Tips For A Deeper Connection With Your Animal & Healing When They Pass With Rose Proud

Rose Proud, an animal communicator, gives us tips on how to connect deeper with our animals and how to heal when they pass. I was so excited to talk with her to hear how we can heal and move through our grief of losing a fur family member. And how to make sure our connections are pretty fantastic while they are here cuddling with us. I'm sure you'll enjoy her tips and you'll be able to start using them today!

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Welcome to the Beautifully Changed Podcast.

I'm Steph Prejamas and I'm delighted you're here.

Now let's make your relationships awesome.

Happy Tuesday,

You incredible person,

You.

Thank you so much for being here,

Whether it's your first time or you're returning.

I really appreciate the time that you spend with me.

I'm so excited to share today's episode with you because I know many of you are animal lovers just like I am.

And I know that many of us love to be an incredible animal owner,

Human to our animals,

However you want to word it.

And we want to have like a deeper connection with them.

We want to make sure they're happy and fulfilled and that they like their food and they enjoy their walks or they enjoy their home and they enjoy their people.

You know what I mean?

And this is so important for us.

And I know also so many of us are devastated when our animal companion passes.

I've only had dogs as animals,

As pets,

And I currently have fish.

Other than that,

I think my sister had a cat and my dad's had a cat,

But for me it's always been dogs.

And I mean,

Someday I would like to have goats or pigs as well or something like that just to have in my huge yard that I will eventually have someday.

But anyway,

As of right now,

My experience is only losing dogs.

And every time the loss has been incredibly hard.

And my last dog that was a part of our family,

His name was Maddox.

And he passed,

He died three years ago.

And it was very,

Very hard.

It's still very hard.

Like I still cry when I think about Maddox.

And he was such an awesome dog and I miss him all the time.

And Keone misses him and Makio misses him.

And we think about getting another dog and we just haven't yet.

And so at the end of Rose sharing her super helpful tips,

She did a reading for us with me and Keone and her and Maddox.

And I thought I would share it,

But I don't actually think I am going to share it because I would just make this episode so incredibly long.

So I thought,

You know what,

I'm just going to share her tips.

And if you want to hear her doing a reading,

I will share in the show notes.

She does a reading on the Mystic Rebel podcast with Zoe.

And so I will attach that episode in the show notes so that if you want to hear her doing a live reading,

You can go ahead and do that because Zoe has a dog that has passed that Rose connected with and dogs that were currently alive and well and currently in their family.

And so that might be a way more interesting reading to hear.

My reading,

Basically I'll give you the gist of it,

Is that Maddox wants us to get another dog.

He's like,

You know what,

I worked really hard on making sure that Makio knew how to be around dogs and all of this stuff.

And I worked on that relationship with him and taught him about dogs.

And so I don't want that to go wasted.

Like I want him to have a dog and I think he thinks it would be really good for Makio to have a furry companion.

And I 100% agree.

And he was like,

Make sure it's a big dog.

And we're like,

Oh,

That's what we're already talking about.

So after that session,

I actually talked with Keone and Makio and we all agreed that it is time to seriously look for another dog companion that we would like to have as part of our family.

So we're going to keep our eyes and ears open.

And that's pretty exciting.

So this is really cool.

Rose does an online live radio show on the fourth Thursday of every month at 5 p.

M.

Eastern Standard Time.

So people can call in with their questions and she does a session on the air in the moment and it's free.

So I will make sure to link that radio show in the show notes as well so that if you want to call in and ask Rose a question,

You are more than welcome to and you can have some fun with that.

Well,

Now that you're all hyped up and ready to hear Rose share some tips about connecting with your animal on a deeper level and also how to heal when they pass,

Let's go ahead and dive in.

Rose,

I am so delighted and honored to have you on as a guest today on my Beautifully Changed podcast to just hear your wisdom about one of our most beloved relationships that I think we can have while we're spending our time here on this earth with the animal friends that we get to encounter.

Thank you.

I'm really excited to be here.

I appreciate it very much.

Yes.

So I want to first,

Before we dive into the tips that you've created to share with us today,

I'm curious if you can just give a definition or explain for anybody who's listening and isn't quite sure what a pet communicator is.

Okay.

So an animal communicator is someone who can understand the thoughts,

Feelings,

Emotions of an animal and translate that for the person.

So most of the time animals communicate in pictures and feelings.

So as an animal communicator,

We receive that information telepathically and energetically,

And we have trained ourselves and taught ourselves to take that information so that we can put it into words that the people understand and really get their point across as accurately as possible.

I love that.

That's really neat to think about the pictures and the feelings and that you help people understand their animals and the animal needs and just what they're experiencing.

And would it be fair to say then,

So can you do this with,

Like when you go to the zoo Yes.

Wild animals are a little bit different for me anyway,

Maybe not for everybody,

But because I'm not generally communicating with them with their keepers.

So not that some zoos don't hire animal communicators,

And I would love to do that sometime,

But when you're working with someone who it's their pet or their own animal,

They have specific questions or issues,

Things that they want to work on.

When I connect with a wild animal,

Usually I just open up to see if there's anything they want to share.

Sometimes I'll work with them,

Particularly on an issue.

Like I have a snake that likes to live on the shore of my little lake.

And I don't mind that she's there,

But the dogs find her all the time.

And so I encourage her to go to a couple other areas that are less inhabited and I don't want them to get bit and I don't want her to get hurt.

So that kind of communication happens.

She was just there today,

So I've been talking to her again.

