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When Did You Stop Singing?

by Katharine Chestnut

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Many survivors of narcissistic abuse share that they didn’t feel free to be themselves or speak their truth. Their song of Universal love was silenced. As you heal, a new song of life and love will flow through you again. Trust in your voice and your song of self love will enrich the world. This meditation ends with a few moments of gentle music. Music by Christopher Lloyd Clarke

Self LoveNarcissistic AbuseHealingSelf ExpressionMindfulnessSelf ValidationBody AwarenessSingingMusicNarcissistic Abuse RecoveryEmotional HealingBreathingBreathing AwarenessMind Wandering

Transcript

Take these few moments to rediscover your song.

Your song of unconditional self-love.

Find a quiet place and move your attention gently to your breath.

Observe each breath as it happens.

No need to control or force your breath.

There is nothing to judge.

Nothing to correct.

Nothing to do differently.

Feel the sensation of breathing as it moves in and out of your body.

As you move through this meditation,

You may find that your mind wanders.

If you notice this happening,

Simply acknowledge your mind wandering and gently bring your focus back to your breath.

Breathing.

Breathing will fill you with calm and power as you stay connected to this moment.

When did you lose your voice?

When did your soul stop singing?

Many survivors of narcissistic abuse state that they didn't feel free to be themselves.

They didn't feel free to speak.

They didn't feel free to let their song of love enrich the world.

Their song,

Our song,

And the power within it was gone.

Taken by someone without a song of their own.

Think back.

What made you so attractive at the beginning?

Your passion for living.

Your strong energy for life that flowed through you like a song.

To keep the song streaming from you and into them,

A narcissist will rely upon your empathy.

They rely upon your pity.

They rely upon your tender heart.

They rely mostly upon your life force.

Their song of life is something they need desperately to fill the void within themselves.

Do you remember a time your body reacted to something that just didn't feel right?

Did your skin get hot?

Your stomach clench?

Your palms sweaty?

Did you share your thoughts or feelings only to have them invalidated?

The narcissist relies upon you believing that what they say sounds smart and reasonable.

Your body and mind is telling you something different and yet you started to question yourself.

Question what your body knew was true.

Your song was shut down in that moment.

That may have just been one of many things that caused you to lose the strength of your song.

Through the years of hidden abuse,

The song within you slowly diminished,

Quieted,

Without you noticing the cause.

The words of your song judged to be lacking and senseless and you found yourself erasing them.

Perhaps you noticed the change and accepted this as who you were,

Who you had become.

You couldn't understand why your singing had stopped,

But you were sure it was something within you that was responsible for the change.

Because of the abuse,

You have received the damaging message that you and your song are not worthy of kindness,

Love,

And respect.

And you now perhaps wonder if you can even remember the words to your song from so long ago.

You have been through enough and now it is time to heal and restore the truth of how beautiful and valuable you and your song are to the universe.

You are kind,

Genuine,

Loving,

Tender,

And unbelievably strong.

Breathe deeply.

Breathe and sing out the truth of this.

You are safe to sing now.

Your voice and song are as sweet as the birds in the trees.

This is the truth of who you are.

You are full of life.

Let your new song of life and love pour forth.

Letting your song flow through you will heal the wounds.

Feel yourself while you enrich the world around you with your song.

Let your new song flow through you.

Let your new song flow through you.

Meet your Teacher

Katharine ChestnutAtlanta, GA, USA

4.8 (162)

Recent Reviews

Harmony

December 28, 2021

Very helpful. Thank you for this loving message. 🙏🏻

Xavien

April 6, 2020

Loved it. Why did you stop singing? Why did I stop sharing who I was??

Amanda

November 7, 2019

This was great! I am trying so hard to get into my buried past and stay off my ego

Cherine

September 27, 2019

Validating and resonating! Thank you❤️

Karrissa

September 17, 2019

This meditation is exactly what I needed to remind myself to keep searching for my song and to keep focused on reigniting my flame. Thank you for the gentle reminder of love and self-compassion this morning. Namaste 🙏🏼

Sunday

August 20, 2019

Just wow. Through silent treatments, ghosting, gaslighting .... any and all narc tactics, my ex narc used to love to steal my voice. I told him so all the time. It was the most hurtful, frustrating thing to have no ability to say what I wanted to say and/or be heard. He constructed the final discard to be as cruel as possible and in a manner that left me with absolutely no final voice at all. He delighted in it. That was really powerful and reminded me of why I was targeted in the first place. Thank you so much. This is what I needed to hear today. Thank you. ❤️

Jade

August 3, 2019

Dang! That was powerful. It’s the first time I’ve cried about something related to my abuse and I haven’t been drinking alcohol at the same time. I loved how you said the other person didn’t have their own song so they took ours. By the end I was like: girl, you are totally over this. You got it.

Mary

July 31, 2019

Thank you is an understatement! I will listen to this again. 🙏

Anton

July 31, 2019

Thank you for this amazing meditation! Just wished there was a que for ending :) Thanks!

Gaynor

July 30, 2019

Deeply beautiful!!! Thank you 🌺🌸🙏

Rebecca

July 30, 2019

Bookmarked and downloaded. POWERFUL. I will be revisiting this practice without question; I know the singing stopped, but it was so gradual that I cannot quite identify when.... I do know that whenever that was, the people around me have not changed. There may well be some difficult conversations and actions afterwards. However, my song needs to be heard. It used to be, and it drew people to me while spreading out in service to others. The spark fanning the flames that lifted my song up is but a glowing ember now. Time to re-ignite it before it grows cold, so my song can once again soar. Thank you so much for sharing this with me and the Insight Timer community. I see the light and hear the song within you. 🤲❤️🎶❤️🤲

Jim

July 30, 2019

Love it. When did my soul stop singing.

Sue

July 30, 2019

Thank you. That is so true, so very true.

Katherine

July 30, 2019

Thankyou. My song is nearly back, after such a long time

Ushma

July 30, 2019

Thank you for this meditation, it was a great experience of opening up the heart for healing 🙏 sending you love and prayers 🙏❤️

Hugo

July 30, 2019

Perfect. Very Fitting For Healing And Breaking Free Of The Narcissist. Thank You 🙏🏽 🙏🏽

Moraima

July 30, 2019

I almost get scared at the edge when asked where my song went and encouraged to get it bavk. But I stayed. Thank You

Melissa

July 30, 2019

Helpful for healing. One of the most destructive aspects of narcissism is how it cuts us off from our selves. Thank you for posting this.

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