Being Yourself

This is the final podcast of 2018 and number 6 in my list of weekly podcasts. I plan to continue the weekly series and to go further on my journey of being myself. The version of me that loves to talk and that loves sharing her thoughts and feelings. I hope you have enjoyed the first 6 editions of The Wonder of Life and that you continue to follow them in 2019.

Transcript

My name is Nat and you're listening to the wonder of life.

Today we're talking about being yourself.

Being yourself requires awareness,

Honesty and the flow of awkward moments.

It's not always easy to be yourself,

But it's something that I believe is a very powerful place to be.

If you can be yourself in any situation,

You can work from that.

And if you show up honestly with other people,

They can work with you too.

Before getting comfortable,

Please make sure that your phone is switched to do not disturb.

And that if you're in a room,

That the door is closed.

If anyone else is around you,

Ask them kindly to not interrupt you or ask them to join you.

This is your time to relax and to wonder about life from a place of peace.

Make sure you're comfortable and warm and cozy.

Get yourself settled and relaxed.

We're going to tune into the breath.

We'll do the first breaths using only the nose.

But before taking your first breath,

Please be aware that when you breathe in with your nose,

Your stomach should inflate.

If it doesn't,

It means you need to correct it.

Breathing through the nose deep into the stomach will relax you.

So breathing through the nose,

Watching the belly rise and then lower is the way to do it.

Let's start.

Breathing in through the nose.

And out.

And again,

In through the nose.

And out.

And out.

You're now ready to wonder about life.

You're listening to the wonder of being yourself.

I decided to do this subject of being yourself,

Not only because I pulled the card out of my tarot deck about being yourself,

But also because I have a t-shirt that I wear regularly that I use to read the tarot cards.

And it's a subject that a lot of people resonate with.

If you learn to be yourself,

Things become easier.

I wasn't always like this.

I was always trying to be something I wasn't when I was younger.

I wanted to be something that people would accept.

I wanted to be someone that people liked,

But because I didn't really like myself,

I always tried to get them to like me in another way.

It wasn't genuine.

And a lot of people show up in the world like this.

For example,

When you go on a date,

When you go on a date,

You take these two cards and you take the card that you're wearing.

It's the representative,

Shall we say,

Like the sales representative of who you really are.

And you'll go on a date and you'll try and sell yourself to the other person.

And it might not be the true version of you.

It's more like all the highlights that you want them to like you for is what you give to them on the first date.

And when you do this,

It's hard to maintain because that isn't truly who you are.

So when you can learn to go on a date or to go to a job interview or to make a new friend and to be yourself,

That relationship or that friendship or that working agreement,

That's what you want to do.

So when you can learn to go on a date or to go to a job interview or to make a new friend and to be yourself,

That relationship or that friendship or that working agreement has a better chance of working simply because you're being yourself.

And you can always be yourself.

You don't have to lie.

It comes naturally sometimes.

But for those who it doesn't come naturally for,

I want to give you a little explanation of why I found it so difficult.

Now,

The reason being is because,

As I said before,

I wanted people to like me.

But the main reason I found it difficult is because I didn't know who I was.

I had no idea what I liked or who I was.

It took me years to discover that I liked science,

That I liked physics,

That I liked maths.

I was really into music and sound and frequencies and vibrations and aliens and spiritual things and conversations that weren't the norm.

But for many years,

I thought I was boring.

I thought I was really boring,

If I'm honest.

And the conversations I like to talk about weren't usually happening in the places I went to.

So therefore,

I judged that as boring.

But what I didn't realize is those conversations that I was having when I was out.

Most people thought were boring anyway.

It was the small talk from everyone.

There was nothing deep about it.

And now there's nothing more I love than the small talk.

I think it's important to understand that we can go deep down the rabbit hole of love or relationships or science or power or magic or energy or how to save the world or how we show up in the world.

These conversations are the fuel to my fire on a daily basis.

Learning to be myself has got me some of the most profound friendships I could have ever imagined.

And that's because I am myself.

