Narcissists Hijack Your Superpower

Did you know that narcissists hijack your superpower? Do you know what your superpower is? Your superpower is the power of your beliefs. What you believe dictates your entire life and every decision you make. When you are under the spell of a narcissist, your emotions, beliefs, and perception of reality are controlled through psychological manipulation. Tactics include gaslighting, triangulation, future faking, mirroring your empathy, and training you to fear negative outcomes, especially when you do not think, speak, or behave as they would like you to.

In this episode, Lisa A. Romano goes all in to explain the importance of honoring your superpowers, so you can shield your mind, thoughts, and emotions from becoming enabled in toxic relationship dynamics.

Transcript

Welcome to the breakdown to break through podcast.

My name is Lisa a Romano I am a life coach best-selling author YouTube vlogger Meditation teacher and expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse.

I am a believer in the power of an organized mind My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness rather than living a reactive life May your heart feel blessed your mind feel expanded and your spirit find hope as you spend time with me here at the breakdown to break through podcast Today we're going to be talking about how a narcissist exploits your superpower when it comes to Narcissism control over your most valuable asset the power of your mind What a narcissist does is they hijack the power of belief?

Your beliefs are so powerful that they are literally shaping your world Think about it people who don't feel competent Don't have the resiliency oftentimes to be able to muster up the strength to face a challenge When there is a bump in the road people who have self-doubt who don't feel good about themselves get overwhelmed very easily and They don't believe that they are competent enough to face the challenge Here comes someone who does have the confidence enough to face a challenge who?

Has the power of the belief that they are good enough that they are tenacious and that they can Accomplish whatever the task is before them and this person has the resolve to get up the next day With determined will and face the challenge ahead What's really going on is either person less worthy than the other absolutely not What's going on at a basic level is the power of belief?

Adult children of alcoholics adult children of narcissistic parents Children who have grown up feeling unworthy Feeling invisible who have undergone all sorts of trauma from the gamut running the gamut I mean what children endure these days and have endured throughout the centuries and eons is Absolutely despicable rups us at the level of the mind where we are now talking about self Concept we are now talking about our view of the self You have an internal I dear one and the way you look at yourself Determines the outcome of every area of your life.

I want to help awaken people I know the childhood trauma arrests us at this level at the level of the power of belief and yet There is a ton of neurological research done to prove that the placebo effect is real Have a control group of people give people medicine and their body responds Tell people that they are receiving medicine that will heal them and their body responds What's really going on the power of belief?

So you bet your butt that if you grow up feeling not good enough and your mother tells you that you're bad Whether you're slutty or your father tells you that you're never gonna find a man or your father tells you no woman is ever gonna Love you,

Whatever whatever or if your parents make yourself worth about what you look like You bet at the level of the power of belief it is going to control your life You won't put in the effort because you think what's the use?

When you meet a friend and things don't go the way that you planned or wanted to your Abandonment trauma kicks on and then you go into self-preservation mode You take the ball and you go home you isolate you withdraw and guess what happens you get depressed Why because you're not flowing with love What happens to a plant that's denied water it shrivels up what happens to a plant that's denied the Sun it shrivels up What happens to us when we isolate when we live in fear of the next?

Terrible thing happening and fear is running the ship versus love we shrivel up we get depressed.

It all makes sense We're not crazy.

We're not doing anything wrong per se It's that we don't have the self-awareness to appreciate the power of belief now you have this base Underlying belief that you're not good enough Well,

You're a prime target for a narcissist because they want to control what you think and how you feel And so yeah,

They hijack your superpower the power of belief.

So now if you're a codependent Oh dear one.

This is a match made in let's say not a very nice place because codependents are other focused Narcissists are self-focused.

So a narcissist comes along bumps into an empathetic Codependent who just wants to be liked and appreciated and loved and this codependent will turn themselves into a pretzel because they don't have Self-esteem.

Thank you mom and dad or a dysfunctional home So they don't have self-worth so they think if they turn themselves into a pretzel That the narcissist will approve of them and then they'll get self-worth.

But here's the hook You know that fishing hook that sharp hook people use when they go fishing guess what?

Fish don't see the hook.

They only see the lure.

It's shiny It promises them that they're going to be satiated the poor fish thinks this is it.

This is what I need This is what I want all I have to do is take a bite and that's what codependents do and when Narcissists understand that they've got something on someone on their hook then and they've used the lure of love-bombing or future faking or compliments flattery of Mirroring the types of things that you like to do acting right deceiving you This is the level of evil that is on the planet It is just as light as it is dark dear one and deception is out there,

Right?

We see it everywhere we have to recognize that deception is a part of this world that there is light and there is dark and people are deceptive some people are deceptive and the person who is not deceptive is a gem and How we gravitate towards people who are not deceptive.

Well,

We stop deceiving the self.

We stop playing the game We stop living in denial.

We take a hard look at the way that we think we develop metacognition This is a problem in thinking.

This is a problem in cognition this is a problem in self-awareness or a lack of The problem is like some people say I think it was Earl Nightingale that one of his podcasts said or his audio said that Trouble with man is that man doesn't think no.

No,

No,

No The trouble with man is that man doesn't know they're not thinking Man doesn't know they're regurgitating.

And so my mission is to help Awaken you arise dear one arise arise in consciousness Understand that a narcissist hijacks you at your level of superpower They control the power of your beliefs.

They confuse you they over generalize.

They mock you They play the victim they get you to feel sorry for them.

They blame you for everything.

They build you up one day They knock you down the next day.

It's called intermittent validation And if you want to excise yourself from a toxic relationship from anyone,

Maybe this person isn't a narcissist They're just not your cup of tea.

They're just not floating your cork.

Things are just not working out Well first we want to look at the self are your expectations skewed,

Right?

