Stay In Alignment To Achieve Your Goals- LL&L With Glenn Ambrose

In this podcast, we'll discuss staying in alignment with self to achieve goals. It's time to stop the limiting beliefs that say: I have to be something I'm not to achieve what I want to achieve. The path to high achievement as well as peace and happiness is ALWAYS being more of yourself, not less.

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Welcome to life lessons and laughter with your host Glenn Ambrose.

Hello everybody.

Here we are Why?

That was last night recorded With me and Aubrey Hello happy Afternoon,

What day Tuesday afternoon today,

Right Tuesday.

Yes.

Yeah taco Tuesday I like it anything but Just I'm just dropping a hint So,

What are we talking about today Aubrey Today we are talking about the ends don't always justify the mean Don't always not always not What the heck does that even mean I think it's yeah,

I think I think it's kind of a you know in our society We're very conditioned to to make excuses For our behavior and rationalize it and I mean,

We you know,

We've kind of had to honestly I mean You know over the years the way societies run.

I mean,

It's you know,

We always Believed that we you know,

We we had to take abuse to get anywhere You know because of the hierarchy of the social system,

But we're breaking out of that now So it's it's you know,

I talked before about it being a employee Employer market and now it's turning into an employee market like this is all part of the shift and it's you know Plus the the the martyr mentality is Just seriously hurting people because we have all these people with wonderful big loving hearts that don't know how to set boundaries And care for themselves So they just give give give become doormats for other people the suffer struggle and people aren't able to do that Like they used to it's getting more and more intense So the self self care is getting more important and self abuse There's less tolerance for self abuse.

We just we can't beat the living crap out of ourselves for decades and Just chalk it up to well,

You know this is what being a mom looks like or this is what being a dad looks like or you know,

It's Life's tough like those mentalities aren't working anymore,

You know Yeah,

Because we're creating a new paradigm based in love.

So part of that,

You know That's why this mentality I think seeps Into a lot of different areas,

You know,

So it's it's about really Looking at this and going,

You know Getting conscious about what we're doing and why we're doing it And if we're being honest with ourselves authentic and truthful with ourselves as we make these decisions so The topic today is and don't always justify the means so can you give can you elaborate a little bit on the Typical phrase the ends justify the means and what that yeah,

So we can compare the two Yeah,

I think it's You know the the ends justify the means it's it's you know,

Where we can We can do whatever we have to do to If our intention is good,

You know I think this is part of the the meaning that the the road to hell is paved with good intentions You know,

So this is and I mean,

You know sometimes it's easier to see it with larger more extreme examples in the macrocosm and then bring it back into into our Individual lives and see where we're doing it because if it's a if it's running rampant in Society then it's in our lives too because society is just made up of people Society is just made up of us.

So,

You know,

So on a grand scale.

I think that this is a lot of Politics.

I mean,

I don't you know,

I mean I know that I don't like politicians quite honestly I just don't I don't I don't like what they stand for.

I don't like what they do I don't like it.

I don't like a lot of things about them,

But I don't believe that they're bad people I don't I don't think we have bad people now.

Are there some politicians that are just out for themselves and trying to screw?

Everybody yes,

Absolutely,

But I don't think that that's the norm Honestly,

I think that most politicians actually think that they're doing good for humanity,

Which is ridiculous They're not but this is how they sleep at night You know,

They they because they believe The the end justifies the means so they so I believe that a lot of the politicians the way it's gotten so out of whack is that they tell themselves and they believe as a as a as a group if you would take politicians as a group and Try to understand what's going on in their heads I think that they believe that like you can't make positive change unless you have the power to do so So which justifies them doing whatever it takes to get power,

Right?

So then they're like,

Oh,

Okay,

So I have to make a deal You know,

I have to make a deal with a pharmaceutical company or I have to make a deal over here to get this done Well,

Yeah,

Okay.

Well,

I'll sacrifice this to get that done and so they're constantly making deals or or they're lying about about somebody they're running against or just Slandering them or something.

Why well because I have to I have to get into office.

I have to get into office Yeah,

But you're you're lying and your character assassinating and you're gossiping and your soul is Rotting from what you're doing It's like yeah,

But but I'm just doing that's not important I'm just doing that because that's what it takes for me to get into power when I get into power When I get into power,

Then I'll make positive changes for the people that I care about Hmm,

You know,

That's the end just you know,

The ends just find the means I have to do whatever it takes to get into power and then Once I'm there,

Then I'll do wonderful things for everybody But then when they get there they find out that they owe everybody in their brother For getting them there and then they have to you know,

And and then people hold them accountable They're like dude,

Right you said I was gonna get 13 contracts Or come over or else our emails are going public What you know,

And this is how the game is played.

