Self-Love: Living With Our Double

There is the great myth of Narcissus who sees his reflection in the water and becomes transfixed. In many ways, this is the foundation of our struggle with self-worth. We identify with this reflection and believe that it is actually us. Let's look at how to release this double-self in total love. This was originally a live talk on Insight Timer. I reference a painting of Narcissus by Carvaggio that can be found on the internet.

Transcript

So today we're talking about living with our double and what does that mean?

There's a story that we've often heard of of Narcissus and Narcissus was this beautiful hunter back in the Greek stories.

It's funny because a lot of different versions of this story and one of the versions goes that when he was in utero his mom went to Tiresias the the blind seer and Tiresias said that he will have a great life as long as he never discovers himself or discovers what he looks like.

And there's another story that goes one day he was walking through the woods and Echo saw him and she fell in love with him and she came up to him and she said oh you are so beautiful you are so all of that and he shunned her he just pushed her away like you know who are you to talk to me you know.

And there's lots of stories about that that he thought he knew she was following him and he'd say who's there and she didn't want him to know so she said who's there?

But anyway she was really sad and she sort of ended up just living her life out in a little Glen.

But anyway Nemesis one of the goddesses was furious that he was so mean to her so she led him to a pool of water that was clear and he was thirsty and he peered over the edge and he caught a glimpse of himself and he became so transfixed with his own image he fell in love with that image and remained there the rest of his life completely obsessed with this mirror image of himself.

So there's a there's a lot of paintings of Narcissus but there's one specifically I want to show you guys and it's by Carvaggio and what's most interesting about this is see his reflection there's him and there's his reflection and you see the perfect circle this makes.

Do you see the perfect system it creates him and his reflection?

This is a curse.