I think it's actually an offspring of this other one that I've seen for years.

I think the mom had a nest there.

Oh,

Wow.

That's really,

I love that,

That just giving them,

Is there anything they want to share with the animals in the wild?

Because I just feel like sometimes,

Like if all the animals probably are having some sort of experience and it would kind of be neat to see or to have that moment with them or like you said,

Even protecting the snake,

Right?

Saying like,

I don't want my dogs to get bit.

I don't want you to get injured.

So this section might be better.

Well,

That's really neat and fun.

Do you find that doing this sort of work and this kind of mission is really fulfilling for you?

A hundred percent.

I've done a lot of things.

I'm a hypnotherapist.

I do energy healing.

I always say my first incarnation,

I was a hairdresser.

I also do intuitive readings for people.

But when I work with animals,

You know when you're doing something that you feel like is in alignment with your highest good and your path,

How that feels.

It doesn't ever feel like work.

And it's just so rewarding.

And I feel every day I'm just blessed and amazed that I get to do this.

I'm just so happy that I get to do this.

Yes,

I love this.

And so what would people,

If somebody's listening and they're like,

Oh,

Well,

When would you contact,

Like when would you use a pet communicator or an animal communicator?

So can you share a little bit of like what people reach out to you for?

Sure.

A lot of the time,

It's a behavioral issue.

Litter box issues with cats,

That's a very common one.

Litter box issues with dogs,

Or problems between animals in the home to help bring some harmony back to the home.

Often it's health issues.

If they're not feeling well,

Trying to determine if the treatment that they're receiving,

If they feel like it's a beneficial thing,

Or if they're having any other pain or discomfort that they're not aware of.

So when I work with a medical issue or a physical issue,

I feel what they feel.

And I don't diagnose,

But I can tell you if it's painful,

If it's discomfort,

And how it feels.

And if it's something I'm familiar with,

I might say,

It feels like when I had a pinched nerve or something like that.

And then often that kind of visit or session will turn into when it's getting close to end of life.

A lot of people contact me specifically for that too,

To see if their animal is ready to make their transition and where they are in that process.

They're usually really,

Really clear.

They don't have the hesitation like we do.

And then I work a lot with bringing a new animal into the home,

Helping them feel adjusted and secure,

And working with animals when there's a life change,

Like a new baby or moving or somebody moving in or out of the home,

That type of thing.

Really,

When people ask that,

It's like any time that there is a situation where you would like some explanation for yourself,

Our animals are the same way.

We just sometimes don't remember that they're affected the same way by those kinds of things like we are.

Yeah,

That's such a good point.

And I love that,

That you're available for pretty much any life transition or any stressor or just aging,

All of those sort of things too,

Because I know that I love my animals so much and my friends love their animals so much.

And so it's so,

To me,

It's like empowering to know that there's a service out there that can help me be like a better family member to my animal.

You know what I mean?

So to know that even like the end of life and all of that stuff,

I'm just like,

I think you're going to be one of my new favorite gifts to gift people,

Like a session with you because I just think it's so empowering and really just such a life changer that you can do to make your animal's life more comfortable and know that they're happy and feeling good.

And so that kind of leads me into some of the tips that I know you're going to share with us today.

And I know you're going to start off with sharing tips on how we can connect with our animals more and just like strengthen our connection with our animals.

So if you just want to go ahead and share your first tip with us,

That would be wonderful.

Okay.

So one thing that I have so many animals ask for is what I call intentional attention.

It's really easy to get caught up in our life and we interact with them on a day-to-day basis,

But sometimes to them it feels a little bit like not necessarily an afterthought,

But even when we're petting them,

Maybe we're looking at our phone or we're watching TV or we're thinking about something from work.

And what they often want is that intentional attention like we do when we first get them,

When we're first connecting with them,

Bonding with them.

And it doesn't have to be an hour.

It can be just five or 10 minutes.

What's important to them is the consistency.

And what I find is when people do that,

That really strengthens that connection that's already there and it deepens it.

And when I say intentional attention,

That's being with your animal,

Being really present,

Looking them in the eyes,

Sending them love.

If you're playing,

Be really present with the play.

If you're going for a walk,

Don't listen to music or something else.

Just keep your mind,

Like watch them and see,

Oh,

Look how happy they are.

Feel their joy because they're feeling that connection.

I can't tell you how many times I have animals tell me that that's something that they feel like they're missing.

And they always say it,

Not like,

I want her to do it.

They're not like that.

It's more like,

Well,

As long as you're asking,

I would really appreciate.

They're so gracious.

I mean,

Not that they don't have their personality quirks just like people.

So intentional attention is a really easy way to effectively connect and deepen that connection.

But going for a walk and listening to the music,

That was an aha moment for me.

I would have never even thought about that because I go for a walk every day and a lot of times I don't have an animal right now.

I have fish,

I guess.

I always forget about my fish for some reason.

I apologize because I'm used to having my dog.

Fish are so easy to take care of.

You just feed them,

Say hi to them a little bit.

And then they just clean their water.

You take care of them that way.

But when I had a dog,

I'd go for a walk every single day.

So I still go for a walk.

And I notice that when people are going for a walk,

They have like headphones in all the time.

And that's so interesting to think about just giving that time to bond with your dog if you're going for a walk or something.

That's really insightful.

Thank you for sharing that.

And even if it's only for a portion of the walk,

Because sometimes they like that,

Especially if it's a long walk,

Animals like that zone where you kind of just get into a zone and sniffing and everything.