So it's like,

You know so I think that that's a good example of in the the macrocosm and Then in a microcosm we do the same thing you know,

We just we we sacrifice a lot of people a lot of people are still under the because Let's be realistic money is important to everyone in our everyday lives I mean we all need it,

You know,

Like we we need money to it's our form of Exchange right now.

So everybody it's money.

That's just a fact of life the way society is set up right now.

So people will Rationalize why they have to do things for to keep their job or to stay in their job and That is good That's one of the lines that's getting thinner and thinner now because we're shifting to an employee market instead of an employer market So it's it's becoming what the power is shifting So now all of a sudden it's like if somebody starts treating you like crap at a lot of jobs and and people haven't fully Absorbed this the ones that have it's it's great man Like all the people who understand this in the past year Most people I know that have understood this that we're at jobs that they don't like are no longer at those jobs And they're making substantially more money in in a better work environment the people who actually Have slowed down to say is this true?

I don't know.

I'm gonna go on some job Freaking website or I'm gonna contact a headhunter and explore my options.

That's all they do They just explore options and then all of a sudden that they're like Within a few months most of them are at other jobs making more money in a better work atmosphere It's because it's literally changing.

It's just the general public hasn't seen this yet So but it's gonna get more and more So what's happening is our rationalization is getting thinner and thinner and thinner,

You know maybe a hundred years ago you had to do what you know,

Especially like in the the depression Like I think that had a huge effect on Possibly the globe but definitely the United States because that was like my grandparents.

It's not it's not that far removed You know,

So it's like so the way my grandparents lived and believed Affect affected their children,

Which is my parents and the way they thought which affected me The way that I thought because they were still alive.

I'm talking,

You know,

So to not finish your meal Was you know a cardinal sin when I was a child?

Right and there are just like there is so scared and used so locked into a lack mentality that it was like So back then,

You know,

You needed a job and we and it was backed by a hundred thousand years of hierarchy Structure anyway,

Right?

So so then now so we're just finally breaking out of that So it's a new mentality to sit there and have your boss say hey I need you to work overtime and just look at him and go let me get back to you on that Like this is a whole new way of doing things so it's taking a little time for for us to get there,

But this is what we need to start doing because You know to kind of give the overview of how I'm seeing the the job stuff I'm a realist.

I'm a spiritual realist I'm not asking you to run around quitting your job just because you don't like the way your boss talks to you,

You know I mean some stuff you have to suck it up and some stuff you have to set boundaries and you know All that there's all kinds of tools that you can implement to live your life more harmoniously even where you are But we have to stop rationalizing and going.

Oh,

It's because you know,

I hey I have to pay my bills I can't just tell my boss.

No.

Yeah,

You can't you can't that doesn't hold water anymore You can't you're not it's not mandatory for you to be mentally and emotionally abused at your job anymore It's just not there's too many opportunities out there.

There's too many other jobs is is you know?

You we most people have cars now You don't have to work five minutes from your house Like you can actually commute somewhere for 30 minutes to make a better paycheck with a better atmosphere You can set boundaries and there are HR departments where you can be like,

Hey,

Listen,

No,

I'm being abused This isn't okay,

You know,

So But that but we have to be realistic about it If everything isn't hunky-dory at your job doesn't mean you can tell people to go screw because they're not being nice Like you can set boundaries so sometimes it's appropriate to say I Don't really like this aspect of my job Maybe it's not technically in my job description or something,

But whatever For the most part my jobs cool.

It pays my bills.

It feeds my family You know I'm not the boss.

I don't make the rules Whatever.

I'll suck it up and I'll do a little something that I don't really feel like doing because The bigger picture is more important me feeding my family stuff like that.

It's more important than this little thing So that's fine But we can't use that same mentality to rationalize not being ourselves being inauthentic Sitting there,

You know being allowing ourselves to be abused Changing our character lying cheating stealing at our jobs and then say well It's it's not up to me man Like my boss said I had to do it so I had to do it No,

Like when it's crossing your moral lines,

You don't have to do it.

You don't have to do it We're not in that society anymore You know this and this is where we're going more and more and more and more We're just at the beginning of it now,

And I think it's huge.

It's everywhere.

It's it's awesome Yeah,

I love see but I'm also looking for it.

So so just in the next five years This is gonna go This is gonna be like off the charts man People are gonna be doing this left and right and I think it's gonna shake the job market up pretty good There's just too many options.

