Full Moon In Scorpio: What You Can Do To Overcome Overwhelm & Let Go Of What Is Holding You Back

There is so much available to us right now that it is becoming overwhelming. Move past the overwhelm during and beyond lockdown!

This podcast will help you become unapologetically clear. Discern between the things which do serve you and others, and that which is holding you back. Full Moon is a time of letting go. This is a practice in rational thinking and an exercise in letting go of things holding us back. This exercise will help you get clear about the things it could be time for you to let go of, and how.

Transcript

Hi,

My name is Victoria Adams and here we are,

All still at home,

Still going inwards.

Whether it's inside to another packet of crisps or the deepest,

Darkest depths of our soul projects,

Or our ever-filling email inbox,

I'm still feeling overwhelmed.

I'm going to speak frankly.

There are many things,

Habits,

Foods,

People,

Situations in our lives that we stay stuck in,

Knowing that they're no good for us,

Yet we resist to let them go.

Maybe it feels too hard,

Or that we'd be rude to.

Perhaps we've tried so many times and believe we've failed,

So what's the point in trying again and again and again?

But that gut feeling of knowing there is a different way that could better serve us,

Those around us,

That serve our health,

Our waistlines,

Our hearts,

That little bit better,

It nags and never quite goes away.

It's full moon again on Thursday.

This is the time of the month where you might be tossing and turning all night,

Picking a fight with your partner at the flick of a switch,

Or howling at the moon naked,

Dancing in your back garden.

That's if you're lucky enough to have a back garden,

Says everyone in London right now.

The full moon Scorpio.

Buddha was born and died and enlightened at this moon.

Full moon in Scorpio.

This is a time of transformation,

Of death,

Of birth,

Of realisation and of lightening up,

If you want it to be.

If you can see the wood through the trees beyond the overwhelm.

This time last month was a time of real clarity for me.

It wasn't easy,

But I suddenly knew what I had to do.

There were no ifs or buts about it.

It was very,

Very clear.

It was hard and it still is,

But I let go.

One of the things about full moon without getting too woo-woo about it is that it's a time where you can go mad when you fight against things,

Or you can move forward if you know how to move with it.

It's a simple case of knowing that when the moon is full and bright,

The light is very likely to disturb your sleep at night.

So rather than battling against that,

Simply being aware of this as an obstacle can help you put certain measures in place to ensure you do get a good night's sleep.

Wear an eye mask.

Don't drink too much water right before bed.

Accept the fact that maybe if you know you're going to be tossing and turning all night half or fully awake,

Then choose something to do with that time instead.

All night full moon ritual not necessary,

Maybe just have the Netflix binge you've been trying to not do so much after all.

You really can look at this time as an opportunity to harness its power or simply minimize the damage it can do as it tends to interfere with sleep,

Especially if you're female.

And hey,

You know that if a woman had her period on the full moon a few hundred years ago,

She would be branded as a witch.

A bit of sleep interruption is the least of our worries.

Anyway,

This isn't all just about sleep and it's not just the moon keeping us awake at night.

It's the to-do list.

It's the overwhelm.

So let's get clear about what's overwhelming you.

What's too much?

This is a time of abundance for many,

Of time,

Of space,

Of toiletries they've bought or taken from hotels and never used and out of date protein powders in the back of the cupboard that the internet said would get you to 8% body fat in eight days.

Five years ago.

While some are working through the backlog of books they can finally start reading,

Courses or projects that can now be begun,

Others are barely keeping a flow of the workload and emotional load coming from every direction.

We are very good at coping,

Just getting on with it.

Our nervous system and the stress hormone cortisol are two things that help with that.

At times of stress,

Our body kicks into survival mode and we survive.

Generally we get through it.

And let's forget about the big stuff for a moment.

I'm only talking about the small stuff.

The tiny things that seem trivial that we can easily cope with.

Is everything on your to-do list really necessary?

Are you giving yourself a hard time for no reason other than you think you should be achieving something,

Looking a certain way or getting stuff done?

The tiny things that add up and load up almost unnoticed until we finally reach the feeling of burnout.

It is the little things,

The little tasks,

The little chats that we think we can cope with and we show we can cope with.

That is what is eating us alive.

This podcast is about letting go.

Letting go of the things we know we've held onto for far too long,

Far too tightly,

Far too unforgivingly.

This podcast is about understanding why we feed ourselves the foods we know do us no good.

It's about how we continue to harm ourselves,

Knowingly or otherwise,

By overfeeding the wrong stuff or starving ourselves of the genuine relationships.