But even being present with that,

Just watching them and how much joy they have helps them just feel even more connected.

And it's like being acknowledged.

I think we can all understand that.

I can't think of one person who doesn't want intentional attention or acknowledgement.

And so it would make sense that our animal would want that as well.

And that we just think because they're so.

.

.

I love how you said they're not like,

Excuse me,

Pay attention to me.

But they're like,

Since you're asking,

It would be pretty cool.

And it's such like,

I think sometimes because they just like animals,

Especially dogs just seem so chill and loving,

We forget,

Not maliciously,

But we could just think that they don't need that because they're just already happy.

So I love that idea of just putting in,

Making sure like even 10 minutes a day of that intentional attention can really strengthen your bond.

And it also helps you to be more aware when there's a shift in their energy,

If they aren't feeling well,

Or if something's bothering them,

Because you're going to be more aware of how they feel when they're on a normal day to day basis.

So if something shifts for them or something's off,

You're more apt to pick up on that sooner just by having that connection every day.

Yeah,

That makes so much sense.

Okay,

So after intentional attention,

What else can we be doing?

Animals like to be acknowledged.

They like to know that we see them.

They like to know that we think about them.

So for some animals too,

In particular,

They really need to know when something different is going to happen.

And sometimes we don't think to tell them.

So if you have a dog that has a little bit of anxiety around new people,

Let them know when somebody's coming to the house,

Even if it's just a delivery person,

So that they're already prepared.

And the way that you do that is by picturing it happening.

Okay,

So you visualize it in your mind.

Yes,

Yeah.

And if you're not very good at visualizing,

You can still tell them.

But as you tell them,

You're creating a picture even if you don't think you can visualize,

Because that's how they pick up on it.

So often when people are trying to change a behavior or something about their animal,

They're picturing what they don't want to see.

Because they're saying,

I wish you wouldn't bark every time the mailman comes to the door.

So what you're showing them is barking every time the mailman comes to the door.

So they're like,

Oh,

I can do that.

But they really like to be acknowledged.

So if you're going to be moving,

Talk to them about it.

And I always say,

They don't always understand our words,

But they understand our intention.

And by using your words,

They're going to be feeling the intention behind it.

So let them know if there's a change in your schedule and you're going to be having to work longer,

Or if someone's going to come stay with you,

Or have somebody moving out,

That type of acknowledgment is really important to them.

It makes them feel even more a part of the family and heard.

Like I'm important too.

Yeah.

That's so,

I think that's just another thing that we kind of space out to think about.

Oh my gosh,

Rose,

These tips,

Like you've only shared two of them and they're already like mind-blowingly amazing.

So like,

This is so great.

Okay.

And it's like so easy to do like these things that these tips that you're sharing,

They make so much sense when you hear you explain it and they're easy to implement.

Well,

Thank you.

That's good.

It's really just kind of about how we would like to be treated,

Right?

Yeah,

Exactly.

And I think like,

It is really thinking about that.

Cause I'm like,

If we're going to have a guest come over,

I want my husband to tell me,

Like if someone just shows up,

I'm like,

What,

What's happening?

I didn't know the person coming over.

You know?

So it's nice to just get that heads up or like,

I couldn't imagine if I was just like,

My husband came home one day and was like,

Okay,

We're,

We're headed out.

So pack up all your stuff.

We're leaving now.

And then I'd be like,

What?

So yes,

Exactly.

How would we want to be treated?

That's such a great way to say it.

So intentional attention,

Be acknowledged.

The other thing that's really important is to be,

You know,

Kind of check in and be conscious of your own emotions and energy,

Particularly if you feel like all of a sudden they're doing something that's abnormal and often a behavior that we might find slightly annoying.

So if you,

If you take a moment to kind of check in with yourself first,

Like where,

What are you feeling?

Is your energy kind of all over the place or are you really stressed out?

Because they are directly connected to our energy.

So they feel what we feel and they don't always,

You know,

Depending on their personalities,

There's any of those agreements that we have with every animal in our life.

And they're just as varied as people as far as their personalities.

So some animals can handle our stressful energy better than others.

Sometimes that's part of their agreement is to actually help us stay more grounded or to remind us.

But it's really important that,

That,

That we kind of check in and be present with how we feel because that can directly impact them.

And I find,

And you probably know this with your work,

People sometimes have a hard time doing something for themselves,

But they'll do it for their child or their partner or their animal.

And often I feel like they'll do it more for their animal before their child or their partner.

That's true.

That's true.

Yeah.

I can see that.

And animals know this.

And so they,

They're,

They're here to help us be better people,

To help us evolve spiritually and emotionally and mentally.

So it's really important to kind of check in with how you're feeling because if you're feeling awful,

Then it's probably going to affect them on some level too.

Yeah.

I think that's so important.

And as you were telling this,

It reminded me of my dog Maddox,

Who he would,

Anytime I'd get like mad at Keone,

Keone is my husband.

If I was like frustrated at him and Maddox would know right away and he would come over and he'd put his little paw on my leg.

And as soon as he put his paw on my leg,

I was,

I was like,

Oh,

You're right.

Okay.

I'm overreacting.

I need to come from this from a,

Like,

I need to soothe myself.

And it was like an instant,

Like awareness of how I was handling or approaching or feeling about the situation.

And I just,

I mean,

It was like every single time without a question,

He would come over and just like little paw on my hand or upon my knee.

And I wanted to clarify when you said then,

Like if you're,

Whatever you're thinking about.

