakti,

The path of being within creation,

The difficulty is that everything that you apply when done correctly will lead you to liberation and to complete freedom,

Enlightenment,

Ecstasy and so forth and this is very,

Very true for the path of eroticism.

It can lead you to liberation extremely quickly but on the other hand,

If you're not doing it right and you do some sort of compromised version of it,

It will lead you into illusion,

Into maya,

Into confusion,

Into remaining even longer into this whole game of ego,

Of mind,

Of desires and lower tendencies.

So the Tantric has the courage to walk this path that can lead you into complete illusion and going rounds on the carousel of life another 20 times extra because the Tantric believes in the possibility of harnessing this energy,

Of taming the lion,

Of being able to continuously relate to that elevated aspect inside of us that wishes to engage with our beloved,

Full of love,

Full of consciousness and so forth which then will lead towards a very fast path of liberation.

For most people the problem is that they have this beautiful wish to use this path but they tend to apply the principles half.

Now this in the beginning is very normal because we are not enlightened yet so as we start to transform on this path there will be moments of compromise.

There will be moments of oh no,

Now I went for the sexual drive for 15 minutes and I didn't even notice and now I'm very short before ejaculation or I'm feeling so full of desire I want to eat my beloved or something like that and I get angry if they will not now penetrate me in whatever way.

Okay fine,

Fair enough,

I can discover these things on a path of transformation that Tantra very much is starting from where we are at and then walking forward surely making some mistakes on the way and learning from them.

So this is completely normal that you would be on a path of transformation where not each experience will now be perfect but will have some elements of the old ways in it obviously.

But the trouble with eroticism is that for many people they will not put their trajectory very clearly.

They will not very clearly go for okay the principle is this,

I've learned it,

This is the goal,

The goal is enlightenment,

Godly eroticism,

This sort of inner state,

Liberation like that,

Now let's go along this trajectory forward.

But it will much rather be whatever is sort of pleasurable now and is still sort of in the frame of what we could kind of call a path of tantric eroticism and the temptation within the realm of the amorous fusion also of the overall creative expression,

Sexual erotic expressions inside,

The temptations are huge because that energy inside of us is an energy that is driving life forward on this planet.

It's an energy that makes us survive as a species,

So it's extremely powerful within this common subconscious,

It is powerfully dragging continuously towards sexual manifestation as this is what we are currently on this planet mostly have.

So in the same way that you could be meditating for 20 years but every time you meditate you play a little bit with the phone,

You're meditating mainly but you're also playing a bit with the phone and you're also daydreaming a little bit like that.

You will not achieve focus,

It is just not possible to achieve the goal of proper meditation and focus if every meditation that you do you also play a little bit with the phone.

It's just not possible,

It's not leading towards that goal,

You're doing something that is not leading towards focus,

Therefore you will not get focus no matter how many years you do it and it's the same with tantric eroticism.

You're doing something that sort of is like,

But it's just a little bit of that.

Yeah,

It will just not lead you into that same direction.

So we would very much invite you to check out your own sexuality,

Your own eroticism and to start to understand all right from the behaviors that I manifest,

The attitudes that I have,

The inner experiences that I have,

Where am I at,

How much do I experience eroticism,

When do I experience sexuality and where do I have the tendency to sort of compromise.

Where am I on the trajectory even though I'm transforming,

I make my mistakes,

That's what happens in meditation.

You will also not have the mind completely clear and focused from moment one,

That's completely fine,

But I am on a trajectory that is going forward.

I'm not like a fly in the room that makes many,

Many,

Many kilometers but it's basically reaching nowhere.

But I'm having a clear goal and I'm moving on a clear trajectory forward.

Make a bit of analysis,

A bit of a reflection upon this for yourself so you understand a bit where you're at so that all your wonderful efforts of being erotic and being open and being in love with life and in love with Shakti and in love with your beloved and so forth to make them worthwhile and actually go somewhere and not just the eternal movements of desire and lower tendencies in the room.

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Outstanding explanation of the difference between eroticism and sexuality.