Self-Respect

You are worth thinking about! Make time every day to be with your positive self. Think about your inner resources. If you have very low self-respect, then you might experience some of these things...
Arrogance or feeling worthless or critical of others or anger. How can I have the willpower to change old thinking patterns? I know I only want to express positive values in my life?

Transcript

I'm Shanti and good evening and welcome to Soul to Soul and this is Rose from the Brahma Kumaris in Glasgow and it's such a wonderful topic it's our foundation actually it's self-respect.

We forget that we're so worthy of self-respect because only ourselves know our journey and we know what we've gone through and here we are we're okay even if we think we're a little bit not okay we're still dramatically okay so just to think about it the value of the self you are worth thinking about so make time every day to be with your own positive self think about your inner strengths and resources think about it what you have inside how you can just go and do something how you can pull yourself together you can if you have very low self-respect then you might experience some of these things here's what you might experience so have a check and do your best not to go there anymore arrogance because if you feel self-respect you'll try to prove you're great feeling worthless critical of others so if we feel we're not up to much it's a funny habit we'll pull other people down which will make you think will make us feel better but it doesn't makes us feel guilty we might have anger so how can I then have the willpower to change old thinking patterns I know that I only want to express positive values in my life that's what we really want to be we want to get it right however it does seem that we have to relearn everyone does actually all the sort of positive people all the so-called clever people all the big spiritual people have had to relearn all of these things and so for that we need power and if we're very sensible we realize that we need the inner power because without the inner power we feel that we don't have the strength to control anything so we do need the inner power so the drama lives very clever it eventually gets us around to this so that we eventually have to give in actually and say well if I want the good things I have to relearn how to create or recreate those good things in myself nobody else need to know about it it's our own quiet journey so you get to know yourself again it's a wonder to get to know the self slowly slowly getting to know that yeah I can do that yeah yeah that maybe that is me I begin to start to recognize nice things in myself and this can make us feel happy because we think oh sure I didn't know I had that the real you is a beautiful soul and and you set yourself free so you get free from all these oppressive energies it does take time I have to rediscover these in myself and when I rediscover them I need to practice them quite often worked were quite anxious to practice them and you deserve this so respect yourself because you're wonderful no matter how it is before we start looking at that we are wonderful and so you learn that you can choose the quality of your thoughts and feelings and your mind then creates a quality experience you feel good about it you're becoming a higher energy personality and actually once you feel this you don't want to go back to the old way although you will from time to time because it's a habit but you'll be want to pull yourself you'll want very quickly to pull yourself out of the old habit the souls have so much to be to be adventurous and calm and careful caring cheerful compassionate confident cooperative to be generous gentle happy all these lovely qualities are all inside of us bursting together helpful loving patient peaceful positive sincere steady unshakable warm and wise so how do I get like this how to get these all back through meditation but just so important for the mind I can start to take back control of the mind and create the thoughts that I want and there's less and less of that negative influence and I can wonder at the very beginning how it is that I do smile more and I'm kinder and I'm not so quick to go down that other track and it makes me feel lighter-hearted and I can feel that there's there is such a difference in me and I maybe want others to see the difference and maybe they don't seem to to begin with but I I know and so if I'm lucky enough to know that it's to practice meditation every day every day because I've been practicing all the other stuff every day for a long time and it's become very firm so I need to do this every day to start to put this to the front I'm so worthy of self-respect respecting myself and allow my mind to create a quality experience get to know yourself again because the real you is a beautiful soul and it's up to the self to set a self free so start to see yourself as the ruler of your inner world see yourself as a very wise and kind ruler I govern the quality of thoughts I want in my mind and keep reminding yourself that you are a thinking being you think and you can make decisions so pay attention to your thoughts to the way you think and create more and more positive thoughts and tell yourself because you're teaching yourself not to be daunted when negative things come along because we've been using that energy for a long long time but do your best not to go there it can poke its head up but try not to buy into it and even if you forget and it's your way there into that energy pattern now that we know different we can pull out and back paddle if you feel like or backpedal I've experienced that a lot at the beginning I would just pull back and start changing the words I was about to say and it's better than not having seen it at all actually it teaches you how quickly the old can pop in especially the critical of others or especially the annoyance or the anger or the agitation and so we could say so how can I have the willpower to change these old thinking patterns and I know that I only want to express positive values in my life but I do need to relearn and if I have enough non arrogance we could call it humility to know that I have to learn naturally to bring them back bring the good qualities back and be aware that I actually created all these old energy patterns on my journey and so they're there they're already created in the soul and they're bound to keep bouncing back the good news is that eventually they lose their power and eventually you're more able to put forward that which you would like to be expressing as you out into the world you want to express the best of you out into the world so have that self-respect that you are a beautiful being a beautiful energy and get to know yourself again as this beautiful soul if you could keep that really sincere in your heart you would set yourself free not totally completely free from the influence the negativity which will pop up but you'll feel not so daunted and know that you have the power to step back and not be so affected and think of solutions and keep putting forward the