Finding Boundaries For A Part Of You

This practice is about identifying a younger part of you who needs your help right now. Helping them to find some boundaries, getting curious about what they need, deepening your relationship with this young part of you.

Transcript

So making yourself comfortable,

Closing your eyes either fully or partially.

We've been talking a bit about our own inner children or our own inner child.

Seeing if you can find a child in your internal experience,

A part of you that feels very young,

That feels playful,

That needs your company,

That needs your guidance,

Your adult presence.

Maybe a child part of you that is sad,

Maybe a child part of you that is quite happy,

This part of you maybe around a particular situation or a particular emotion,

Probably a part of your inner landscape you've been in touch with before.

Where is their child energy in your internal landscape and identifying that child?

Maybe that in order to find that child,

You need to first look to a place that you might be turning away from.

Sometimes that's where we find a child in our inner experience,

A part of us that we find really hard to be with.

It might be an inner child there.

Maybe a creative part of us,

A playful part of us,

An impish part of us,

A joyful part of us.

So choosing one inner child in your landscape and really getting a sense of how they look,

How they feel,

How it is to be with them.

As much as you can accepting however it is you're able to show up for them.

Maybe there's a complicated relationship.

Maybe it's challenging to be with them and that's okay.

Also connecting this inner child part with any sensation in your body,

Noticing any connections there.

How does this inner child part manifest as sensation in your body?

Getting curious about the connection between your body and this part of your inner landscape,

This character,

This player in your inner landscape.

Children can have big emotions.

All children have big emotions.

There's nothing wrong with an inner child part who has big emotions.

Can it be okay if this is your experience,

If this is this inner child's experience?

Can you hold your seat,

Bring your wise,

Compassionate adult self to be with any big emotions that this child has?

Can you stay present?

There's nothing else you need to do.

Can you just stay present?

I invite you now to find out from this inner child part.

Find some information from them.

Is there something extra they need to feel safe,

To feel secure,

To feel protected?

This might be something tangible.

Is there a wall that they need you to help them build?

Is there some clothing,

Maybe a cloak or a big jacket or some kind of clothing that they'd like your help in acquiring?

Is there a place that they'd like to be in where they feel really secure and comfortable?

Maybe you can help them to go there.

What does this child need?

What are some boundaries you can help them to establish?

They might need your bigger,

More powerful adult strength to create that boundary.

They might need your help with that.

Or maybe they're a little confused and you can simply ask them some questions.

Maybe it's,

Do you need a wall?

Do you need me to help you to build a wall?

Do you need some stairs?

Do you need me to help you to build some stairs?

Do you need a big jacket or a cloak?

Do you want me to help you with that?

Where would you like to be?

Would you like to be at the beach or in a meadow or in a forest or in a playground?

Would you like me to help you to be there?

Being very practical with this little one.

They'll let you know what they need.

They might just need a little bit of encouragement.

As you're tending to them,

If you're able to,

You're just being with yourself,

Whatever your experience is.

Maybe this is too tricky,

Too complicated in your internal landscape.

And that's okay.

That's not a problem.

Wherever you're at,

Noticing how you're feeling in your body,

Tending compassionately to any internal sensations.

Noticing how it's feeling if you're able to connect with this little one.

And bring in some very practical support.

Bring in your wise,

Compassionate adult self.

Also your non-judgmental attitude,

Your kindness,

Your strength,

Your power.

How does it feel to show up for this little one?

Being open to any exchange between the two of you.

Words,

Requests,

Objects,

Anything that this little being would like to offer to you or ask of you.

Anything you feel moved to offer to this little one.

Allowing that to be very organic.

And then checking in.

Is there a project for the future?

Is there something that you didn't have the space or the time for right now?

Something where the two of you can get together in the future and work a little bit more together.

You'll be checking in with this little one.

Is there something that they would like you to join them with in the future?

A future date?

And then as your adult self,

Being very honest and pragmatic about what you're able to do.

If it doesn't feel right to make promises,

Then you can tell this little one that you would really like to do that with them.

And you hope that you're able to do that with them in the future.

If you feel confident that you can do this project with this little one,

Then feel free to offer that as a promise.

Whatever resonates,

Whatever feels true to you.

And then inviting this little one to seat themselves or place themselves somewhere where they feel safe and secure,

Somewhere where they can stay.

While you move on to another part of your day.

Maybe there's a toy or a friend,

Somebody who can be there with them.

A pet.

Making sure this little one has some resource,

Some support.

As we start to transition out of this part of your internal landscape.

Gently bringing your awareness to your breathing.

Allowing any imagery to dissolve in your mind.

Being aware of a couple of breaths.

Expanding your awareness to your body as a whole.

Starting to move your body,

Get in touch with the physicality of your body.

Gently opening your eyes,

Becoming aware of the space that you're in.

You're looking around the space that you're in to orient yourself to the present moment,

To this space.

Having a stretch sip of your drink.

Reviews

Great guided meditation. lovely pace and helped me focus. Thank you

A beautiful journey back in time. Thank you

Always enjoy your meditations Kristy. A lot of sadness came up for me with this one, quite suddenly at the beginning but I was left with a settled calmness by the end. Will try this one again. Thank you 🙏🏻💕

Great guidance, Kristy. I was surprised what came up and how that felt. Thank you for your help.