Riding The Dragon Of Life Through The Gift Of Now

Hello and welcome to Integrative Wisdom here on Insight Timer.

My name is Verna Fisher and I'm here today to support you in your journey through the moments of grief and loss,

The moments of recognizing that due to outside forces,

Life has changed,

That things have,

They're just not the same.

Whether that's through someone dying,

Whether that's through family moving away,

Whether that's through relationships that are no longer in that closeness that they once were,

The illnesses,

Those moments that rock us,

That shake us off of our stability,

That cause us to feel anxious,

That cause us to feel grief,

That cause us to be sad because we want things the way that they were and not the way that they are.

Right.

The way that we were used to,

We could count on.

Things felt stable.

There was a sense of security.

Now,

We know that things always change.

We know that there is nothing that stays the same.

We know that.

And still,

It's like that little voice inside our head that goes,

Yeah,

But yeah,

But yeah,

But if I do this,

If I do that,

Maybe,

Maybe just maybe I can hold on a little bit longer.

And then and then it's like,

No.

So I have written a reflection that I think helps.

It helped me and it came to me during a meditation.

So I am going to share that with you in this very short video of support,

Support for that anxiety when life changes,

Support for the the grieving,

The sense of loss that we might feel,

The uncertainty that causes us to question.

Right.

So.

Prepare yourself.

If you get that posture,

You can create a mudra.

You can put your hands over your heart because this is a good one for the broken heart.

Whatever it is that you feel called to do during this little bit of time together.

And you can close your eyes.

You don't have to see me.

Close your eyes.

And take your breath.

Make a memory,

They say.

And so we do.

Now it becomes a tradition.

We always do it this way,

We say.

Then things change.

They always do.

We change,

Too.

And suddenly,

Or so it seems,

Our world feels out of sync.

What are we to think?

To do?

To feel?

Emotions abound,

Memories and traditions that once brought joy.

Now bring sadness.

And sometimes even anger.

What are we to do?

To think?

To feel?

Is there a way to graciously figure our way forward?

In this moment,

Can there be light?

Can there be a trust in the promise of good in the world?

There's no doubt that the joy of remembering the things the way they were is a gift.

And yet,

If we are unable to let go of the way things were and accept the way things now are,

Our suffering may overwhelm the joy of this life.

What are we to do then?

Perhaps considering the gift of accepting the now,

The way things are,

Not how we wish or remember them is key.

Perhaps not holding on so tight to the traditions,

The past memories of how things were,

But rather choosing to ride the dragon loosely,

Appreciating those moments that bring us joy,

Honoring those moments that hold loss and sorrow.

And in doing so,

Finding the treasure behind the dragon of life.

Finding the treasure behind the dragon of life.

And so that is my hope,

That is my wish,

That is my desire for anyone who has found their way here,

Who is facing those changes,

Those moments of loss,

Those moments of heart hurt,

That you may be able to think about that.

Okay,

Let me honor the now.

Let me find the gift in this moment.

Let me see the blue sky.

Let me see the beautiful white clouds.

Let me see that flower.

Let me see that child.

Let me feel the memories that do bring me joy.

That is my hope for you.

And I know we can do it.

I know we can be in the now and enjoy all of the gifts that are here in this one amazing life that we have.

Riding the dragon of life.

Blessings and joy in all of life's beauty.

Thank you.

Bye.