Enrich Your Relationship

This emotional meditation will help enrich your relationship with yourself, and as a result, with your significant other. Begin by taking this moment to come completely into your body. Focus on your breath and with each inhale, explore the expansion of your stomach, feeling a greater sense of groundedness with each movement. This is a perfect practice if you're feeling stuck with your marriage, or just want to increase the love and connection you feel with your partner.

Transcript

Let's begin by getting ourselves comfortable.

So finding a comfortable seat,

Maybe on a chair or maybe you're sitting on a cushion.

And making sure that it's a place that you can feel safe.

You can feel like you can let your guard down,

Allow yourself to open and relax.

And again to find a lift through your upper chest.

Find a lengthening in the sides of the neck.

Allow the shoulders to melt down the back.

Allow the belly to soften.

Allow the forehead to soften.

And all of the muscles around the eyes and the face.

Finding a strong and centered connection to your body,

To the connection of your body on your chair or your cushion.

And the connection of your hands resting gently on your thighs.

Beginning to just take this moment to come into your body.

Maybe that is using the intention of noticing how the breath is passing in and out through your body.

So with each inhale you might notice that your belly tends to expand.

And with each exhale the belly contracts.

Taking another few breaths to center ourselves so that we can open and experience everything that we are meant and desire to experience during this meditation.

Moving into a mode of being rather than the constant doing that we find ourselves so often in.

Because as the topic of this meditation is,

Is being in our relationship in a more enriching way.

Whether your relationship is going well or whether you could use a little spark,

Some new connection,

But it's often not the things that we need to do.

It's how we are being in relation to our partner.

In this practice in enriching our relationship it actually starts with first enriching ourselves.

So continue to use your breath to always come back to.

If you begin to get lost or your mind might start to wander or have a thought that's not related.

Use your breath to just come back.

Let's just take inventory of ourselves right now.

Noticing and remembering what is your vision for your life.

And you can bring to mind in your mind's eye those dreams,

Those goals.

Maybe it's in travel,

Maybe it's in your career.

Bringing to mind what that looks like to you.

And if you've lost sight of dreams or a greater vision,

Maybe you can use this time to reconnect with that and give yourself the chance to dream again.

Imagining what that looks like,

Imagining yourself in a situation where you're living this vision.

Maybe you see yourself traveling through other countries.

Maybe you see yourself succeeding in a certain realm,

Certain profession.

Use your mind to bring in that feeling that you're actually looking for.

What is the feeling that you think that this is going to give you?

Is it excitement?

Is it connection?

Is it love?

Peace?

Maybe your vision is just a peaceful life in the woods.

Sometimes we forget that,

Especially during a relationship that we might have been in for years,

That we forget our own dreams and goals that maybe we had five or ten years ago.

May have lost sight.

Maybe we think we were naive.

Whether you're on this track or not,

Allow yourself to let go of the judging mind of,

Oh,

I can't think that.

Oh,

That's not possible.

Because in our imagination,

Everything is possible.

And we have the opportunity to go there.

And continue to just envision and bring this feeling into your body,

Into your heart.

And take a nice conscious breath in and let it out.

Now that we've remembered and connected with the greater vision that we have or we once had,

Let's take it a little deeper inside.

And I'd like you to ask yourself,

Where have you been unloving with yourself?

Maybe it's a negative belief or negative limiting thought that you have of yourself.

Maybe you think that you're not capable to do things that would bring you to that dream or that vision.

Maybe you're overly hard on yourself when you make a mistake.

Maybe you're a perfectionist.

And think of somewhere that you've been less than fully accepting and loving with yourself.

And simply acknowledging and trying not to judge yourself for this.

We're just bringing light.

Because when we can bring light to the parts of ourselves that are negative,

That is when we can shine our light of awareness on it.

And let it go.

Because when we're overly critical of ourselves and unloving to ourselves,

We're overly critical of our partners.

Because they're just a reflection.

So first we need to cleanse the parts of us before we think that we need to fix anyone else.

So as if you're surrounded by a healing light that is going to cleanse you.

I'd like you to breathe in this healing light energy.

And I'd like you to breathe out that negative belief or unloving thought.

And follow this for a few rounds.

Cleansing everything out.

And if you can't think of anything specific,

You just think that this light is healing the parts of you that you might not see that are negative.

And as you exhale you're releasing all of that darkness out and out of your body.

Out of your relationship.

Feeling that rhythm.

Very nice.

We're now going to come back to our heart space.

Letting go of those unloving thoughts.

Letting go of anything that came before.

And we're going to give ourselves the love that we need.

That we are.

I'd like you to think of something that you're grateful for that you do.

You appreciate about yourself.

And it may be that you're taking the time to listen to this meditation to better yourself and to better your relationship.

That is huge act of appreciation and gratitude.

Something that you do,

Maybe just for yourself,

Maybe something you do for your partner that you're grateful that you do.

You appreciate about yourself.

Releasing that loving energy into your body.

It's when we can fully appreciate and love and accept ourselves.

We open the door to fully appreciate and love and accept our partners.

Just a moment,

I'm going to do a few affirmations.

I accept and love myself for the person I am.

My presence in this world is enough.

I love myself unconditionally.

And feel free to repeat another one of those that resonates.

Maybe just,

I love myself unconditionally.

