What Would Love Do?

Have you ever reacted in a way that didn’t quite feel like you afterwards? That quick reply, the defensive tone, the slight closing of your heart?

This short talk centres around one simple question that can completely shift the way you move through challenging moments: What would love do?

It’s a gentle but powerful pause. A way to soften your nervous system, respond instead of react, and stay steady in conversations that would usually drain you.

Sometimes love sounds tender, sometimes it sounds like a clear boundary. Either way, it leaves you feeling clean and grounded instead of contracted.

If you’d like to feel more self-led and less triggered in your day-to-day life, this practice will stay with you long after it ends.

Music: Snowdrop - Shuta Yasokuchi

Transcript

There's a question I come back to all the time. The question is simple. What would love do? I started asking this when I noticed how quickly I could react in some more challenging situations. Sometimes, I would reply really fast or have a slightly sharp tone or felt the need to explain myself or defend my position. Sometimes, I would close my heart just to protect myself without even meaning to. And afterwards, It never felt good. So now, Whenever I'm in a situation where I notice that familiar charge begin to rise up, I pause, Take a breath and ask myself, What would love do? Most of the time, Love slows me down. It encourages me to listen instead of rushing to respond or react. It can soften my voice and it helps me to remember that there is a human being in front of me, Someone with their own fears and stories, Just like me. Sometimes love looks gentle. Sometimes, It's a clear boundary spoken calmly and without apology. Sometimes, It means choosing not to engage at all. When I choose to take a breath and respond from that place with that question in mind, Something changes and I often leave feeling steady instead of drained, Making difficult moments feel cleaner and clearer. If you'd like to try this, Take it out into your day in a small way. So the next time you feel triggered or hurried or emotionally charged, Don't rush, Pause, Take one slow breath in, Let it go fully and then ask yourself quietly, What would love do? Then let the answer guide your next step, Your words and your tone or your choice to wait. You don't need to use this perfectly or become someone different, Just notice what shifts when you give yourself that pause and ask, What would love do?

Reviews

Excellent question. It does require pausing though and I am so often quick to react when triggered. Perhaps if I set this as an intentional question as I begin my day it might help. Thank you for this meditation.

I love this way, a perfect idea like blue butterfly 😉🤗

I love this! It's so easy to forget this and it's something that I struggle with, reacting before I even think. It's nice to have this gentle practice to remind me! So thank you! 🙏🏽💜💜💜