You Are So Enough!

This episode is an ode to your enoughness. It is a call to stand fully in your worthiness and live your life from a space of understanding that you are so fucking enough and that nothing and no one can take that away from you. I also include ways in which you can tap even further into this sense of enoughness and I finish with a short affirmation riff about you and your beautiful and intrinsic worthiness!

Please note that this talk does contain explicit language and is not suitable for children.

Transcript

Hey guys,

Just a fair warning before you dive in that this podcast does contain explicit language.

Hey guys,

I'm super excited to chat with you today because I feel like I have a really important message to share.

And that is that you are so fucking enough.

You are so,

So,

So fucking enough.

You have no idea.

It's really interesting because I'm recording this episode in my living room and I'm looking down at the oracle cards that I just pulled.

Sorry,

That I pulled yesterday.

And one of the cards is actually you are so fucking enough.

And it's hilarious because that's not even where the idea from this podcast came from.

But yeah,

I have Gabriella Rosie's Bad Bitch deck and I love it.

I love it.

I love it.

And that's one of the cards I pulled yesterday.

Oh my goodness.

I think that's a sign from the universe,

Me seeing this as I was just saying it out loud,

That this message is so on point and so important right now.

So I was just talking to a friend and we were talking about how every part of traditional society is basically telling us that we are not good enough as we are.

Either that we're not good enough or that we're not capable enough to do anything,

Let's say.

So we're not beautiful enough without makeup.

We're not beautiful enough without these expensive creams and lotions.

And we have to slather ourselves and hide parts of ourselves that we don't like in order to be acceptable.

But it goes so much deeper than that because it's also really prevalent in the health industry,

Maybe more so with women.

But I think it's across all sides.

But your body doesn't know itself well enough.

So take these drugs.

You can't heal on your own,

So take this medicine.

And I think especially too in regards to women's reproductive health,

That whole industry is very much marred with this idea of like in order to take care of yourself,

You have to take these pills.

You have to use these products.

You have to be clean,

Use perfumes and all of these things.

It's just really interesting.

There is no limit to the messages that we receive that are telling us that we are not enough.

That is what inspired me to show up today and say exactly what I'm about to say to you.

You are so fucking enough.

And it's not just that you're enough.

You are enough.

You are so powerful.

And you are in control of your life.

You have the power at any given moment to make a different decision than the ones you've been making up until now.

You have the power to choose a different path.

You have the power to choose to be happy,

Just like you have the power to choose to be sad.

Everything about who you are,

Everything from your body and the way you look to the thoughts that you think and the way that you move in the world,

The way you dress,

The way you behave,

Every single thing about you is good enough,

Exactly as you are.

In talking with my friend about this topic,

I felt like how much am I a part of the problem of this enoughness epidemic that we see in the world?

Because I post on social media and I share tips and I,

You know,

Solutions and suggestions and I give guidance on how to live a better life.

And I hope that I don't ever come from that space of like,

Well,

What you're doing right now is wrong.

But I do think that even sometimes the good stuff and the people that are trying to inspire us and the people that are trying to help us can still inflict a certain amount of damage if we are not already sitting in a space of wholeness and if we are not already owning exactly how enough we are.

I know that there are some people that I was following online that really fostered that sense of not enoughness and they were doing it from a sales perspective.

So like you will be better or more just more in general,

But more successful,

More profitable,

More abundant,

More magnetic,

More or better at manifesting if you buy my product.

And my fear is that I don't want to ever come at sales or anything in my in my life from that from that angle.

I just really don't.

I want it to be like you are whole as you are.

And when you're ready to take a step forward,

I'm here to support you.

But this conversation has just made me really mindful because even on the podcast,

I'm always talking about ways to improve your life and things that you can do to be better.

But who you are is fucking amazing.

And that is such a fundamental part of this journey,

Because if you don't think that you're amazing,

Then other people will have a hard time seeing it.

Not that it's not there,

Not that no one will see it.

Of course they will.

But it starts with you.

You need to see that awesomeness,

That wonder,

That magic in yourself first.

You need to recognize just how enough you are without doing,

Having or being anything other than who you are.

Literally just existing,

Just breathing.

You are enough in that space.

And it can be really difficult and it can be really difficult,

But it can also be really there.

There's a lot of pressure,

Especially with social media.

And I have an extensively curated social media feed.

OK,

I am ruthless.

So with social media,

I make sure that the people that are on there,

I want to be seeing.

But even the people I follow,

Who are good people and who I learn from and who inspire me,

They still also send out messages of like,

Well,

But if you bought what I'm selling,

You'd be better.

It triggers this inner sense within me that says I'm not good enough.

And I do think that to a certain extent,

Marketing and sales is kind of done that way.

And I don't want to put the blame entirely on them either,

Because it's me that feels this way.

I'm being triggered.

And that's something that I need to deal with.

Now,

Obviously,

People can be really mindful about the way that they market,

True.

