Giving Ourselves What We Never Received

In this session, we practice 'Intuitive Guidance', with 10 minutes of silent practice. We offer our past selves what we never received: the care, comfort, and connection we crave.

Intuitive Guidance is a form of trauma healing that combines somatic reconnection, radical self-acceptance, Internal Family Systems, parts therapy, mindfulness, and deep introspection.

We hold that the body keeps the score (getting stuck in fight, flight, freeze, fawn, or fantasy), emotions are messages, and that through an attitude of compassionate curiosity and calm confidence, we can heal.

To practice, we embrace and embody the Self (intuition) and then invite into the session a part of our body that is holding onto the past, and then feel deeply. Over time, this connection allows expression, release, reconnection, and eventually reintegration.

Transcript

And welcome to the session. I invite you to take a seat. Will lie down. And get yourself comfortable. And close down the eyes if you wish. And just begin by taking some slow breaths. Deep breaths. And through the nerves. To sitting with the intention for this session. To approach and accept everything that arises. With an attitude of compassionate curiosity. And calm confidence. To approach and accept everything that arises. An attitude of compassionate curiosity. And calm confidence. Taking a moment now to Scan your body. Just looking for a place of. . . Tension. Energy. Or perhaps a lack of. And numbness. Or an absence. Scanning your body. To find a part. That is intuitively calling to be worked with today. We'll be practicing intuitive guidance. Process of deep inner healing. Where we connect to a part of our body. Part of our past. Part of our personality. An aspect of us that is holding on to something. That wants to share. To express. Release. Perhaps reintegrate. Will hold that the body keeps the score. Things have happened that were overwhelming at the time. That we didn't process. That we're still holding on to. And will hold that emotions and sensations are messages. Messages from these parts. About what happened. About how they kept us safe. About the burdens they are carrying. Messages that they want us to hear. And understand. Simply finding a part of your body that you would like to work with today. Simply sitting with it. Feeling it deeply. Can you trace an outline around the shape of these sensations? Are they internal? Or external. Are they heavy or light? Is their movement. Or stagnation. We're just sitting. Just witnessing. Just observing. Is there a colour associated with this part? A sound. Of feeling. Perhaps thoughts or memories or visions. Feeling the sensations in this part of the body deeply. And opening up your mind to these parts. Behold the emotions and sensations and messages This part is desperate to express itself. So we're going to listen. Approaching and accepting everything that arises. With compassionate curiosity. And calm confidence. Be open to. A visualization arising. A saint. Picture. Memory. Imagery. These may be interpretive or symbolic. Just allow this part to express itself to you. Feeling the sensations arising deeply. I'm not trying to change anything. Command or demand. Just connect. Just listen. Just accept and see. Asking this part directly. What do you need me to know? What do you need me to know? What do you need me to see? What do you need me to say? What do you need me to understand? What do you need me to understand? Feeling the sensations in the body and opening up the mind space to this part. We approach and accept what arises. Compassionate curiosity. And calm confidence. Holding space. For this long neglected part. This path that has been holding on to things for years or decades. Process of intuitive guidance may at times. Feel a bit overwhelming. You can turn your attention to a part. And for lack of a better expression it may feel like it's screaming. Lots of sensation. Lots of internal noise almost like a child in distress. In this process we act as our own inner parent. Offering love and compassion. Words of couragement and kindness. An internal hug. You may see. Or feel. Or into it. Different arisings. Within the framework of how these things are arising. You can offer love. Or the intention behind it. Perhaps a soothing visualization. Connection. A shared prayer or meditation. You are comforting yourself after all. You are offering connection. Compassion. Care. To a younger version of yourself. Give yourself what you need. What you needed. And if at any time you feel the urge to release is to laugh, To cry. To scream to sleep. To share. Do so. This is your session. In a moment. Going to sit together in silence with this part. Connecting. Feeling. Comforting. Intuitively offering this part what it needs. Compassion. Love. Understanding. Approaching and accepting what arises with compassionate curiosity. And calm confidence. Feeling the sensations in the body deeply. Witnessing the aspects of the mindspace that arise. Acting as our own inner parent. Therapist. Or guide. Let's begin. If you'd like to maintain the meditation. You are more than welcome to do so. But for everyone else, Just. . . Gently returning. Back to their bodies. Back to the session. Back to their day. In this session we practice something I call intuitive guidance. Where we connect to a part of our body. Part of our past. Part of our personality. Part of us that is holding on to something. Part that is burdened. Of things that happened in the past. And is desperate to express and to share. To release and perhaps reintegrate. We connect to the spawn. Feeling the sensations in the body deeply. Aspects of the mind space. Approaching and accepting it all. Compassionate curiosity. And calm confidence. Acting as our own inner parent. Your own inner guide or therapist. Offering their support. And comfort. And connection. Than we needed. Way back when. I'd like to end these sessions with a commitment to the part we're working with. Letting it know that we will return. That this is not a once and done kind of thing. Sometime later today or tomorrow or this week. We'll check back in. Feeling deeply. Connecting once more. Listening once more. Comforting once more. Healing takes time. Patience. Perseverance. With those things that will happen. Letting this part know. The words or the intention behind the words. Which is okay. You are safe. I accept you. And invite you to release. It's okay. Do it safe. I accept you. And invite you to release. One slow, Deep breath. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm is okay. You are safe. I accept you. And invite you to release. As we come to an end to this session, We ground ourselves back in the present moment. It's taking a moment to notice what you can see right now. What you can feel. Right now. Or you can hear. Right now. These are the sensations of the moment. And we are returning back to this moment. Saying to ourselves, I am here now. And this moment is safe. I am here now. And this moment is safe. I am here now. In this moment. Is safe. Thank you all for joining me and I'll see you in the next session