It's too easy to start your own business and work online and all kind There's just way too many options now.

Yeah,

So You see do you see society as a whole right now?

You know coming out of that because what you described like,

You know What we talked about with the ends justifying the means like I I feel like I see that everywhere You know and it seems to me like anytime someone compromises their character once it kind of becomes like Desensitized in a way or they build a tolerance to it and it's just you know Then when you get presented with it again,

You're you just fall easily And so they compromising your character again and again,

And so there's really just like what boundary I don't even remember having a boundary It's easier it's easier to do it,

You know when I was getting sober it's it's it's about conscious living You know when I was getting sober like really putting you know,

Like really deciding okay,

I'm gonna really give this a shot Like I think I lasted like 60 or 90 days or something and I and and I went out and I drank and Then I lasted like 30 or 60 days and I went out and I drank again and I pumped the brakes and I and I went Wait a minute.

What like what's happening?

And I stepped back and I was like,

Okay Well as soon as I gave myself permission to drink the first time now,

It's on the table Now there's an easy out right there that I can say I can really struggle And you know and really take the hard road here or I can take my out Yeah,

And it began and it was just easier to take the out So,

You know,

So I sat down and I was like,

Okay,

You know,

What does this look like?

If I continue taking the easy out and it's like well It's gonna look like 5 10 15 20 years of me bouncing in and out of a a Trying to get sober a bunch of times feeling like crap going in and get getting my 24-hour sobriety chip and then coming back out and then Starting over again.

I was like that that is not the life.

I'm going to live.

It's just no I I'm either going to get sober or die.

Those are the only two options So so then I doubled down and I didn't allow myself to have that out anymore You know,

And I think that that that's what we have to do.

We have to just don't we can't believe our own BS Yeah,

You know,

Yeah,

I can't rationalize stuff away you because because You you you don't believe your own BS anyway Like you can't lie to yourself this your your self-esteem and your self-love knows the truth So you can pretend you're lying to yourself.

You can pretend you're rationalizing to yourself You can pretend all day and say well,

No You don't understand I have to even if people that say that to me.

Oh,

You don't understand you I have to do this I'm like,

I I don't believe it for a second and Like I the sad part is and which is no big deal.

I live my own life So for me not to believe what you're saying who cares?

We're you know,

We're different people I don't have to suffer from your choices.

So whatever you can do whatever you want but the thing that makes me feel bad is that They think that they believe their rationalizations That's when people are really stuck when you think you believe your own rationalizations You're stuck and that's what we have to stop doing because you don't believe your own rationalizations Inside of yourself,

You know the truth.

You know that you're rationalizing.

You know,

You're lying to yourself You know,

There's another way.

So this is why people living like that.

They're so that it just gets Life gets worse and worse and worse for them because their internalized Struggle gets more and more because they're veering further and further from their authentic selves Okay,

So do you think What's the consequence That eventually happens,

You know because the thing is when People are stuck in this type of it's almost like tunnel vision,

You know,

And You get stuck in this loop and you're desensitized and you're not You're lying to yourself,

Even though you can't lie to yourself and you feel the physical effect of that on a long term You know what?

What is enough for someone to break out of that tunnel vision?

Routine of that You never know You know,

This is this like a lot of people understand the the concept of hitting bottom for an alcoholic It's the same thing with non-alcoholics.

It's the same thing with this.

It's It's just hitting bottom and that bottom is different for everybody So I mean quite honestly most we're so on like the one of the biggest problems with us coming to inner realizations About this type of thing as well as other dysfunctions is the distraction that we use You know distraction is the biggest problem.

I think in society right now.

It's it's where all the addiction is Come from,

You know social media and telephones and television and shopping and sex and relationships and busyness Busyness is probably worse than all of them because it's just we don't slow down enough to feel the uncomfortability Yeah,

You know we brag about the busyness Yeah,

We go.

Oh very busy.

That's an honor Yeah badge of honor.

Oh,

I'm very very busy Yeah.

Oh,

Have you sat down to think about your life lately?

Oh,

I don't even have time for that stuff Okay,

Well like if you think you're not going to suffer because you know our body is a feedback mechanism It's you know,

So it doesn't speak to us in language.

It speaks to us in physical actions So when we are being inauthentic with ourselves if we are living in a way that is Damaging our soul if we are living in a way that's out of alignment with who we are What happens is that there's energy blockages that occur inside the body because of that?

It interrupts the flow of life force energy So and where does it do that?

