You Are Not Broken

Every entrepreneur finds themselves on a fast track of self-discovery. This often leads to you feeling you are not good enough, especially when an entire industry surrounds you that tells you what you need to fix. This talk will show you how to dissolve the illusion of being broken and provides you with a practical energy tool to release any doubts, fears or worries which are holding you back.

Transcript

How often have you told yourself you're broken?

That you need to fix some part of yourself?

And how often have you heard that message coming at you from other people?

The one thing you need to fix before you can attain your goal is a common messaging strategy,

And it's one that pervades our subconscious and influences everything we do and think,

If we let it.

I want to share with you some context and tips that will show you how unbroken you really are,

So your confidence can soar.

I'm Polly Hearsey,

I'm a business design mentor,

But I work a little differently.

I work with energy and natural principles to unravel existing business models and restore them to their innate patterning,

Where you get to be yourself,

Follow your intuition and deliver on that burning vision within.

I spend a lot of time in nature exploring how it is so abundant,

Creative and vital,

And then apply this insight into business principles.

I look at how energy moves and is expressed through form,

And work with my clients to intuitively understand the frequencies that are part of their naturally abundant,

Infinitely creative business.

Do you remember that moment that you decided to go for it and start your business?

I mean,

It could feel like eons ago,

And it could feel like yesterday,

But do you recall the feeling in your body when you told yourself you would go for it?

There was a surge of energy at that point which connected you to your full power and potential.

Your body remembers that feeling.

It's been ready to hold it ever since.

But here's what typically happens next.

You start to think how you will make it happen.

Your mind scans 360 degrees,

Looking for all the issues you will face and the risks ahead of you.

You start to lose confidence in your knowledge.

You begin to doubt your ability.

You begin a long journey of looking for reassurance around you.

Every doubt that crops up,

You seek someone who can tell you how to address it.

Every time you stumble,

You scan your horizon for someone else who can reflect back to you how it felt and how they fixed it.

We all do it.

It doesn't really seem to matter how skilled you are in your field or how much experience you have under your belt.

This deeply intimate and personal expression of who you are,

Aka your business,

Hurtles you headlong into a series of doubts,

Worries,

Feelings which stand between you and that energy you felt when you made the decision.

It's almost a rite of passage.

And you inevitably begin to think you need fixing.

It's all down to you and where you are failing.

You are the problem.

And yet,

Every time you fix a problem,

Another one comes round the corner.

It's discouraging,

It's disempowering,

Exhausting.

And I'm here to tell you,

You are not broken.

You are cracking open and breaking through.

Every time you make a decision or choice to do anything new,

You are in uncharted waters.

For you.

You don't know what lies ahead,

Nor how you will cope.

It's this unknowing that creates a wall of doubts,

Anxieties and fears between where you are and where you want to be.

And it's this that tells you how broken you are.

And you assume you are on one side of this wall and what you want is on the other.

I've been there,

We all have.

But here's what I learnt the hard way.

The doubts aren't in front of you.

They are all around you because you are in the process of moving through them.

It can feel overwhelming and insurmountable and lead to paralysis.

But every time you feel like this,

It is because you are in the thick of the transformation.

You are in the process of changing your sense of identity,

Upgrading your skill set,

Transforming your mindset.

So when you feel overwhelmed and in need of fixing,

The very first thing you can do is to make a list of every small step you can take to keep moving.

It could be creating a simple set of affirmations you can repeat to yourself every day.

It could be looking for evidence that you've got this under control.

Or asking for reflections of your strengths.

It could be making a start on the thing you are finding challenging or too big.

Take the most of your project management skills to break that big thing down into the smallest of small steps so you are able to take action.

In that action,

You will find the proof that your doubts are illusions.

In the action,

You will find confirmation of your ability,

Capability and capacity to move on through.

Feel the fear and do it anyway is too big.

Try,

See the fear and chip away at it.

It will keep you moving and this will keep you believing in yourself.

And that's step one.

Transformation is an unbecoming.

The person you are now is not the person you will be on the other side.

This in itself creates all kinds of anxieties.

What if the people that are important in your life don't like the new you?

What if you are so left field that you are ridiculed or rejected?

What if you lose all your credibility?

Is this sounding familiar?

Your sense of identity and the relationships that build around it is constantly evolving.

Simply through the unfolding of life.

You are always in a process of unbecoming to become.

Think of every time you started a new school or changed jobs or met someone new.

Every single time you learned something new about yourself and you evolved.

Maybe you entered a long-term relationship.

Maybe you entered a long-term relationship or became a parent.

Your old identity was reshaped.

You became more.

