To begin the forgiveness meditation,
Go to a quiet safe place and take slow deep breaths to become calm and centered.
Begin by directing your forgiveness to other people by saying inwardly or out loud.
There are many ways that I have hurt and harmed others.
Whether knowingly or unknowingly,
Out of my pain,
Fear,
Anger,
And confusion,
I have betrayed or abandoned them and caused them suffering.
Bring to mind and visualize the ways you've hurt other people.
Allow yourself to see and feel the pain you've caused out of your own pain,
Fear,
And confusion.
Get in touch with the sadness and regret inside of you.
Know that if you choose to,
You can let go of this burdensome pain and ask for forgiveness.
Picture each situation that still weighs heavily on your heart,
And then to each person you harmed,
In your mind repeat,
I ask for your forgiveness.
I ask for your forgiveness.
I ask for your forgiveness.
Because we are also hard on ourselves with negative self-talk,
Criticism,
And even self-punishment,
It's useful to consciously receive forgiveness for yourself.
As you consider the ways that you've hurt yourself,
Get in touch with the regret,
Sadness,
And shame,
And repeat these phrases.
There are many ways that I have hurt and harmed myself,
Both knowingly and unknowingly.
I have betrayed or abandoned myself many times through thought,
Word,
Or deed.
Recognizing the weight of grief,
Sorrow,
And blame you've carried,
Be willing to let go of the burdensome emotions and extend forgiveness for each of them in turn.
Repeat to yourself,
For the many ways I have hurt myself through action or inaction,
Out of fear,
Pain,
And confusion,
I now extend a full and heartfelt forgiveness.
I forgive myself.
I forgive myself.
I forgive myself.
Naturally,
We want to release others from the poisonous darts of blame that we may shoot at them in our minds.
So,
We also extend forgiveness to those who have harmed us.
Bring to mind the many ways you've been hurt or disappointed by other people.
Allow yourself to picture and remember these many ways.
Let the sadness and grief come to the surface and repeat the following.
There are many ways that I have been harmed by others,
Abused,
Or abandoned,
Knowingly or unknowingly,
In thought,
Word,
Or deed.
Feel the sorrow you've carried from these situations,
And do yourself the great service of letting this burden of pain fall away by granting them forgiveness to the extent that you're ready.
Then,
Repeat the following.
In your forgiveness,
I forgive you.
I forgive you.
I forgive you.
I forgive you.