Namaste everybody,
This is Lisa A.
Romano,
The Breakthrough Life Coach,
And today's podcast is on the Law of Attraction,
As well as what it would take for a wounded adult child who has been traumatized in the past,
What would it take for this human being to become more awakened so that they could take control over their imagination and manipulate the fourth dimension so that they had a running chance at being able to control some of what is happening in their now or in the 3D experience.
So what I do is I'm an expert in the field of codependency and what it takes to shift the mindset of somebody who is codependent or someone who is below the veil of consciousness,
Who is operating in the 3D reality based on what he or she has experienced in the past and sadly is traumatic.
So it's important that we understand that when we are wounded in the past,
We are rooted to that spot very much like a tree is rooted in a field.
Although we age chronologically,
Spiritually,
Emotionally,
Mentally,
Vibrationally,
We are that child who has experienced that trauma.
And so there is no such thing as separation.
Time is an illusion.
We experience the past and the now,
Which is creating this concept of the future.
So I sort of look at my being as a bowling ball.
It's constantly in motion.
And I have the ability,
Although it takes the dedication of a true master to get to the point where you can see yourself more from an objective viewpoint and understand the multi-dimensional processes that are taking place in every moment.
It takes time.
It takes practice.
It takes dedication.
It takes a growth mindset.
You cannot experience enlightenment or liberation with a fixed mindset.
You must have a growth mindset.
And the good news is you can be inspired to develop a growth mindset.
And I believe that one of the greatest ways to help inspire a growth mindset is by giving people hope,
The hope that they can change,
The hope that just because they were sexually abused by their father or an uncle or their mother or someone in foster care,
The idea that even though they were raped by their own brother or their own father,
Even though that they trusted people who abused them as children,
And even though they've come from dire experiences,
In spite of all of that,
They can still learn to master their reality,
And track what they desire,
And live an abundant life experience.
So hope is what we need to help change or shift a fixed mindset.
And a fixed mindset is just what it says.
A fixed mindset is the mindset that says something that sounds like,
That is not for me.
I will never get better.
I am too damaged.
This is just the way it is.
My father was an alcoholic.
My brother was an alcoholic.
I am an alcoholic.
I go to AA every week,
And I am asked to stand up and confirm that I am an alcoholic.
I will never get better.
I've been to jail.
I'm no good.
I'll never get better.
I'll never have a great job.
I'll never have an awesome relationship.
That type of stuff is for other people.
That's a fixed mindset.
None of that stuff is true.
However,
Because what we believe we experience,
Your experience will mirror your belief,
And your ego will say,
See,
I was right,
Because you have a fixed mindset,
Not because you're right,
Because the truth is you're wrong.
In terms of what is possible for every human being,
You are incorrect.
Every human being has the ability.
They don't always have the willingness.
They don't always have the courage.
They don't always have the discipline.
But every human being has the potential to be great.
Every human being has the potential and the right to master their imagination,
To manipulate the world of thought,
Which is the fourth dimension,
The world of the non-physical,
That is the background or the foundation of everything that is physical.
Every human being,
No matter what they've done,
No matter how big the sin,
No matter how many times they've failed,
Every human being has not only the ability,
But they have the right to live an amazing and abundant life experience.
Every human being,
It is their birthright to experience joy,
To be born anew,
And to live their greatest life,
The greatest life.
And in my opinion,
A great life is one that is being lived through the essence.
In other words,
You were born a ballerina.
You felt it in your bones,
But your mother and father had lack mentalities.
They were both accountants.
Nothing wrong with being an accountant if that's what you want to do.
But you were born a ballerina.
For as long as you can remember,
You've wanted to wear tutus and those little tiny pointing shoes.
You wanted to do that.
You felt that.
But you were conditioned and molded and brainwashed to doubt the song that was placed upon you.
That song was on your heart.
And because all creatures,
All children,
See mother and father as God,
Or their parents as God,
They naturally presume that they know nothing.
And yet what you were born with is everything,
Is all the guidance you will ever need or ever needed.
The problem is that once we were born into a material world that is infected by lack mentalities,
Whether it's racism or poverty,
Whatever ideas that you were born to or our generations of family members were born to,
That gets carried on in our genes without going too much into that.
The reality is that the sins of the father and the mother fall on the children.
What that means in sin,
The word sin means to miss the mark.
There's no judgment in there.
And when you miss the mark,
It means that you're not following your north star.
You're not owning the intuitive,
Intrinsic guidance,
Which is all we need.
You are being guided by something much,
Much greater than your mother and your father.
You may not pay attention to that guidance because of your childhood programming,
But we can teach you to listen.
We can teach you to turn up the volume of your own soul.
We can teach you to heal shame.
We can teach you how to think in a non-codependent way.
We can teach you to set boundaries,
To create a psychological skin.