Wherever is associated with that type of thing So like the liver is known for its Anger,

So if you're very angry,

I mean look like I I was an out I was like I am the poster child for freaking angry alcoholic Like because alcoholism and anger often go hand in hand.

What does alcoholism affect it affects the liver?

The liver is connected with anger.

Wow Right.

So this is where those blockages the the energetic block happens in the corresponding organ or space That is being that of whatever energy is in alignment with whatever energy you are struggling with So then all of a sudden it manifests disease So that's where the energy blockage is So then all of a sudden it manifests disease you know In our bodies if if you have a blockage of energy So the energy is not able to pass through freely in a particular organ because there's a blockage Then it's depleting and then it doesn't get what it needs disease can form you know,

And so this is I mean look at look at the rise of diseases going on in the world.

Yeah Yeah,

Yeah,

But yeah,

We're more technologically advanced.

So it was you know We're supposed to be getting less disease and we're getting more You know,

I think maybe we're going about it the wrong way right Right and by blockage just to be clear you mean I mean energetically so Can you elaborate on that just so it's like a little more tangible because when I I think of blockage I think of like a vein Being blah like,

You know something like that um,

So what does that look like energetically and how How can someone determine if they have a blockage?

In a particular organ or area well,

I mean it's you know,

I mean this is Theory like some people can actually see blockages.

I can't you know Like a lot of people that I know that do reiki I do reiki,

But I I don't see blockages.

I I just Feel in my body An area to go to on their body so Right,

So I don't see it.

So I can't describe what it is but but I can say that in theory,

It's very similar to a Vein with the blockage of blood flow.

There's a flow and it's not flowing as it should So therefore so your energy is flowing through your body and when it gets to this place To this place,

You know,

Maybe maybe only a little energy can squeak through because there's a blockage there So it's not it's just not getting a natural flow Maybe it's like a clogged artery Yeah,

And maybe it even affects the blood flow in that area.

I would you know venture to say it very well could you know?

Yeah,

It does it.

I mean I do see a lot of um emotional and energetic Issues they do manifest physically,

You know stress is Is very tough on the body physically.

Um,

And I don't think many people really,

You know,

Realize that and um I talk about that all the time Yeah,

It's like do you know what you're doing?

Yeah,

People like oh i'm really stressed out like like And you know like I mean they live stressed out like i'm stressed out all the time stressed out all the time Yeah,

Very busy very stressed out and they say it like it's there's no consequence.

It's like do you do let's just time out for a second like do you Have you looked into the science of stress at all?

I mean like all this stuff is proven scientifically at this point.

This isn't like theory You know,

So they literally inject.

This is what really blew my mind.

I think it's the best example So I use it all the time.

They literally inject people with stress hormones when they're going to transplant an organ into them Why do they do that?

It's because it lowers their immune system so much that their immune system doesn't attack the foreign organ.

Wow I didn't know that Yeah,

They literally inject stress hormones into somebody before an organ transplant and that is why To lower their immune system because stress hormones lower the immune system so much that they can take somebody else's kidney Put it inside of you and the immune system is like i'm too weak to do anything about this.

Wow And people are literally walking around through their lives for 30 years with their immune system.

So compromised And then we wonder why there's an increase in disease.

Our body can't fight off anything It's in a constant state of being lowered by stress 24 7 we almost have no That's crazy,

It's it's so wild that you know where we're at in society.

There's just so many people still that don't think that the Mental and emotional and spiritual are connected to the Physical like they're two completely separate entities,

But it all ties together with you know alignment right yeah,

So so,

You know like you're To answer your question is there's like two ways to kind of find blockages and it's whatever Some people might use one way more than another it might have to do with your consciousness level and you know Whatever there's multiple ways to come at it.

One is if you have a physical Issue like can be anything I do this all the time Like if I get not all the time,

I just got stung by a bee a few days ago And I didn't do this but for an example what I normally do is i'll be like,

Okay,

I got stung on my my left ankle or heel spiritual meaning of ankle Spiritual meaning of left ankle and i'll just search it You know louise haye wrote a great book that that has all this this stuff I forgot the name of it,

But But uh,

Yeah,

I just google it and i'll read a few things that come up and see which one resonates with me No,

I do that all time with with family members anything even like sometimes if if I bang my elbow And it's just really weird.

Yeah,

It's like I shouldn't have been it.

I just get this feeling like I shouldn't have banged my elbow And I banged it really good and it's just Really weird if it feels weird i'll be like spiritual meaning of the elbow Spiritual meaning of right elbow injury You know Spiritual meaning of anything and what it does is,

You know Like I said,

There's tons of research that have aligned like all this stuff has to this is nothing new Like this is the basis for acupuncture.