Life is a series of transformations.

It's the hero's journey every single day.

Evolving your identity as an entrepreneur is a natural process of life.

It's natural to change and to reshape your business,

Your work,

Your message over time.

Every piece of work you do in your business leads to something new.

This is how growth works.

Transformation is essential to the health of your business and to you as an entrepreneur.

It's a becoming,

A cracking open.

It's not an end in itself because it is the journey itself.

If you look at the hero's journey,

There are a series of points in the story arc that will relate wholeheartedly with the entrepreneur's journey.

You will feel the pull of inspiration to take you out of your comfort zone and then you will face the fiery dragon of doubt.

You will make it through and you will begin all over again as a transformed person.

I know you have this within you because you simply would not have had the notion to start your business if you didn't.

You have everything you need to create what you want already.

You were never broken,

But you were transforming and that can feel like it.

As an entrepreneur,

You have to be a lot of things to a lot of people and this path you have chosen is deeply intimate.

It's about who you are as a person and what you believe you can be.

A business is a statement of identity and self-belief.

Have you ever wondered why highly visible entrepreneurs are accused of being arrogant?

It's because a healthy dose of hubris is essential to get you through the transformation process.

A lot of the time,

Hubris and arrogance are confused.

Developing this hubris triggers a huge amount of societal conditioning about not being above yourself,

Thinking you are better than everyone else and so much more.

You don't want to be in the middle of all of this.

You don't want to be that person.

You want to be nice.

You want to be accepted,

So you hold back.

There is a huge difference between believing in yourself and putting yourself above others.

Self-belief gives you the impetus and fuel to take the actions you need to,

To do what you want to.

It doesn't change your values.

Only you can change your values or leave them behind.

That's a conscious decision.

But how others see you has the potential to impact your actions and behaviour.

If you want to fit in,

If you want to be accepted or avoid rejection,

Be liked more than you want to create your business on your own terms,

As a reflection of who you are,

Then you will not be guided by your own internal compass.

You will be guided by everything outside of you.

This still does not mean you are broken.

It means you are working it out.

At some point,

The need to drive your business forward will become more important to you and you will surge forward.

And then you need some tools to deal with that conditioning.

Wherever your doubts or anxieties emerge from,

There is an impact on your body.

Simply put,

Your energy is held in ways that reflect the belief,

The doubt or anxiety in your cells.

This means your electrical circuitry is created with these anxieties as part of your system.

Mindset work is really valuable to help you identify where you may influence yourself in particular ways.

But to get your mind to overwrite your body is a long,

Long process.

It's not one that works particularly well for me.

I've done a lot of mindset work over the years.

But it has only ever made me aware of my patterns.

It hasn't helped me to break them.

It took me a long time to disengage from a mindset-only approach,

To understand that my vision for my business is actually written into my DNA.

It's part of who I am.

And I needed to work with this patterning rather than the interference of my mind.

Fundamentally,

It's a natural part of my energy.

And if I allow my energy to flow it's a natural part of my energy.

And if I allow my energy system to be governed by this,

Then I can act in different ways.

I have worked with this approach with many clients and students and they all report back how freeing it is to restore their energy system to its factory settings.

Well,

Almost.

It's actually a graduated reset.

Because we don't always know what else we need to remove until we stretch ourselves that little bit further.

I'm going to share with you a three-step process to help you reset your energy to operate without the doubts you currently hold.

Then,

As you move further along your path,

You can rinse and repeat.

The first step is to identify the problem.

You're probably aware of this,

At least the outward manifestation of the problem.

It could be that you question the value of what you want to say or offer.

Perhaps you fear people taking you up on that offer.

Perhaps you compare yourself to others even though you know they are at a different stage of their journey.

Do you berate yourself for not being further along?

Does sharing your message terrify you?

Does doing a live video make you melt into a puddle?

Does tech freak you out?

Maybe working with clients exhausts you and you secretly fear the idea of being fully booked.

All and any of these are expressions of a fear that is within.

It's in your body and written into your cells and it's having an impact on your energy which is impacting your thoughts and behavior,

Perpetuating the pattern.

Even though you desperately want to break that pattern,

You find it repeating over and over.

So,

I invite you now to take a deep breath and focus on how that breath travels deep into your belly.

Feel your belly rise and fall.

Follow the breath in and out.

Become deeply aware of your body,

Connected to it through your breath and keep your focus here.

And then bring that pattern,

That fear,

That anxiety that you want to break free from into your awareness.

Focus on your body.

Where are you feeling it and how are you feeling it?

Does it feel like a pressure or a contraction,

Maybe a pain or an emptiness?