Let's get clear about what things are important in our lives and what's unnecessary.

This is where you may become a little bit uncomfortable or disagree because I'm telling you,

You can let them go.

It's very hard to listen to your gut instincts when you've got a million and one things going on.

It's a huge case of too much syndrome right now and superwoman syndrome or superman,

I don't want to leave you guys out.

It feels as even though we're home,

The pressure is on.

Whether that's self-inflicted or coming from somebody else,

And probably both,

Considering many of us are at home,

It feels as though we've never been busier.

And yet at the same time,

Despite the phone calls,

Work commitments,

Tasks,

Since we're not quite rushing physically to get anywhere thinking about travel or the commute,

Some of us are becoming much more receptive.

We are starting to see that some things we've been forced to leave behind just for now are perhaps better left behind us forever.

Things we just need to take a little bit more time to become aware of.

We begin to notice exactly what's going on.

Not out there,

I still can't quite get my head around what's going on out there,

But inside.

And there doesn't need to be a big commentary or analysis about it,

We just need to take some time to get clear.

So what or who is it that's overwhelming you?

What are the things that are serving us well?

This is a time where you find out exactly who your family are,

Your friends are,

Your trainers are.

This is a time where you find out the things you like the best and least of all about yourself also.

I'm hearing from a lot of people that they're overwhelmed by the texts,

The emails,

The fact that they keep raiding the fridge despite having no time to exercise and or make a proper meal.

I appreciate that this doesn't apply to everyone by the way.

I'm hearing a lot of people say that this is a time that is bringing out the best and the worst in people,

And in myself.

And well,

If this is a time of heightened overwhelm,

Maybe now is the time to ask yourself who are the people in my life that really count?

I appreciate that we cannot really socialise,

But phone communications are at an all time high.

Is that phone call with this person really necessary?

Work colleague,

Family,

Friend,

Lover or otherwise?

This might sound cold,

But we're all exhausted.

And I think at times like these,

You've got to force yourself to be ruthlessly selfish.

Oh my God,

Can I say that?

You know,

When it feels like the whole world is upon your shoulders and you can only carry so much of it,

There comes a time where you have to make a call and not call or email or organise a zoom quiz.

A friend recently told me the story about the frog and the scorpion.

Have you heard it?

It was talked about on Afterlife.

The second series of that is out now,

By the way.

The frog and the scorpion is about inevitability and trust.

It teaches that some people simply because of their nature often can't resist hurting others even when it's against their own interests.

To trust is a beautiful thing.

And the scorpion was hurtful,

But that's his very nature.

The frog trusted instead of going with its gut instinct,

Instead of acknowledging the laws of nature.

Now I'm not saying you shouldn't trust nor that you should cut all potential threats out of your life because that's not living and that's not trust.

But is lockdown going to be a time where we stay stuck in the same scenarios?

Being stung by the same inevitable stinks?

Despite being more or less confined to the four walls of home,

Are you allowing or using something to distract you from facing whatever it is that you're not ready to confront or let go?

Or could you consider taking a non-negotiable stance and making time to get clear about the things in your life that perhaps deserve a little less space in it?

And it doesn't have to be an attack or a grand gesture.

It's about treating yourself with love.

So let's get clear.

Firstly,

How can you simplify the overwhelm?

To start with,

Maybe put a few WhatsApp group chats on mute if you haven't already and ask yourself,

Where am I feeling overwhelmed?

Have you put on a ton of weight,

Feeling behind on work,

Suffocated by family or friends,

Living with or otherwise?

Perhaps you're at home and totally lacking any sense of direction,

Companionship and love and you don't have to be living alone in isolation to be feeling this way.

I've spoken to plenty of people living in big family units feeling exactly the same way,

Suffocated but alone.

The problem could very likely be that you're overfed but undernourished.

Talking about food,

This applies to overeating or the beige foods,

High in calories,

Low in nutrient density and skimping or even totally neglecting to eat the nourishing,

Nutrient-dense foods that help us thrive.

Fruit and vegetables,

Water,

Herbs and spices mainly.

Overfed and undernourished.

You can apply this to other aspects of your life.

Overfed and stuffed to the brim with work commitments,

DIY jobs,

Phone calls,

Zoom meetings,

Emails and those funny WhatsApp videos that you think you'll miss out on or you're being rude if you don't watch the full four minutes of every clip all the way to the end.

