Saying No To $10,000

In this inspiring talk, Lou shares a story that highlights the synchronicity that happens when we are in integrity with our values. You will learn the importance of saying no to what you don't want so you can allow space for you to manifest what you truly desire.

Transcript

Hello and welcome.

Thank you for listening and letting me share with you today.

I want to talk about how we can start to understand what is a yes for our path.

And when are we losing ourselves to what they call the golden handcuffs?

Although I started on my journey in 2015,

It was only 3 years ago that I began making a sustainable income.

When you're just starting out,

You say yes to everything,

Especially when you're barely making money.

During that time,

I said yes to any speaking gig,

Meditation class,

Workshop,

Anything in the realm of what my Instagram bio said I did.

Every time I got paid to do what I loved,

It relieved the heaviness of doubt,

If only for a moment.

In 2018,

I had a breakthrough.

After pitching hundreds of schools on a kid's mindfulness class,

One of them got back to me and asked if I could train their teachers on facilitating yoga and mindfulness in the classroom.

While I had no idea what I was doing,

I said yes.

In that month,

I made $2200,

My highest income ever.

That's not a lot,

At least in the United States,

And specifically Northeast,

But it felt at the time like a million bucks.

I saw that if I worked hard,

This could sustain me in a way that a $40 yoga or meditation class couldn't.

I started putting my energy into the school mindfulness world.

I made a website,

Created a demo video,

And hung up my shingle.

It was fun,

But challenging to get momentum.

Around this time,

I started uploading weekly to Insight Timer.

I had content there already,

But I wasn't creating regularly.

As I shared my meditations freely,

I got so much out of seeing people like you resonate with my work.

Then in 2019,

Insight Timer started paying teachers for plays,

Daily insights,

And courses.

I created my course,

Learn to Stop Caring What Others Think.

I don't know what it was,

But there was some magic in it because I continue to reap the benefits and get paid for that course and students enroll to this very day.

I highly recommend giving it a check out if you're newer to me.

My heart was so full speaking with people on Insight Timer.

I sensed that these were my people,

And the universe opening showed it.

All this while,

The school mindfulness business dragged.

I enjoyed the work,

But I was sensing that maybe this isn't my gift.

It didn't light me up as much as my work on Insight Timer,

But it paid more,

So I kept at it.

Don't get me wrong,

I was so grateful schools allowed me to realize my dream of being a public speaker.

I got to speak at conferences and do assemblies for kids,

All of which flexed my muscles and grew my skills.

In early 2020,

Things were finally starting to pick up.

And then,

Well,

You know,

I won't even say it,

But most of my schoolwork halted.

While it sucked,

I had enough save that I was excited to spend my time working on a new course for Insight Timer.

I used Quarantine to create,

Which,

And I know this sounds weird,

Was blissful.

That course became Learn to Do Work You Love.

If doing work you love is something that interests you,

Please,

I highly recommend checking that out.

As I created and continued to upload content online,

I started leaning more into one-on-one coaching.

I coached a few people in 2019,

But it wasn't a focus.

Now that I had time,

I offered it to my community and had immediate interest.

I then completed a six-month training and watched my coaching practice evolve and flourish.

Making my way into schools was like pushing a boulder uphill.

My work on Insight Timer and coaching is the complete opposite.

It flows.

Sure,

I work hard,

But there's an ease and I get so much more energy in return.

COVID allowed me to highlight my core gifts,

Creating meditations,

Courses,

And coaching.

When we find our gifts and see where the universe opens up,

It would do us good to just go all in.

You got the hard part done.

Alas,

It's not that easy.

This summer,

A school district reached out to continue the program we started in 2018.

It was a big project,

Which with all the work,

Training,

And follow-ups was probably a $10,

000 income source.

While I was saying yes to this school,

Something in my body was saying no.

I dreaded the thought of preparing and facilitating the content.

This work would take away from my meditation classes,

My clients,

You,

And writing and sharing the things that I share online.

I know its impact on kids would be amazing,

And sure,

I'd enjoy some of it,

But it was energetically off.

I was afraid to say no.

How could I?

I put hundreds of hours into building a business that was finally starting to pay off.

It logically made no sense.

To outside eyes,

This opportunity was fantastic.

Lou,

What do you mean?

You had to go teach mindfulness to kids and get paid for it?

But while I intellectually knew it,

I sensed how I'd feel doing it versus doing what I wanted.

And there was a distinct shift.

Instead of listening to my gut,

I did what we often do when we don't want to make a decision.

