Move Beyond Your Obstacles At Full Moon: Letting Go Of Overwhelm + Reach Your Goals In 4 weeks

When you identify what your obstacles are, it becomes far easier to reach your goals. This will show you how to shift the dead weight, live with awareness, and soar towards your goals.

Transcript

Welcome,

I'm Victoria Adams.

This podcast is about knowing what we need to let go of and how.

It's about getting over it,

Moving forward by shedding our fears,

Our shadows and the idea that anything could be holding you back at all.

It's about shifting the dead weight.

And I'm not talking about other people.

I'm talking about ourselves.

You don't really have to get rid of anything.

You just have to remember who you are.

Some of you will be well on it with this.

You'll know already that tonight is full moon,

In Libra and I'm going to tag a beautiful article I read this morning in my bio if you'd like to know more about the pink supermoon.

I'm going to try my best not to go too woo woo but whatever you're into or otherwise.

The full moon is about letting go.

Including your excuses.

When we reach full moon,

This is the moment the entire face of the moon is illuminated by the sun's rays from our view from Earth.

It is totally lit up and can be so bright that it can keep you up all night tossing and turning in bed.

It turns some people crazy,

Particularly if you're female.

In the past,

It was common to think that many forms of mental illness were caused by the moon,

Hence the name lunatic.

The peak of full moon marks completion as the lunar cycle comes to completion and it is this completion that I'd like to talk about.

What are we completing on and where do we go afterwards?

Once the moon has waxed to its brightest and most full,

We enter a time of waning,

Of letting go.

If you're reflecting on your life at all at the moment,

This is not the time to be setting new intentions or new goals.

Now is the time to let go,

Including your excuses.

So what are your excuses?

Do you actually know what your goals are?

This podcast is about getting clear on what excuses we are using that stop us sitting down and putting our dreams into motion.

This podcast is about knowing what your obstacles are so that you can make a plan and get around them and overcome them.

So grab a pen and paper or you can just listen.

I truly hope that this will give you some guidance and some inspiration to move forward with your goals.

And perhaps you'll realize that you've known exactly how to do it all along.

Very often when I'm working with clients,

Speaking to mates or even looking at my own situation,

We have no idea what our goals actually are.

So let's get clear on what our goals are.

You can do this exercise with one goal or as many as you like.

Pause this as and when you need.

I'm going to use some examples and I'm going to use a disclaimer here.

They may or may not be personal to me.

So what are your goals?

Write them down.

Is it to create a successful online business?

How exactly does that look to you?

Because to simply say a successful business is really not clear enough.

What are you offering?

Where do you live?

Who are your customers?

How are you helping people?

Is it to feel body confident?

To say lose weight or lose fat?

That's not clear enough either.

How do you want to look?

How do you want to feel?

Yeah,

If you've kept the jeans you used to wear in the nineties because you'd like to fit back into them,

Then get that down on paper.

Obviously,

If you were born in the nineties,

This should not apply.

Make sure your goal is realistic and healthful.

It might be to have clearer skin.

It might be to learn.

What do you want to study?

Perhaps your goal is financial.

Any financial goals should be quantified.

So please write down the amount you desire to earn to save up or to be able to spend.

Be realistic,

But don't put yourself into a box either.

Maybe you want to get married,

Live in a big house in the country and have kids.

Write it down.

Is the goal to get your best selling book written?

That would be awesome.

My boss,

Jason Vale often says that we've all got at least one book in us.

Please pause this and come back to me when you've finished.

By the way,

You might have already attained some of these goals and just want to up your game or maintain something you've already achieved.

That can be a goal too,

But define it in some way using a target weight,

For example,

Or the date by which you'd like to reach it.

If you don't set a target,

You'll never really have a gauge to let you know you've actually reached your goal.

I don't know if that's why so many of us lose a ton of weight,

But don't really know when it's time to stop.

So you should have at least one goal written down.

Now it's time to identify what are your obstacles keeping you from getting there.

Once you know what your obstacles are,

You can make a plan to work around them and get to wherever it is that you want to go.

So the obstacles,

What are they?

Could be you're living in the wrong place,

You don't have the money,

Don't have the time,

The motivation,

The knowledge or the inspiration.

You're with the wrong person,

In the wrong job.

You're in the wrong country.

Your lover is in the wrong country.

You have no money to get there.

You don't know what you want.

It feels out of your control.

The obstacle could even be that you don't look how you want to look.

You're in love with someone who's unavailable.

Is your obstacle,

I am unhappy.

Yeah,

I do not understand why.

Put everything down that comes to mind.

Pause this if you need to just get everything that is a stress or a worry onto paper so that it can reside outside of your head just for a moment.

Now time or a lack of time often tends to be one of the big ones.

Notice already that if you're listening to this and not taking the time to write your goals and obstacles down,

Then no wonder you've been using no time as an excuse.

Please take this time.

It took me 20 minutes.

Ready?

Okay.

Next to each and every obstacle,

Can you write down something that you need or could have that would help you work around whatever it is that's in your way?

If you don't know how to reach your goal or you don't know enough to reach your goal,

Then where will you get the knowledge or the know how?

Do you need to study?

Which course?

Do you need to find the money?

Even if you don't have an answer,

Write it down.

Highlight it because if you don't know the solution now,

Eventually you will and you can revisit.

Some of these obstacles might simply be something that is causing you grief or a pain in the neck.

If you have any extras and I'm talking any kind of worry or stress,

Please write them down now too.

