Anxious To Secure Attachment | Come Home To Yourself

What if you could care deeply about someone without losing yourself in the process?
This 21-minute guided meditation is for those moments when your attention is consumed by someone else, wondering what they're thinking, waiting for their message, replaying conversations, or putting your own needs on hold.
If you struggle with anxious attachment, people-pleasing, overgiving, or relationship anxiety, this practice gently invites you to return your attention to your own life.
You don't have to care less about someone. You can learn to care for yourself too: building self-worth, self-love, self-trust, & more secure attachment along the way.
When to listen: whenever you notice yourself seeking reassurance or becoming overly focused on someone else's attention.
Listen daily for 21 days to practice coming back to yourself & practicing more secure ways of relating to yourself & others.
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Transcript

Welcome dear one. If you have noticed that a lot of your attention has been going towards someone. Wondering what they are doing. Thinking about when they will reach out. Replaying conversations. Or checking for signs of how they might be feeling about you. Then take a moment to pause here. Perhaps your attention. Has been living a little more in the relationship. Than in your own life lately. Maybe you have been putting your own needs, Your routines or the things that usually bring you joy. A little further into the background. If that's where you are right now. You don't need to judge yourself for it. Someone can matter deeply to you. Without needing to become. The center of your world. So for these next few moments Let's gently Bring some of your attention. Bye. Into your own life. Take a comfortable, Slow breath in. And gently breathe out. Again, Breathing in, And slowly letting go. Bringing your awareness to your body. Feel your feet against the ground. Or the surface beneath you. Notice your hands resting wherever they are. Notice the room around you. The sounds around you. Let yourself remember. That you are here. Not in someone else's thoughts. Not in a conversation from the past. Not in a future you cannot know. You are here in this moment. And if you feel comfortable. You can gently close your eyes. And perhaps notice How much of your attention has been going. Towards that other person. You don't need to pull it all away. Just gently notice. Perhaps, Imagine your attention. Like a soft light. Maybe lately. Much of that light has been focused on one person. On to watching. Waiting. Wondering. . . And now, Without taking anything away, From the care you feel. Towards that person. Imagine. Allowing that light. To gently. Bread. Spread beyond the relationship. And in do. The rest. Of your life. On the things that you care about. The people you love. The things you enjoy. And all the other parts of your life. That also deserves. Your attention. Perhaps, Ask yourself. What part of my life? Have I been putting on hold? While my attention has been focused on someone else. Maybe something comes to your mind. Maybe it doesn't. There is no need to force an answer. Just let this question Be there. What part of my life? Have I been putting on weight? While my attention has been focused on someone else. And now, Gently ask, What is one small thing? I could give my attention to today. That belongs to me. Maybe it's something you have been meaning to do. Maybe it's taking care of your body. Maybe it's returning to our routine. Walking towards a goal. Falling of rain. Reading. Breathing. Resting. Or simply some quiet time with your sense. Your life doesn't begin. When someone texts you back. Your day doesn't need to wait. For someone else's attention. You can care about someone. And still have a life that is your own. And perhaps remember. You don't have to stop loving someone. To make room for your sense. I don't have to care less to live with me. You can hold someone in your heart. And still keep growing. Still keep creating. Connecting. Resting. And becoming who you want to be. Perhaps, Ask yourself, What would it feel like? To be someone. I can always come home to you. It's not about being perfect. Are being completely independent. Or it's even not about never needing anyone. It's about becoming someone who knows. I am here for myself. If you feel comfortable. Gently please ascend. On your heart. And let these words settle in. My life is mine to live. My life is mine to live. I can love someone. Without losing myself. I can love someone. Without losing myself. I am a whole person. With or without. Someone else's attention. I am a whole person. With or without. Someone else's attention. There is more to my life. Than this one relationship. There is more to my life. Then that's one relationship. I trust myself. To take care of myself. I have trust in me. To take care of myself. You did great. Take one final breath in. And slowly letting go. Feel your feet again. Notice the space around you. And perhaps Choose one small thing. You would like to give your attention to? Then this meditation ends. Something that belongs to you. And when you are ready. Gently return to your life. And remember. . . You don't have to stop caring about someone. To start caring for yourself. You don't have to wait for reassurance. To return to your own life. There is a world within you. And there is a life around you. That deserves your attention too. Welcome back! We are Zen. Come back to your life. There is still so much of you. To come home to me. Thank you for taking out this moment to be there for yourself.