Imagine living your whole life lost in this connection thinking that this is all that matters and this doesn't mean that we don't have other relationships it doesn't mean that we don't care about other people it doesn't mean we're selfish or you know classically narcissistic that's not what it this is but when we have a certain part of our self that is locked in this circle we lose everything like we actually end up with this weird inner war with ourself because we somehow believe that who we see in the mirror is who we are we have some belief that what our body looks like is who we are and if we believe this it will affect everything we do they will affect how we work it'll affect how we love it'll affect how we don't love it will affect whether we're happy it will affect everything it's almost like that weird circuit lives inside of us like this vicious cycle this very strange thing and that's what you know this talk is called living with our double because the strange thing about that is we've actually been conditioned to believe that what narcissus is looking at that reflection even look at how dark the reflection is and how little of narcissus it actually reflects it doesn't reflect all of narcissus it only reflects a portion a very small portion and because of the way we're raised because of society because of Hollywood because of advertising because of all these kind of tricks to make us obsessed with thinking that this is who we are we actually end up in a weird stagnant circle like a self-perpetuating issue in the past we have talked about David Hawkins and his book power versus force and we've looked at the levels of consciousness that we all can live at and how we interpret the world and I'm just gonna find the picture of it this is David Hawkins levels of consciousness if you look at the bottom shame guilt apathy grief fear desire anger pride courage and then above when we are resonating at anything below courage we are actually creating fires in our own life that later we have to put out we are causing problems that are actually building on each other creating this weird negative cycle of problems right so if we go to work and we're acting out of a place of fear or we're acting out of a place of pride or we go into relationships and we're acting out of shame or we're acting out of anger we're acting all these things and you can imagine that the ripple effect is negative and then you have to deal with those negative ripple effects and then you have to spend all your energy just trying to catch up which you never do because they just keep self-perpetuating so now you imagine this Caravaggio's picture of Narcissus and imagine we're looking at ourselves with shame and the damage that does or what if we're looking at ourselves with guilt so it's not even necessarily physical what if we've had a certain kind of life what if we were raised on a certain side of the tracks positive or negative what if we I don't know didn't get the education that others think is important what if we don't have the money that that person thinks or what if we don't have the right height or what if we're the wrong color what if we're the wrong gender what if we're the wrong whatever and we have any kind of shame or guilt that when we look in the mirror we just cannot get out of this like it it feels like a curse right like it's something we can't get out of we can which is what this this talk is about but what if we're what if we look at that in the mirror and we feel pride and I don't mean positive like I feel great about myself not that's not what I'm talking about I'm talking about I'm glad I look good you know I'm glad I'm young I'm glad I'm strong I'm glad I whatever because the problem with that is as soon as we think oh yeah I'm all that what do our eyes see when we look at other people what happens as we age what if we don't always look like that right and then one day we look in the mirror and someone's looking back at us that didn't look like that anymore what if we had if we have an issue with that like we have an issue with who we are like we have an issue with our heart we have an issue with our soul we have an issue with who we think this is so I get so sad but this is a permeating part of our culture and it's so important to look at this is why we have the myths right the mythologies help us see the traps we're in the mythologies help us see the story of narcissus and ask ourselves do I see this in me at all do I see it in me a little bit because it's so important it's so important because the mythology helps us break out of this it helps us break out of the spells it helps it help us it helps it's not like I didn't talk all weekend I did talk this weekend cuz you know I'm a chatterbox but apparently I'm gonna stumble over my words a little this morning and this is you know every day when we have a talk like this I always ask myself okay why are we gonna talk about this today why would we want to talk about the myth of narcissus or living with this double this other self and the number one reason is that other self that reflection in the mirror the reflection even in the eyes of people not those we love who love us but the others you know we you know we how we're raised and we're always like well what would they think what would they say right whoever they are whatever we believe our reflection is in the eyes of them that's not us there is I like the true self inside then there is this weird reflection from the world and it's not us and if we become obsessed with it if we think that that's who we are we don't get to live our life like it's almost like the ultimate distraction right if I could just get you staring at a pool whether it's how you're seen in the business world how you're seen in the family how you're seen in the mirror how you're seen compared to I don't know airbrushed cosmopolitan models I could keep you distracted your whole life and you would never actually take your soul's journey you would actually never amount to who you truly are this is a real problem because what do we really want we want to feel alive we want to feel like we matter I want to know that me as this person this human this soul I'm here for some purpose I don't know what it is it doesn't have to be bigger anything it just but I want to know that I matter you want to know that you matter it's not bad thing it's just why we're here otherwise we're like well then why am I here so anything that disconnects us from our souls path doing whatever it is our soul chooses to do wants to do it do mmm brings joy to our life anything that distracts us from that is a huge problem and this that picture of her fight curfage use narcissus this is a problem and again I don't mean this like oh you're so vain you're so when I say you I mean me right I don't that's not what I'm saying most people are hit with this and we can be the most giving people in