An underfed,

A nourishment of genuine,

Loving connection with your people,

Whoever they may be.

This leads me to my next point.

Do you know who your people even are?

They're the ones who support you,

Emotionally feed you.

I'm not trying to make you out of some blood-sucking vampire friend by the way,

Hopefully you feed them on an emotional level too.

If you're not sure who your good mates are,

Now is the time.

Even get a pen and paper to figure that out.

Pause this if you need to.

If you're underfeeding yourself of the good stuff,

You know,

Real communication and then going to the fridge every five minutes in between the tough tasks and the phone calls you don't want to have but you have to,

Then it's no wonder that you're using food to try to feed yourself and get through each day.

But it's not food that you're hungry for.

Here's what you can do to address overwhelm,

Whether it's to do with food,

Relationships,

Work or something you just can't quite figure out.

You need a pen and paper for this.

How to simplify the overwhelm.

It could be as simple as this.

Practice not pleasing people,

Including your demanding self.

Sit in the awkward spaces.

Just be awkward.

Say no.

Ask yourself,

What am I really frightened of?

Past,

Future or present.

Now I'd like you to take an A4 piece of paper and draw one horizontal line and a vertical line down through the middle so that you have four boxes.

You're going to put the following headings in each of these boxes.

Number one,

Relationships,

Two,

Career,

Three,

Exercise,

Four,

Spirituality.

These are what are called the primary foods.

You can work with them in different ways.

Basically,

When it comes to our lives and living,

If we aren't feeding ourselves these four primary foods in the right way,

We then tend to turn to other stuff.

Peanut butter on toast in the middle of the night,

Pretzels,

Chips,

Whatever it is that you dive into knowing that it wasn't really what you needed because actually you've been depriving yourself of something else.

Let's start with relationships.

Write down whatever you like or think about your relationships right now.

I would start with the places you feel overwhelmed when it comes to your relationships.

It might be the phone calls,

The WhatsApps,

Zoom calls,

Or even specific relationships with certain people that you feel perhaps aren't good for you or even the other person.

Write it all down.

Now look at each point.

If you were to look at these points as obstacles in your life,

How can you overcome them or ease the tension it's creating in your life?

Talking about the extra communications that are happening right now,

How and when can you allocate these?

Can you choose one slot in the day that you'll talk to people,

Whether it's friends or for work?

If telephone conversations are better than text for you,

Then insist on that.

Spend 30 minutes or an hour even talking on the phone rather than all day long being at the mercy of constant WhatsApps tinging in your ear.

If it's bigger than that,

If through no fault of theirs or your own,

You simply can't make the time for this person,

And let's be honest,

Even though most of us are at home,

It feels like it's never been busier for many people.

Whether they're working or otherwise,

There's so much content on the internet it's easy to feel the overwhelm.

So just tell them.

There's nothing wrong with the feeling of having so much on that right now another conversation,

Even a good one,

Is too much.

Leave it open.

Don't set a time with them that you know you won't be able to or want to honour when the time actually comes.

Be honest and say you'll reconnect when you can.

It's not about cutting people out of your life.

It's about acknowledging that you cannot be everything to everyone all of the time.

Before connecting with others,

The first person you should be connecting with is yourself.

Let's move on to career now.

How many zoom meetings are too many zoom meetings?

Write down in bullet points the aspects of your career that have become overwhelming,

Long term or short term.

Perhaps you've signed up to 20 self development courses that you can't keep up with.

Being disciplined about work right now is difficult and unique to each and every one of us.

Whether you're working like a Trojan and exhausted or wishing you were actually working but exhausted anyway,

Write down what is challenging you.

What is causing you frustration or overwhelm?

Very quickly,

Just by putting pen to paper,

You might come up with a solution to whatever it is on your list that is either holding you back or causing you any kind of grief.

How can you let some of it go?

And please don't necessarily do what I did and quit the desk job,

But it did allow me more time to pursue my passion.

Without letting go of the nine to five,

Mmm,

7am till sometimes 3am I should say,

I never would have had the time or space to follow my other calling.

Creating Spotify's like this boring you to death or,

If you're lucky,

Boring you to a really good night's sleep.

Let's move on.

Exercise.

With exercise it feels to me like we're either not doing enough or we're cramming in way too much at the detriment of other commitments or simply our well being because we're going hell for leather with the over exercise.

Or is lack of exercise causing you to feel low?

If exercise is another thing that's adding to the overwhelm,

It's important you get smart with how and when you move your body.

