PreAttitude: Framing A Stressful Situation Before It Happens

We all have people or situations in our lives that we perceive as dreadful or intimidating. There is a tool that can help you reframe a difficult situation like by infusing it with a positive attitude that accentuates inner peace. The tool is called PreAttitude. It’s conducted prior to entering a stressful or difficult situation. The tool aims to evoke in you the attitude that offers the best chance for a successful outcome, meaning you begin and enter the situation empowered and at peace.

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I'm Don Joseph Goey,

The author of The End of Stress,

And I'm here to offer you a tool that can get you through a situation when it requires the power of attitude to get through it successfully.

We all have people or situations in our lives that we perceive as dreadful or aggravating or even intimidating.

There is a tool that can help you reframe a difficult situation like that by infusing it with a positive attitude that accentuates your inner peace.

The tool is called pre-attitude and it's conducted prior to entering what may be a difficult situation.

The aim is to invoke in you the attitude that offers the best chance for a successful outcome.

This tool is extremely helpful when you have to face a situation where you typically become anxious and stressed,

Such as giving a presentation or being evaluated by your boss or dealing with a person you perceive as difficult.

Please do not conduct this exercise while driving a car or operating machinery.

You will also need to find a quiet private place where you can sit,

So pause the recording while you locate that place.

Let's begin.

I invite you to recall a specific place or time when you felt happy and peaceful.

Remember that time.

Bring that happy,

Peaceful feeling to life by remembering anything particular,

Such as the weather,

The surroundings,

The period of the day,

Or who you were with.

As this happy,

Peaceful state comes into focus,

Allow it to lift your mind with the good feeling it produces.

Relax into feeling good.

Allow this feeling to form your attitude as you look out on the world.

Sense the shift in consciousness this generates in you.

Now bring to mind the situation you perceive as dreadful or intimidating,

And imagine you are in that situation right now.

And bring the peaceful,

Happy attitude you just invoked into this situation.

See yourself at peace,

Confident,

Optimistic,

And energetic.

Imagine as you engage the situation you are absolutely present.

You sense and awake a live stillness within you.

You are open-minded,

Not so focused on the outcome that it pulls you away from the peace you feel.

Imagine that you feel increasingly larger than the situation simply because you are no longer afraid of it.

If this involves other people,

Imagine that you don't abandon your sense of personal power.

Rather see yourself able to communicate what you want to say,

And able to listen carefully to what they have to say,

With no antagonism towards anyone.

Imagine that as you settle into this state of heightened awareness,

The situation is no longer stressful,

But is actually becoming enjoyable.

What you are enjoying is not really the task,

But rather this positive inner dimension of consciousness that flows into what you are doing.

Now open your eyes.

And as you open your eyes,

Make a positive peaceful attitude your primary aim as you approach whatever you have to do.

Reviews

This was very inspiring for me and has helped me so much, thankyou

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Lovely! I look forward to putting this idea into practice.

Very interesting! Thank you!

Great advice - I’m practicing this already with positive results. Simple yet effective and easily doable as it’s not overly complicated. Thanks for sharing this 🙏

Being in isolation, waking to yet another stock market crash and a plague in the air can get ya kinda down. I have a lot of important decisions to make and having a better outlook is going to help. Here and on the longer journey. 🙏🏻

Perfect timing for me to hear this. Thank you. ☯️

Pre attitude, eh?. I like that. I actually wrote and performed an 8-meditation for a class 2 months ago that falls under this term. I had no idea I had backing. My class and teacher thought it risky to bring in the anxiety too along with the happiness. They appreciated the outcome though.
Thank you for the backup information. AND I'll check out your book, too.

Thanks.. simple and to the point

Wow this is super helpful came up with three instances where I have felt very happy, one is after dancing for exercise 2 is outside in our pasture under the trees in the sunshine with my two beloved dogs + 3 out on the beach or the water in God's beauty and the last one is after speaking to a group and making many connections and seeing God working in my life. I will remember those as I go to speak in front of the crowd...

I appreciate this so much as I do have difficult people and situations to deal with on an ongoing basis. Thank you for this practice!

Wonderful! Taking this positivity with me into holiday/familial interactions. Thank you!!

Very helpful for me today. Thank you 🙏

Excellent technique. Thank you for sharing this here. I see the light in you. 🤲🏻❤️🤲🏻

That's a simple yet powerful message. I will try to integrate it into intimidating situations. Thank you for sharing.

Amazing. I visualized with the guided meditation and feel much more positive about that stressful situation. I will listen to this everyday before my event. Thank you! Namaste