the world sometimes even that I was raised by teachers and preachers it's probably why I like talking so much so to me the ideal other self the ideal self that I want to project to the world has to be altruistic it has to be saving the world it has to be beyond reproach beyond judgment pure as snow right sometimes we're raised in a culture that says you can be nothing but exactly what society says you are you know we just want to make all the right choices and la la la la la la la says who according to what whose rules you know like I remember when I first met Jim my first book was called what if you could skip the cancer and it was this story just cuz there's so many new people here today and 20 some odd years ago I was sick I had breast slumps my mom had just died of breast cancer her mom had died of cancer you know one of those families my children were young and I was very sick and a man came into my life Jim who is this teacher of mine he at this point I thought I had made all the right choices I thought it's like it's like you know we almost create this persona we create this person who we want to be there's me inside who I was completely disconnected from it's almost like I didn't even know there was an inside me it's you know what I mean like it's like it's um it's like oh yeah I've got a heart and a soul but so it's like there was no voice I didn't know who that was so I had to create the Katrina that I believed was righteous in the in the most literal term right so I married the good man and I had two children and at the time that I met Jim I had foster kids we had just converted our our dairy farm to organic we were doing everything right and I'm sitting there in this house not ready to admit to myself how actually depressed I was like how truly despairing I actually was and I do these energy grid readings that lots of you guys have seen and Jim had taught them to me and so here he was and he had done the energy grids of everybody in the house of my husband myself my children the foster kids everybody and he'd laid them out on the table and he was looking at all of them trying to sort of sort out what was going on in our family and he looked at me and you know that moment when someone sees you for the first time in your life and my parents loved me and I've had friends and sisters but he looked right into my eyes and said what are you doing you are so far off your path what are you doing and of course I started crying but I cried because it was almost like I knew what he was saying was right but it was like no one had ever seen me like you know I mean like I'd never actually been seen beyond this beyond this physical body beyond my accomplishments beyond where I was born who I was born to not that any of that's interesting but do you know what I mean like I was seen and I don't think I'd ever even been around someone who saw my soul and you know I it stayed with me obviously it was this moment in time when you start realizing that this life I've created isn't me who I married has nothing to do with me my children have nothing to do with me whether I have children or not has nothing to do with me my education has nothing to do with me what I do for a living has nothing to do with me well who who am I then right this is think these are the great questions and then it was a year later that the breast lumps appeared and that began my real dark night of the soul as I manifested my mom's disease and her mom's disease and had to look a lot deeper into this because one of the big deals about breast cancer about a lot of the cancers not not a lot of things are called cancer that are not what I'm talking about but a lot of the cancers a lot of people for example who got breast cancer are real people pleasers and of course what happens when we're a people pleaser all that matters is how we can serve others how do I make you happy even how do I mirror back to you something that's gonna make you feel good about you like think about that for a minute I've never thought about that but like I'll do this in relationships if I'm not careful it's it's with good intention but even if someone's really really messed up I'll kind of glue them all back together how I believe they really are and reflect that back to them and I'm not saying it's it's wrong but it's not exactly right either because I've had people say that to me oh you're not seeing the truth you're not you're not seeing who I really am I'm like yes I really am but what if I'm not what if I'm not actually allowing all the information in because I'm projecting onto them what I want others to protect onto me or whatever but again there's nothing to do with self and the most beautiful thing and the reason I think it's so important to talk about this idea of the narcissus myth is that whatever we see in the mirror whatever we see in the mirror of other people ourselves all that doesn't matter it's nothing but a reflection so if you imagine yourself you walk into your bathroom and you stand in front of the mirror but you close your eyes and even right now imagine you close your eyes and you connect with who you really are and there's no words for this and you just feel it like remember that you can feel more than you can understand like if we ever want to feel a different dimension of ourself or different aspect of ourself the best thing we can do is feel because our brain can our brain is caught up our brain is caught up in the world and all the definitions and it's very limited our brain will learn later our brain will learn based on what we feel so if you close your eyes and you feel into who you who you really are and there are no words like we are infinite beings we are divine creatures we are transcendent we are all the things that cannot be described then we open our eyes and we look in the mirror and we see some reflection of that infinite divine being well who's looking who's looking at the mirror really our brain so there's like three selves here let's imagine there's three selves it's not double maybe it's a triple but let's imagine there's three selves because there's an interpreter between our soul and what we see and it's our brain because the information coming from the the mirror is going into our eyes being interpreted with our optic nerve our brain whatever it's going into this incredible machine up here and being interpreted and sending a picture to us of what our eyes are seeing does this have anything to do with reality like none our brains are programmed based on the world around us it's based in the three-dimensional world it's based on what our society sees what our parents saw what the world around us saw what we read what we saw in magazines our brain is storing all this information our brain is storing massive filters for what we see if you imagine body dysmorphia you imagine people who struggle with anorexia that when they look in the mirror