Do you have high narcissistic traits?

Are you expecting this person to anticipate all your needs without being honest about what your needs are?

So we want to know am I coming into this relationship?

Wounded and expecting things that are unrealistic and am I the one that's frustrated by my partner?

Because I don't have the courage yet to tell them what I think and I feel do I expect them to read my mind?

Do I pout what's going on?

Do I struggle with abandonment trauma?

Am I nervous when people set boundaries with me?

Am I Misinterpreting someone's boundaries as narcissism.

So again,

We have to be able to become self-awareness For me,

I chose the inner child recovery journey.

I chose healing from codependency I chose delving into what's wrong with me and that began began To allow me to understand what was happening in my world Suddenly the pieces of my mind were rearranging themselves.

It wasn't just a high narcissistic partner That was a problem.

It was me.

It was denial.

It was low self-value It was me repeating patterns of the past and not even understanding what I was doing Did narcissist in my life hijack my power of belief Absolutely,

But I was unaware that I had so many dysfunctional beliefs anyway And it wasn't until I really got into the subconscious mind where I developed the ability to become self-aware I developed mindfulness.

I used journaling I meditated every day for hours a day to gain control over my mind And so what a narcissist is going to do dear one,

They're going to hijack you at the power of you believe They're going to exploit any belief in you that you're crazy They're going to exploit any belief in you that you're not good enough They're going to exploit any belief in you that tells you that there's something wrong with you that you're undeserving This is where they hijack you now.

The good news is that Neuroplasticity is real that the brain is malleable But guess what the brain ain't gonna change until you change the way that you think and your thinking isn't going to change Until you awaken your awareness Until you gain control over what is happening in the conscious field.

The first step is slowing down that beautiful mind of yours creating a sense of balance and peace Creating a new Grounding point from which your new thoughts will spring and I promise you I will give you my word That if you begin meditating today,

You can go you can use so free I can tell you that if you set out on this path today that if you start paying attention to what a Narcissist wants you to believe which is just sit back and listen.

You're unworthy.

You're crazy.

What's wrong with you?

You make everything something out of nothing.

You're too sensitive.

Ah They're hijacking what you believe about yourself so in that beautiful mind of yours there you are doing on a treadmill that never ends a Treadmill of I am unworthy and I am NOT good enough That's how a narcissist hijacks you whether this is your mother your father or a partner or a co-worker Or a sibling or a friend.

This is how This gets done and even on the global scale When people are taught that they should fear this group or fear that group We're being all we're all being brainwashed at the level of belief.

And so me personally dear one I've learned that unless someone's talking about how we can come together and unless someone's talking about how I can learn to think in a positive way that allows me to become the objective observer rather than Digesting what someone else wants me to believe until I am listening to that Then from someone and if someone is trying to teach me to hate someone then I'm not interested now You might say well isn't Lisa trying to teach me to hate a narcissist not at all I want you to understand the game that they play not at all What I want you to do is understand the game that they play I don't want you to hate anybody because hate is Opposite of what we need to feel on planet Earth if we're really going to heal our lives Empower ourselves and heal the world.

There's no reason to hate anyone We can hate or dislike what this person is doing But if we pull back further enough and far enough and far enough and far enough We understand that narcissists are very wounded themselves.

However,

However Narcissists by definition are not interested in self-awareness.

They're interested in telling you what's wrong with you now I'm interested in both because there is something wrong.

If I keep attracting narcissists,

There is something wrong with me I can't fix a hole in the wall that I can't see am I At to blame if I'm attracting a narcissist depends on how you look at it if I've been Used and abused as a child and now I have all this abandonment trauma.

That's not my fault It could be no other way that I ache to feel seen that I edit myself that I've lost myself Year after year,

I've lost myself year after year.

I attract Toxic people some point in time dear one we have to look at the self more objectively and say what is it that I'm doing wrong and I think it's very sad and I'm not so sure it's not intentional that you and beings Just don't know how to think on their behalf Because they are regurgitating their childhood programming and they don't even know it When you gain control over your power of belief then you are not controlled by the outside world anymore You have been kicked out of the matrix.

No,

I'll rephrase that you have actually taken yourself out of the matrix You are not controllable your mind is your own and the beautiful thing about this world and the beautiful thing about Consciousness and the fact that it is we live in hyperspace.

In other words,

It's many dimensions in a 3d reality We have the ability due to the absolute quantum laws that govern consciousness We have the ability to rearrange our thoughts so profoundly that the outer world begins to rearrange To match our new arrangement within our mind.

There's no way there's no way I could be living the life that I'm living now in the relationship that I have now having the relationships that I have with my husband's children that I have now and Having this amazing blended family There's no way that could have happened until I rearranged the power of my beliefs about Myself and about the world and what is possible now if you don't believe that you're worthy It's not going to show up.

You won't stick through it.

You won't put yourself out there You'll be too afraid to put yourself out there If you don't believe that someone can love you just as you are you're not going to put yourself out there now Here's the thing.

It's just a belief and I'm not saying this is easy.

You're you're listening to someone It took me decades to get where I am But who cares?

Isn't it worth it to put six months or a year or two years into this work to?

Eventually develop the life and create the life that you want.

I say so so do one I hope that this has been beneficial.

I hope you hear what I'm saying I hope that you can feel the transmission of love coming through this right now and I really hope that you begin the journey looking within and controlling your mind and controlling your power of belief so that you can become the master of your Reality because you dear one are an heir to the universe and it's about time.

You started believing that is true namaste dear ones

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thanks Lisa. your talk are always eye opening ♥️🤍🌈♥️🤍🌈♥️🤍🌈♥️🤍🌈

Loved that thx.

Very helpful information. Thank you.