This is the basis for chiropractic work all this stuff this Pressure points like all this stuff has been studied for thousands of years.

They have All things drawn our body is connected to our emotional body You know,

We're all one unit.

So like they've reflexology uh Cranial therapy all this stuff.

It's all mapped out.

They have they've mapped it out They're like,

Oh,

You know,

I can just touch this and and like uh acupuncture When I had a jaw issue he's putting in needles in my Foot and i'm like what's up with that and he goes well,

He's like if you He said if if you are like if you want to Flip a light on you don't go to a light bulb.

You go to a switch Wow And I was like wow and you're like,

Ah I get it So there's this so there's a pressure point.

That's a switch in my foot that goes to that spot in my jaw So he puts the needle there Fascinating.

Yeah,

So all this stuff like I said all this stuff is mapped out So like if you have a physical if your body is trying to tell you something by some level of discomfort injury disease anything then you can search spiritual meaning of um,

Or if you're having difficulty like,

You know,

If you're stressed out at work,

Then you You know spiritual consequences of stress Or something so you can do it backwards,

You know You can come at it either way right,

You know if if you're if you're like,

Um Feeling like let's say you're you're fearful of money all the time.

You search spiritual meaning of of you know lack or or spiritual meaning of uh money issues or or physical manifestations of money issues You know and a lot of times they'll they'll tell you.

Um Like I believe low back is associated Low back pain is associated with finances That's crazy.

I don't know anything about that Yeah,

I know nothing about that And I mean I was I was broke Most of my life when I was younger and I broke my low back.

Wow That's wild Yeah,

What what are the odds,

You know,

It's like probably coincidence,

Right?

Yeah,

Probably probably has nothing to do with it Yeah So,

Okay,

So back to um,

You know,

The ends don't always justify the means um,

So if you're presented a situation that compromises,

You know your character your integrity like at a job and you know,

You have you you're told to do something with the promise of um,

What you're going to get out of out of it,

You know um Is it safe to say that whatever that is like there's always going to be another option Where you don't have to compromise your character compromise your boundaries Yeah,

When people feel that they don't have a way out like,

You know,

It's uh When you get that tunnel vision,

It sometimes really feels like this is the only way yeah,

And that's that's You know that that's exactly what we're trying to break out of because that you know,

That's a shift of perspective That's what really keeps people stuck is they just go.

Oh,

Well,

There's just no other way.

It's just Like there's always another way there's always and and like we weren't built to Sacrifice who we are to benefit to to reach higher levels of success to to to become more Fulfilled and have better lives.

That's not the system.

The system is not you have to be less than yourself to gain more It like it does it that doesn't make sense Yeah,

Exactly,

You know So i'm gonna sacrifice who I am What I believe is right and what makes me feel better You know because those things aren't just external they're internal So so like so it's it's like everything that makes me feel good as a human being I have to sacrifice that To achieve what I deserve In the peace love happiness and finance area No,

No,

Actually it's the opposite It actually makes more sense than that.

You're supposed to become more of yourself to achieve more things so So so the more you lean into your authenticity The more you achieve the bit the the the more great the clearer version of yourself that you are The higher you go the more happiness you experience the more success financially even you know,

It's it's not There's not like one set of universal laws for everything and then another one for money.

That's exactly the opposite So,

You know,

It's it's just energy money is energy too.

Everything is energy So so whatever laws work in every other area that same law works with money,

You know So so you don't have to sacrifice now.

I mean people have Sold their soul to the devil for lack of a better Term,

Um to make money,

But it's they didn't have to That's not why they made money They thought they needed to do that and just the belief that they needed to do that Actually probably brought them closer to making money See,

We think our actions like these especially the negative actions We think the negative actions like in the past we look at somebody right and we go.

Okay.

Well They crapped on everybody.

They stepped on them on the way up the ladder They treated everybody like crap.

They lied.

They stole they cheated and they made a billion dollars So that must be how you make a billion dollars because they did it and they made a billion dollars,

Right?

No,

But you're not seeing.

Yeah,

We're not seeing the other side You're just looking at what it looks like on paper and not what they they're feeling or going through internally Right.

So the cost of those things The cost of those things,

Right?

Not only is there a cost Because that person doesn't like themselves because it's literally impossible to like yourself if you're an asshole.