they do not see what others see they will see a fat person even though they are emaciated this is the brain and every single one of us is exactly the same as someone who struggles with anorexia right it may not look like that but this is programmed so when we look in the mirror this program is interpreting what our optical nerve is picking up based on light coming in the light the mirror whatever we're seeing the optical nerve is processing it interpreting it based on our brain all of our misunderstandings and misconceptions and limited viewpoints and under whatever and everyone who's ever said anything around us and so now think about the narcissistic narcissist myth the problem is that narcissus falls in love with his vision now realize the languaging we're interpreting a Greek myth the word love doesn't necessarily mean in that case it's love because he thinks he's beautiful but the love is a connection you become connected to that image we believe that that image is us right think of love like that like just be we have to be careful of the language barrier here so now we see this computer-generated version of ourselves that has entered our mind through our optic nerve and we believe that that's us you we are now connected to something external we're connected to a version of ourselves interpreted by the world around us and we are no longer on our soul's journey it's a huge deal like it's it's so important and does it mean we never look in the mirror again of course we can look at the mirror right we can look at the mirror and go oh that is my mind's interpretation of this soul's journey in this space-time continuum it's not interesting you know the funniest thing about it is we you know in yoga we often talk about how there are ten bodies in yoga there's like the physical body there's the auric body there's the pranic body there's the three mental bodies one of the most interesting bodies is called the radiant body well the radiant body is many things but one of the things it is it's what other people actually see when they look at you we think they see our physical body but what they actually see is our radiant body that's what their eyes interpret that's what their brain actually interprets it has very little to do with our physical body you ever you know obviously most of you guys have seen the movie The Matrix well one of the most fascinating well there's a thousand million interesting moments in the matrix but one is when Neo leaves the matrix and they realize that his brain is just a computer program or has just been run by a virtual program and he and Morpheus go into a training program so all of a sudden Neos there in the training program and he has hair because he doesn't actually have hair because it got shaved off he has clothes on he has all these things and Morpheus looks at him and Neos kind of like what's this right and Morpheus says you know do you really think that what you see out in the world is anything more than a computer program he said look at what you look like you have hair all the little what are they little plugs or whatever all gone you have clothes everything's different what is this and he says this is your residual self-image I watched The Matrix when I was sick with the breast lumps it came out while I was working with Jim trying to find myself trying to understand who was I if I wasn't my body if I wasn't these breast lumps if I wasn't you know my husband's I married a Dutch guy and so I was you know in the land of losing not this is not even Dutch but it was just a generational thing because oftentimes his family would call me difrao of Wayne right I was just the wife of Wayne you know I had no name I was just difrao of Wayne and and it was so amazing because my dark night of the soul was well who am I then because everything we've been taught says this is me who I married to is me am I married did I do like and then The Matrix comes out it was just like talk about when the student is ready the teacher will appear so that that moment for example I mean there was so many moments in The Matrix but that moment was like my residual self-image what is my residual self-image and this is a really really really interesting question because I've really struggled with that my whole life I've always my mom was on a diet from the day I think we were born and I think I went to my first diet class with her when I was 14 that was just a normal part of living that there was always something wrong with you you could always be thinner you could always be fitter you could always think that was just that was just I don't know I think it was just part of the culture almost right still is so I was reading this book called the Gabriel Method and it was the story of John Gabriel and he had spent most of his life a very heavy man like 400 pounds heavy and he discovered all kinds of interesting things he had very very interesting things to say in this book but one of the most interesting things was he used this idea of residual self-image in meditation so he lost like 300 pounds like he lost just this insane amount of weight so of course no most people who lose that kind of weight have skin sagging right well the wild thing about him was part of the weight loss journey with him or part of the coming back to self whatever we want to call it was every night you would visualize yourself as your young healthy self you would shift your residual self-image to your ideal self and I don't mean your ideal weight or your only I mean okay this is me interpreting John Gabriel I he didn't really say this probably but like imagine if you feel inside yourself and you feel your healthiest strongest clearest happiest most joyful self and this becomes your residual self-image and every night before you go to bed you lie in bed and you envision this ideal souls residual self-image that is what will manifest you know we talk a lot about the quantum field and how we are constantly enfolding and folding into the quantum field back and forth in every microsecond what residual self-image are we holding in our consciousness to constantly be renewing as our truly ideal self I don't mean an ideal self based on what my brain has interpreted the world to think I should be I mean this soul's path and I don't know what the soul's path is supposed to be am I supposed to look like Kim Kardashian is that what my soul's path is am I supposed to be this am I supposed to have this job am I supposed to like there's really only one way to find that out right because I'll guarantee you whatever our souls path is I don't think we're all supposed to look the same I don't think I don't think we're all supposed to have the same job I don't think we're all supposed to have a certain amount of money I don't think we're all supposed to have the same kind of relationships I don't think we haven't supposed to have the same kind of gender expression.