We are putting pen to paper so that your mind no longer has to hold onto these things that you may or may not be able to control.

There is an amazing documentary I was watching recently and in it it says that we have 60 to 80,

000 thoughts per day.

As many 70% of those are angry,

Not productive and don't serve us.

So write them all down because we are going to let them go.

And by the way,

When it comes to self love,

Do not abandon or reject yourself based on somebody else's opinion or because you have forgotten who you are whilst running around looking after everyone and everything but yourself.

The very fact you wake up,

Brush your teeth and put on your favourite hoodie is an act of self love.

My teacher Chantie May taught me that.

Don't dramatise it if you're unable to go for your bi-weekly facial because you can't leave the house right now.

That's somebody else doing the work for you anyway.

Self love is much more simple than that.

Pressure to tick a ton of boxes or fear to be someone else makes us a prisoner on this planet.

Get really clear about who you are and whatever else happens,

That can't be changed or challenged.

Even if it's that you feel fatter than you think you should be or want to be richer than you actually are.

This is about the important stuff.

Forgive yourself for any goals and challenges,

Necessary or otherwise,

That you've set that you didn't attain.

Forgive yourself for any goals or challenges,

Necessary or otherwise,

That you did attain but you didn't stop to think,

Is this really what I want?

Holding on to something,

Whether it's anger,

Disappointment,

Fear or frustration is like connecting yourself to it with an umbilical cord.

It could be to yourself or to another person who may have let you down but allowing all of your personal identity to drain out of you and into something or someone or someone's concept of you is not you.

Forgive this and set yourself free.

Just take a big set of scissors and cut whatever it is that's been causing you pain.

For many people the full moon can bring a crazy energy.

If you're thinking about doing some sort of full moon ritual tonight to harness the power of the full moon,

Use your ritual time to ground and practice acceptance.

Use breath.

Please know that you are already total moon energy.

Lunar energy is the feminine.

As men and women we are both made of both the feminine and the masculine but if you're a woman often it can be that we feel so affected,

You know by the full moon because the feminine lunar energy is even stronger for us.

If you're struggling to sleep at this time male or female because it might be full moon,

To try to ignore it may not help.

Tossing and turning,

Forcing yourself to sleep when you're not going to,

It probably is not going to get you anywhere.

Acknowledging this energy would be beneficial with or without any sort of ceremony.

You could do something simple,

Sit or lie down in a sacred space.

In nature would be enough.

Get a pen and paper,

Write down the list of things that you wish to let go.

If you've done the previous exercise you already have half of the work done for you.

You could use crystals and harness the energy.

This is also a very pretty thing to do and the peak of the full moon can be very high energy.

Some people like to place their crystals outside at this time for a cleansing or a cleaning practice.

Perhaps light a candle,

Make some moon water if you feel it would be nurturing for you to do for yourself over the next few days.

I'm no expert,

I just hope this gives you a few ideas.

The full moon is about clearing,

Even detoxing and reflecting on your progress.

You can pop any crystals you have outside under the moon to be cleaned in moonshine if you really wish.

But really this is about a letting go and there doesn't have to be anything ceremonial about this.

Tonight is not the night to set new intentions,

Rather that which you wish to let go.

Weight,

Expectations,

Frustrations,

Disappointments,

Anger,

Sadness,

Stress.

So now return to your list and ask yourself what is holding me back from reaching my goal or my dream?

Is tonight the night to let that go?

Remember that if you feel weird or crazy or struggle to sleep over these three days,

The effect of the full moon can be strong on both a physical and a subtle level.

So go with it.

Don't fly off the handle if your partner upsets you,

Just give that a few days first.

And remember the moon is always full,

It's never half or incomplete.

It's just that now the sun is shining on it for us to see it in this way,

Full,

Whole,

Apparently.

But shadow is on the other side,

We just don't see it on the other side of the planet.

That's okay too,

It will be two weeks before the new moon.

After this full moon the moon will start to wane and shadow begins to cover the moon again,

At least from our view from Earth.

The moon's light wanes,

The moon's light lessens.

Know and accept this entire phase might just be a time of letting go,

However dark or big the shadows may become.

Guys,

If full moon is a time of letting go,

You have two weeks to prepare for new moon.

Let that or it go in preparation for setting all the new stuff.

At new moon this is the time to set new intentions when the light of the moon will begin to wax again and grow.

If you're setting goals without letting go of the crap holding you back,

Then you're just slowing yourself down.

And anyone who knows me knows that I am not a fan of slowing down.

Thanks guys,

I wish you well,

I wish you safe and I wish you settled.

There are so many words I could use to describe this time and I'd still fail.

If somebody approached me last year to tell me that this would happen,

I would have backed away very,

Very slowly.

Nobody else can define how you're experiencing what's happening in your world,

But if you can become clear,

You can handle anything.

My teacher Dharmamitra would say to us in yoga,

Go as far as you can imagine.

I'd be holding a pose thinking,

How could I possibly go any further?

And then I would imagine.

And then there I'd be.

So go as far as you can imagine,

Even if it's only as far as your living room.

Like I said,

At the beginning,

This podcast is about knowing what you need to let go of that,

Which will help you figure out the how.

It's about getting over it,

Moving forward by shedding our fears,

Our shadows,

And the idea that anything could be holding you back at all.

I have friends who created incredibly successful businesses that people thought would instantly fail.

And who's laughing now?

It's about shifting the dead weight.

And I'm not talking about other people,

But yourselves.

You really don't have to get rid of anything.

You just have to remember who you are.

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