I was talking to someone the other day and they were so angry that something didn't work out,
Like they weren't going to be able to do something.
And in my observation,
It was so profound to see this human being giving their joy away to this thing,
This thing in the world.
Oh,
It's not going how you wanted it to go,
So therefore you're going to be miserable.
And I just,
You know,
In that moment,
I thought it was just the most interesting thing that we do that as a human being,
Right?
Because within you,
Whether it's a kindness to yourself,
Right?
Whether it's a love to yourself,
But yet something moves about on the surface.
And now you say that it has the power to steal your joy.
That's such an interesting thing that we do.
Yeah,
That's every sports fan.
But you see,
Like with the sports fan,
They're identified with the outcome.
If my team wins,
It means I'm better than,
Therefore if they lose,
It means I'm less than.
And it doesn't mean that at all.
Not even close.
But you see,
Because we're not wrapped up into that,
It's obvious.
The same mechanism applies to whatever you're wrapped up in that makes you go up and down.
That when it happens or doesn't happen,
You think it means you're good or you think it means you're bad.
You think it means you're lovable or you think it means you're not.
And it's just so wild that we're standing here as a human being,
Totally whole and complete,
Wrapped in a miracle,
And then life moves and then all of a sudden we're unworthy of love.
It's fascinating.
The source of that is the same thing that is the inspiration for all of the problems,
Which is we judge ourselves if we appear to get it wrong.
You're effectively trying to get it right because when you don't do it right,
You think it means you're less than,
You think it means you failed,
Or you think it means you'll lose something that you were supposed to have or you could have if you could do the thing,
Yada,
Yada,
Yada.
And so it becomes serious.
Really what this is,
And I'm sure you've noticed this in yourself,
That there's a place of inquiry that is simply curious.
That's all.
It's just playful curiosity.
Like,
Oh wow,
That's interesting.
Oh wow,
That's amazing.
But then when we're trying to use it,
It becomes serious.
We're afraid of getting it wrong.
It is the judgment of yourself that will make it more difficult to land.
Even if you didn't understand all of these mechanisms of how it works,
If there was just the curiosity without self-judgment,
Then these things would land on their own.
So much of the mechanisms that we're talking about here,
To really map out how this works,
Is just an invitation to not judge yourself.
