Hello,
This is Nikki Rhodes and I'm going to guide you through this meditation for those experiencing a breakup.
Breakups can make us question so much.
What we had deemed to be secure,
Successful and often pinned our identity on can crumble,
Leaving us question ourselves,
Our validity and whether or not we're loved.
In these moments it's important to come back to ourselves,
To remember that we are whole,
Sovereign,
Deserving beings of love and that the possibilities that lie ahead of us are exciting if we can embrace them.
This meditation is going to begin with us,
Beginning with some clearing breaths.
Close down your eyes and take a deep inhale through your nose.
As you breathe in,
Envision the energy running up your spine and filling your body and then release or with an exhale.
Try that again.
Breathe in and exhale.
Focusing now on the person whom you've broken up with.
Seeing this person in your mind's eye a couple of feet from you,
Sitting or standing.
This person is energetically tied to you in various ways and this exercise will help you to release the hooks that remain between the two of you so that you can focus on rebuilding yourself as that strong,
Sovereign,
Confident being.
Let's start by the hooks that are connected with the mind.
Take another deep breath and exhale,
Bringing all your attention within yourself.
Notice that this person,
Visualize this person sitting in front of you but keep your energy within your own body.
Notice the sensation of your heart,
Your breath,
The blood pumping through your body,
Your hands resting on your lap,
Your eyes closed,
Your chest breathing in and out.
And take your focus up to your mind.
Now from your mind,
See if you can envision the person's mind who you've just broken up with and the connection that still lies between the two of you.
Visualize this connection as if it was a long hook extending out towards this person and coming back to you and see it as something that you are creating,
That you are keeping there.
When we realize that we are investing our frustrations,
Our pain,
Our jealousy with this person,
We realize that we can also stop,
That it's within our control to change what kind of energy we are investing into them.
See this hook connected to the person's mind,
Perhaps in the form of memories,
Dreams that were going to happen,
Visions,
Future plans,
Perhaps past stories.
And see this connection,
This hook,
Bring this hook out of that person and take all those memories,
All those dreams,
All the illusions that celebrate and fill up your connection with them back into yourself.
And see that hook disappear,
See that connection between the two minds disappear and come into you.
You're taking this hook out of the person's mind,
You're taking away,
You're returning your autonomy of thought back to yourself,
Autonomy of experience.
Drop down now into the heart space,
From the heart which is often aching at this time,
Within the hook that you have out of your own body and extending into the person you've broken up with,
Deep into their heart.
Your heart's way of holding on,
Your heart's way of not wanting to let go of what was great in the relationship,
What you enjoyed,
What you relied on,
What you felt safe with.
And if there are any emotions here for you,
Allow them to flow,
Allow tears to fall,
Allow sadness to come and allow yourself to feel these feelings knowing they're temporary,
That they will pass and it's important to let them out.
Take a deep inhale as you envision this hook,
This connection with your heart to your person's heart and sigh it out.
Now envision this hook being lifted from this person you've broken up with and coming right back to you,
All those feelings of love,
All those projections of adoration and beauty,
Everything that you wanted from the relationship that you were investing in the other person that was residing in the other person,
Pick it up and bring it back to yourself.
Feel your own heart swell as you return all your love back to yourself.
Feel yourself sit up a little taller as that love is returned within your own heart.
Take a big inhale as you feel the fullness and an exhale as you feel into the richness that now resides within you.
These hooks that you had placed in the other person that were causing you pain,
Return them back to yourself.
These lines that you had cast out,
Hoping that they would pick them,
Hoping that they would feel them,
Can take them back to yourself.
Drop down now into your stomach,
Into your solar plexus,
The area of your intuition and feel,
And feel that deep,
Deep emotional swell that resides within our stomach area,
Just above our tummy button.
From this place of intuition and knowing,
Of longing,
Of planning,
Of creating,
See the hooks that extend out from this area,
The lines that you had cast out into the other person.
Your desires and your dreams that you had projected onto them.
There's no longer a connection there like there was.
It's time for these to return back to you.
So pull them back in.
Let them come back into your own body,
Filling up your emotional centre,
Not feeling depleted in your place of intuition and inner knowing.
Instead rewarding your body for taking care of yourself.
And lastly,
If this was an intimate partner,
Feel into your genital area,
Space of creation,
Of sanctity,
Protection and pleasure and surrender.
And envision the ties that you have,
The connection that you have,
The hooks that you have with this person,
And the intimate realms,
The beauty of your connection on this level.
And now envision taking those back,
Leaving their energy outside of you and pulling back your own sovereignty,
Drawing it back into your own body,
Not allowing your energy to reside in them,
Knowing you have full responsibility to keep your energy within yourself.
Now closing down your eyes and envisioning yourself without these hooks.
The person sitting in front of you yet not attached to you energetically right now.
You have completed a powerful cleansing,
A powerful clearing of connection,
Altering the energetics between the two of you.
And in doing so you sit taller,
You smile slightly,
You're a sovereign being,
Independent,
Confident,
Brave and totally capable of meeting your own desires.
From this place of knowing and of meeting your own desires you can meet another,
Not from a place of need but from a place of abundance.
Knowing what's yours,
Knowing what you can give,
Knowing what you'd like to receive but not needing in any way.
Wanting to love widely,
Wanting to love wholeheartedly because you've got yourself.
Allowing yourself and holding yourself through any emotions that arise and wrapping your arms around your body as you close this meditation now,
Promising to take care of yourself,
To commit to practices that nourish yourself,
To not overreact when jealousy or spite rise and said to sit down,
To breathe and to envision the lines between the two of you dissolving.
Knowing that this is a deeply powerful practice and one that will shift the connection between you two and speed the process of recovery.
You are whole,
You are loved,
You are brave and you've so got this.