But like there's my 50 percent where I have to deal with the fact that I feel this way.

And why do I feel this way?

But the reason why I wanted to hop on the podcast and talk about this today is because one,

I wanted to remind you that you really are amazing and perfect and wonderful and magical.

And fantastic and so fucking enough just the way you are.

But then I also wanted to invite you to dive into this even deeper and ask yourself,

Where are you being triggered?

And what can you do to heal that?

So let's start with the external before we go to the external.

If you are being triggered,

What are some external things that you can do in order to stop that?

Well,

One,

Take a look at your social media.

Do it.

Fucking do it.

You don't want to.

And I don't give a shit.

Look at your social media and ask yourself,

How do these accounts make me feel when I log on to social media?

When I spend two minutes,

Five minutes,

Ten minutes,

Fifteen minutes,

A half an hour,

An hour on social media and I get off.

How do I feel?

Do I feel inspired?

Do I feel motivated?

Do I feel good about myself or do I feel lack?

Do I feel fear?

Do I feel like I'm somehow less worthy or less cool or less whatever than the people that I follow?

And if that's the case,

Take five minutes and start clearing that shit out.

You do not owe anybody anything.

You do not need to follow these people.

If you're following big accounts,

I can tell you right now they really don't give a shit if you unfollow them.

The only reason why they might care is because it affects their sales.

And if that's the case,

Do you really want to be following those kinds of people anyways?

So,

Yeah,

If there's an account,

Any account,

Even your friends that make you feel like shit,

Don't unfollow,

Mute them.

It's a new feature in Instagram that has existed in Facebook for a very long time.

But mute them.

You don't have to see their posts.

You don't have to see their stories.

You don't have to follow along with people that don't make you feel good about yourself.

You just don't.

So if you feel this way,

I hope that you take steps to rectify the situation,

Especially if you are being triggered this way.

Another thing that might make you feel not good enough is your email inbox.

What is coming into your space?

What have you granted access and permission to your life?

Okay,

Take a look at how the emails that you receive make you feel.

Not just the quality or the topic of the email,

But the quantity.

Do you get too many emails?

Does checking your email inbox make you feel anxious and maybe inadequate because you don't have enough time to read all these emails that you're receiving?

Get fucking rid of them.

Get rid of them.

You have that power.

Remember that who you are is good enough,

No matter what anybody else thinks about you,

No matter what emails you do or don't follow,

No matter what accounts you do or don't follow,

Get fucking rid of it.

Who are you spending your time with and how do they make you feel?

Do the people that you spend time with lift you up?

Do they inspire you?

Do they motivate you?

Are they there for you when you need them?

Do they lift you up when you're down or do they,

You know,

Maybe brag about their achievements or talk only about themselves or show up only to,

You know,

Kind of ask you to deal with their problems and maybe they're not very good at holding space for you.

I don't want to say get rid of people.

That's something that you would have to really,

Really sit with and ask yourself what the right choice is.

But I will ask you to look at that situation and see how it makes you feel.

And if it doesn't make you feel good,

Start thinking like,

What can I do to rectify this?

What can I do to make the situation more comfortable and more happiness inducing for myself?

And maybe that does mean,

You know,

Kind of distancing yourself from negative people or toxic people or people who behave selfishly or only show up for themselves because that's not an equal exchange.

And again,

I want you to be really mindful about how you feel when you leave someone.

I go to coffee every Friday with a friend and it is the best part of my week.

It is literally the best part of my week because I go for coffee with her and we talk about everything.

I'm like almost tearing up as I say this.

We talk about life and we talk about our problems and we talk about our frustrations and we actually do the same job.

So we talk about our businesses and how we're showing up for people and what we can do better and we exchange ideas and we really hold space for each other.

And we are allowed to show up however we are that week.

Last Friday,

I remember I showed up and I was very distracted.

And there were a couple of times where I interrupted her and I kind of like was,

You know,

Not not able to fully hold space the way I should have.

And I said to her,

I'm really sorry that I'm not showing up like I normally do.

I'm just really distracted this week.

I'm not sure what's going on.

And that was okay.

That was a safe space.

And every time I leave her,

I feel better.

I feel lighter.

I feel freer.

I feel happier.

She adds so much value to my life.

These meetings every week are the thing that I look forward to.

I know that on Friday at 4 p.

M.

I'm going for coffee.

And it is the highlight of my week in terms of friendships.

It is the single biggest thing that is bringing joy to my life.

And that is how every single relationship that you have with every single person,

Family,

Friends,

Blood relatives or not,

I don't really care.

That is exactly how it should feel.

If people take from you,

You need to ask yourself why?

Why is it something that they're doing?

Is it a trigger in you?

Sit with yourself and get quiet enough to answer that question and then do something about it.

I don't have suggestions for you.

There's no tips or tricks.

Do something about it.

You are an autonomous and intelligent individual.

You are so enough.

