The 3 Masks We Wear (And Why They Matter)

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The 3 Masks We Wear (And Why They Matter)

by Lilian Motta

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We all wear masks. Sometimes we present as confident when we’re terrified, loving when we’re resentful, or calm when everything inside us feels chaotic. These masks aren’t necessarily bad. They can help us navigate relationships, professional environments, and situations where showing everything we feel isn’t possible or appropriate. In Core Energetics, we explore three common masks: Power, Love, and Serenity. Understanding these patterns can help us recognize the difference between how we’re presenting ourselves and what’s actually happening inside. This awareness gives us an opportunity to reconnect with our authentic feelings and needs, rather than constantly managing how others perceive us. The goal isn’t to stop wearing masks altogether, but to recognize when we’re wearing one so we have more choice in how we show up.

Sensorimotor Awareness Practice Schema Mode Awareness Practice Authenticity Emotional Intelligence Nervous System Nervous System Regulation

Meet your Teacher

Toronto, ON, Canada

Meet your Teacher

Toronto, ON, Canada

Transcript

Have you ever presented like really confident? You were funny, You were edgy, And you were terrified inside, But nobody saw it. Or maybe you did something nice for somebody when you didn't want to, When you just wanted to be at home watching Netflix. There are different ways that we present ourselves to the world. And sometimes our inner world doesn't match. So in this video, I'm gonna tell you about the different masks that we wear. Why it's important that we wear them. But most importantly. Why we need to know that we're wearing them. My name is Lillian Mota and I'm a somatic therapist. I practice a modality called core energetics. And in this modality, There are three main masks that we focus on. The mask of power, Which presents as strong, Confident, Charming. We see this a lot in politics. And or in presenters or leaders. But inside. There's a lot of terror or we're feeling insecure or there's just a misalignment with the way that we're presenting. There is the mask of love. And I know we've felt this before where you, Where the person is so nice, They're doing the nicest things, But you don't really feel them. Outerly they're expressing their love, They're being really sweet. But inside they might be feeling things of resentment. Unmet needs. You know, They're trying to give you all the things that you need, But inside they're not asking themselves what they need. So that's the mask of love. And the mask of serenity which says everything's okay don't worry no no don't worry everything's fine everything's fine we see this a lot in spiritual in spiritual communities where there's like spiritual bypassing or in times where You know, We just. We want to present as calm, But inside there's a lot of chaos and even fear or even anger. So, I want to say something. It's important that we wear masks, Okay, That we present in the world in different ways because you might be nervous before that presentation and you need to make sure that you do all the things, The power posing, You know, The self-talk to be able to get through it. Or sometimes the conversations that you have in the kitchen with your husband is not the same conversations that you're going to have at the office. So there are times where we need to present a certain way. The one thing I want you to take away from this video is that it is so important to know that we're wearing the mask. Okay, So in Core Energetics, In this work, We say that the mask is the first layer. It's the first layer, Okay? It's the way that we want others to see us. But in this place, There isn't any real connection. So that person that looks powerful, That looks, You know, They're charming and they look like they're in control, But for some reason you can't trust them. Or the person that's being really nice. And you're like, I don't really feel, There's weird, There's like an icky feeling to this. Or the person that says that they're fine, But you are walking on eggshells because you feel like they're just a ticking time bomb. So in that place, We're not really connected to others when we're wearing our masks. And most importantly, We're not connected to ourselves. So, Okay, Remember I said it's important to know that we need them in life to present a certain way, But it's super important to know that we're wearing them. Because dysregulation in the body happens when we want to present in a certain way, Do certain things, And inside it is just chaos. So when we don't know that we're wearing them, All of this is just confusion, And it ends up upregulating our nervous system. We end up feeling disconnected from others and ourselves. So there isn't a big practice for this video, This is one question I really want you to know. I even wrote it down so I make sure that I don't forget it, Okay? When you don't know that you are in a mask, I want you to ask yourself a question. Am I connected to myself right now? Or am I concerned and controlling the way that others see me? Am I connected to myself right now or am I trying to control the way others see me? When you can answer this question you start to tune into the inner world and then you can ask yourself questions what do i actually need right now. If in this place i'm not able to really show this authentic need where can i get it maybe it's a conversation that you can have after maybe it's a space that you can take. And from that place when we start to know the power and the confidence that we feel is going to be a bit more genuine. The love that we're gonna give out to people is gonna be real. And the peace that we actually want is going to be real peace. So thank you so much for listening to me today, For staying with me through this video. I hope that you got a little nugget of information for you to Feel yourself a little bit more as you go through your day. My name is Lillian and I will see you next time.