Hope it goes away.

I found myself avoiding their calls and thinking maybe it wouldn't be a significant workload.

Well,

You might guess that did not work.

Following your heart and gut won't make sense.

If it did,

It would be easy.

After wrestling with the decision for a while,

An idea came.

What if I partnered with someone?

I thought of a mentor who has 20 years in the field of kids yoga and mindfulness.

She possesses the resources that I don't.

When I thought of reaching out to her,

I felt lighter.

I could see her resources helping the schools thrive and giving me room to stay focused on my gifts.

I called her and she was thrilled to join forces.

What happened next shows the magic of following our gut.

Even though we are splitting the work,

I'm making more than if I would have tried to do it on my own.

And because I told her I'm giving more of my energy to coaching,

She referred someone to me that ended up becoming a client.

And the next week,

A former client gave me a generous sum of money to use as a coaching scholarship for someone in need.

Everything worked out better than I could have imagined.

I couldn't know this before the decision.

We first have to take the leap towards what we know in our gut is right.

I had to say no to $10,

000 to see the abundance that lay behind it.

At some point,

It becomes easy to say no to what doesn't serve us.

It takes a whole new level of discernment to say no to things that seem promising.

Put another way,

Saying no to what you like for what you love is harder than saying no to what you hate.

When we say no to something that doesn't fill us,

We open up energy for the universe to conspire.

We think we're turning something down,

But we're really opening up space for expansion and fulfillment.

If a decision seems crazy to others but true for you,

That's a sign you're on the right path.

Listen to your gut.

Follow your heart.

It's trite to say,

But it works.

The more you follow,

The more trust you build,

The more you're able to listen and follow next time.

The more you deny,

Push,

Resist,

Or argue logic,

The further away you're moving from connection to your truth.

If you're lucky enough to find the thing your soul wants you to do,

Don't waste time.

Yes,

Make sure your bills are paid,

Do what you need to do,

But the golden handcuffs come in many forms.

Watch out for them.

Our mind can quickly convince us into things our heart and gut don't want.

It says in The Alchemist,

When you want something,

The whole world conspires to help you achieve it.

I like to flip this saying and ask,

Where is the universe conspiring for you already?

That's the sign of not what you want,

But what you're meant to do.

Listen close and follow.

If you ever need any support around this,

This is such a big part of a lot of the things that I share here on Insight Timer.

I think I have a talk,

Finding Your Life Purpose.

Again,

Of course,

Learn to do work you love and really listening to that energy.

I've seen so much beauty come in my life and I want you to feel and experience that same beauty in your life.

Know that I am always rooting and supporting you.

Feel free to leave a comment.

Let me know what you think.

And you're welcome also to join my circle here on Insight Timer at Lou's Circle.

And let me know how I can support you and your path,

Whether it's something like coaching or whether it's just something like,

Hey,

Using these meditations as a way to reconnect and remind yourself that your gifts,

Your purpose is so needed.

Sending you always much love and support.

Namaste.

Reviews

Thank you so much!

I needed to hear this. I have and continue to struggle doing things I know are not for me. Thank you for laying it out so clearly. Many blessings.

I truly appreciate your open, personal style. It seems as if you are right here in my home with me. Thank you, Lou!

Amazing advice and mini talk. Thanks so much for sharing your experience with us.

Love your shares and I benefit from your thoughts. Thank you for opening your life to us here.

It would be wonderful for schools to teach meditation at a young age. I had to be over 50 in order to discover it. It’s never too late though.

This speaks to me so much. Thank you Lou!!

Such a great talk. Loved it. Thank you, and I hope you have more talks soon! 🙏 shanti.

Wonderful! Thanks 🙏

So many of us are bound by fears and committments, wanting to push away the future. This talk was excellent. Hearing one guys thoughts on how he made it work is inspiring.

I miss your monthly email newsletters. Did they go away?

I love Lou’s meditations and talks. They’re really inspiring and thought provoking. I can highly recommend his book (which I’ve read twice). It’s an an honest and inspirational work

Love your teachings amd meditations!

Great experience to share!! Thank you. 😊

Just what I needed today ! I'm hopeful I can take this talk into my own practice, and thrive at what I love 🙏 namaste.

Great talk. Thank you for sharing these helpful stories of milestones on your journey. 🙏🏼

Thank you for your honest sharing, Lou. Last week, I helped my niece with a decision. Now, out of the blue, a friend of hers wants to talk to me about a decision she is stuggling with. Listening to your story helped.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