You don't need me to tell you what to do.

You know exactly what to do.

It's just a matter of actually doing it.

Own your power.

Own your enoughness and do it.

Now let's talk about internal things that you can do in order to tap into this sense of enoughness and maybe release anything that is kind of holding you back from from feeling enough.

It is all the same things I say to you all the time.

This is like another week of the podcast where I'm about to say meditate,

Meditate on worthiness and unworthiness.

OK,

Meditate on both sides of it because it's not just enough to say to yourself,

I feel worthy.

I feel worthy.

I feel worthy.

I feel worthy.

If two seconds before you're saying I'm such a piece of shit,

Right?

You need to deal with the I'm such a piece of shit part part first part part first.

OK,

And so yeah,

Meditate on that sense of unworthiness.

Why do I feel this?

Where does it come from?

When did it start?

Who else is involved?

OK,

And if meditating isn't your thing,

Tap on it.

OK,

Tapping has been the single biggest gift in my life lately.

It is changing absolutely everything.

I just fucking love it.

So yeah,

Tap on it.

And if tapping and meditation are your thing,

Journal about it.

And if journaling isn't your thing,

Talk to somebody about it.

There is a modality that works for everybody.

And if you love all of these,

Do fucking all of them.

You cannot OD on doing these things when you need them.

OK,

And you cannot OD on these modalities when you're doing them from the beginning,

From a place of curiosity,

From trying to understand yourself better.

And when you do it from love,

You just can't.

You just can't.

So yeah,

What are some other things that you could do?

Up your self care,

Whatever that means for you.

Running,

Exercise,

Baths,

Showers,

Having a coffee,

Taking a minute to read a book,

Numbing out with TV for five seconds to take your mind off of it.

Do whatever it is that you need to do to get yourself connected to that place.

And then just one last time before we end this podcast,

You are so fucking enough.

You are so fucking enough.

Every single thing about you down to a cellular level is absolutely perfect.

And yes,

You are perfectly imperfect or imperfectly perfect,

But you are so fucking wonderful,

Exactly as you are.

And not a single thing about you needs to change in order for you to be lovable.

Fucking nothing.

You are worthy.

You are whole.

You are magic,

Just the way you are.

And I really hope that you leave this conversation knowing that,

Feeling it,

Remembering it.

And anytime you need another dose of that,

Come back,

Listen again.

You are fucking powerful.

You are amazing.

You are fantastic.

You're wonderful.

You're intelligent.

You're beautiful.

You're smart.

You're funny.

You're a good friend.

You're a wonderful sister or brother or mother or father or whatever you might be.

You are perfect,

Exactly as you are,

And not a single fucking thing about you needs to change.

And if you want to be a better person,

That is so beautiful.

What a fantastic goal to have.

What a beautiful thing to aspire to.

But that doesn't mean that where you are right now isn't good enough.

You are good enough here.

You will be good enough one step forward from now.

You will be good enough ten steps forward from now.

Everything about you is exactly as you were intended to be.

Everything about you is amazing.

You are so fucking enough.

I hope you have an amazing weekend and I hope that this message really sinks in.

One more time for the cheap seats.

One more time for the people in the back.

You are so fucking enough.

Reviews

I needed to hear this. Thank you so much & sending this message back to you! 💯🫶🏻🌹🦋🙏🏻🪷

Yes, yes, YES!!! This is JUST what I needed to her right now. I will definitely be coming back to this again. Thank you!!

Thank you 💪

Yesss! Wow, I loved thissss! Insight timer really needs more stuff like this! This was amazing. Thank you so much!! I feel powerful. I am enough🥰. Starting my day off with this amazing podcast, thank you!

That was amazing! Going to listen to it more than once ☺️

🥰 Thank you!!🙏

fucking brilliant. Thankyou ❤

Super simple and awesome message ! Thank you 💓

Powerful. You spoke tremendous and honest truth. Thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽

Amazing... I really needed that 🙏🏼

You bet! Thank you so much!

Thank you ❤️ I do get that I’m enough, so fucking enough. Just struggling with a marriage and 3 kids....3 kids amazing. But being around my husband is so draining, it brings me down to such a low place. Yeah I get that I have all the answers, I get that deep down i know how to fix this. But do you think for the life of me I can come up with the answer! Anyhows thanks for the great talk and thanks for the vent! 😂 I will sit now and seek some answers.....❤️❤️❤️

Thank you so much!!! I will be listening to you daily 🥰 I have been stuck in rut and I really needed to hear this.

OMG, this was amazing! Thank you so much! 🙏🙏🙏

Yes, I am fucking amazing

Thanks for the reminder...
I’m fucking amazing and magic!

Awesome, very inspiring and empowering. Thank you. You are so enough 💙x

I loved this. Thanks for presenting this in such a real and human way. <3

It was a f* amazing podcast! Thank you for your words and encouragement! Namastê

We are enough! Thanks!