nice things so that the image that you're creating now of yourself to yourself but also to the world and the people around you is of a nicer personality they start to trust you and you start to respect yourself and more and more you choose the quality of your thoughts and your actions and your feelings and your mind gets used to the newness to create experiences of quality okay lovely to think of almost learning to be myself again it's like I got lost and I like when you said something like that the drama life was wonderful because in a way it kind of forces us back round to that time when we want to we think there must be more something's not right yeah so almost gets you in a corner and you have to look at yourself yeah but you also said it takes time so it's not just like an instant realisation yeah it's like you reach a stage where you think I can't go there anymore because I'm sure most of us will be able to resonate with this that you think come this same thing keeps happening excuse me within relationships you think that's what happened before and everything just fell to pieces now it's happening again and you think that I'm doing my best for it not to happen but you can't because you haven't been able to change your energy you'll still be sharp you'll still be discouraged you'll still be jealous you'll still be agitated and so it cannot go back to wonder again but we want life to go back to wonder so somehow you're correct there the drama will encourage us to look closely how to go back to wonder sometimes absolutely absolutely box our ears just really really shake us to pieces before we'll go oh okay yeah but never to get discouraged it seems that we just almost trundle through life with our eyes closed in a sense and so this relearning who we are it's like opening our eyes again it made me think about just thinking the whole purpose of of life of being a being why am I here and then all the lovely things you said I could be well what happens you see we've got used to waiting to see what others are going to say or what others are going to do to respond to what others what we think others want me to be and if I don't have the energy to be that because I've run out energy I've forgotten I'm a soul and it takes time to realize I can create my own responses now it takes time for that to get through because even when I start on a positive journey I'm still waiting on the prompts coming from out there and more and more as I become aware that I'm the energy I can make my own prompts for myself for my own journey that is a wonder then you're going back to who you are is that where meditation comes in it's almost like what you're describing is something that's very old and rusty inside in the thinking or frozen and then meditation just softens that up loosens that up and I remember again I can think yeah that's it you can think your way through and I have to hold on to the hope and the understanding of the self as being this good person and encourage the self and not get too defeated by what's being prompted to me out there because you see what's happening is people have got habits of bossing each other there's a lot of people might think that they used to boss you about and what's happened now they're not bossing you so easily and this can cause a bit of an energy surge in a funny way as well you have to hold on to who you are and who you wish to be and encourage yourself in that way and kind of go beyond the negative bits of public opinion so it's almost redefining good in a sense to that it's like I am careful with my with my energy I'm careful with my thoughts I don't want to hurt myself or others and if I just keep on that track yeah and even people who used to think they could boss you about you're not doing them any favors in allowing them to continue to do that because they're harming their selves and so it's good to quietly and peacefully just be who you are and and if that causes a problem then that's just the way it is but I have to pull out of that I can't let it keep going on so and I'm sure all of us will have gone through these experiences where you have to say no I can't go there anymore I just can't go there anymore but sometimes we would have done that but we didn't know the solution and then we get pulled back into another area which was just as bad but now we know the solution it's to be the one that prompts the self give myself good advice that's it okay anything else I think if you could just touch on the divine so if I learned to care for myself how does that relate to how God or the divine has care for me so if it's within our fortune to realize that when I become conscious I'm a soul then it also can enable me to realize that the one above is also a soul and that that one has nothing in them except to support me and has all my best interests at heart and so I can hold on to that one and in meditation I can tell all my troubles and all my despair and how I feel weak and how I'm not able to and I don't know what to do but this is very positive kind of weeping and wailing to begin with because I'm focusing it in the right direction and somehow my strength will will begin to grow and I'll more and more become my own self because I won't feel powerless I'll feel I have a support I have a friend even if others have stopped being my friend which sometimes it can happen but they were not really my friend because they also don't understand so maybe I can help them to understand and maybe not but the important thing is my own self-respect has to come to the front I have to realize how worthy I am I am very worthy I have wonderful qualities inside me and they need to shine.

Om Shanti.

So now we'll do a few minutes meditation just to sit calm and focused keep your eyes open focus on the self as the living light in the center of the forehead the beautiful being has been on a long journey and has many many qualities within through meditation I can find these qualities again and these qualities are my power these qualities are my happiness these qualities are my friends these are my strength and my support and these qualities are my self-worth my self-image who I am in the center of the forehead is this beautiful beautiful generous gentle happy loving peaceful energy unshakable warm sincere wise every every positive quality we can think of is within I the soul so take back the control of the power of your mind and create the thoughts you want and less and less will the old influences be able to intrude on I the soul a being a beautiful being of love caring and cheerful calm and careful and adventurous and wise and the mind flourishes like a flower with these qualities and with the stillness of meditation a being of peace and remembering the highest the supreme the purest energy the ocean of peace the ocean of love the ocean of happiness this energy set the soul free free from sorrow free from worry whose beautiful energies belong to the soul I am a soul and these energies below to I the soul shanti you you

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Thank you for this teaching which spoke to my soul. I am eternally grateful.