If you can't fit a workout in but you want to,

What daily activity or habit can you replace?

If you know you're spending 10 too many minutes per day eating biscuits,

Then that's 10 minutes you can put to use elsewhere.

WhatsApping or scrolling aimlessly through social media,

Stop it,

Let that go.

There is a 20 minute hit session workout for you right there.

Or you can make a rule that you only chat to your mates on the phone when you're out there.

If you know you're over exercising,

Walking and talking,

Connecting with friends is a brilliant thing you can do.

You'll still be moving your body but at a pace that serves you and feeds you emotionally at the same time.

Hopefully.

Getting outside in nature could replace some of those Zoom classes and quizzes that you've over subscribed to.

This leads me on to spirituality.

It can mean whatever you want it to mean.

It could be yoga,

Meditation,

Reading,

Walking in nature.

It's your you time,

Your alone time,

Which ironically right now feels few and far between.

It's whatever makes you feel more like you again.

It tends to be the stuff that we prioritise last to the point that you rarely get round to doing it.

Or not doing anything.

Write down what yours are or what they could be.

Unwilling to bet that your spirituality activities are at the bottom of your list of chores,

Duties,

Calls,

Work,

Exercises and other commitments.

And if you really struggle to make the time for these,

Then find a way of doing two things simultaneously.

For example,

And I'm not even kidding,

I was on the phone this morning to my mate Amy whilst doing facial exercises and then full body brushing.

Why we stayed on FaceTime rather than just voice is beyond me.

I'm sorry Amy and happy birthday Nick.

Now if you have your list of what's overwhelming you,

What you need more of,

What you could approach to having or doing less of,

Notice that probably none of this relates to food.

If you're struggling with what you're eating and now realise that perhaps you've been depriving yourself of the good stuff,

Real communication and the right amount of it,

Then it's no wonder you're popping to the fridge every five minutes to feast on whatever's there and yet still somehow not feel full.

You're missing out on or overwhelmed by the right or wrong primary foods.

Relationships,

Career,

Exercise,

Spirituality.

That's why you are overeating and gaining weight.

You're not feeding yourself the right food.

Usually when I'm food coaching clients,

We work from this approach.

Don't worry about the food you should not be eating or the things you usually would try to cut out of your diet.

Just focus on all the good things you wish to crowd in.

This way,

All the things you've struggled to cut out of your diet or from your life in the past will naturally be crowded out as there's just less room for them.

But right now,

If it feels so overwhelming to think more about what more you can crowd or come in,

Even if it is good for you,

Then perhaps it really is time to look at what needs to be shed,

What you need to let go.

How much is too much?

Whether it's family,

Work,

Health relating to diet or fitness,

Or passion projects,

It might be that book we've always wanted to write,

The dream we have of fulfilling.

The passion project is often the thing we spend a lot of time thinking about,

Maybe too much time,

But we never actually get round to seeing it out,

To seeing if it's even possible because we're so bogged down with too much of the other things on our lists.

How many lists do you have by the way?

Now is the time to be discerning,

Ruthless even.

All these things,

The necessary,

The not so necessary,

Which can you let go of?

And I'm not suggesting you make sacrifices of people or commitments you have that are genuinely important or unavoidable,

But there is always a way round it where you do do what you have to do,

But you find other ways of still serving you.

It's the airplane oxygen mask thing.

You can't save others before you have saved yourself.

Oh,

And by the way,

Studies are now showing you multitaskers,

That's me included by the way,

People who multitask are literally killing brain cells by the day.

Did you know that the mind does not hear no or not?

If you say I will not smoke or I will not eat chocolate,

All the mind hears and conjures are cigarettes and chocolate.

And so you continue to think and stay with cigarettes and chocolate or stress.

If you know that there is something you need more of in your life,

Allow the things not serving you to dissipate.

Don't create a story around it,

Let them soften,

Let them go and conjure pitches in your mind of the things you would like to see.

Keep it simple so that it doesn't become overwhelming.

When you simplify instruct your days by focusing on the things that you can do and letting go of the things you cannot do or those which you cannot control,

You'll find space.

You will notice how simple your life at home or otherwise can become.

And when you stop to notice,

To really notice,

You will see how rich it can be.

Without the distractions of duties,

Without the overwhelm.

At home,

Without the trimmings of being out out.

How rich life can be.

It's easy to become obsessed with foods,

Over having it,

Not having it,

Trying not to be having it and the negative thoughts and feelings and habits that can crop up around this.