All you need to do is notice how this affects your body and the emotions this brings up.

You are becoming aware of the energetic impact of that doubt,

Fear or anxiety.

And perhaps you will remember other times when your body has reacted this way,

But you've brushed it aside because you were focusing on something.

It's a familiar sensation,

Isn't it?

You know it well.

And how do you normally respond when you feel this?

That's the first step to disrupting the pattern.

Now you are in a position to take control.

You can feel the impact on your energy.

You can consciously remember the sensations and remember where it comes from.

And now you know this,

You can let go.

Whether or not you have experience of doing energy work is not important.

You are in charge of your own energy and can make decisions about it for yourself.

We aren't going to just let it go because that's not enough to believe it's gone.

It needs to be released from your body as well as your mind.

The reaction to the fear or doubt anxiety is held in your thinking and your body.

It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy that because you feel a certain way you act accordingly,

And that's how patterns become established.

It's a feedback loop that starts in your body and your mind makes the links between situations,

Responses and outcomes.

Breaking the pattern begins with changing your response to the stimulus.

This doesn't happen in your mind,

So the reprogramming has to happen in your body.

Come back to your breathing,

Connecting back to your body,

Feeling that anxiety in your body.

Focus on it.

Follow it down to its source in your body and keep going as far as you can.

The energy of the response is held in your cells and you have autonomy over what happens in your cells.

So perhaps you can follow this feeling all the way down to those cells.

Perhaps you can't go that far.

That's okay.

Your intention to travel to your cells is enough.

Focus on the sensations of this doubt,

Anxiety or fear and ask them to lift out of your body.

Begin to feel them lifting out of your cells,

Through your organs,

Blood,

Bones and finally outside of your body.

When you can feel that they have left,

Send them on their way.

Your time with them is done.

They've helped to shape you,

But now you are making different choices.

You're walking a different path.

So spend a few minutes breathing slowly in and out.

Get to know what your body feels like without this doubt in your energy.

Feel free to press the pause button right now and restart this audio when you're ready.

You can spend days or weeks if you like in this state of neutrality,

Just getting used to life without this doubt.

Or you can spend a few moments readjusting,

Reconnecting to your body,

Finding your balance,

Feeling into a new norm.

Do what works for you in this moment.

If you want to test it out,

Invite that fear back into your awareness and listen to your body's response.

If necessary,

Repeat the process of lifting it out.

Often there is an echo left that needs to be let go.

You have exercised autonomy over your energy system.

You've made a choice.

Now you have another choice to make.

Everything you need to be to make your vision a reality already exists within you,

At least at an energetic level.

You are your future self at a cellular level.

Your DNA holds all the wisdom you need to tap into.

It's right there.

What's to stop you from being that future you right now?

For a moment,

Come back to that moment you chose to start your business and that rush of energy that came with the decision.

Breathe into this remembrance for a minute.

See how your body is reacting to this memory.

Feel where you expand,

Enlighten.

And feel how you can,

Without the doubt,

Fear or anxiety that you've released.

Perhaps you can feel this energy moving through you,

Activating everything in your DNA and cells that you need to respond fully to it.

Your intention to activate your energy is what matters.

The feelings in your body are your language of understanding.

What is the first thing you What is the first thing that comes to mind that you need to embody and act upon to move forward?

Trust your intuition on this.

Lean into the emotion and energy behind whatever comes up.

How can you make this 100% you?

How can you act upon it as you?

Feel that energy lighting up within you and ready to flow through everything you do.

Your thoughts will change in response.

Where you may have questioned yourself before,

You will now feel into the possible routes rather than the potential obstacles.

So make yourself a simple,

Short list of things you can turn your energy and attention towards that will help you find out how to be this energy in your actions.

You will learn how to be by doing.

Your body will show you how.

It's important to note that nature abhors a void.

The only way to change a pattern is to transform one energy into another through doing.

So you will need to consistently work with this new energy to ensure that the old energy doesn't take up residence again.

Constant repetition and action will help this energy to become your new norm.

Consider all the things you can do with this new energy and make yourself a simple plan to act upon it every day until it feels 100% natural.

That might take a few weeks.

It might take a few months.

If you feel that familiar sensation of doubt,

Fear or anxiety in your body,

Deal with it there and then.

Lift it out and send it on its way.

We all have our ups and downs.

We have our good days and bad.

So expect it and have a strategy for noticing and responding to it in a positive,

Affirming way.

You are not broken.

You are simply learning how to be the best you you can be.

Those doubts,

Fears and anxieties,

They got you to here and now.

But you know that to go further,

You have to let them go.

And you can.