The Meaning Of Inordinate Affection

We are going to understand what it means to be in a state of inordinate affection, what is it? why do we reach this state? What we must do to continue improving as people and develop optimally. As the saying goes, the excess is bad, and this applies to everything in life, starting with how much love you feel towards yourself, and following from this, when you can perceive this for others.

Transcript

So we are talking about the inordinate affection and although it may seem like something positive,

Deep down it is not.

And it can bring you personal and social problems.

So we are going to understand what it means to be in a state of inordinate affection and what is it.

Why do we reach this state you may ask?

What we must do to continue improving as people and how to develop and how to grow in an optimal way.

Because as the saying goes excess is bad and this applies to everything in life.

Starting with how much love you feel towards yourself and following from this when you are able to perceive this from others or for others.

So first you know I want to share with you the meaning of inordinate affection.

And the first thing I want to explain to you is that it's an emotional state of self-love and self-appreciation but to extreme levels.

And actually it starts to be a problem.

Because you may be wondering what problem you might face when you feel it.

And I want to share three of them,

Okay?

So if you have inordinate affection for yourself,

It is possible that you only see your best gifts.

You are able to see all the potential in life that you can project and countless other things that are so great about you.

All of this is wonderful and I always recommend that you focus on your full potential,

Love yourself madly and do things so that they serve the highest purpose in your life.

If this is all great what's the problem?

Let's be frank and direct with this topic.

You are a human being no matter the origin of your soul.

And as a human being you have endless advantages but also problems.

No heart of a human being is pure.

This is impossible due to the principles of the universe,

Especially polarity.

Therefore this shows that we are imperfect beings and everyone on this planet has something to learn and something to teach.

Therefore you also have things to improve,

Your friends and your family too.

I myself,

Who I am telling this,

I also have many things to improve and this is an essential part of life in the physical plane.

If a person has nothing to learn that person would simply transcend and disappear from the earth.

So here we have the first obvious problem.

If there is a person who is not able to see their imperfections,

How will they improve?

So another essential thing that you have to take into account it is the constant development that you are experiencing and therefore to avoid inordinate affection.

Thanks to the principle of rhythm and vibration we are in constant movement.

Absolutely everything moves in one way or another and your personal development will be no less.

Therefore these two laws allow you to continue improving and progressing in your life,

A little every day,

In any aspect.

However,

It is not a passive issue when you can fold your arms and wait for magically improve as a person or something else in your life to improve on its own.

Through self-reflection,

For example,

You can discover a lot about yourself,

Your hidden potential,

Your weaknesses and any shortcomings you feel within yourself.

This is wonderful because if you are able to reflect on self-criticism you will always find an opportunity to grow.

What if you are only able to see how wonderful you are and nothing else?

You are going to encounter a personal and astronomical block where possibly your life will not continue developing until you are able to see what things you must change.

That is,

Understand that you are imperfect and that you can be constantly developing.

Part of life is changing and improving.

Therefore,

If your inordinate affection tells you that you do not have anything to improve,

You should really reflect more than anyone else because these feelings will bring to you many,

Many problems.

Maybe you are not able to receive help from third parties because you simply don't want it.

And here we have a very big problem.

Not only you can grow by yourself by realizing things,

But you can also grow thanks to experiences that are often caused by other people around you.

In fact,

This is one of the positive factors that makes us beings who know how to live in community and grow together.

However,

For this to be the case,

It is important that you are willing to grow and to be corrected.

When you feel inordinate affection,

You will never see the things that you have to change.

What's more,

They will think that it is others who are wrong,

Creating pressure and negativity in other people who feel affection towards you,

And they want to give you advice because they are able to see that you could change some things.

Or simply tell you that although your ideas are good,

Potentially the alternatives are better.

When you have both of your eyes and your heart open,

People will gradually surround you.

Most of the people around you have good intentions for your life.

Therefore,

In many negative situations,

You are potentially the one who pushes your friends away out of your circle,

Especially if you have an inordinate affection for yourself.

Not being able to see your problems or your possibilities for improvement,

You will stop growing,

And little by little your life will become blocked.

May you think,

How about towards other people?

And here I want to comment on two things,

Two important points that you should take into account,

And that I hope will help you in your reflection,

Especially if you feel a great inordinate affection for yourself or for other people.

In fact,

Feeling this way about other people could be dangerous depending on your attitude and mindset.

But first,

I want to finish talking about the problems with these feelings are when it's towards yourself.

And one more it is that you push other people out of your life.

And you have to keep one thing in mind,

It is not correct to change something every time a person suggests something to you.

For example,

If a person tells you,

You should drive more aggressively so other drivers will respect you.

You may not agree.

Another person might tell you,

You could give more examples when you explain something to make it easier to understand.

And you might also disagree.

In fact,

It is possible that that person is wrong,

But it is not your inordinate affection that indicates that,

But rather your own reflection on the subject.

Many times,

Friends and acquaintances can tell you something to improve your life or change something for the better.

Other times,

These people may give you advice with intention of improving the connection or politely indicating that you are doing something that bothers them.

It could be either interrupting this person when they are talking,

Or maybe because they are talking about the same topic constantly,

And they want the best connection with you.

So what happens if we are not able to listen?

Each person is as they are.

And that is why we connect better with some people than others.

This does not mean that your inordinate affection forces everyone around you to change and become attached to you.

It also doesn't mean you have to change everything they tell you.

It means that you have a neutral emotion about the situation and that you study it throughoutly,

Because perhaps you will find new ideas that will help you to improve as a person,

And also it will improve your relationship.

You might catch other people in your circle,

And this is a very important problem,

As well as where you could have a number of problems,

Some of them very serious.

This is when you feel inordinate affection towards another person and you are not able to see beyond it.

This could turn into several problems that I want to just mention and comment on very briefly.

Creating a toxic relationship.

Your affection towards that specific person may be so extreme that you do not accept the fact that you cannot have a relationship with that person,

Whatever the relationship may be.

This can lead to a toxic and even abusive attitude where you will only push that person further away.

Idealizing a person incorrectly.

To begin with,

It is not good to have idols.

Of course,

You can follow the advice of a person who inspired you,

But for example,

Society has a disproportionate and very extreme affection towards celebrities,

When they are just people like you.

By worshipping another person,

You will never be able to see the problems that person could potentially have.

This is very true in romantic relationships,

Where perhaps you ignore the red flags because you don't like them and you don't want to see them.

And losing important connections.

If you become obsessed with one person,

You may very well stop trying to bring new people into your life.

Little by little,

You will become trapped with this person with whom you feel an excess of disproportionate affection,

Becoming very dangerous if that person also feels inherited affection towards you.

Or even worse,

If that person has a narcissistic feeling and attitude.

Inherited affection,

It is unnecessary.

You have to have balance.

And this is like with everything in life,

You have to have an emotional balance towards other people and towards yourself.

I remind you that the principle of polarity tells us that nature itself has opposite poles.

That is,

Perfection does not exist.

Therefore,

As always,

I advise.

Constantly question everything,

Even yourself,

And always find constant development but with good alignment with the universe.

Self-love,

As well as love for other people,

Is essential and super important,

But make sure to not go overboard,

Okay?

Lots of light.