Yeah Yeah You feel terrible you treat people terrible you feel terrible you treat people terrible You rationalize that you needed to to be able to make the money and and you lie to yourself and then that lie and you know And then it manifests as disease and you freaking die You know,

So so like but that it's it's not All but the old belief systems that we have to let go of we have to understand that the reason that they seemingly worked Was because people believed in them.

It wasn't because they actually worked It was because it fed their belief system So like you can't be what you can't imagine yourself to be because you won't vibrate at that rate So if you truly believe you have to be a jerk To make money and then you start acting like a jerk.

You'll probably make money Why because you truly believe?

That jerks make money and you are a jerk So therefore you'll have money you believe in that belief system if you truly believe in that then it will work Yeah,

You know,

This is how I saw like when I was younger and dysfunctional I got away with all kinds of amazing stuff I used to manifest stuff left and right but it was all egoic manifesting,

But I truly believed it You know like at one point I didn't think I could die so I would like run out into traffic and do stupid stuff and and Just to prove that I couldn't die and I wouldn't But I truly believed it.

I I know it sounds it's warped But I actually there was a period of time that I actually believed that and proved it multiple times And then like but I also did the same thing with scratch tickets.

I felt that I was lucky When I was a kid,

I used to find money.

So I was like,

Ah,

I I'm pretty lucky I could probably just go buy one scratch ticket and win so I'd go over scratch I hit 60 bucks and back then that was a fortune.

So I was like sweet You know Boss beer had a great day And then like I was like I can't abuse this I can't abuse this and then a month later i'd be like glenn's lucky needs 60 bucks i'd go back Get one scratch ticket hit 60 bucks again.

I did that like four or five times in a row wow But I actually believed my own bs back then it was all egoic based but I believed it So what we believe in creates our reality,

Right?

So So it's right.

It's not the actual Thing because people go.

Oh,

You have to work hard to be successful.

No,

You don't yeah But if you truly believe that So you look they go.

Okay.

Why do people believe that's true?

Well,

Because there's multiple examples of people doing it.

That's why they believe it to be true There's multiple examples of people working really hard and becoming highly successful Now does that mean you have to work really hard hard to be successful?

No,

That's not true Does that mean you have to work really hard hard to be successful?

No,

That just means that those people believed in that belief system.

So every time they worked hard they went i'm more successful Ah,

I'm working harder.

I'm more successful.

So it Reinforced the belief in them that they were more successful.

That's why they became successful not because they worked hard.

Wow Wow,

Right.

So this is what we have to start letting go of so we have to start understanding that we are creating our own Reality and that it's not based on these external actions It's just based on what we believe if we believe the external actions will work for us They will right but they're not necessary,

Right?

So,

Um,

Is it safe to say that?

You know what's not aligned with you?

It doesn't feel good,

Right?

That's a good way of of knowing that firsthand.

It's like just very simple This is you get that like Hesitation or or there's something that goes off that just doesn't feel Right,

Like you want to lean into it,

But people force them themselves to go that route anyway,

Because they feel what they need to do When it comes to alignment Is it safe to say that what's aligned with you won't cause you to compromise your character?

In doing what you need to do Yeah,

Absolutely.

It's it's all about becoming more of ourselves.

So we we don't you know,

They're so you don't have to You know,

Like if you know,

Like let's say we'll take the working hard like if somebody says well I I have to Never see my family Because I want us to have a nice house well,

That's You know if I mean don't get me wrong some people like to work a lot and they're actually kind of Made to work a lot and they're not so much Like family oriented people.

I mean we have to keep that in mind.

There are different people,

You know,

Like There's no judgment here if you're if you're the type of person that it feeds your soul to dive into your work and You're just not the type that enjoys Tons of family time.

That's okay Like what you know,

There's not one way for everyone.

I was very Family oriented first it was me and my son period And it was no job that was going to get in the way Of me spending time with my son.

It just wasn't going to happen It wasn't that but that's just who I was everybody doesn't need to be like that So,

You know keep that in mind But yeah,

You you know,

You can there's lots of people that have I mean my father's an example My father made good money to his whole life And somehow he found a way to coach my little league team.

Yeah,

How I mean,

Honestly I don't even quite know how he did it because he There was times when he had like an hour and a half one-way commute to work um So but you know,

But he figured out that he could But you know,

But he figured it out and some somehow he was able to do it Why because it was important to him so he didn't have to sacrifice making money for Having family time,

You know,

It's not either or so something's out of alignment with you Yeah,

You can feel it and then the best way for This work and any other work is look into it like,

You know,

I mean if It doesn't take a freaking genius or an insightful enlightened creature to find out that i'm not happy with my life,

You know,

Most Most completely unconscious people can figure that out whether they're happy with their life or not So if you're not happy with your life,

It's time to start looking at it and going.

