What We Fear In Transforming Ourselves

Transformation can be daunting because letting go means surrendering to unknown depths. This talk offers insight on the nature of changing who you are and reminders for making room for yourself to grow. Includes questions to reflect on and an affirming final statement.

Transcript

The tree that wanted to be a beautiful book.

It would die if that's what it took.

That's a quote by singer-songwriter Butterfly Boucher.

I heard it and thought,

Wow.

That's a part of transformation that we forget all the time.

It's also what makes transformation so hard.

The idea that in order to get where you're going,

Where you want to be,

In order to reach the heights that you desperately want to reach,

You actually have to go through the process of changing the person you are now.

The person you are now,

The person you know,

Has to disappear or be let go of in some way,

And you know,

It feels like you're dying.

Because you really are in a lot of ways.

You have to stop being the person you are in order to make room for the person that you want to be.

The person you,

On a deep level,

Feel you should be.

And in all aspects,

It's a better version of your current self.

It's like an improvement on the existing you.

As long as you're transforming in line with your highest values and aspirations,

Then you're actually becoming more of yourself.

You're becoming more like who you really are,

In a pure sense.

The you that is more free,

More authentic,

More stable,

More awake.

The you that's less insecure,

Less guarded,

Less stuck.

But you know,

We get attached to the ways that we are now.

We lose ourselves in the monotonous rhythms of life,

And we have to let go of that to move forward,

And it's tough.

After all,

We identify with that person so much.

The habits and all the things that are covering us and sort of protecting us from facing the scary parts of life and the vulnerable parts of ourselves.

So when it comes time for that person to be removed,

And all that stuff to be taken away,

It's tough.

But it's a reminder for myself and for anyone else who wants it that the part about transformation that often holds us back is that fear of dying,

Of losing hold on who we are,

Who we think we are in the moment.

But what if we could get past that?

If we could stay strong enough to face the reality of our situation,

And our eagerness to change and see them as tools for transformation?

Each of us could ask ourselves,

How can I personally make an impact on what's at hand?

All the while holding compassionate space for ourselves to mourn who we were and let that person go.

How far could each of us go,

Even just today?

We could bypass the fear,

Come out on the other side and realize that while we were afraid to fall,

We let go,

And we fell.

And it hurt.

But we survived the fall.

Got up,

Looked around and saw that the place we landed was so much better than that familiar ledge we were trying to cling onto.

So may we each move forward,

Staying present with ourselves through the scary and sad emotions and through the setbacks,

And letting ourselves trust that we're bringing ourselves to greater personal freedom and mobility.

Reviews

This short meditation was one of the most helpful to me at this time. I'm 56, been trying to let go of bad habits and become authentic. My soul is my guide. But everytime I try to move forward, I experience panic attacks and believe that I'm dying. Im starting to understand that the panic is the comfortable me, my ego, clinging on. This talk reassured me that fear is part of the process of transformation.

I am so grateful to receive such a concise but profound message. Learning to let go, to be comfortable with letting go, is really resonating with me. Thank you.

A powerful view of transformation that takes the woo woo out of the process.

A beautiful reminder that we are here to shine our Light in the world . Not hide from who we can become when we die to the ego. Thank you🙏💜

Change is hard, here lies a big reason why…and the courage to do it anyway.

I am grateful for this quick reminder of the need to let go of the old self. I will be listening to this again and again. 🙏 💖✌️

short sweet and wise i’ll listen to this one multiple times to keep reminding me of importance of growth came embracing the beauty of change - thank you for this

This is an awesome talk. I took it to heart. Through the power of God I am changing profoundly. I am a tree that wanted to be a book. My life will be a reflection of love, joy, and peace.

I don’t have the words to say how deeply this touched me, but thank you.

let go to grow beyond fear - these principles remind us to take each next step

Clinging to the ledge of what was...that resonates. I realize it depletes the memory of what was and the possibility of what is to be. Thank you...Namaste.

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I am excited about my transformation. It’s living in the present that makes it a challenge. I’m eager to see what I’m becoming.

Profoundly grateful for this offering of a beautifully articulated reminder of a truth we all share.

Wow I really would like to be able to do this but, it's hard when you get to a certain age and you just conform to this way of teaching that was taught to me but, this is the one thing that I really would like to change my old ways old thinking that have not served me. This is a excellent teaching... This is part of my playlist thanks 💛🌻

Absolutely adored this... this is just what I needed to hear and I'm actually excited about change instead of fearing it. I'm looking forward to the new and improved Meghan.
Thank you so much for taking the time from your life to put such a powerful and meaningful message out there. 🙏🌈🌻💌

What great points. An amazing reminder of feeling the fear and doing it anyway
Thanks for sharing
Namaste 🙏🏽
JuneB

Startlingly good. Never heard this put this way. Very helpful; thank you!

This is the message that I didn’t even know i needed to hear today. THANK YOU!

Refreshing and wise. Great voice and a wonderful consideration of the cost of our habitual selves.

Very nice description and reassuring! Thank you, Roswel!