So is it,

You want to think about what you want them to do versus what you don't want them to do?

Correct.

Okay.

Yeah.

So,

Um,

You know,

If they always bark like my dog,

You heard him a little bit ago,

He's part Chihuahua.

So he has to be vocal.

It's just his personality.

And we have an agreement,

Like he'll bark because there's somebody in the yard,

But it could also be just a leaf blowing across the yard.

You know,

It's just as important.

So what I do for him is I acknowledge that he's telling me something and I,

And I thank him.

And then our agreement is he's allowed to bark two or three times and then he needs,

He can go all he wants to,

Because he still has to,

He's just that energy,

You know,

And that's not so a front of like his bark goes right through you.

And so,

You know,

He gets acknowledgement,

He gets appreciation.

And then that's returned to me by,

You know,

A negotiation that we have where,

You know,

He hears me as well.

And with him,

I,

We kind of have to have that talk a few times a year because it's just so present in his,

In his,

His dogness,

You know,

So sometimes when you negotiate a solution,

You kind of have to revisit it.

It's not always,

Not always a permanent.

That makes sense.

It makes sense.

Like,

Hey,

Are we still doing this?

Is this still our agreement?

Does it,

Does there any wiggle room?

Are we tweaking anything?

What's happening?

So that makes so much sense just as we grow and things change in our lives to go back to it.

I think that's actually,

I mean,

That's probably something that we should be doing in a lot of areas and a lot of relationships in our life is going back retouching our agreements and you know,

All of that to make sure all parties involved are still in favor of it.

And you know,

If they want to change anything or I think,

So that's really cool.

I like that idea.

This is really fun.

I just want,

I don't think I quite answered that question,

But so with him,

Like with us,

We worked,

I worked in a department of mental health,

Vincent hundred Birds' Office,

Is that,

Is that youritutes or somebody that you want to talk to people about causing us to kind of go back to your basic lifestyle and be plantation or whatnot?

Is that how we're doing the state of the art?

Is that what families are doing?

I think it's quite interesting to kind of know what their options are.

Becauserons are basically the sugar that you know,

When they They Ward there's a n tract which are literally formulated to help back the leaf.