Okay.

What am I doing?

That's out of alignment with who I am.

Yeah That's why you don't like your life You're everything is alignment.

You know when you're in alignment with who you are and you're living authentically with integrity You like your life when you're not It's not it's it's a natural consequence of being out of alignment.

It's not punishment.

It's not a test by god it's just You're out of alignment.

So there's natural law that that you you can't feel good You when you're out of alignment with yourself?

You Like yeah,

You're going to be wrong Yeah,

You're going to be suffering or struggling or unhappy or there's some sort of negative experience or feeling That is going to be recurring in your life as you're out of alignment that will Stop occurring when you become in alignment Yeah Yeah,

So it's it's all about just um minimizing the distractions Distractions to get present in order to kind of um Get to the bottom like because if it's like okay,

Like i'm i'm unhappy I don't know why because of all these distractions of how a lot of people operate,

You know,

I've i've been there.

I get that.

Um,

So it's really just dialing down the distractions getting present with where you're at and rerouting into what aligns with you Um versus what doesn't because if you have to compromise your boundaries or your character Uh to get to the end It's not it's safe to say it's just not in alignment with you if there's resistance um No,

And you're going to be miserable when you get there Like even if you succeed you're going you there's no happy destination at the end of an unhappy road Right all the money.

Yeah,

It's not Yeah,

It's not gonna buy you the peace of mind when you've compromised all of your your character and your belief system.

Yeah Yeah,

Yeah.

I'm completely out of alignment with who I am.

I don't like who I am I don't like what i've done.

I don't like the way i've treated people I don't like the way I live my life,

But i'm wicked happy because I have a million dollars No No,

You're not you're you're miserable and what you'll probably do is you'll either wake up and go Okay,

The million dollars wasn't worth it or You'll rationalize more and double down and go.

Well,

I must need two million I must need 10 million because i'm not feeling the way I thought I would feel so I must need more of what I have Wow You know Those are the only two options.

This is why like,

Uh,

I think it was jim.

Carey said like I I wish everybody could get Could become rich so they'd find out that that's not it I know that quote.

He's great.

Yeah,

And it's so true.

It's so true.

Um,

Yeah,

It's just a doorway like everything else,

You know people like people who make tons of money And then are unhappy They go.

Oh my god,

It must not be in the money So then that's a doorway into spirituality into finding who their authentic self and then people who are struggling You know that that are broke all the time That's a doorway into finding your authenticity So if you're broke all the time,

And then you go,

Oh i'm broke all the time.

I'm miserable.

I'm miserable Okay.

Well,

You're out of alignment with self That's why you're unhappy And when you start to align with yourself all of a sudden you're going to start to be happier And as you start to become happier,

Then all of a sudden you start getting more hopeful and you start understanding that you're in control of your own reality You're like,

Oh my god,

I was broke and miserable now i'm broke,

But i'm fine.

I'm peaceful I'm broke,

But i'm fine.

I'm peaceful.

I'm happy.

I'm content.

Everything's okay All right,

Sweet and people think that that like that's some nightmare They're like,

Oh no,

I need the money first.

I like how am I going to be happy without the money?

Just don't worry about it.

Just become happy And then yeah,

Like some people are going to be happy broke They're going to be like once they're happy they're going to be like I don't need money I don't I don't care.

I don't care if I have a lot of money I'm,

I'm good where I am and then other people are going to be like no,

You know what?

Now that I understand that i'm in control of my own reality and i'm and I understand my authentic self Um,

I want to express that by making more money.

Yeah.

Okay,

Cool So then so then you do it in the right energy as an expression of who you are Not as some illusion of happiness that's never going to live up to what you think it is.

Yeah Yeah,

So yeah,

There's no you you can't be inauthentic and happy.

I don't give a crap what you achieve You can achieve all the you know,

I mean it's it's the stories are endless I mean how many people have become rich and famous and killed themselves?

You know,

I mean We can go down the list Yeah Yeah And everybody goes.

Oh my god How how could they do that?

They had everything to live for no,

They didn't have anything to live for Because they were completely out of alignment with their authentic selves.

They had no idea who they were but they achieved millions of dollars and Tons of fame and it's all external external external if that external stuff made people happy We I think we'd know by now.

There's plenty of people that have achieved it.

Yeah I and quite honestly,

I think I mean,

I don't think money has to do with happiness at all um,

Basically But but like if anything I would say That people with money are usually less happy than people without as a general rule.

