Inner Child Healing

Do you know how you look at yourself? do you know how you talk to yourself? What is your inner critic? Where does it come from? It's time to go back, to a time that matters. Here we revisit our child. Our inner child. And we take care of some business. Be brave.

Transcript

I invite you to close your eyes if this feels comfortable for you. If not, Soften the gaze and look slightly down. I want you to, If you can, Imagine that you are outside of yourself, Looking at yourself right now. That there is you, Over there by the wall or the window, And you are looking at you. What is your face like? Your expression. How are you looking at you? Are your eyes kind? Soft? Is your expression gentle? Compassionate? Loving? Or are your eyes hard? Glaring? Accusing? Judging? Is your mouth set? Is your expression angry? Distasteful? Scornful? Critical? Can you sense what you are thinking or feeling about yourself? Do you know why? This may have surprised you. Some find that they weren't fully aware of how they actually behaved towards themselves, In how harsh or critical they were towards themselves. That harsh inner critic can really cause us problems, Telling us we are stupid, Useless, Blaming us, Ridiculing us, Minimising our feelings, Telling us we don't deserve happiness or that we deserve to be abused or treat bad. It can demotivate us and create anxiety and fear. This exercise showed us how we look at ourselves. But what about your inner voice? Try to remember a mistake that you have made. It could have been a mistake you made at work. It could have been something you broke at home. It could have been an accident in a car. It might have been something you said or did within a relationship that upset someone. Try to think of something where you have made some kind of mistake. Now quietly listen to your inner voice when you think about that mistake. What did you hear? Did you hear compassion towards yourself? Gentleness? Understanding? Grace? Or did you hear harsh criticism? Judgments? Negative comments? How did you feel inside when you heard this? According to Alisa Meranz, A clinical psychotherapist, She says the inner critic is actually not your voice. It's the voice of someone from your past. Maybe a teacher or a parent or a sibling or a friend or a peer. She said it also might not have been a direct communication from these people, But maybe just how you felt back then. She also suggests that this inner critic can turn into self-sabotage. And also you might surround yourself with people who reinforce this inner critical voice without even realising it. Think about this for a moment. Think about the people in your world. Do they reinforce your inner voice? Do they reinforce the negativity your inner voice says? Could this be because we draw people to us based on what we think we deserve? Let's take some time now to revisit times that might have created this inner critic. Take a couple of deep breaths however you wish. Become aware of the solid things in your space. The solid walls. The ground. The roof of your building. Things that are here to keep you safe. Notice the parts of the body in contact with the ground or your seat. Your feet. Your legs. Your bottom. Your back. And whatever is in contact with the ground, Take your attention there. And know that you are safe. That you are held. And now imagine a time as a child that was important to you. What comes to your mind? What age are you? And why is this age important for you? Try and picture yourself at that age. Really get as detailed an image as possible. What clothes would you have been wearing? What was your hair like? Imagine that you at that age is stood in front of you right now. What do you feel when you look at yourself? What is your favorite color? What is your favorite color? What is your favorite color? Go towards the child and bend or kneel so that you are at eye level. What does your child need? Take hold of your child's arms and look at them in the eyes. Tell them you know what they need. You know what they are feeling. Tell them that this will pass. That it will all be okay. That they are safe now. That you are here for them. That they are not alone. That you hear and see them. That they are loved. Tell them. What is your favorite color? What is your favorite color? What is your favorite color? Do they need a hug? A kiss? Their back rubbed? Their forehead stroked? Their hand held? What do they need? Now take a step back and look again at your child. Whatever happened at this age. Whatever circumstances. Whatever strife or pain. What did you do to handle it back then? How did you deal with it? What coping mechanism did you create? Did you become a really good person so people would love you and not be angry? Did you become a people pleaser? Did you become the sweetest person so that people could only love you and appease you? Did you become clever or successful so people would admire you? Look up to you? Did you become hard and tough developing a feisty character like a barking dog that no one would dare come near to hurt? Did you pretend that nothing bothered you? That you were fine? Did you laugh at everything and make light of your pain? What mask did you create? Do you still have that mask? Go back to your child now and tell them you see their suffering. Tell your child I see your suffering. Feel the pain. You don't need to ignore it anymore. You don't need to suppress it anymore. Feel the pain. You are not trapped by the memories of your past or your pain. Open the door of your cage. Set yourself free. You can learn from the pain but you are not trapped by it. Be free. Tell them it's okay to be you. The real you. Tell them. Hold your child close to you so you can hear their breath and they can hear yours. Let your breath be steady. Focus on your breath. Focus on your child's breath. Breathe together. Keeping each other safe. Inhaling. Exhaling. Together. Nothing else matters. Just this inhale and this exhale. Together. You are free. You are together and free. You are both free. Take a deep breath in and feel your child becoming merged with you. As you breathe deeply in your child is absorbed into you. Merged. United. Finally. Breathe together as one. Inhale. Exhale. You may want to place your hands over your heart and whisper to yourself I see you. Everything will be okay. Bring your attention back to your body in the space where you are sat. Have a sense of the space around you. To the sides. In front. Behind. Above. Become aware of any sounds inside or outside the room. And when you are ready open your eyes. Be kind to yourself. Be free. Thank you.

Reviews

Thank you for this inner child meditation. One of the best I’ve found on here. I’ve done a lot of inner child work in the past, but haven’t made the space for contact with her for sometime. Thank you for creating the meditation to facilitate that connection. 💕🙏🏼

Enlightening! I found I’d become what I was told I was, making my mask a harder version to cope. Difficult work. I’ll revisit. Thank you🌸

That was a master class in inner child work. Thank you for the healing 🙏

Great meditation! Namaste 🙏 you’re a wonderful teacher

Thanks for the meditation I had a memory come up of my younger self that needed inter grating