I don't think we're supposed to have the same.

I don't think any of us are supposed to be the same as any of us.

So suddenly all the rules that are stored up here are a distraction.

They're a twist on the truth.

I read a book a couple years ago called The Dakini's Warm Breath and they talked about the four levels of a wisdom dakini and this is all genders.

This is just it was specifically about dakini.

But if we imagine this for all of us,

How the way the story went in the book was this guy was wanting to find this dakini and work with her or have enlightenment or you know whatever we search dakinis and dakas and gurus for that's what he wanted.

So he's walking through this town and he's trying to figure out how to find her and he sees this woman or this young girl and she's sort of dressed in rags and what-have-you.

And of course he goes up to her and he says tell me where this great dakini is and she looks at him and she says oh you can't find her or something.

She says something that kind of pissed him off.

And of course he goes away and he comes back and he starts thinking about it and then this vision comes to him and he realizes that that young woman knows where the dakini is.

She's just not telling him.

So he goes back to try to find her and he finds her and he starts questioning her right like no I think you know and she just sort of stares at him right.

The story the reason he told that they told this story was that of course this woman was the dakini.

She was the enlightened one and what was really interesting about it was they talked about how there were four levels of the dakini and again this is all of us.

This isn't just this is this is the human condition that deep within us they call it the secret dakini right.

Deep within us is infinity whatever the divine infinite space is and you look into their eyes and you see infinity.