Yes,

Yeah or even you know it's okay because you know like I said it's a negotiation so it depends on the personality but what I also show him is how I feel when he only barks a couple times and to tell me because he has to tell me it's just who he is but then I'm like oh thank you and then he's quiet and I'm like ah you know that's kind of the picture I'm sending him because they they want us to be happy they really do and they want they want just to be in a that kind of supportive relationship so an easier example of that is like a friend of mine she had a dog that every time she'd leave he'd get really nervous and he'd start racing around and he he would just have a little bit of separation anxiety so she showed him to just go get his little chewy toy and get up on the couch and chew it and that she would be back home and she said once I sent that picture it's like all of a sudden he got it and he did she was amazed that that he understood her and I always tell people when you're leaving you want to let you want to show them the picture of you coming back in the door they know you're going they feel are getting ready to go energy they already know that and that's why they if they have anxiety about it they start pacing or getting nervous or following us around so what you want to do is picture yourself coming back home that's a very very interesting and helpful and you know what I'm loving about all of these tips that you're giving they're free and you can do them right and so I think about what the anxiety like they have like the Thunder blankets they have all these things that we want to buy to put on or give or surround and I think that's so interesting that your friend just thought about get your squeaky toy jump on the couch just relax enjoy your toy and see like and show them that you're coming back and then they're like okay you know versus like the Thunder blanket but not ever addressing the underlying issue right you know like direction like I think sometimes like a lot of these tips you're sharing I'm just like oh my gosh these are things I would do with my kid in a sense right like with my son I would give him the direction of what I want him to do versus what I don't want him to do because he needs to know what he can do first actually all the things he can't do and also I give him room to like express and be who he is as a person so oh wow this is really like I feel like the next time I have a dog this is all gonna help me so much so that our relationship is even better this is fantastic and everyone who's listening like I cannot wait for people to hear these tips and to start applying them because I don't know and they hear the story so do people tell you after you come and visit with them do you just give so many stories back about how their relationship with our animal has changed I do I and I love to hear you know feedback after or I ask them to keep me updated if we're working on a particular issue and and you know I I really feel like I don't feel like I do this like it this isn't I didn't do that they did it the animal their animal is you know shared with me what they need and they followed through so it's I'm just the I'm just a liaison you know to help help get that information across yeah but I've had some really really wonderful heartwarming stories from people and I just I'm always really grateful when they take the time to let me know how it's going yeah that makes sense it's kind of like you're the bridge right you're the facilitator the bridge of helping them giving them the information that I mean and then it really is because it is up to the person that you're communicating with and like bridging that communication whether or not they're gonna use the information or whether they're just gonna ignore it so right I mean yeah so it's really cool that you're there to show them how this can be done and facilitate that exchange so that if they want to use the information they can and then you get like these incredible stories of how they applied what they learned to pull with you I like that okay so any other things that the animals like the tips on connecting with your animals so we got the intentional attention that be acknowledged be aware of our own energy because they're picking up on it let them know what you want but give room for their personality what else can you be doing so if if someone really is interested in in working on communicating with their their animal on their own a couple things that are really important is first of all I already mentioned this but I'm gonna say it again is really understanding how animals communicate and that is with feeling sensation and pictures so I believe that we all have the ability to do this it's just a matter of learning how you can tap into that that connection and then how you receive your information because we all you know we have different strengths and so some people might kind of feel things more than see things some people might see it or they might actually hear something so it's it's a matter of kind of finding how you first receive the information and then the hardest part I think is trusting it because we tend to doubt we're like oh I probably just made that up yeah and you know it's it's really fun to play with because you know you don't have anything to lose when you're just just trying to connect with them so I tell people if you want it if you want to try this the very first thing that you should do before you start a communication or a connection is take a few moments and and get really grounded and centered so if people don't know what I mean by that what that means is when you're allowing your energy to relax and you don't have to like clear your mind because I know a lot of people have trouble with that but it just kind of being it's actually almost being more aware to me when I ground it's like being really aware of my own self of my energy and and you can do that with breathing exercises you can do that with a type of meditation if you do that some people literally just like to stand on the earth and their bare feet and just kind of do some breathing and that that's very grounding so you're kind of just feeling really calm and comfortable and then think about how much you love them and see where you feel that most of us when we when we feel emotion we feel it somewhere in our around our solar plexus or a heart center so just what I tell people is just bring up where you really feel some people feel more in their mind because they're they're very they think a lot you know so some people it's there but then just see that see a connection from where you feel it from you to them in the same place so if you feel it in your in your heart center then see that connection you can imagine some kind of cord you can just see that both of you are kind of shining there you know it really doesn't matter exactly how you do it it's it's more about putting your intention into it and then you can ask them how they're feeling and just see what comes in do you all of a sudden have a pain somewhere that you didn't have before and if you do then go over and maybe kind of push on that spot or rub it and see if they if they act like it hurts or if it feels good to be massaged you know those it's just I always say start with small things and you can ask a question like do you really like your food and just trust what comes in you know when I for me I hear things I see pictures I feel but mostly what I how I get information is sensation but now I've been doing it so long that I'm aware of other energy or other avenues that it can come in and sometimes the feeling comes in so quickly so strongly it's like the words come with it so I know exactly what to say other times I have to really sit with it for a moment so that I'm understanding what I'm feeling so I accurately enough to to represent what they're trying to tell me to tell their person does that make sense yeah yeah so yes you know sometimes it's like I do hear like oh my gosh no way no no I don't want another dog in the house you know it can just come through like that but it's not like some little funny doggy voice it's my voice oh but I you know I feel it I feel it so intensely that I know exactly what they mean yeah this is a really really good point to Rose because we want to be able to communicate to our animal and also have space for animal to communicate back and right that we can actually practice that is pretty incredible and I think that's probably something right that you actually have to practice the more you do it the easier it'll get definitely I think Lee and if you if you start with just being opening that connection not with any agenda don't start with working on a behavioral issue start with just being open and and let them know I'm here for you I'm here just is there anything you want to share with me you know don't I just think it's a good idea to kind of start with like whenever I start a session and I connect with an animal my energy the first thing that I'm communicating to them is I'm here for you I'm here to be of service and animals they're just there they are so open and their love is so unconditional and it just it kind of opens up the the conversation because they they know that we're not here to just tell them to stop doing something you know so it's I think it's good to start that way and just see what comes in just play with it I like that idea and that we can just play with it and to come off with just like connecting versus trying to change something or address something right away because I think if the I think about this too how we would want to be treated like if the first time I talked to someone and they weren't trying to connect with me at first and they just went right into how I should be changing something to make their life more enjoyable I think I'd be okay exactly so that connection piece is a pretty cool oh man I'm so excited so is this something I could do with a fish yeah I've actually worked with fish before yeah that would be really interesting because I mean even though they're fish and I forgot about like having them as like in this animal but they're so easy-peasy that I didn't mean that in like a disrespectful way it was just like they just have a little space and they're so easy to care for and but I have noticed myself even just like going up and saying hi to them when I feed them they they seem to and I don't know if this is my imagination or not but they seem to come up to the glass and like look out