And a reminder that your soulmate is also manifesting you.
Your soulmate is also searching for you.
Your soulmate also wants to be with you.
Your soulmate wants to spend the rest of his life with you.
So where are the struggles?
Where is everything going wrong?
Especially if it seems like love is so simple for other people,
Other women,
They don't even have to try,
It just naturally happens.
So why is it so hard for you?
Well,
I wanna remind you that for some people,
They have a naturally thin body and for others,
They need to work out all the time.
But when it comes to love and relationships,
Yes,
For some women,
It might've been really easy for them to manifest love and they're in a great relationship,
Great.
The majority of people though,
What I've seen is they're actually not in super great,
High-minded communicative,
Spiritual relationships.
So don't always just assume a book by its cover.
So let me go back to that initial thing I said,
Which is your soulmate's also manifesting you.
And here's why.
We live in a universe that's based on attraction,
Law of attraction.
And so whatever you're putting out,
You're going to eventually get back.
Think about ripples on a pond.
The challenge though is patience because we don't know how long it's gonna take for things to ripple back.
And I've always told my clients,
I sure wish I had a crystal ball.
If I did,
I'd be charging a whole lot more.
And so I wanna remind you that this energy that you're putting out today is going to affect you in the future,
But it might not affect tomorrow or next week or even next month.
And so that's why,
For example,
My course Attract the One is eight weeks long because we're wanting to put a different energy,
A different vibration out into the universe,
Law of attraction like attracts like.
Now,
What I mean by your soulmate is also manifesting you is that your relationships will always be a reflection of who you are and what you think and believe you can have.
And so,
For example,
Can you think of a girlfriend who has always been in crappy relationships,
Right?
I think we all can.
That's a reflection of who she is.
It's a reflection of what she believes is possible in relationships.
And so until she actually believes in her worth and believes that she can have more in a relationship,
She's gonna keep attracting in the same type of men.
And maybe that's you and you know what?
That's okay.
But I'm here to tell you that that can shift and that can change if you want it to.
So if you're starting to notice any types of patterns,
Right,
Maybe it's dating unavailable men,
Men who ghost you,
It starts off really great in the beginning,
But then he just disappears,
He's afraid to commit,
Whatever it is.
I wanna remind you that that's a reflection of you and your belief systems.
So if you wanna shift that,
It really is not any more complicated than really learning how to love yourself and honor yourself and increase your self value and increase your self worth and change your expectations around a relationship.
So here's a fun little exercise that you can do.
Think about when you were 15.
What did you want in a relationship?
What did you want in a guy?
Now fast forward to 21,
What did you want?
Fast forward to 25,
30,
35,
40,
However old you are.
And look at that trajectory,
Look at how you have grown and changed and evolved and how what you wanted in a relationship has grown and changed and evolved,
Hopefully,
Or at least from 15 years old to today.
And so as you grow and evolve any change,
Your relationships will grow and evolve and change to reflect that.
Now,
If they're not,
Then what's going on is underneath the surface,
Your belief systems around relationship,
Around what you can have,
Those haven't changed.
So changing your internal belief system is what's going to change your external reality.
I've seen it time and time again with clients.
You change how you treat yourself.
You change,
You start to shift how you think about yourself and how you talk about yourself.
Can you accept gifts and compliments from strangers?
I mean,
These are all reflections of self worth and self value.
And so when you start to incrementally shift what you think and what you believe and how you act and how you speak,
The world changes.
So I'm gonna give you a very clear example,
Which is my own.
So when I was 15,
All I wanted was a relationship,
Period.
I just wanted to be loved.
I wanted to have a guy to go out on dates with,
To make out with,
To go to prom with,
Right?
Like that's all my 15 year old brain truly could handle.
Now fast forward to my 20s,
And I'm really starting to learn about,
It's more than just having a playmate.
It's someone I can talk to.
It's someone I can travel with.
It's someone who can help me to dig into personal development,
Right?
Now fast forward to my 30s.
I want my partner.
I want my spiritual match.
I want a man who is emotionally available to have really deep interest in me.
I want to have really deep intimate conversations with.
I still want a playmate.
I still want a travel buddy,
But what I'm asking of myself in life is much more elevated when it comes to my business,
When it comes to my finances,
When it comes to my sex life,
When it comes to how I communicate with my partner,
When it comes to getting my needs being met,
When it comes to setting boundaries,
The list goes on and on.
So I look at 15 year old me and the guy I dated.
I look at me in my 20s and the two significant relationships I had.
There's no way in hell I could date those guys today.
So you see where I'm going here?
As you grow and evolve and up level and upgrade yourself and your thoughts and your beliefs and your expectations of what life can give you,
Your relationship will match that.
But if you don't up level your thoughts and your beliefs and your expectations,
Then your relationships won't change.
It really is quite simple,
But hopefully you can see that difference of who are you when you were 15?
What did you think?
What did you believe?
What were your expectations around dating,
Around money?
When I was 15,
I was working for minimum wage and I was ecstatic because all I needed was a couple hundred bucks a week to pay for gas and clothes and food,
Right?
But then you move up to my 20s and even then I wasn't making a lot like in the 20 to $50,
000 a year range,
But I didn't need a lot.
I was living on the side of a mountain in Ecuador.
I was traveling with my partner.
He had frequent flyer miles.
Like I was elevating,
But it wasn't that much more.
And now I look at my 30s and really like the lifestyle I live or lead,
The car I have,
The types of travel,
The vacations I book and yes,
My man,
My significant other is at a completely different level.
Now the only thing that's changed is me.
That's it.
Everything in my life has changed to reflect my belief systems,
My actions and how I go out into the world.
I didn't expect the amount of money that I made to change without me first changing my qualifications or my career or my job.
I didn't expect to magically attract in this amazing partner without me becoming a vibrational match for it.
And what I mean by that is I had to do the work to really believe that I was lovable,
To really believe that this type of man existed.
So once again,
If I look back on the last 20 years of my life,
The only thing that's changed is me.
And yet my lifestyle has evolved and moved up dramatically.
The amount of money I make each year,
Tripled,
Quadrupled,
Whatever,
Depends what we're comparing it to.
The type of open,
Honest,
Loving,
Spiritual,
Communicative,
Best friend relationship on the entire planet,
That's only there because I've done the internal work to increase my internal value and ultimately to change my expectation.
There's a poem that talks about how life is always gonna give you what you ask for,
But too many people are asking for a penny instead of a dollar,
Instead of a hundred dollars,
Instead of a million dollars.
And so if you think of this analogy for relationships,
What are you asking for?
Are you asking for just enough?
Just a guy to keep the sheets,
Sheet,
Sheet,
The sheets warm?
Are you asking for a little bit more like a friend,
A playmate,
A buddy?
Or are you asking for your spiritual match,
Your soulmate,
The partner to bring you through life?
Reflect on that.
And if you want to truly learn how to raise your elevation or your vibration,
Raise your internal self-worth,
Because once again,
The only thing that's ever changed in my life is me.
And then that affected my friendships,
My finances,
Where I travel,
The type of places I stay in,
And now ultimately my relationship.
I did the work to change first,
Life eventually reflected that back to me.
And so in the very beginning,
When I talked about that ripple effect,
We don't know how long it's going to take for things to ripple back.
But you do the work today,
You start to change who you are and change your thoughts and change your belief systems,
Change how you treat yourself,
Change what you believe is possible when it comes to relationships.
Eventually it's going to ripple back,
Which is why my life just continues to get better and better and better and better and better,
Because I continue to do the work.