And I know that if you want to hang around with me,

Or if you want to be my friend,

You know that you get the true version of me.

And I expect that back.

Although that doesn't always happen.

It's hard for me sometimes to be myself continuously,

Because sometimes it would be easier just to be someone else.

But that's never going to work for me.

So even though it can get awkward when you're yourself and you're honest and you're open and you're vulnerable,

I choose to be myself rather than to fake it.

Faking it doesn't get you anywhere.

The whole world now is waking up spiritually.

We're becoming more aware.

We're seeing that everything we thought we knew wasn't quite told in the right way.

There's new facts that are emerging about science that changes the causes of our own existence.

There's a new force of human history.

There's new things we're learning about our governments that are shocking people.

There's new policies that have been written that are going to change humanity in a very negative way that we're now becoming accustomed to.

We soon realised that most of the people in the organisations that we want to like to be are not really who they were.

They gave us a branded version.

And that's what we were sold on.

But now it's very hard to move through life and not be yourself.

We know very quickly whether we're giving someone our true selves because we feel natural.

And we also know very quickly when someone else is not being their true self with us.

Our level of truth is getting stronger and stronger.

It's powerful to be yourself.

And in a world of bullshit,

Which we do live in,

Being yourself is your strongest superpower.

Showing up as who you really want to be and accepting all those parts of yourself that you haven't yet become comfortable with,

That's going to be useful for you.

Very useful.

I strongly recommend you to sit in front of the mirror and get to know yourself a bit better,

To explore those subjects that you secretly love and to find friends that love them too.

So being yourself,

Maybe for the new year of 2019,

Is going to be a powerful place to start from.

And yes,

It's not always easy and sometimes awkward,

But it's definitely worth it.

And it's far more sustainable.

Thank you for listening to the wonder of being yourself.

Thank you.

Reviews

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One of the most authentic lessons on being yourself I’ve run across. Thank you. Namaste 🙏

Simply yet powerfully put. I personally know that knowing who you truly are is the top advice I would give to my younger self. Thank you for reinforcing what needs to be a constant reminder ❣️💫❣️

Those were some powerful truthful words! Thank you

Powerful and truthful 💪

Beautifully said. It speaks to your wisdom and profound insight of yourself 🦋 Thank you for this Nat🙏

Perfect Nat, I definately need to repeat this a few times!!
AND in front of the mirror, which sounds confronting. I've become aware over the last few years of not being myself when talking with people, and in that same period, have avoided looking in the mirror. Hadn't connected the two. Thank you.

Absolutely loved this. Will definitely listen to this again whenever I'm feeling I'm not being myself, my authentic true self. Thank you for this.

This resonated deeply with me! I'm on the path of learning what my values are, what I love, and who I am after years of trying to conform. I've always been considered "different". I'm quirky, playful, silly, curious... I am honest about my feelings, even when it's uncomfortable. When I care about something or someone, I can go overboard. It hasn't been easy to find others who get me. Thank you for the reminder that being myself is truly my superpower! ❤️

Loved this. Thank you! 🙏

Very direct and very truthful. Thank you.

Yeah!!!! That's true power. 💪💜👍

Being y0urself is an interesting journey in a world full of fakers. To be real is where it's at! Thanks for your talk and breathing tips. Namaste❤🙏

Thank you. Its definitely is best to be yourself no matter what

Oh how true, it's so refreshing to just be yourself with no games or pretence, also so much more peaceful... Thank you Nat for your insights 💜x

Wise words and very true. I identify with all of this. Thank you 🙏.

That was a lovely training on being myself and how it can impact my everyday routine! Thanks 🙏🥰!!

I LOVE this straight talk! Thank you so much for that! I am really looking forward to listening to the rest of your material on the Daily Insight app as well as any podcasts that aren’t coveted here.

#BeTrue 🌈🌈🌈 listened 2U 3 x over just now! Thank You 😊

My authentic self’d take away 1⭐️ for opening & closing bell. Unnecessarily jarring with otherwise lovely talk.