And now with all this work that we've done on ourselves,

I'd like you to,

Keeping your eyes closed,

Imagine that your partner,

Wife,

Husband,

Boyfriend,

Girlfriend,

Whatever it is,

Your partner is sitting right in front of you,

Meditating just like you,

Just in front.

I'd like you through these next few breaths,

See if you can just be here with your partner.

Not needing to say anything.

Not trying to think about something you want to tell them or something that they've done.

Taking this moment to literally just be here with them.

And almost try to imagine that you are looking at them for the first time.

Because you did that once,

Where you could just be with them and see them for their innocence,

For their essence,

The cute things that they did for being human that maybe start to annoy you now that you get to know them.

See if you can come back to that newness.

Because each moment is new.

And the work of any meditation is to help us access the presence in a way that we see life as it's happening in that moment.

Not clouded by our judgments and our fears and our critiques.

I'd like you to acknowledge this person that you see in front of you,

That they have their own dreams and their own life vision.

That may be somewhat similar to yours and there may be parts of their dream that are different.

Maybe parts that you might not always agree with.

Just in this moment of being with your partner again for the first time,

Acknowledge them for the individual and the person that they are.

And it's this cultivation of being with our partners in each moment,

Seeing them as their individual self.

And really can enrich our lives and our relationships.

And from our hearts we're going to send them that love that we filled ourselves with.

Fully loving ourselves so we can pour that love to others.

And I'd like you to begin to show them gratitude for something that they do.

Maybe they either take care of the kids in a certain way when you're not there.

Maybe they always hold the door in a way that makes you feel like you're on a first date.

Something small they do or maybe something quite big they do.

Favorite meal they make.

A little secret that only you both know.

And it could just be that you're grateful that you get to share that secret or you get to share this life with this person.

Breathe in all of that love that might be coming through,

All of those positive emotions that might be cultivating.

Sharing this and sending it onto your partner.

Maybe you can even do a little smile,

Noticing that your partner with eyes closed is smiling too.

And giving them some of the affirmation.

And I'd like you to say to them from your heart,

From this loving space,

You are your own person and you don't have to live up to any of my expectations.

Your presence in this world is enough.

I accept and love you for who you are.

I love you unconditionally.

I love you unconditionally.

Take a conscious breath in and out.

Now imagine this person in front of you,

All of this love and appreciation that you both share.

Like you imagine your partner coming across the space in between you and is going to merge into your body,

Right into your heart.

Where two come together,

Two full souls come together as one.

Connected but not dependent.

Open and not attached,

Being able to fully live each life together.

And from this space of togetherness,

Think of both of your dreams coming true.

Both of you living the life together that you've always wanted to.

Letting go of how certain things may happen,

Logistical things.

Allowing yourself to be in that space.

And although you two are working separately,

It always comes together as one.

Take a few more moments to be in this space of peace and light and love.

As you both know that you deeply care about each other.

And you each want the same things.

To be loved.

To be happy.

To be joyful.

And to be at peace.

And slowly allow your partner's energy in your body to release.

Or you're welcome to keep it there as we start to come back into our bodies.

Starting to come back to our hands resting on our thighs.

Our tailbone on the chair,

The cushion.

Taking yourself one less time for the work that you put in today.

And whenever you feel ready to come back and open your eyes,

There's no rush.

Take your time.

And then come back to the day.

Come back to the room.

I'm wishing you and your partner so much love,

So much happiness,

So much joy.

And as always,

Namaste.

Reviews

I’ve been doing attachment healing and working through shame bound emotions. I just watched some friends try to do this only to end in divorce- after the most challenging year of our lives; the stress has created a quiet anxiety loop that has been building. Uncovering the feeling of “my love is not enough/where did my old feelings go” has been terrifying. Our love and convictions are deeper than these fears and wandering through this unknown is scary but doing this meditation has been grounding. Thank you for the work.

Thank you - so nourishing, so beautiful

That was exactly what I’ve needed all day thank you very much!

Exactly what I needed this morning. Especially considering both dreams.

A beautiful and insightful mediation for me I really needed to connect to this 🙏❤️

Love the words and the unique visualizations. A little music or background sounds (even atmospheric like oceans/birds/rain etc) would have really made this perfect. 🙏

Instant favorite 🙏🏻 Thank you. All.couples need a reminder from time to time.

Just what I needed, after an argument that I did not want and do not wish to perpetuate with my husband.

Amazing meditation! Everyone in a relationship should take the time to listen to this one! Thank you 🙏🏻

Well done, as usual. This guided meditation can also be done in relationship with a friend, family member, or close associate, coworker, neighbor, etc. ⚘💕👩‍🌾

Amazing. Thank you.

Insightful, as always.

such a lovely meditation

Beautiful, thank you. I will repeat it soon.

Beautiful. Thank you.

I love it! I really connected with wath you said

Beautiful, thank you

So good! The anger or criticism we direct at our partner is the same we feel for ourselves! Enlightening! Thank you!

What a beautiful, powerful meditation. Will do again. Thank you 🙏🏾 2019 still perfect 👌🏾 4/6/20

Beautiful Lou. Loved the joining of the souls, a wonderful reminder that we are both 2 beautiful connected souls on our own independent journeys. A great reminded to allow space for each other’s differences but still remain connected. 😊