We can teach you to hone your vibrations and to manipulate the fourth reality,
The fourth dimension.
Patience,
You're going to have to work on that.
Patience,
You have to learn to suspend your need for instant gratification,
Which is a very immature way of looking at the world.
It's very knee-jerk.
We're all designed absolutely to receive instant gratification,
But that is why the world is in such chaos.
My wife isn't having sex with me right here right now,
So I'm going to go bop my secretary.
My brother just bought a fancy sports car now.
I want a fancy sports car.
I don't feel good.
Let me just go pop that oxy.
Patience requires a mature respect for the nature of reality.
It has nothing to do with intelligence.
Intelligence is no more than practice.
You can have.
.
.
Math,
For instance,
Can become easier for you,
But if math was a challenge for you,
If you had a growth mindset,
You would know that,
Well,
If I practice two or three hours a day on mathematics,
Eventually it will come.
Intelligence is moldable.
You are capable of anything.
If you're willing to be patient,
If you're willing to work,
If you're willing to get up after you fall,
If you just brush yourself off,
If you claim to hope that it is your birthright,
It is absolutely your right to experience abundance,
If you can hold onto that,
Anything can be yours.
It's a time-space reality.
That doesn't mean it's going to show up the moment you think about it in the 3D world,
But if you can practice having what you desire come to you immediately in the fourth dimension in a short amount of time,
You will experience manifestation in the physical world.
The fourth dimension,
Scientists are finally agreeing that it exists,
And you can think of it this way.
It's non-physical.
You can't touch it,
But you can feel it and you can tap into it.
Imagine that everything that you look at,
Everything that you see,
Including your laptop,
Your microphone,
Your iPhone,
Before you could hold that thing in your hand and have a physical experience of it,
Somebody out there had to first come up with the concept in thought form.
Consider thought form the framework for what gets materialized in the third dimension.
What we want to do is we want to understand that abused adult children have an imagination,
But below the veil of consciousness,
Their imagination,
The most powerful engine in the world and in the universe probably,
Is being run automatically,
And it's being dictated by the experiences of the past.
I don't see that as particularly fair.
This is the thought that just irks me,
And that irking motivates me to do podcasts and create YouTube videos.
I currently have over 400 YouTube videos.
I create coaching programs because of this one idea.
It irritates me,
But yet motivates me to think that a child could be born to parents that abuse the hell out of them,
Treat them with indifference,
Ignore them,
Abuse them,
Gaslight them,
Mock them,
And this poor innocent divine being,
This amazing miracle of neural fibers with this magnificent brain,
Is being systematically brainwashed to believe they are nothing.
As an adult,
This poor abused child will go out into the world and will be unconscious to the fact that their subconscious mind has been abused and brainwashed to live against itself,
To be antagonistic to itself.
We wonder where autoimmune diseases come from.
The body turns on itself because the mind has been turned against the self.
Great conflicts exist between the ego and the essence.
Spiritual reality is,
Your spiritual reality is,
You are boundless.
You'll never die.
You'll transition,
You'll change form,
But the essence that you are will live on.
Energy can neither be created nor destroyed,
Dear ones.
It can change shape.
No different than when ice turns into a gas or ice turns into liquid,
Droplets or steam.
Water is water.
It changes form.
It irritates me to think that there are children,
Abused adult children and children being abused right in this moment who will grow up one day and not know that they are enough.
They will not know that their imaginations have been abused by their past.
This podcast is all about helping you understand that you absolutely can create the life that you desire,
But you cannot do that unconsciously.
You must do it consciously,
Especially if you have been an abused child.
You must awaken.
You must understand that your subconscious mind is running automatically and that your autonomic nervous system,
The system in you that essentially is responsible for the chemicals and the sensations that your body feels in the moment of a trauma has also been stored.
You are and weren't powerless to those systems.
When you have a painful event,
You have an autonomic or automatic chemical response to a trauma.
Your body will recall not only the event,
But the sensations caused by the event.
There are some of us that don't recall the trauma.
Our hippocampus suffered so much trauma that we lost the ability to record an actual event.
However,
The somatic experience remains.
So your body does keep a score or records a somatic experience even if you can't recall it.
So the memory is a two-part process.
We will record the event and record the emotional or the body sensation experience.
Experience could be rapid heartbeat.
It could be sweaty palms.
It could be the sense of doom and gloom.
Oh my God,
I'm going to die.
So when the hippocampus is affected or due to too much cortisol in the body and in the brain,
Then we may not recall the memory,
But our body will remember.
Very,
Very interesting.
And so this podcast is for anyone,
But especially for an abused adult child who does not understand that the power is within them.
And so if you take anything away from this recording,
Understand that you must awaken.
You must understand the process.
You must understand childhood programming.
You must understand that below the veil of consciousness,
There is this ticker tape running.