and know that I'm there and I'm there feeding them and I'm saying hi to them and I say goodnight to them and like I encouraged my son like hey let's go over and say hi to the fish and talk to them for a few minutes um so yeah it would be interesting now to try and give space for them to say something back to me like is there water temperature good or you know do they like their food you know stuff like that so that would be really interesting I think I'm gonna definitely try that I have found that with fish often food is very important I mean it's important to any animal but they it's kind of like food more food food more food but you know they if they're an energy being and and they I believe that animals go through a process of evolving just like we do so you could have a dog oh even let's even go with a horse you know a big massive animal that you know horses have such incredible energy and but they could be a very new soul and you could have a little beta fish that has a much older soul so you just you can't I don't believe you can judge it by the type of animal that it is that's a really really good point and I'm glad you said that okay I'm really curious about something then for some reason this question just kind of came to me and I don't know if you know the answer but um whatever your thoughts are on it so if an animal can come because I remember listening to your episode with Zoe and you talked about a story of somebody who was really close to a cat but she was allergic to cat so the cat couldn't come in so the cat came back later it's a dog mm-hmm I believe was the story so animals can come back as other animals but would they do they always stay as animals or do they ever transition into like a different type like a person or do they always just stay animals so my I never professed to know any of this I only know what I experience okay cuz I mean really who really knows I guess until we're until we're in spirit and then we come back and we forget I definitely do believe in reincarnation and animals have solidified that belief for me because of stories like that because I've had so many stories like that where they share you know yeah we were together before and my experience is that they work through their spiritual evolution and ultimately with the goal or end up coming back as a person and I used to have kind of a hard time with that I thought why would why do they want to be us because in a way we kind of we kind of suck but you know it's the only life form at least that we know of on the planet this planet that you truly have free will even wild animals are still impacted by by mankind so that that's the goal for them is to you know work through things to come back as a person and they might choose not to and I believe that people can come back as animals you know if they choose to I mean in the spirit world I think it might be hard to tell if it what you know I don't know if our souls really look any different or do you know what I mean because I don't know what do we look like I don't know but I just I've had I've had a couple animals in this past year that I worked with that told me that their next lifetime they were coming back as people so that was their choice they already knew it that's interesting which so this kind of leads us to the transition if we finished with the connecting with your animal I think it's so important and I'm so appreciative of you being open to sharing tips on how to heal after an animal you love dies because our passes just for my own experience and like my family like people who really really really love their their animals and see them as more than just a pet that they have this really incredible bond with them at the death of that animal it can be so heartbreaking and so much guilt can come from it or all these different things it's such a loss and so I just wanted to give you space to share with us you know some tips on how we can heal when you know an animal that we love so much has passed and you know I work with I work with animals in spirit and sometimes people will contact me because of some guilt you know guilt is has a very heavy emotion and they maybe were upset about how the passing happened or might have been an accident or you know whatever but or they felt like oh I didn't spend enough time I mean we do that with people too but first of all sometimes the loss of an animal almost feels harder to accept than the loss of a person and that immediately for people makes them feel guilty like wow I didn't feel this bad when my mom died you know and then they feel bad about that but you know it's it's a whole it's a it's a different relationship and connection that we share with them and so I always remind people to to be compassionate with themselves because everybody's process is different everybody's grief is different and unfortunately there are a lot of people that don't understand they they just feel like we'll just get another whatever kind of animal it was right and they don't understand how much it hurts and there's no right amount of time there's no period of time that by then you should be quote unquote over it mm-hmm so I you know I just remind people be compassionate with yourself and it's really it's it's important to I think to do some sort of honoring or memorial ceremony you know whatever falls within your your belief system I've had animals show me what they would like and most of the time it's because they know that that's what their person needs like they'll show me one example is that her her pet asked me to tell her to go through old pictures and she wanted her to make like a collage like literally with photographs not just on her phone or the computer right and she wanted her to you know as she looked at those pictures you know make this collage and just you know think about you know how much she loved her she told me later she really she thought that that was gonna be really hard to do but what it did for her is it reminded her of all the good times that they had and all the love that they shared and you know trips she they went on a lot of trips together and so she saw these pictures where they had been on a trip together and it actually helped her heal that's that's what they want for us they want us to remember them in the best ways and so doing some sort of ceremony is real I think is really helpful to someone to help them and I don't want to say move on because then that to some people that sounds like you're not giving it enough attention but to help you process hmm it's a kind of process and it would be fair to say maybe heal a little bit yes definitely yes for healing and sometimes I mean it can be it can be just a week later it can be a year later and all of a sudden you're you know you're you think about them just out of the blue and you start crying and often when you have that emotion especially when it's in a shorter period of time of when they're passing but even when it's a you know years later when you get that that feeling where that grief comes in that sorrow comes in so deeply and you just can't stop crying a lot of the time it's because their energy is right there they come in to help us with healing and to help us you know process through our grief and so when when they're so close to us their spirits right there even though you might not be aware of it that's how you feel it and that's why you get emotional like that okay so it's like them saying like I'm still here and so it's just your way of it that is because you have that intense urge to cry or something so when you're saying that that's really interesting to me and it makes so I mean it makes sense so sometimes I've heard people say like after and I guess I'm sticking with dogs a lot because that's just what I think most people have is an animal as a dog I know there's like so many different types I guess I'm just more familiar with animal like dog stories but people have shared like after their dog has passed that they've seen like fireflies or butterflies or something like that would that or could that be like a symbol of like their energy is still with us even though I know the butterfly is not them but could that go with our energy or is that misguided I believe I believe in signs like that from spirit whether it's people or animals and energy through another animal is really easy for them to borrow like whenever someone that I work with has one of their animals that dies if they have other animals in the home I always tell them to watch and see if one of their other animals exhibits a mannerism that was very particular to the one that passed because they'll often come through that way and it's just the way of saying hey I'm okay here I am sometimes you'll see it a few different times and sometimes it might only be once but I I mean I get confirmation of that 99% of the time I've never even thought of that or even heard of that that they could like like that it's easy for them to borrow the energy that makes so much sense though because if we're all energy and we're connected that that would be something they could do to just be like hey just wanted to say hi you know give you a quick little hug or just to remind you that I'm still here so right you're gonna be it's not it's not like they're possessing them it's more kind of a like an overshadow it's like their energy is there it's an you know it's not forcing the other animal to do that it's just they're open they're open to each other so it's just a way to kind of come in and when you if you do see that please acknowledge it call them by name say I see you I see you scooter you know or whatever their name is because then then they know that you that you feel it and that you see it sometimes you might see out of the corner your eye you see them go around the corner that that you know don't just don't just count that I've had people tell me that they hear them you know like their claws you know dogs on the floor on a hard floor it's like we heard both her and her husband when somebody recently she goes we heard him walking down the hall like he did every night yeah so you know they they have ways to to communicate with us and that they really want us to know that they're okay I think that's a really nice reminder you know when Maddox had passed for me I remember that that same week I actually because he always slept on my feet I literally felt pressure on my feet and I was like I feel you're on my feet right now like exactly it felt exactly like how it felt when he would sleep on