All the same happens with the negative thoughts,

Feelings and habits we create around people,

Our workplace,

Our friendships,

Our partnerships.

If you are struggling with a food habit that you want to stop,

Then pick one area in your life other than food.

Think primary foods and shift that.

If you are harming yourself by feeding on a relationship that doesn't serve you,

Then no wonder you find it difficult not to harm yourself when you eat the wrong foods.

And if you find yourself relapsing or making the same mistakes,

Opening that proverbial fridge door again and again,

Switch the habit,

Find something new and good and let this be a simple choice you make over and over again.

When everything is overwhelming,

Rather than making another list of the things that you want to do,

Just let go.

There's no need to tin anyone or anything.

You can do this with love and it doesn't have to be temporary.

Don't make a story around it.

Don't feel bad about it.

Just ask how am I able to do this with love and the best intentions for a new beginning,

Without anger,

Without frustration or holding on.

If it was good once,

Remember that and then let it go.

If now is a time where you're having difficulty letting go of a person or people from your life,

Try letting go of expecting how things might turn out.

Especially if your expectations of the person never worked out during the relationship,

Limiting a certain outcome from your forgiveness or letting go process,

That probably won't work either.

We make mistakes of our own.

That maybe we can control or could have controlled,

But we can't control other people from doing anything wrong or right for that matter.

And since we can't really control any outcome,

Despite our best efforts,

This is the scariest part.

Uncertainty,

Emotional risk.

With or without them,

If you cannot change the way you perceive,

Experience the situation,

If it's just as painful being without them as being with them,

Perhaps it is time to let them go.

Regardless,

Whatever we expect or hope for as an outcome,

We have got to let that go.

It's the same when it comes to food.

Our needs change,

Just like the Atkins diet that served many of us for a season,

Hopefully not for a lifetime.

With people and it sounds cold,

And maybe this is,

There does come a time to let go of the ways of living that do not serve us.

My pal James said to me,

Stop saying sorry.

Never say sorry for anything that comes from a place of kindness.

And every word I'm speaking right now comes from a place of kindness.

When you do let something or someone go,

Give it your best shot at letting go with the best of your wishes and with love.

The hardest things I've ever been through have been the biggest lessons of my life.

I might not have been grateful at the time,

But I'm so grateful for that now.

And there are some things that I'm still not quite at the grateful stage for yet.

That's life.

Remember that feelings aren't facts.

They're temporary.

Can you find peace in that?

That whatever you may be feeling now is impermanent,

Life does go on and goes on differently.

If you cannot let go of any feelings of resentment,

Frustration,

Disappointment,

Or total heartbreak right now,

Rest in the place inside of you that knows that it's not forever.

You might not ever forget,

But you will move on.

You will let go.

Just because you're not holding onto something for dear life doesn't mean it will disappear entirely or that it can't be there anymore.

But if holding on,

Gripping to it is causing you pain or any kind of damage,

Emotional or physical,

To what extent can you let it be there without you playing an active part in perpetuating it?

Let it go.

Put it down even.

And then perhaps it will go away all by itself.

There have been positives among negatives of what is happening globally since COVID-19.

All this extra time to connect,

To exercise,

To create content,

To rebuild your business,

Your living room or your life,

An opportunity many people have been waiting for.

And yet it all feels pretty unimportant.

At least for me it feels as though I'm lathering on more layers of content in an already content-filled world,

My world and the wider world.

So let's keep it simple.

Let's get clear about what's really important,

What is necessary,

And what are the things that we can realistically let go.

Especially the negatives.

Have faith.

Faith in something greater than the quick sound of all these moments,

Pressures and difficulties that we experience as mothers,

As friends,

As co-workers,

As key workers.

And this everything that is and isn't happening,

What is it that you can do?

And it's full moon.

It's time to shine a light on all that stuff that's been holding you back.

It's time to let it go.

Next podcast I will be talking a little bit about making food choices,

But also about how to feed your soul.

I'll be talking about crowding out of love.

If there is anything you've heard in today's podcast that has resonated with you,

I'd love to hear from you.

You can find me on Instagram at Victoria Adams or www.

Victoriaadams.

Co.

Uk where you'll also find many,

Many plant-based recipes and online yoga classes for free.

If you have enjoyed this podcast,

Please share it.

This helps me to continue what I'm doing as I'm hearing from you guys that it's not just me who's feeling this way and just knowing that we're all feeling this overwhelmed.

Well,

It's reassuring to know that we're in this together.

Take care,

Everyone.

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