Your imagination is running and it's being fueled by childhood programming.
And that is not bad news if you came from an amazing home,
But it's really bad news if you came from a dysfunctional home.
Really bad news.
You must understand that as a creator,
As an extension of creator,
The power to be born again of a new mind exists within you,
But you must tap into free will.
This is a free will university once and we live in an age where you can access information at will.
The question is,
Will you use it?
Right?
You can,
But the question is,
Will you?
The information is here.
You're listening to this podcast.
This podcast is for you.
Will you use this?
Will you unlearn what you've learned?
Will you appreciate the fact that healing is a learning journey?
Will you respect and say namaste to what's been stored?
Or will you kick and scream because what has been stored has been stored?
There's a time for kicking and screaming.
There's a time to pin the tail on the donkey.
There's a time to be pissed off that what happened happened.
But at some point,
At some point,
We've got to be willing to look at what happened from a higher perspective,
From the growth mindset.
And if you're willing to do that,
You can attract anything that you desire.
So what I would like you to do is begin taking control over your imagination.
Begin taking control over the fourth dimension.
Begin creating journals about what you wish to experience.
And it's also beneficial to write down and journal about what your mind automatically thinks about outside your awareness,
Outside your conscious and deliberate control of the conscious mind.
One of the things that really got me going on this path was when I was becoming aware that my mind had been programmed.
I came from a dysfunctional home to adult children of alcoholics,
Unrecovered raised me.
So essentially two alcoholics raised me,
Had tremendous control issues,
And were very belittling and gaslighting to my brother,
My sister and I.
Raised us to be afraid of everything.
And so we were.
Raised us to live in a black mentality.
So we did.
They were very condescending because they didn't want conceited children.
And so they developed three children who had extremely low self-esteem.
My brother,
My sister and I all suffered from panic and anxiety and eating disorders and other disorders as well.
OCD,
Rumination,
Suicidal ideation,
You name it,
We got it.
But my house was spotless.
So the outside looked great,
But the inside,
It was a mess.
However,
What they did not realize was,
And I did not realize that I had been programmed to think in a dysfunctional way.
I was developing autoimmune type processes in my body,
Asthma,
Migraine,
Headaches,
Rashes,
You name it.
And I began to understand that there was a great conflict within me.
The spirit that I was had this song that it wanted to sing,
But my brain and my mind had been taught that I wasn't worthy of singing that song.
So my mind had been turned against my own soul,
My own essence.
And I began to diligently work because I do have a growth mindset.
I began to resolve.
I was hell bent on figuring this crap out.
And so I got to a point where I was,
I understood that my mind had been programmed to think a certain way.
And I got in my car one day and looked in the rear view mirror and I heard myself say,
You look like crap.
Look at those bags under your eyes.
Look how old you're getting.
And for a moment,
I heard myself say,
There it is.
My subconscious programming.
There it is.
The negative self-talk.
There it is.
My mother's voice.
My father's rhetoric.
Keeping me down.
Making me feel very self-conscious so he could control how we felt about ourselves.
And what we did.
There it was.
I ran into a little dollar store.
I grabbed a marble notebook and I began to understand I had to catch those thoughts.
It was the beginning of me being able to deliberately catch and then mold and then change,
Which took a lot of time and a lot of practice.
It was me learning to mold my thoughts in the fourth dimension.
And these days,
I do it a lot more deliberately.
And I'm even conscious,
Like in a conscious waking state,
I feel myself molding my thoughts.
What would you like to experience?
Oh,
That showed up.
But what do you want to experience?
Oh,
He said that.
But what would you like him to say?
The best thing to do is to spend 10,
15,
20 minutes a day in a deep state of meditation.
And in the state of meditation,
Close to a sleep state,
Imagine what you wish to experience.
Ignore what's happening in the now.
Ignore what your boss said.
Ignore what your mother said.
Ignore it.
And imagine in the fourth dimension,
Hearing these people say the words you want them to say.
Imagine it over and over and over.
And eventually,
What you'll experience is a shift in your vibration.
And eventually,
What you may experience is you'll actually may hear them say exactly what you want them to say.
Or if you want the relationship to shift,
Let's say you're in a difficult relationship with somebody that you want to end,
If you imagine yourself outside of this relationship,
Do not be surprised when the relationship begins to fall apart in 3D.
Your challenge will be to accept what shows up,
To accept the chaos,
To accept the anger,
And understand from a higher perspective that when we are in the reconstruction phase,
The reconstruction phase must take place first.
I hope this podcast has inspired you.
My name is Lisa A.
Romano,
The Breakthrough Life Coach.
I am a bestselling author and mentor.
And if you would like to learn more about the work that I do and the programs that I offer online,
Or the books that I have written,
You can find me at www.
Lisaaromano.
Com.
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Namaste.
Thank you.