my feet so I was like oh but I also truly believe in the spiritual and the energy so I was like oh you came to say hi you know and I thought that was a really really great thing um so I guess a question like what are some questions people have around the death is it more of are they okay are they really upset that they are dying are they gonna be okay and are they okay everybody asks are they okay are they happy and everybody asked even when we're working on a session where the animal is still you know alive I just want them to know how much I love them I think almost everybody says that and and it I understand but the thing is they already know they know but you know it's just I think when when they're working with me they just know that I can tell them again so they just you know they because we do love them so much yeah and if they had you know if you had a chance to see them again that's the first thing that you would probably say people or animals yeah and I think it's also that just that reassurance like hey I'm I just want to know that they know that so if you can just let them know because then it helps you know and I think it relieves some of that guilt and that you know because sometimes the end of life is really hard because we as you said sometimes we can love our animal more well not more if you didn't say that you said sometimes the death of an animal could be harder than a death of someone that you know else in our life that we have lost and I think part of that is because we don't know like did they know that we loved them you know I and so I think you being able to offer that gift that time is really a powerful thing that you can and you know they you were asking like what what do people ask and they often want to know if they're passing if they were uncomfortable especially if it was a you know like a traumatic you know an emergency situation or you know something happened like hit by a car that kind of thing and what I often find too is they'll tell me what their person is holding even if the person doesn't tell me when I say holding I mean emotionally and they'll say you know tell her that I didn't feel anything I'm like so you're worried that he was in pain yes you know because sometimes sometimes it's almost too hard to even voice that question yeah so that when when it's something that's really weighing on you often the animals they tell me so that I can give that information to the person because that's what they need to hear they don't want us to hang on to anything you know they they're so present in the moment when they're alive there and they're still that way in spirit they just want to keep reminding us that that's more important yeah that's really that's really nice that they're just so so loving you know they're always comforting okay so this is another question that I think I hear people struggle with themselves is how long to wait if they want to get another animal right like is there and I know you said earlier that there's no you know there's no amount of time to that you have to give yourself okay by this time you should no longer feel sad that your animal left you know pot like pass so what about when people are struggling with you know oh did I get a dog too soon or should I do I need to wait like two years before I get another dog or did you know that is this making sense mm-hmm yeah I know what you're yeah so they there's not there's not any amount of time really and they you know animals often will tell me that like they never feel like they're being replaced you know people are like I'm just afraid if I get another dog they'll think I'm trying to replace him but they know they're not and I've had them tell me you know you were so wonderful to be with why would you not give that to someone else so open and that's one of my things that I have here on my little notes is you know open one way you can work through you know your process is allowing yourself to open your heart to another they never look at it like we're replacing them they don't look at it as you know an insult to the relationship that we had with them and sometimes they know that that's exactly what we need and if you don't feel like you're ready you know we all have our own time frame but you could you could just maybe volunteer at a shelter and give some attention to animals or offer to pet sit for a friend or someone you know just so you have that interaction with animal energy and that that can help you heal on so many levels just being around another animal even if you're not quite ready to you know commit to bringing another one into your life they just recently I worked with a really sweet sweet old dog and he he was really adamant about them getting another dog very quickly because of their daughter okay and he he just felt like that's what she was really gonna need and their last I knew they were kind of looking he said he'd help you know animals will help us select and connect with another one my dog that I have now was I was directed to him from my previous dog and I love all animals but I've always had medium to bigger dogs I've never had a little teeny dog and you know he's part Chihuahua so he's 10 pounds and I always called him little rat dogs again not that I don't like them you know I just I just never saw myself as a little dog person and when I saw his picture somebody was trying to rehome him it was instant I'm like that's my dog and she even told me how small he was and I swear I didn't it didn't register and then I got over there to meet him and at that time he was only six pounds because he was only eight months old and I was like oh oh you're so small and he didn't bark once which is amazing but you know I'm sure scooter was telling him shh don't bark quiet quiet so I went in and I sat down in her house and he came over to me he jumped up he circled around three times laid down and then crossed his little front paws and turned his head and looked up at me which is what scooter always did my vet used to call him the perfect gentleman because he would always cross his front paws and then look up at you like all distinguished it's as soon as he did that I said okay scooter I hear you that's really interesting to think about that they can help us pick then the next animal for us and would that be then we would have to just kind of pay attention as you said like notice how you're feeling when you're looking or when you're around the animal and how you said you notice that this pup did the same thing that scooter did so you're like okay so is that kind of how you would know that you're getting like directed or helped out yeah and I you know it's not always that they'll do something that the other dog did like what my experience was but scooter had to be really clear with me because I had already decided as soon as I saw him I'll take him but I'm you know I do a lot with rescue but I will I'm I'll probably just find him a really good home okay you know because I was just thinking I wanted a little bit bigger dog yeah but after that in the 10-minute drive to my house he was completely mine so but it so it's not always as clear as as that but if you allow yourself to really go with your feeling sometimes it's just something in their eyes or they come up the way they've come up to you or they lean against you I mean it's to me it's really a sense of knowing like you feel this connection to an animal you just met sometimes you know it is an animal that you've been with before they do come back to us not always but it's possible and if it's gonna happen you don't have to orchestrate it you don't have to try to make it happen you have to say what kind of dog you know be you tell it you know when are you gonna be born what color it'll just happen you know you divine orchestrates the whole thing and all of a sudden it can be weird circumstances I had a woman I was working with and her dog told me they'd been together before and so I was asking her about her previous dogs and we you know who it was and she's the way she got her dog her boyfriend was working out of town out of state and saw this dog's picture in a paper like you know how they'll advertise shelter dogs yeah and just was like oh my gosh I have to get that for her like he he just you know what it wasn't even like him to be that way and he did he just felt compelled to go and adopt that dog and take them home to his girlfriend Wow so is it can animals pick you Oh definitely and you would probably notice that because they're like making it obvious they want to be in your presence in a sense right yeah don't mean up to you right right and and you know being open to that too is is really beautiful because like I mentioned earlier we have agreements on a soul level so there's there's something that that you can do for them and that they're gonna do for you it might be just the right thing that you need at that moment whether or not you know it yet and the lessons aren't always all you know frilly and rosy and you know sometimes they're here to teach us patience hmm things like that that are sometimes a little bit more difficult what we might perceive to be difficult yeah that's a really good point that it's not always just about oh this is gonna be really fun and we're gonna enjoy the moment it could be patience it could be love like letting somebody love you or you know I think a huge lesson to learn and I think it feels safe to let an animal love you versus sometimes letting a person love you so that to me makes it seem like yeah there is like all these I love that too that they're gonna grow somehow and we're gonna grow somehow and it's like the two of us coming together is what facilitates that growth mm-hmm that's really that's really insightful and fun to think about even if it can be a painful process because losing your animal is very heartbreaking so I really do like your points of like being compassionate with yourself having something that honors them or Memorial open your heart to loving another animal was there anything else that you had that you wanted to share on healing from the loss I would I just would like to mention I have a friend here where I live in North Carolina who she does a once a month honoring pet honoring memorial service that you can do online you can send in a picture email her a picture of your pet and she'll print it out she makes a beautiful altar with all the different pets she posts online who is being honored that that month she does it the second Sunday of every month at 11 a.