Yeah you know because they think it's because that's the whole reason why they got it is because they thought it was going to Make them happy and then they found out that it didn't it comes with all kinds of problems if you acquire it that way Yeah,

It's uh,

It's it's different.

It's it's the ends do not always justify the means They never do they never do because it's it's your your Because the end is just the culmination of the means that's where you end up So like the the means is like,

Okay.

I was a jerk.

I was an asshole I was an asshole.

I crapped on people at the end of that road What you get Is low self-esteem low self-love?

And a feeling of inadequacy.

That's where you arrive to on that road Why because you did things to create that but if you live in authenticity self-respect self-love self-esteem healthy boundaries Now all of a sudden you become somebody with integrity Who loves themselves and that's that's the journey Money and external things can be part of that or sometimes it's not part of that.

It doesn't really matter That's the journey you're on It's it's how you behave you can't behave in a negative way and expect to feel good about yourself,

Right?

Yeah,

I mean,

You know,

It's just very simple Externally people just you know act like that.

Sometimes it's you know It's like,

You know,

You like sometimes you'll have the the reason people think that That it's different is because you have rich people that crap on people and they stand up there.

They go.

No,

I'm happy You kidding me?

I can do whatever I want.

However,

I want whenever I want.

I'm happy man Anybody says i'm not happy.

They're full of crap.

They don't understand.

They don't know me.

That's all egoic It's not true happiness.

They're lying to themselves.

They're not happy Yes,

They're lying to themselves.

They bought into their own vs I did the same thing when I was younger like I had no fear of consequences from seventh grade on So I literally did whatever I wanted However,

I wanted whenever I wanted and if anybody questioned me on it,

I was like Look at me.

I have more fun than anybody.

I know Like just I can do whatever the hell I want And people like yeah,

But glenn you're really not living a good life and it's you know,

Yeah there's Oh,

Geez,

Maybe you should think about maybe making some better decisions or And i'm like you're out of your mind man.

I figured like I figured out life Yeah,

Like I figured out life.

I got this all figured out man.

I'm good You know and and I didn't understand what they were saying because I was so lost in my own head But then when I woke up I was like,

Oh my god,

I was so lost I was like,

Oh my god,

I was so delusional I actually believed in my own bs that oh no Yeah,

I was you know,

And then as soon as I fell off that thing I was battling depression Alcoholism.

Oh,

Yeah,

You're like golden going You have to anesthetize yourself every waking hour because you can't stand who you are and you still battle depression But you're good,

Right?

Yeah Yeah Right.

You're doing great.

Yeah,

Nicely done glenn Yeah,

You obviously this isn't this lifestyle isn't affecting you negatively at all Oh,

Well,

So in conclusion um,

Is there any piece of advice or any direction you can offer people with that,

Um,

You know tunnel vision and In that endless loop where they admit to no one but themselves They're in this space Yeah,

It's just you know,

You just got to be honest with yourself I mean at the end of the day just slow down and be honest with yourself Don't believe the the the quick thoughts the quicker your thought comes the more bs it is Yeah Oh,

Oh,

Can I?

Can I actually change the way I am?

No,

Of course you can't that's a lie because it came in quick.

That's egoic You know slow down and just that does does it affect me when my boss tells me I have to lie Yeah,

It's not a big deal.

I can just lie.

Yeah,

It does affect you Slow down.

How do I feel when I lie put your attention on your body?

Oh Yeah,

That's probably not good.

I didn't like the feeling I just got when I slowed down and felt into that,

You know It's this is what it when you learn to When you learn to pay attention to this stuff It's it's not that difficult.

It's about slowing down and asking yourself the honest questions and feeling and asking over and over and Just slow down slow down slow down and then slow down after that and then ask yourself the question a few times and wait and if the answer comes up quick or Then your your unconsciousness is just trying to push it aside.

Oh,

We're fine You know,

It's a little boy whistling in the dark.

No,

I'm not scared Great example It's a great example So,

It's you know as you walk your authentic path It's just automatic that your self-esteem rises your self-love rises your happiness rises It's just you become a better version of yourself.

That's more capable of achieving whatever you want There's no other way There's no other way.

There's no shortcut There's no cheat sheet Are you sure this cheat sheets?

Yeah,

I I get the cheat sheets.

I'll help you with those but there's no shortcuts No shortcuts no So,

Well,

Yeah,

I guess that'll do it just under an hour.

Yeah Well good stuff.

Thank you.

Aubrey Thank you.

Um,

Thank you.

Everybody we will um Where's my ending?

There it is.

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