Unhappy In Our Relationship

Are you afraid to hurt your partner by expressing how you are really feeling? Do you hold it in, hoping to figure it out and "get over it"? Ariel asks us to be more authentic in our relationships, even if there is a massive domino effect from speaking our voice.

Transcript

65 Welcome back to The Healing Room,

It's Ariel.

I'm going to talk about being too compassionate in a relationship that you feel needs to end.

So what I mean is partners or someone you're dating.

I keep hearing this in The Healing Room that people tell me they don't want to hurt somebody.

They're not sure if this person is the one for them anymore.

They are thinking of exiting,

But they haven't said anything.

Because they don't want to hurt them.

Maybe it's just not the right timing.

Their partner is going through something major in their lives and they don't want to add stress to their partner's life because their partner might just fall apart.

Their partner is already falling apart.

So what do you do?

If you feel like you're holding it all in and you're being careful and you're kind and loving but secretly you're miserable,

Then you yourself aren't being authentic and you're clogging up your entire energy field.

Not only are you clogging up your own,

But you're clogging up theirs.

So the way you're not being authentic is because you aren't speaking your truth.

You're not speaking your voice.

You're too concerned about the future outcome and the domino effect or the ripple effect of your action or your words to act in the moment from your heart and from your throat,

From your soul.

If your soul wants to say,

I'm on the wrong track,

This doesn't feel right to me,

I feel stuck,

I might need to move on,

Then we want to bring that out.

We don't want to wait till the right timing.

It may never come next year.

You know,

You've been together 10 years because it may never come.

There may never be a right time.

The way you block up your own energy field is that you should have this flow from your crown chakra through your core,

Through the river in the center of the body,

Out through your hands and feet.

Everything should be circulating round around,

Creating rings around you.

But if we're holding something inside,

The chakras begin to clog up.

So the vortexes begin to stop up instead of an open vortex with light spewing in and out of it,

Information coming in and you're releasing old energy out or your shining love out.

Instead,

The whole entire thing becomes blocked up with like a cap on it,

Like there's a cover on it.

And then other chakras start being affected.

Like the throat is all stopped up.

Well then the throat chakra starts to back up.

The energy can't flow through the heart.

So now the throat is overloaded and you're not speaking and it begins to clog up.

And then because that's clogged,

Now your head starts hurting and you feel congested because you don't have a flow from your head,

The top of your head,

The crown chakra down through anymore because it's hitting the throat and the throat is making everything clogged above it.

And then of course you're not grounded at all because you can't get the energy past your chest down to the ground because the heart's clogging it up.

So we really,

Really want to be authentic and speak so that our energy field is healthy.

Because to me,

As you've heard in other podcasts of mine,

The name of the game here in life is to come out the other end with this brilliant,

Gorgeous energy field that is shining and magnificent and advanced.

So we don't want to walk around clogged up for very long.

We want to maintain it and keep it flowing.

The way you mess with your partner's life and clog up their energy field or their path is because if you were meant to show up in their lives and love them for a while and accidentally teach them things and they taught you things and they loved you and then that person is supposed to meet someone else in like a month or two or five months down the road and that's the love of their life actually.

They're supposed to have children with them and everything,

Whatever.

You're stopping it.

You're blocking their life.

If you're feeling these things and you don't want to hurt them so you're not telling them and so then it's a big secret between you,

They're going to feel some anxiety because they don't know what's wrong.

They feel uncomfortable,

But they don't know why.

They can just tell something's off,

Something's in the way and they don't know what it is.

They ask you and you're like,

No,

It's fine.

Oh no,

Everything's great because you don't want to tell them.

And then they'll never be free to meet that person they were supposed to meet.

So we're actually messing with the whole plan.

We're playing God.

We're trying to keep someone else happy and so we're interfering with their path,

With the plan,

The bigger plan.

What we're afraid of is we're afraid of their meltdown.

We're afraid of the disaster.

We're afraid of our pain,

Their pain,

But pain is not a bad thing.

I actually kind of enjoy it.

All these emotions come spewing out and I always learn something and usually my life changes course drastically and it's always been for the better.

I've never ever had something really bad happen to me and the next chapter isn't better.

When we're hit hard,

There's a reason.

We're supposed to change tracks.

So if by telling your partner how you're feeling causes them to go into a downward spiral,

Do not try to fix it.

Let them spiral.

That's part of the transition.

Every transition is crazy.

Like dying when we die,

That's crazy.

It might hurt like hell.

It might be torture to die.

We might be in the hospital,

Cancel,

Cancel for weeks or whatever,

Or it might happen quickly in your sleep,

Whatever.

But the point is that turbulence as you cross over is pretty crazy.

Because when I watch people cross over or their spirit cross over,

It's like being in a turbulent plane for a little while.

They're in this tunnel that's just like a wind tunnel and then it's over and then they're in peace.

It's like birth.

When you're being born,

Talk about hell.

Even if it's just a C-section and you're yanked out,

That's hell too.

But being pushed through that birth canal and sometimes it takes hours,

That is so hard.

And then,

Oh,

Love.

Love is all around me.

Oxygen,

Colors,

People,

Smells.

So you want to allow the pain to happen for other people.

You're not causing it.

You're just being yourself.

You're just maintaining your own energy field.

You're maintaining your own flow so that you stay on your path and what happens from there happens.

How they deal with it is how they deal with it.

That is none of our business.

We have to stay in our own bubbles.

We have to allow things to shift and change because of us,

Because of one small move we made.

We have to let that happen.

We ask our angels and our spirit guides to move around us.

We ask them to support us,

To help us to feel brave,

To get rid of this timidity,

This part of us that feels too afraid to tell anybody anything because we don't want to hurt them.

We ask that we're able to stand in our power,

To be authentic and clear and speak from our truth.

We don't want to hurt people because they find out later that we've been feeling this a long time and we never told them.

We want to be honest.

We want to be open.

We ask that the communication between you and your partner is nice and flowing or you and who you're dating is nice and clear and clean.

Think of it as a flashlight beam with all these beautiful colors flowing back and forth through it,

Sparkly light flowing through it.

Even if what you're saying is very,

Very painful,

It will be a bright color and flow if you are speaking from your soul.

We ask that we speak from our soul easily and that it's received and that the temper tantrums don't last long after we receive information that we don't like.

We ask that our spirit guides and angels help to comfort our partner.

We ask that their angels comfort them,

Their spirit guides comfort them and show them their new path.

And then we ask that we're able to let go,

That we're actually able to follow through.

Sometimes you start talking about all of this and you don't break up.

Sometimes you start talking about it and they tell you,

Oh my gosh,

I feel the same way.

And you look at it and you resolve it.

Starting the conversation seems to be the hardest part for a lot of people.

We ask that we're able to trust.

We're able to trust that what's supposed to happen happens.

We ask that we're able to let go of all the responsibility and give it to God.

We ask that we're able to just be a flow of light,

Be a conduit of light.

We ask that we're able to move along our path and to get unstuck.

And we ask for happiness,

Great happiness for our partner and great happiness for ourselves.

Thanks be to God.

Thanks be to the light.

This is Ariel in the healing room.

I know that you're here in me.

I know that you're here in me.

I know that you're here in me.

Reviews

Wow. So insightful and spot on! Never resonated so much. Stop playing God. 👏🏼💫

Direct and beautiful. Beautiful for both parts. Should be labeled "talk", though.

Thank you Ariel🙏🏻

I’ve listened to this over and over. It’s helped me realize that my truth is real.