Then there was the next level which was they called it the co-emergent joy right.

It's kind of like infinity has manifested right here we are look at us hanging out on earth how cool is this.

Each one of us also has this co-emergent joy aspect of ourselves because we haven't even hit the personalities yet.

This is just us inside.

Then they call it the outer dakini which is sort of the pranic body the winds the energy the life force that flows through us.

That's the thoughts it's the emotions it's that it's the energy that flows through us the outer self and then the outer outer self is this.

It's that what you see it's the physical it's it's the tormented soul it's the physical human like every single one of us as although deep within we have the eternal self the co-emergent joy the energy the emotions the spirit but we all are also are human and we struggle with loss and we struggle with wanting joy and we are constantly pulled in the tension of being alive of being in this three to the three-dimensional world and that's not a bad thing I don't say that as a negative.

We came here to live in duality we came here to fall in love we came here to lose we came here to try and fail and climb another mountain that's what we came for.

So if you look at me and you see the physical human you see the human the one that struggles the one that's you know losing her voice because she spent too much time around a fire last night or if you see the woman who's who's kind of dying the death because she's heartbroken or she's struggling with this or money issues or whatever whatever it is we see when we see other people that also matters but it's just our outer outer self it still matters that's our human life that's that's the life we're living right now some of us are having really hard days and some of us are having happy days and that's our human that's the human experience right now that we're having and I don't mean to be cold about that but that that's an important aspect of who we are but part of the point of them talking about this in the book was when you meet someone who they see in you is dependent on where they are in their journey if someone looks at you and all they see is the struggling human and they judge you or you judge you then who they see that's where they are on their spiritual path right so if someone looks at you and they say wow or they make some comment about any kind of aspect of your physical life then the only thing you've learned is that's where they are on their journey so it's a great big judgment or I'm better than you because I can see where you are in your journey nothing like that just oh you think you don't like cellulite or you think I'm too short or you don't like my job or you don't what you don't like something about my physical incarnation here well that's where the that's where they're at and this is cool right so these people when we hang out we talk about physical things hey we talk about world and stuff and politics and I don't know physical stuff how to lose weight my favorite fitness regimen I don't know whatever that's what we talk about because that's that's where we're at someone else you might meet and they might see right past whatever physicality you are and they look at you and they go hey like you want to hang out and they have no idea anything about you right like I remember maybe five years ago this lovely man in my life and it was during a time that I I don't actually know what happened but for some reason I lost a million pounds like I lost like 60 pounds in a few months I don't know what I don't it wasn't intentional is I mean it could have been because I was anemic it could have been because I was stressed out because I was selling my train station and I don't know who knows what was going on but anyway it became a bone rack like I mean I was I was nothing but bones I was so so so skinny which is just so odd for me like just unfathomable he didn't even notice not because he's a jerk because it just never didn't matter it he'd never seen it you know because every so often I kind of be like because I would wake up in the morning I'd be like missing whole parts of my body like like you know it was gonna be opposite of like when my son was growing cuz my son's really tall so he's going through this massive growth spritz and it's like he would wake up and his fingers were like an inch longer and he just banging into stuff all the time cuz he didn't know that was me my body like any man who's ever loved me has no idea what my body looks like because it's a different connection right and then there's people who meet you and they see something else like if they see co-emergent joy in you that's because they see co-emergent joy in them right and if someone looks into your eyes and they can fall into infinity then they know what infinity feels like like life is so much more interesting right there's so much more depth going on here and the key to all of it in my opinion is to it's okay that we live in this wonderful duality we live in this wonderful world where our bodies shift we go up and down our relationships come and go like we are in constant flux in this physical world like how wonderful is that and we have a very interesting spiritual aspect and we are literally joy incarnate and we are infinite and and and how so how does the soul manifest how do we find this journey how do we go on our souls journey we're just careful about these little distractions that the world can set up for us sometimes you know and don't get me wrong I'm a very very human person I can get caught in that all the time it's not that but it's just so important to have in our consciousness that if we ever get caught there that we go hmm I think I might be caught in a internal loop that's all like we don't have to get all angrier at ourselves we just have to go oh I I see what you're doing there I see what's going on and then connect in and look out again it's funny tomorrow I'm heading up to my sister's place and I'm dog sitting but I love watching the dogs play because there's three of them and you watch dogs and they don't know what a husky is supposed to look like or what you know a shepherd supposed to look like they just look around they go hey look it's a it's a ball it's a ball hey look it's a butt hey look they just live there's none of this weird you know there is no other there is no double there is no other self I have to maintain just me just living doing stuff having fun you know it's a whole other world I mean there's one other thing that I was gonna mention because one of the questions would be it seems like a funny thing to exist in the world without this visual interpretation but when you think about your body because we have a lot of body issues right imagine we really trusted what we felt so for example if my body is carrying extra weight because it does it's fluctuated a lot in my life what's really interesting is if I look in the mirror this weird narcissus shaming guilting thing starts but when I close my eyes and I feel my body what I actually feel is something else what I might feel is tired or my joints might hurt or I might feel very stuck those are really valuable clues to how to shift if I suddenly feel very tired then I have to ask myself hmm what am I doing that's exhausting me what am I carrying who am I carrying what am I internalizing that's not mine if my joints hurt you know is there toxicity running through me and I don't mean just physically I mean is there toxicity running through me that I I'm trying to process if I feel stuck if I feel immobile why right what if some people I know people who when they're stressed out they lose phenomenal phenomenal amount of weight like I did a few years ago so then if I closed my eyes how would I really feel I might feel untethered I might feel weak I might feel lost these are valuable bits of introspection right and I mean I'm just we're just talking about body image but it could be even illness you know let's say we have heart issues and we close our eyes and we say how do I feel I feel restricted I feel frightened I feel stressed out these are so valuable and when we actually look at those realities we will make change in our life and everything will change everything will shift physically emotionally work-related relationships everything so it's interesting like how again the distraction because we actually have great wisdom inside that we can look at and art then the fact that our bodies might be sick or overly heavy or overly thin or overly whatever or just unhealthy in some way that's not the point the point is what do we feel and then what can we change right is this the connection between people pleasing tendencies and illness yes imagine so this is one of the big things I discovered in my life was and people pleasing is a huge topic but when I put all my focus on what other people think my wisdom about me is over here in me but all my consciousness is in what other people are thinking and feeling so I've disconnected from my own wisdom I mean I've written I wrote what if you could skip the cancer about people pleasing and then in 2017 I wrote a book called you don't have to eat the eyeballs which was kind of it was almost like my 20-year update on my people pleasing issues because sometimes I think that our souls really do have journeys to take and it's almost like I feel like that attention to other will always be within me but you know it's that peeling the onion it just keeps looking a little bit different a little bit different right and to be perpetually bringing that you know they call it locus of control that ability to concentrate inside and to listen within you make choices from there in love and in kindness I mean I'll always care with other people think but will I go against my truth to make out someone else comfortable that's a whole other thing can you speak to what a true mirror would look like one beautiful mirror reflection is just seeing their soul like the physical part doesn't matter but for example so my daughter and I just you know this long trip on the weekend and there will be things that there was something that happened last week that really bothered me and I said to us okay so here's what happened like what do you think what do you think and so what I'm asking her to do is reflect my physical life I'm not asking her to reflect my souls or my infinite self I'm asking her to reflect what's happening in my life right now like am I crazy am I off base should I you know should I apologize what's going on what is how do you see what I've told you how do you see this and she would just look at me and she always just looks at me and she'd say well mom here's how I see it and she would just sort of share her perspective of it so she but but I recognize that the mirror is through her eyes through her interpretation but I have great respect for her and I'm interested in her perspective it doesn't mean I'm gonna go away and do what she said but it's a very interesting perspective with the mirror of Taylor reflects back to me about my current situation so that's that's one way in my world that I I use mirrors of others because we are social creatures but one of the challenges with mirrors is that I think as social creatures we are meant to grow and shift based on how we're perceived by others right it's not that it's not that we're supposed to be islands but again in our consciousness to understand that if the other person is broken and I don't mean a bad person I just mean maybe they've really been hurt in life maybe they were raised in a very strict upbringing maybe they have a very strong religious filter maybe they have a very strong judgmental filter because of who they were raised by to be very very clear that any reflection coming from them is going to come from that kind of broken mirror just to be really clear about the mirrors we're looking at because I'm not a loner like I'm not a I don't avoid mirrors let's put it that way I accept that you may see me a certain way and I'm cool with that it's kind of like ah that's how you see me and that's how you see me and that's how you see me and these are all the wonderful mirrors in the world but they don't really reflect me right so thank you so much for being here and we will see you very soon aloha

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Wow, I loved this! Such an interesting perspective on the story of Narcissus and our self image. I have to listen to this again to make sure I get all the bits of wisdom