And let me,
You know,
Say it from my own experience as if I was just talking to myself.
I'm the only one that's dreaming.
Nobody else is dreaming.
Because there's only the one.
And I'm that one.
And I have dreams of other characters dreaming.
And in fact,
Do you see how if you have a dream where other people are dreaming,
It's no longer one,
Now it's two,
Then we get confused.
We're introducing an unnecessary complexity.
And we are afraid that their dream will interrupt our dream.
You see,
The only way that fear can enter the picture is when there's two.
Which is when there's separation,
When it's no longer one.
If it's only one,
Fear is impossible.
Which is also why saying,
If there's fear,
Then there's an innocent misunderstanding.
Which is the invitation to take a breath,
Come back to the present moment,
And question what's really going on here.
And again,
That can play itself out in a number of ways.
But ultimately,
The message is to just be more honest with yourself about what's really going on.
And as you get more honest with yourself,
You will reduce the complexity,
And it comes closer to one.
The invitation isn't that you have to be at the one all the time.
It's just to reduce separation where we can,
Which is,
You know,
Taking radical responsibility.
And it's not to blame yourself.
That's not the message.
For example,
There's times at least once a month where my partner,
Right,
Gets taken for a ride in the dream.
And in my dream,
It can be very disruptive.
It's the same mechanism,
Maybe not as extreme as other circumstances,
But the mechanism is the same.
Right,
I have my dream where,
Okay,
I got this to do,
I got this to do,
I got this to do,
Everything's fine.
And then in my dream,
My partner takes off in her wild monthly dream.
And it can be dreamed up as an inconvenience.
Which is,
What is it interrupting?
It's interrupting the story of myself that has my shit together.
And now I have to deal with reality called menstrual cycles.
And when I'm not lost in my dream of self-importance,
Then dealing with her dream is infinitely easier.
So her being lost in a dream is the perfect teacher for me.
If I let it,
It's what wakes me up from my dream.
And again,
You know,
In the play of things,
Dealing with other people's dreams,
I don't see it as any different from just dealing with life.
Dealing with an interruption that makes you late for an appointment.
Because in everything that we are dealing with,
What we are experiencing is our relationship to life.
We are experiencing how we see it.
Isn't that interesting?
Because how you see it is the dream.
What am I turning it into?
Right?
And to be caught in the dream,
You think that you're dealing with something outside of yourself.
That's the separation.
But what am I really dealing with?
I'm dealing with how I see it.
What I'm turning it into.
What I think it means.
You're not dealing with other people,
You're dealing with your idea of them.
Which is to say you're dealing with yourself.
Always.
Isn't that fascinating?
Like,
In all of the experiences that you're having day to day,
You're actually just dealing with yourself.
That's wild.
And we give so much power to other things by thinking that we are dealing with other things.
And so now those things have power over us.
And now we want those things to be different.
When it's not really their fault to begin with.
And it takes some real stillness to see that,
Right?
Because we get caught up in that.
In the busyness of our lives.
And in the busyness of our lives,
Which is the busyness of our dreams,
There's 10,
000 things that we think we have to manage.
But when you get still,
It just comes back to the present moment of right now,
Moment by moment,
What's really happening.