M.

Eastern Time she also has the ability of if you want to call in that you can listen to it and she's talking about recording them I don't think she started doing that yet but I'm for a while I was going to her she asked her little studio where she would do it and I would just go and hold space with her and and but she does this as a service there's no charge it's and it's so beautiful and it it can be so healing and even if you don't want to listen that I know that there's a shift in the energy for the person just by the ceremony that she does her websites honoring our pets calm so it's really easy and her name is Lee le IGH but you know for someone who wants to do something but doesn't know what to do here's something else set up for you and I just can't stress how beautiful and wonderful it is and her energy that she puts into it is so full of love and light it's just I mean it moves me to tears every time so she's and it doesn't matter how long it's been I started with I decided I was going to honor every single animal I've had in my lifetime which has been like 14 you know since I was a child so it doesn't matter how long it's been yeah I do that I love hearing that rose that it doesn't matter how much time has passed because I mean that sometimes it's just nice to have that permission right because sometimes we move like oh this like six months have passed I should be fine now and just like move forward and then we try to like sweep it under the rug and that affects us right when we don't write let ourselves love and feel the grief and you know all of that stuff we got it it's there for a reason and so we have to fill it and so I love that you can even honor the animals from your childhood it makes me think of like several pets of mine where I'm like oh my gosh this would be really cool to do because I didn't really do a memorial like I didn't really know how to grieve from the loss of them besides to cry and to miss them so I love having that idea that's really cool and I love that I can be from anywhere so even though I'm in Arizona I could still participate in your friends Memorial right she has more people you know do it distantly then actually come well now with the COVID of course we can't do it in person anyway but yeah it's I just can't say enough good things about about it it's very very healing it sounds incredible and so I love that you were able to share about your friend and I'm curious if you can share for anybody who's listening that just felt really connected and wants to work with you deeper or even just be in your energy presence where can people connect with you my website is Rose proud calm I'm on Instagram and Facebook is animal communicator Rose my email is pet messenger at gmail.

Com so any any of those avenues I do prefer when we're scheduling and everything if I try to channel everybody through email because it's just easier than having you know three different places to stay track of track of so I do prefer that but you know you can get information about me on my website or Facebook or I'm not I'm still new to Instagram so I'm still figuring that out.

Yeah I'm not new to Instagram I've been on there for like four years and I'm still figuring it out so it's definitely a system to figure out so just to clarify also people can connect with you and have you help them connect with their animal even if it's over like they could live anywhere right like because it's over the phone where you'll actually do the session or do they have to be in person?

No no I can do it anywhere in fact the majority of my sessions are over the phone I don't do very many home visits okay just because of the time as well as you know it's just easier to schedule for people if if they're available over the phone.

I do some events here and there and you know eventually I like to I picture myself traveling around so who knows I might come to your area sometime and you know you can do in person that way but I've worked with people all of the United States in Norway,

England,

One other country,

India I think it was India so as long as we you know as long as we have a phone connection or whatsapp or some way to communicate there's there's no problem because when you're connecting telepathically energetically there's no distance that's too great.

Some people have a hard time understanding how you know how can you do that when you know you're not right there with them and I actually sometimes find it a little more distracting when I'm right there with them because I'm petting them and looking at their cute face and kissing their head and you know yeah and I have to I have to close my eyes and not look at them so I can really go within to communicate.

Yeah that makes sense because when they're right there you just want to love on them and you know gotta be like way more disciplined with yourself and be like Rose bring it in we're here to work not play right?

Right.

Rose thank you so much for just your time your energy your really really helpful tips I know that it's gonna make us better family members to any dog that comes into our home and anybody who's listening so just thank you so much for your time and just sharing this space with.

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